#emotion regulation

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: How To Manage & Overcome Fear

Ultimately, fear is born out of anxiety over some sort of distrust –whether it's grounded in logic, emotion, perception, past experiences, etc.

Fear arises from an unknown – any new experience, opportunity, failure, relationship, changes in habits/routines, etc. So, ultimately, this fear is your way of coping with not distrusting others to do what you expect or desire and/or not trusting yourself to be able to cope with a certain environment, habit, responsibilities, changes, interpersonal conflict, etc.

To depersonalize fear, recognize that it's an anxious/emotional response to either a reasonable or illogical unknown/uncertainty. Then, I see what my realistic options are on how to handle the situation and proceed with my following actions by answering these questions:

Looking back at this moment in a year's time, what do I wish I would've done?

What red or green flags are my anxieties discounting or telling me to overlook?

How many of my concerns are grounded in reality, and how many are based on assumptions or negative self-talk?

If a friend was handling this situation, how would I proceed?

Once you answer these questions, you're forcing yourself to take the emotions out of the situation and see all of the key players + moving parts more objectively to make a rational decision.

You have to calculate the best possible outcome for yourself, but ultimately, the goal of overcoming fear is to stop holding yourself back from what you want and live without regrets.

#emotion regulation #emotional health #feelings #self talk #self reflection #glow up #inner work #personal growth #personal development #femmefatalevibe #goalsetting #risk taking #self confidence #q/a

[cryptcatz]

i hate how much of my life revolves around asking myself “am i being overly sensitive/dramatic or are my feelings valid here?”. being so easily hurt and upset sucks. i feel like im too soft for this world

#just thinking about general stuff nothing specific #you’d think at some point i’d get thicker skin after getting hurt over and over but no. i can’t seem to toughen up #autism #idk if it’s related but tagging to see? #actuallyautistic #autistic #autistic things #highly sensitive person #highly sensitive people #autistic adult #autistic community #rejection sensitive dysphoria #rejection sensitivity #actuallyadhd #personal #neurodivergent #hypersensitivity #sensory overload #i cry so easily too it’s embarrassing #someone just gets a lil angry at me and im already crying #which is probably a result of verbal/emotional abuse idk #emotion regulation

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]

#grief #inner child healing #reparenting #healing from abuse #self love #emotion regulation

[dyingroses]

PSA on deescalation

Listen to the person! Yes, when people are angry they don't always communicate clearly and sometimes say things that they don't mean. But they are still intelligent human beings capable of knowing how they feel.

Leave the situation! If it's safe, leave the situation! It takes two to tango and it's harder to fight when you don't have an enemy anymore. If the person is telling you to leave you probably should.

Also you should almost never trap or prevent the other person from leaving! Letting someone who is upset leave allows them to get some space alone, get space from the conflict, feel safer, and get some adrenaline out by moving. You may feel it's not safe to leave the person or let the person leave. But try to balance those concerns with the fact that it's not fair to hold them hostage in a situation they don't feel safe in, at that point you're antagonizing them. Also you should respect that person's autonomy and judgement, they know themselves better than you do and often they want to avoid the conflict escalating as well.

Validate the other persons emotions! This helps show concern and make someone feel heard, which helps stem the conflict and stress. You don't have to apologize or deny what they did is wrong but express understanding and compassion for the distress they are feeling.

Express concern not judgement! If you think they "need help" ask if they "are okay?" ask if they need help. But don't tell them to "calm down."

Communicate your concerns! If you're concerned that safety of the the other person or other people if you leave the situation let them know. You might be able to work out a deal so that they walk a certain way so that you can see them get away safe. You can give them resources. This also communicates concern.

This all comes from what I've learned studying psychology and education. As well as from working in schools and mental hospitals. I don't have time right now to include references but if you curious about things mentioned I encourage you to look up deescalation techniques as well as the individual techniques I've mentioned.

#tips #safety #safety tips #emotion regulation #emotional regulation #stress management #parenting #conflictresolution #conflict resolution #frozen #fixer upper #anger management #anger issues #psa #deescalation #mental health #ableism #road rage #post #important #psychology #counseling #therapy

[skyrim-forever]

me when I only allow myself a ten minute period a day to cry: is this emotional regulation??? What the normies talk about???

#not tes #eve rambles #bpd things #emotion regulation #meme

[laidee-flegman]

Shadow work prompts for dealing with shame

Reflect on a recent experience where shame surfaced. What triggered it, and how did you react?

Write about a recurring pattern of shame in your life. What situations tend to ignite this emotion?

Explore the connection between shame and your sense of identity. How does it shape the way you see yourself?

