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mapecl-stories · 6 months

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lastoneout · 14 days

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I'm genuinely convinced the thought process goes:

> people who abuse children are horrible, irredeemable monsters who deserve to have their human rights stripped away and burn in hell for all eternity, no good person would ever hurt a child

> *tons of scientific evidence comes out showing that hitting your kids is basically abuse and does immense harm with absolutely no good to balance it out and in the worst cases it leaves lasting psychological damage those kids carry for life*

> but wait...my parents spanked me as punishment, but they aren't horrible evil people who deserve to die! I love my parents and they loved me, they're good people and good people would never hurt a child, and I surely don't have issues as a result of being hit, so that must mean hitting your kids isn't abusive

> the cycle continues, nothing changes, kids keep getting hit

and like I get it, I get it, but I just want to grab these people and be like "welcome to the complex reality most actual abuse survivors have to contend with every single day of our lives, it sucks, but since I've been through it I can give you the answer I had to work out over years of therapy for free; you are still allowed to love--and even FORGIVE--people who hurt you"

#ask to tag #abuse mention #child abuse mention #this is part of the reason I hate the current trend of people saying the only “progressive” abuse narrative #is one where the abuser is fucking murdered #because when you demonize a group of people so profoundly you have no idea what to do when someone you love dearly #might kind overlap with the category of humans you want to unperson #and you end up just excusing their behavior so you can keep acting like morality is black and white #and then turn around and attack any abuse survivor who has the audacity to talk about #how it isn't black and white for them and they don't feel empowered by narratives where the abusers die badly #or god forbid they ENJOY narratives where the abuser changes and apologizes #just stop and think for a second why some of us might find that cathartic

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danneroni · 1 year

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🔥⚔️ STILL HERE ⚔️ 🔥

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zeroducks-2 · 7 months

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Begging people on my knees to stop using "golden child" and "codependency" without having the bare minimum idea what they mean.

#what is it with folks latching onto random terms and giving them an entirely different meaning #like I'm not even entirely opposed to this process - language IS an everchanging living breathing thing #but christ in heaven these are important terms when it comes to mental health and recovery from trauma #you are taking away survivors' weapons to learn about their trauma and deal with it in an informed way #for all the talk about it being important to empower survivors and call things with their names you sure don't look like you give a shit

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mintacle · 1 year

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Scouring the internet for a quote I want to use in a webweave and I'm just gobsmacked by "inspirational quotes" that say things along the lines of "you are not a victim. Stop calling yourself that and get your power back.", because genuinely that is such a problematic thing to say.

Calling yourself a victim can be empowering actually. To me for example, it's a great relief to do it because I am insisting on my right to not have gotten hurt in the ways I did. It's empowering because I got gaslit into believing I was not the victim, but the perpetrator and calling myself a victim does not mean in any way I relinquish power or agency. I am acknowledging that someone disrespected my own agency and strength in the first place. I didn't have strength in that moment, in that situation, but I have it now.

Everyone has to be allowed to decide for themselves if they feel comfortable or want to call themselves a victim. Despite having grown up with the same abusive father, my brother chooses to not call himself a victim or what happened to him abuse, because he doesn't feel that way about it and that's ok. Allow people their own narratives. Taking away the word victim in a move to empower people achieves nothing at all. It just enforces our silence.

#rambling #personal #ptsd #abuse #victimhood #victim is not a fucking slur word #stoo treating it like something to be ashamed of #or something I have to overcome #people don't want victims to be strong or loud #and the hate we keep getting is at times really camouflaged to appear as if it was in our favour #no. no.#first principle of empowering victims and survivors is to let THEM do the talking #silence

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bluehairperson · 2 years

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I've read your tags about Nadia and I thought "welcome to the club!" (😆) I have very mixed feelings about her route too, for (almost) the same reasons! It's a shame, I wish I could appreciate more but it felt too much like the devs were alleviating the wrong of her actions and making her a perfect dom girlboss 😔

OH MY GOD, RIGHT??? THANK YOU, UGH 😭😭

I absolutely hate how she gets glorified by the narrative and some fans as this perfect goddes while she's just as childish, arrogant and entitled like Valerius and Lucio are. Really obnoxious that those two get rightfully villanized by the game but that with Nadia we're getting tied to a chair and spoon fed the narrative that she has never done anything wrong in her life.

