#emotional vampires

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]

Not respecting someone’s emotional boundaries, emotionally forcing yourself on them, is emotional rape. Using guilt, manipulation, coercion to twist someone’s arm to give to you emotionally (their time, energy, attention) is emotional rape.

My yes means nothing if I can’t say no.

Respect my existence or expect my resistance.

#boundaries #emotional vampires #inner child healing #reparenting #inner teen healing #energy vampires #narcissistic abuse

[skylerscull1]

Emotional Vampires

Advice for people: if being around a certain someone exhausts you and drains you of energy, it’s entirely possible they may be what some like to call “emotional vampires”. Yes, emotional vampires exist, emotional vampires drain the emotional energy out of everyone they come in contact with. It’s not healthy for the people who are being drained. These emotional vampires are toxic. Don’t hang out with vampires, cut them out of your life, if being around them is draining then it’s for the best that the both of you go separate ways. You can’t help someone that doesn’t want to be helped. -

Signs that you may’ve encountered an emotional vampire:

1. You feel put down 2. Your mood takes a nosedive 3. Sometimes when you’re around them you feel like all you ever do is hurt them, or that its your fault when they get upset. 4. You feel depressed, anxious or negative 5. Being around them exhausts you or drains you of energy 6. They can be stand-offish, distant or cold towards you and won’t tell you what you did wrong (if you did anything at all). 7. You feel tired or used around them 8. You feel guilty around them 9. Interactions with them can sometimes be stressful 10. They’re co-dependent on you and focus mainly on themselves.

Signs that you might be an emotional vampire yourself:

1. You have an obsessive need for validation or attention from others 2. You are depressed and have a habit of taking that out on others 3. You guilt-trip others or make pointed comments 4. You drain others of energy 5. You’re codependant on others and focus mainly on your own problems 6. You can at times do more taking then giving when it comes to a relationship.

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How does one stop being an emotional vampire - Or deal with an emotional vampire?

Easy. These ideas below can work for both: 1.You can set boundaries with your friends so neither of you overstep. 2. Pay attention to what you’re able to control instead of whats out of your control. 3. Keep in mind the positives, of what you do have currently, practice gratitude and appreciation for what you do have. Make a point each morning when you wake up to look in the mirror and say one thing you’re thankful for. It helps more than you think it would. 4. Let yourself enjoy the little things, go for a walk, take a break when you need it. Don’t over-stress yourself, take care of yourself. If things get too much, just walk away and come back later. 5. Show appreciation for the things we’re given, acts of kindness, ect. Be kind not only to yourself, but also to others. 6. Practice self-awareness, what is the problem/issue? Ask what you can do differently. Practice communication, we can’t solve an issue if we don’t know what the issue is. 7. Don’t push all your issues onto someone else, or let someone push all of their issues onto you. There’s a thin line between searching for reassurance and unhealthy co-dependance.  8. Remember that people don’t have to always respond right away, sometimes when it comes to online stuff we have real life stuff we have to take care of - everybody has a life outside their screen. And sometimes people need space from everyone in general, don’t take it too personally, let people respond in their own time.

#advice #emotional vampires #info dump #info #self-help #self-care

[mental-space-x]

Gratitude Diary

It’s been a week of two halves really. Started off really well but took a big slump down but I made it through. Better luck next week I am grateful that: My running is improving by leaps and bounds, without too much pain and suffering! I got the merest little spark from my inner creativity, as it tried to come back to life. Hopefully soon, once the dust settles from my abuser’s court case, I…

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#abuse #anger #Anxiety #be a little selfish #be amazing #be good to yourself #buried emotions #careless driving #close pass #coercive control #defend boundaries #Domestic abuse #emotional exhaustion #emotional vampires #energy draining #enjoy life while you can #exercise #face your fears #fear of change #fears #fitness #Gratitude diary #healing #held accountable #hope for the future #inner strength #keep fighting #live for the now #make the most of life #Mental health

[asturlavi]

so guess what other fantasy game i've been playing

#will this fantasy obsession ever stop #WILL THIS VAMPIRE OBSESSION STOP #astarion #baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #i finished his questline awhile ago and i still have so many emotions #he's basically lestat #but if you could fix him

[apathtorecovery]

JUDGING JUDY

Judging Judy is quick to point out better ways you could do your life and can be really critical when you make decisions she wouldn’t make. You can get sucked into trying to win her approval, and this is nearly impossible because her ability to find fault and give advice is far greater than your capacity to “do things the right way” – or HER way. After engaging with her you feel anxious, depressed, inadequate, or negative feelings towards self. Her observation of you is, you need her help, more than she needs yours; she has a better way you can do your life, so if you feel resentment, you just got sucked into her mind trap.