Reflect on messages about shame you received in your childhood. How do they influence your self-perception now?

Write about the stories you tell yourself when shame arises. What beliefs underlie these stories?

Identify societal or cultural influences that contribute to your understanding of shame. How can you challenge these influences?

Explore the impact of shame on your self-worth. How can you separate your value from momentary feelings of shame?

Reflect on the role of perfectionism in relation to shame. How can you embrace imperfections without feeling ashamed?

Write about a time when shame led to self-destructive behavior. What can you learn from that experience?

Explore the concept of vulnerability in the face of shame. How can you be more open about your struggles?

Reflect on the role of comparison in relation to shame. How does comparing yourself to others impact your experience of shame?

Write about the impact of social media on your feelings of shame. How can you cultivate a healthier relationship with these platforms?

Identify situations where shame becomes a way to avoid your own needs or desires. How can you prioritize your authentic self?

Explore the fear of rejection or abandonment in relation to shame. How does it influence your behavior?

Reflect on the concept of self-forgiveness when faced with shame. How can you release guilt and embrace self-compassion?

Write about the impact of shame on your mental and emotional well-being. How can you prioritize self-care in these situations?

Explore the concept of accepting responsibility without internalizing shame. How can you learn from mistakes without feeling unworthy?

Reflect on moments when you've projected your insecurities onto others, leading to shame. How can you take responsibility for your emotions?

Write about the stories or assumptions you create about yourself when shame arises. How can you challenge these narratives?

Explore the connection between shame and the desire for external validation. How can you validate yourself internally?

Reflect on moments when you've downplayed or dismissed your achievements due to shame. How can you celebrate your successes authentically?

Identify situations where shame becomes a barrier to setting and maintaining boundaries. How can you assert your needs confidently?

Write about the impact of competition within your relationships. How can you shift from competition to collaboration?

Explore the concept of mindful awareness in the midst of shame. How can you observe and understand your emotions without judgment?

Reflect on the role of self-compassion in managing shame. How can you speak to yourself with kindness and understanding?

Write about the impact of shame on your sense of inner peace. How can you find calmness amidst the storm of self-judgment?

Identify moments when shame has led to the erosion of relationships. How can you repair and nurture those connections?

Explore the concept of joy in celebrating your authentic self without feeling ashamed. How can you genuinely appreciate who you are?

Reflect on the possibility of reframing shame as an opportunity for growth. What lessons can you extract from these experiences?

Write about a future scenario where you navigate shame with resilience and self-love. What steps can you take to embody this vision?

#journal prompts #journals #writing prompt #journaling #journal #shadow work journal #shadow work prompts #shadow work #emotion regulation #therapy journaling

[spookietrex]

Hey folks!

Since I'm no longer able to do my former job (kid's mental health therapist) due to disabilities, I've decided to try to sell some of my counseling stuff in hopes of making enough money to, you know, live.

I've added more stuff to my etsy page, including new nature themed bookmarks and a Halloween one, (the eclipse one is , promise. I messed up the glitter glue on the original design so I'm not a fan but I'm doing another!)

Anyway, there's a whole lot of kids books, therapy games, puzzles, sensory stuff, and more on my ebay. If you have any questions about anything, feel free to shoot me a message!! I'm somewhat willing to negotiate on prices but a lot of this stuff I paid really good money for and it's high quality stuff in the field. Not to brag but I did really well with play therapy and neurodivergent kiddos (being neurodivergent myself) so there's a whole ADHD bundle that's actually tried and true for kids and stuff like that.

If you can't support, I totally understand. Even a share would help.

#disabled #child therapy #therapy supplies #play therapy #imaginative play #mental health #trauma therapy #therapist #kid therapy #ADHD #sensory #impulse control #emotion regulation #new to the field #help out #disabled and proud #share #buy my stuff #school counselors #counseling #mental health counseling #mental health awareness #invisible disability #therapy bundles #play therapy stuff #ebaystore #ebay #ebayseller #selling on ebay #therapy

[drachenengel]

#mental health #my life #childhood #trauma #self improvement #self care #overcompensate #note to self #recovery #emotional #emotion regulation #focus #parenting #family

[adventures-in-therapy]

#DBT #dbt memes #dbt problems #dbt skills #middle path #walking the middle path #emotion regulation #distress tolerance #meme #mental illness humor #cognitive distortions #nongifpost #therapy meme #treatment meme #recovery meme

[eliserzilber]

My DBT skill graphics organized by module🩷

Please feel free to save them, share, print and submit requests if there’s any skills you’d like sooner than others (as I make more, I’ll add them to this post for easy access).