The canon tells us over and over again that's she's a disgustingly rich monarch that married a tyrant on purpose just to try and steal his land as some kind of pet project to prove herself in front of her family and to enflate her own ego, but the moment Lucio didn't let her monopolize everything she started to close herself in her rooms to take naps just like a child throwing tantrums?

AND when she wakes up she keeps blaming her husband and the courtiers for Vesuvia's downfall as if she didn't have any sort of responsability towards the people of the city she decided to rule. Like... yikes. Am I supposed to think she's a good leader or even just a nice person?

Again: all of this is fine, great even. I love flawed characters and shitty people, Lucio and Valerius are my absolute favorites. But I find really pathetic these double standards in the narrative. I'll say it: it feels performative, fake and tokenizing. Not that I would expect any less by Nix Hydra. Allow Nadia to be a fully fledged person with flaws and faults of her own, cowards.

I legit thought that her route would have been about her acknowledging her entitlement and neglet towards the city but appartenly the biggest conflict between her and MC was about her *checks notes* ... paranoia. ... ok. Paranoia that she was right to have anyway because Valerius was literally just around the corner ready to stab her in the back, so?? What was the point.

Awfully written route. She would have worked great as the morally grey character/kinda shitty person she is, but I guess the devs were too busy to pat themselves on the back to do that.

#I'M SORRY YOU REALLY HIT A SORE SPOT I'M SO MAD ABOUT THIS #as I said there are a lot of scenes in her route that made me super uncomfortable but the absolute worse was the one slightly before #the two endings when she has a fight with Lucio in front of us Val and the Hierophant in his realm #the way it was written and the way the devs MAKE the mc side blindly with Nadia it really reads as some kind of empowering scene #like an abuse survivor telling her abuser off or something like that #but that's not what's happening? at all??#the devs said multiple times that lucio was never abusive to her he's just a shitty guy #and she was never a prisoner she could have left lucio and went back to phakra any time #the reason she didn't is probably because admitting she overestimated her own abilities hurted her ego + having to admit it to her family #so we get this awfully uncomfortable scene where this 40+ years old woman whines to her husband that she deserves the city he earned #in battle more than him for pretty much no reason apart the fact that she sucks slightly less than him #all of this while mc goes YAAAAAS MY MONARCH 😍😍😍 ACQUIRE MORE LAND 😍😍😍 TAKE WHAT IS RIGHTFULLY YOURS BECAUSE OF YOUR ROYAL BLOOD 🥰#hashtag girlboss hashtag queen #like yikes I'm sorry but what the fuck is everyone smoking #are we reading the same fucking route #absolute womanchild why is no one calling her this #IF she had been treated like lucio and val have been in the narrative then I would have been womanchild (affectionate) but like this is #point blank annoying sorry but yikes #I love lucio and val so much because they suck and they are allowed to do so but nadia sucks just as bad as them and I'm supposed to just #praise her for it for some reason #can you like... learn how to write please #please allow minority characters to be 3dimensional people with flaws and faults instead of this crap #you're really not doing a favor to anyone hiding everything she is under a rug and hoping no one notices #also I truly couldn't care less about defending or debating any of this if you don't agree or got mad touch grass #long post #asks

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facelesspassport · 1 year

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I am a victim of domestic violence