BOUNDARY TIPS FOR JUDGING JUDY

Judy gets her sense of security and self-esteem from staying in unequal relationships - she gives herself permission to evaluate and label people and their choices as good/bad, right/wrong, acceptable/unacceptable.  

It is wise to remember that Judy does not want you to be close to her or in a position to give her feedback or suggestions the way she feels free to give to others.  Be realistic about how much intimacy you can have with her.  It may be that she can only handle sharing “activities” like bowling, hiking or lunch, rather than sharing at a heart level.

You will never “get it right” because her standards are constantly changing to maintain her position of superiority. Talking about current events or neutral topics is wise and shares your heart with people who respect and enjoy you.

#emotional vampires #emotions #feeling #How Emotions Are Made #How Emotions Affect The Body #How Emotions Differ Across Cultures #How Emotions Are Made Pdf #How Emotions Harm Your Body #How Emotions Affect Logical Reasoning

[apaethy]

I ain’t never gon’ have a family of my own, am I? No sons, no daughters. I’m your family, Louis. You should just throw me in the incinerator and make another one. And what a waste that would be. I have two centuries walked this Earth and can report, you have no twin.

#interview with the vampire #iwtvedit #loustat #iwtv amc #iwtv spoilers #louis de pointe du lac #lestat de lioncourt #tvgifs #tvedit #my gifs #all the love declaration have left me in a puddle of emotions.... #LESTAT CALLING HIM SAINT LOUIS!!

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt 198

Now Bruce was not expecting to reincarnate upon his death. At least he thinks he died, he’s pretty sure he did. There wasn’t any other reason for him to be a well, literal baby. Around two he thinks, which fits well with the fact that it’s around that time that babies start forming memory recall, if he, well, remembered correctly. 

But while he knew about reincarnation thanks to Shayera and Carter, he’d never exactly given it much thought towards himself. Because seriously, what were the chances of such a thing as him being given another chance? 

So he was quite surprised at his situation, experimentally opening and closing pudgy hands that looked well, just a tiny bit off. He’d never been that pale before, he thinks, even back when he never went outside like, ever. 

He turned his gaze towards the mobile above him with a sort of idle curiosity- a mixture of bats (ha) and other trinkets he wasn’t familiar with. It also caused him to get his first good look at his parent, asleep on a rocking chair right next to the crib. 

Huh. They had the same pale skin he did, albeit in the light it looked like it was slightly tinted blue, and while their hair was white they didn’t exactly look old. They looked surprisingly well rested for raising a toddler too, unless they had a nanny or something similar… He rolled over, managing to very shakily push himself to his feet with the help of the crib. 

Why was standing so hard as a toddler? And why did he have his memories of everything except how he had died anyway? 

His head whipped up from where they were staring at his feet when he heard a snort, finding his parent awake and standing. Somehow silently enough that he hadn’t noticed- or he was that easily distracted by the unfamiliar giddiness bursting in his chest. 

“Morning little bat,” his parent easily picked him up and held him while he inwardly sighed at the nickname. Of course his bat motif would follow him into this life. A low rumbling almost caused him to jump, his body relaxing before he could fully register the sound. The… purring? 

Oh. 

He wasn’t human this time around. 

#Dcxdp #Dpxdc #Prompts #Vlad is a young-adult dad to a reincarnated Bruce #After the hospital he drowned his despair/distress in any way he could & ended up with a baby boy #Bruce’s main suspected species of what they were was vampire before the ghost reveal lol #Bruce can’t say shit about Vlad’s thievery but he has the most judging expression for a toddler #Then he also sees his new dad develop and try to figure out powers #Vlad was terrified to pick him up when he first discovered his ghost fire #Yes this very much changes Vlad’s relationship with Danny #The reunion has 14 year old Danny meet a Very Smart 8 year old Bruce #Yes Bruce clocks teenage vigilante instantly #And look he Would try to get Vlad to stop the possession shit but as long as it’s actual assholes he can’t exactly judge #He blackmailed SO many people in his past life… he's trying Not to be a hypocrite here #Why yes Bruce IS very liminal from having a half-ghost dad #Vlad panicked more than he did when his fangs came in (Bruce has made a file about both himself & everyone he meets) #Just because he’s now baby doesn’t mean he’s no longer Bruce #At some point someone from his world might find their way to this one but that would be a very long time in the future lol #Vlad (unaware of his core being able to feel his ghostling’s big emotions): Wow raising a child is surprisingly easy

[yomeiu]

vampire chuuya got me thinking...what if... feral?