Mindfulness: FLAME

Emotion Regulation: ABC PLEASE

Interpersonal Effectiveness: GIVE, FAST

Distress Tolerance: STOP, TIPP

#bpd thoughts #actually bpd #bpd #dbt #dialectical behavior therapy #dbt skill #dbt skills #skills #skill guide #skills guide #guide #interpersonal effectiveness #distress tolerance #mindfulness #emotion regulation #emotional resilience #skills graphics’s #resources #resource #mental health #therapy #mental health resources

[never-not-ever]

I’m becoming an angry person with no tolerance for anyone. I’m aware of this shift and yet have no desire to change it. If anything, I want it. It’s armor. It’s easier to be angry than to feel the pain underneath it.

Jennette McCurdy, I’m Glad My Mom Died

#personal #this spoke volume to me #I always hid sadness with anger #emotional #bpd #borderline personality disorder #actually borderline #emotion regulation #anger #sadness #depression

[femmefatalevibe]

Hi :)

I love your blog! What are your thoughts on fear and handling fear?

Hi love! Thanks so much <3

I believe that, ultimately, fear is born out of anxiety over some sort of distrust – whether it's grounded in logic, emotion, perception, past experiences, etc. Fear arises from an unknown – any new experience, opportunity, failure, relationship, changes in habits/routines, etc. So, ultimately, this fear is your way of coping with not distrusting others to do what you expect or desire and/or not trusting yourself to be able to cope with a certain environment, habit, responsibilities, changes, interpersonal conflict, etc.

My approach is to depersonalize fear and recognize that it's an anxious/emotional response to either a reasonable or illogical fear. Then, I see what my realistic options are on how to handle the situation and proceed with my following actions by answering these questions:

Looking back at this moment in a year's time, what do I wish I would've done?

What red or green flags are my anxieties discounting or telling me to overlook?

How many of my concerns are grounded in reality, and how many are based on assumptions or negative self-talk?

If a friend was handling this situation, how would I proceed?

Hope this helps xx

#emotion regulation #emotional health #feelings #self talk #self reflection #glow up #inner work #personal growth #personal development #femmefatalevibe #goalsetting #risk taking #self confidence #q/a

[ramyeonpng]

Alongside emotional regulation and managing mental health, I’m adding proprioception and vestibular senses as something I wish was more overtly included in the curriculum. There’s so much that we assume is taught at home that when a home is broken, kids just wobble out of that household and are just viewed as deficient because of who they are by their personality, instead of the opportunities that most kids had that they don’t even remember or think of as development.

LUCY DAN

#lucy dan #writing community #quotes #mental health #emotion regulation #lucy dot txt

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]

#green flags #inner child healing #reparenting #inner teen healing #healthy relationships #emotion regulation #safe relationships #self care #wisdom #growth #emotional maturity #emotional intelligence

[rivenantiqnerd]

Autism is really hard, but it can be even harder when we’re trying to follow Christ. Sometimes I just really want to beat someone up, or say something rude, but I can’t, because that’s not what Jesus would do. Also, masking is just mimicking others, and when they swear, even if we don’t mean to, we’ll probably swear more often then you wish because mirroring is a lost stronger in autistics. Plus, when we do end up swearing or laughing at something vulgar or beating someone up, we end up feeling really guilty because we didn’t mean to, do you think Jesus won’t like us anymore, oh no, I was supposed to be good, and a million other thoughts that make us feel worse.

Autistics mirror by nature, so when people around us do impolite things, we’ll do them too, and pent up anger leads to stronger anger so sometimes we just … need to punch somebody, and then we feel really guilty for it. And no autistic needs that on top of their giant pile of emotions and thoughts to process and regulate, believe me.

#christblr #actually autistic #autism #autistic christian #masking #neurodivergence #emotion regulation #catholic guilt #christianity #the church of jesus christ of latter day saints

[katimorton]

Dive Deep into Emotional Regulation: Understanding, Struggles, and Solutions We may hear that we're too emotional by people or think that we are, or perhaps we think we're too needy. Or we may ask ourselves how do I regulate my emotions or be less emotional. Feeling overwhelmed by your emotions? Do you ever struggle to express them healthily, or perhaps suppress them altogether? This video delves into the complexities of emotional regulation, offering valuable insights and practical tools for navigating your inner world. More videos you may find helpful:

3 reasons you feel invisible or alone: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zTis4... if you are unhappy or unmotivated, watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t3yim... this is why you may be feeling lonely: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kbz9t...

Breaking unhealthy patterns workshop: https://katimorton.com/the-shop/p/yki...

#emotional health #emotional #emotions #emotion regulation #mental health #katimorton #kati morton #psychology #recovery #help #therapy #support #Youtube