I know we are supposed to be calling ourselves "survivors" now but I never liked that shit. My abuser used to tell me I was "playing the victim" to gaslight me. Emphasis on "playing", as in "you are not a victim. You are not worthy of victimhood". Every man who heard that I was abused would echo his words, "You are not a victim. You are lying/exaggerating", and hearing this made me feel like I was right back at my abusers feet, as intended. These words were intended to make me feel powerless and ashamed of what happened to me. But I know that there is nothing shameful about being a victim. "Victim" is not a dirty word and my right to victimhood has always felt like something to fight for. But nowadays I feel like this whole #girlboss mentality has stolen our ability to identify as victims- ie people who have been harmed, injured, or killed as a result of a crime. I am a victim because I was wrongfully harmed by a man who had malicious intent. I am not a survivor as I did not "survive" what happened to me- I only suffered through it. And the person I used to be was beaten into nothingness. I am a victim and I am not ashamed. The only person who should be ashamed is the pitiful, disgusting person who put me through this. If calling yourself a "survivor" makes you feel empowered then that's good for you, really. Whatever works. But me? I don't feel empowered. I feel disenfranchised. And I feel angry. I wish the "survivor not victim" movement never happened.

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mapecl-stories · 6 months

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Above the Clouds of Hope

"Mrs. Magnusen speaking, how can I assist you?" Mrs. Magnusen said into the receiver, listening to Lena's desperate voice.

Lena, with a trembling voice: "Please, help me! I'm in a terrible situation. My partner is becoming increasingly violent, and I don't know what to do anymore."

Mrs. Magnusen, empathetic: "Don't worry, Lena. I will do everything in my power to help you. First, we need to ensure you are safe. Do you already have a plan on how to separate from your partner?"

Lena, sobbing: "I'm scared to leave him. He's threatened to kill me if I go."

Mrs. Magnusen, determined: "This is a very difficult situation, and I understand your fears. But you are not alone. Together, we will find a way for you to protect yourself. I will connect you with a women's shelter near you, where you will be safe from your violent partner."

Lena, relieved: "Thank you so much, Mrs. Magnusen. I don't know how to thank you enough."

Mrs. Magnusen, encouraging: "Don't think about it, Lena. It's my duty and my passion to help women in your position. No one should have to endure violence in their relationship."

The next few days were tough for Mrs. Magnusen. She worked around the clock to organize the necessary support for Lena. Limited resources and bureaucracy presented obstacles, but she refused to be discouraged and continued to fight to free Lena from her dangerous situation.

Mrs. Magnusen, frustrated: "I'm sorry, Lena, but we are currently hitting our limits. Women's shelter spaces are limited, and we're having difficulty finding a long-term solution for you."

Lena, desperate: "What should I do? I can't go back to him, but I don't have any other option."

Mrs. Magnusen, determined: "We won't give up, Lena. I will continue to search for solutions and advocate for you to get the help you deserve. You are not alone."

It took some time, but eventually, Mrs. Magnusen managed to mobilize the necessary resources for Lena. She helped her start anew and embark on her journey of healing.

With flushed cheeks and a smile full of gratitude, Lena said, "Thank you, Mrs. Magnusen. You've shown me that there is hope, even in the darkest times."

Mrs. Magnusen, moved: "It's an honor, Lena. You found the courage to break free from this cycle of violence, and I am proud to have helped you."

The novella concludes with an appeal to the readers: "Let us together fight against domestic violence. Support counseling centers and advocate for a society where women can live free from violence. Because only together can we turn the spark of hope into a flame that dispels the darkness and illuminates those seeking help and protection."