#stopping my momentary hibernation because WHAT THE FUCK was that chapter #i got so shocked i started walking around the house #its the way i was literally just chilling but ever after seeing that my motivation to draw started again #i need emotional damage compensation #chuuya nakahara #bungo stray dogs #bsd #chuuya #vampire #spoilers #blood #gore #dazais fine right.....?

[bevsi]

borrowed my wife’s characters 🤭

#liz #drawing #read her vampire novel when it comes out it’s really good and fun and emotional

[seraphinitegames]

For pure angst purposes hehe: how is Unit Bravo with crying? Does it take a lot for them to cry? What are some things that would make them cry?

Ohh, I do love me some angsty angst, hehe! :D

Hmm...

It takes quite a bit for A to cry. As we're all aware by now, they don't like to show their emotions if they can avoid it! But also they don't want to break down crying in situations where they feel they need to be strong for others.

N will cry easy-ish. It's not their first response, but they aren't worried about showing the emotion if it's really necessary. But they have lived a loooong time, so they have...I wouldn't say hardened themselves to things, but it's sort of like that, so not as easy for them to cry.

F is all about showing emotions, so if they feel like they could cry then they will. Why hold back? But I think the things that make them cry are quite different to what people might expect, though also the obvious too at times!

M...not really a crier. So if and when they cry, you know it's some extreme feelings happening for M *cough* Book Five, possibly because of the MC's choices too make it extra painful *cough*

... ;D

Thank you so much for the ask! :)

#the wayhaven chronicles #asks #interactive fiction #unit bravo #vampires #reaction ask #crying #emotions

[licncourt]

Louis de Pointe du Lac & Lestat de Lioncourt (The Vampire Chronicles, 1976-2018)

#having a lot of emotions tonight and wanted to make my favorite loustat quotes a separate post #they rearrange my brain chemistry #vc #the vampire chronicles #iwtv #loustat #louis de pointe du lac #lestat de lioncourt #interview with the vampire

[mental-space-x]

Summoned to court... as a witness 🤔

I got a text from the Procurator Fiscal’s office on Tuesday morning, as the title suggests stating I was going to be getting a citation to appear in court in June as a witness. Now this can only be about the case of careless driving I brought against my abuser last September where he left his house, turned at the cross-roads, waited for me and then pulled out full speed onto the road I was on –…

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#abuse #anger #Anxiety #careless driving #cars #close pass #coercive control #defend boundaries #do the right thing no matter what #Domestic abuse #don&039;t be silent #emotional exhaustion #emotional vampires #energy draining #fight smarter #in your face #inner strength #Mental health #moving on from abuse #narcassism #narcassist #narcassitic abuse #peace #police #set boundaries #stand up for yourself #stay strong #stress #take back control #take charge of my life

[fuzziiwuzzii]

FIRST DRAWING OF 2024 CLAUDIA MON TRÉSOR JE VAIS TE SORTIR DE LÀ💥💥💥

#THE NEW CLAUDIA FOOTAGE RAAAAAAHGGHHHGG #Claudia was my first drawing of 2023 too im so emotional shes really my girl😭😭😭😭😭😭 #interview with the vampire #interview with the vampire fanart #iwtv #iwtv fanart #iwtv amc #claudia de pointe du lac #claudia de lioncourt #iwtv claudia #delainey hayles #the vampire armand #iwtv s2

[theshadowsooc]

#wwdits #what we do in the shadows #what we do in the shadows out of context #colin robinson #evie russell #energy vampires #emotional vampire

[lgbtiwtv]

the thing about lestat and armand is that their relationship is literally incomprehensible. they are boy best friends they are codependent worsties they are archrivals they are platonic soulmates they are telepathic gossipers they are part time haters and full time ride or dies they are insane bisexuals but most importantly. they are toxic exes. despite the fact that they have never once dated. hope this helps

#they are the most compelling dynamic in the entire world anne put something different in their relationship #like god. they love each other so much but they can’t have a normal conversation about it. they just show up when the other is in trouble #neither of them has another relationship quite like the one they have with each other #I’m genuinely experiencing previously undiscovered emotions over them #single-handedly fueling my own lesmand boy best friends fic agenda #iwtv #interview with the vampire #the vampire chronicles #the vampire armand #lestat de lioncourt #lesmand #m watches iwtv