#Domestic violence #Support for victims #Women's shelter #Safety plan #Separation from abusive partner #Empathy and assistance #Breaking free from violence #Advocacy for victims #Healing and recovery #Ending the cycle of abuse #Mobilizing resources #Empowering survivors #Fighting against domestic violence #Counseling centers #Creating a violence-free society

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instantfreak · 1 year

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personally if my boss with unfathomable power over me coerced me into having sex with them and then her husband's bestie came up to me later and told me he knew my secret i would have done more than just kill him

#yeah no i wouldve gone nuclear #criston cole #rape tw #hotd #literally going crazy im still in awe that the scene is meant to be empowering for rhaenyra when he cant say no!#pulling my hair out #this isnt even bringing up his kingsguard and the ties to virtue and chasity and how him being a kingsguard is the highest honor for his #house and and and #im not coherant nor articulate enough for this it especially sucks with the fandoms portrayl of him #its literally SICKENING!#also im not blaming joffrey #im just looking at the scene as a survivor in cristins shoes and going

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please-picturemeintheweeds · 1 year

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I have Opinions about the discussion that pops up every few months about the ethics of labeling JM an abuser but I am afraid of the vague posts and anon hate I would get if I posted them 🫠 which probably means I should be brave and post them. Speak now or whatever she said lol

#this topic is so very nuanced in pretty much every possible way #and it is not nearly as simple as any of the takes I have seen so far about this #JM #tw abuse #abuse #c #trauma #there’s some sticky nuance around parasocial relationships and the nature of celebrity status #also the whole Thing about cancel culture and how labeling people abusers is steeped in carceral feminism and actively harms survivors #plus the value of learning language for your experiences and learning about what abuse is from pop culture #so there’s an important element of sharing information and learning about abuse as a way of empowering survivors who may not Know Yet #if we’re comfortable talking about the relationship dynamics in her love songs we need to be comfy talking about them in WCS and dear john #we can’t expect Taylor - a survivor (long story short I survived) to owe the public a statement about John Fucking Mayer #there’s legal garbage! he would SUE HER IF SHE SAID THAT #she is treading a very fine line with what she says publicly - something that most survivors also experience (but #her discography is quite literal with how she handles Trauma: flashbacks triggers insomnia paranoia trust issues etc #it’s all there and we need to be careful about paternalizing survivors and that is actually compatable with not buying into cancel culture #his actions as described by her + things he himself has said in interviews at various points are textbook abuse #and pointing that out is valuable.#telling john Mayer to kill himself on Twitter is Not Valuable.#she is not our little sister. she is a grown adult woman who is clearly processing her trauma #she has trusted her fans with her vulnerability and authenticity #and to brush it off and expect her to Perform Victimhood by making a public accusation against an extremely powerful man in her industry????#whoops I ranted in my tags but yeah it’s nuanced as hell #would’ve could’ve should’ve hours #would’ve could’ve should’ve #all that said!! I definitely understand and empathize with the sentiment of letting survivors tell their own stories and not forcing labels #In the hypothetical situation where she sees us discussing and learning from her art and her life story:#is that forcing something on her? or is that critically engaging with her art?#she said midnights is autobiographical and she said 19 and called him the devil who stole her girlhood come on

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ink-asunder · 1 year

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Every time I experience a traumatic event, my oc gets a new superpower.

#i didn't even realize that this was how i was empowering myself until now??#like they say empowering survivors is key to healing from trauma and i think powertripping via games and godlike ocs is how i do that #that's why my ocs are all op as fuck #but at the same time. it has been a year. ma'am this oc is now FIGHTING AND ABSORBING THE POWER OF AN OLD GOD #WHICH GIVES HER POWER THAT CAN NEVER BE TAKEN FROM HER.#SHE IS LIKE 13 AND NOW SHE'S LIKE THIS. HOW MUCH TRAUMA HAVE YOU BEEN THROUGH. HOW MUCH POWER DO YOU NEED.#writing #fanfiction #ocs #oc stuff

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grammymumzy · 1 year

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“I survived all that shit”

We’re all surviving shit at the moment.Be kind.You never know what shit the person next to you is trying to hold it together about.“And Still I Rise”“And Still I rise” is an art project by Kat Shaw Artist, showing the strength of women to rise in the face of adversity⁠. Kat has painted nearly 150 women so far who have survived and who continue to rise.We are all warriors.

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