#enby survivor

[nervoustragedyluminary]

Reductress is just spreading terf rhetoric now

The "joke" is that nonbinary people are somehow escaping from violence by being trans that we can opt out of fearing violence and don't fear violence when walking at night....

Like just yuck as a transmasc nonbinary survivor whose actually aware of the stats of violence against nonbinary people this just disgusts me...

Also I'm betting they have talked to zero Black trans enbies or men or women of colour about how being seen as "scary" puts them in danger from racist white people & or they're just assuming all enbies are white idk it's disgusting... There's just so many layers to the bigotry and white fauxminism of this "joke"

They've previously made posts like this so idk if they've got terfs on staff who keep trying to slip this in to pipeline people or people who think certain trans people they dislike facing violence including sexual violence is funny and that those trans survivors are lying and shouldn't be beleived.

They're priming their audience to disbelieve and mock nonbinary trans survivors. They're literally pushing the "people transition to escape/opt out of patriarchal violence like a fun game" terf talking point which isn't reflected in the stats of violence against trans people who face higher rates of physical sexual and domestic violence than cis people

Just "it's a coin toss!"

As a survivor fuck you

Like the comments section is full of transphobia and people going "har har they think they're in danger they're delusional " or spouting transphobic BS and a trans man whose talking about how he fears violence walking at night being called 'female' and misgendered like well done you've curated a comment section full of transphobes and people who think trans people aren't who we say we are fucking yikes

None of the transphobic comments have been deleted reductress seems happy to leave up comments calling trans men "female" and saying that trans people are a danger to children

#Reductress #Exorsexism #Rape culture #transandrophobia #Terf rhetoric #Erasing tpoc #When your “joke” is “haha enbies don't face violence people think you're men and trans men don't face violence” in current year just wtaf #Did a nonbinary person reject one of the writers or something there seems to be this persistent creepy obsession with mocking and belittlin #It really sounds like the “all my exgfs are crazy” shit but projected onto enbies like who hurt you and why are you hurting survivors? #Like they already tried a similarly transphobic joke and it went over just as badly then why do they keep trying to push this maga shit #Enbyphobia #Anti-Transmasculinity #This is what violent transphobes who harass assault & kill us WANT you to think when we try to talk about fearing for our safety #Why are you perpetuating this transphobic nonsense #Also I wonder if the stock model whose image they used knows its being used to mock&erase trans survivors

[whereserpentswalk]

When I was a teenager, I asked my dad how he'd feel about having a queer child. And he said it would be like having your favorite toy break and never being able to fix it. And he didn't know I was queer. He didn't know that I was queer. He still doesn't. But I still feel like that. I still feel like a broken toy that can never be fixed.

#196 #my thougts #leftism #leftist #queer #queer rights #queer community #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtq community #queerness #bi #biseuxal #bisexual #bisexuality #bisexaul #enby #nonbinary #non bianry #genderqueer #agender #abuse #abuse survivor #abusive parents #parental abuse #emotional abuse #psychological abuse

[systemofthestars]

I hate when people call survivors of any kind of sexual violence sluts/slutty, cunts or whores or anything like that. This includes fictional ones.

These terms are used to degrade sexual violence victims. As well as sex workers and women of pretty much any variety who are sufficiently disliked.

So like it makes me feel gross.

I get it's tongue-in-cheek and all. But

1) Why do you feel fine about using degrading sexual language about sexual violence survivors? I get most of you are just copying memes or whatever. But like consider why you think it's fine and funny?

2) I get we don't care about misogynistic language and think it's fun to throw around objectifying and gross language all the time. However, many people had these words used against them by the person who decided they deserved to strip the survivor of their autonomy. So maybe consider if it's fun for people to see the words used to describe other survivors.

#the terms are misogynistic #but never refer to male or enby survivors #as sluts. cunts. or whores #no survivor ever needs to be called that #rape culture #abuse culture #misogyny #our post

[kingdomoftyto]

Mmmmn so my coworker who initially introduced herself to me as genderfluid just figured out that no, she's just a transgirl actually, and the dysphoria is kind of rearing its head at the worst possible time because *gestures vaguely at the political climate of Missouri* and also *gestures more pointedly at the bills prohibiting gender-affirming care for autistic people*

Anyway I'm mad. Everyone else get mad, too, please.

#politics #rough way to end the work day but I'm glad she felt comfortable talking about it with me #anyway today's mood is that weird survivor's-guilt-adjacent feeling of realizing once again #just how much I've managed to thread the needle of misfortune when it comes to my identity and circumstances #healthy. financially stable. queer but with a supportive family. #free to embrace my autism without having to worry about discrimination from an official diagnosis. #enby but mostly in a gender-euphoria way #ugh I'm so fucking lucky and don't I know it. #I hope anyone who's reading this who might be struggling knows that I love you and I'm here for you #edit: oh shit sorry I should probably tag this as #transphobia

[divinemanicstate]

not judging anyone but honest to god i cannot bring myself to ship ji woon with female characters

hes just one of those ppl who r gay coded inside my brain

#anna doesnt count they re enby af #half his fans ship him w female survivors and im like o noo....

[tippy-spiral-fan]

Sparked by conversations with good friends, my therapist, and masses of reflection, what fucking JOY it is to be able to reflect and know that my inner child and inner teen are damn fucking proud of me. I've become everything I dreamed to be and more; a protector, a strong leader, a reliable support and follower. Someone now with hard boundaries, and not afraid to cut away from myself those who cannot and will not respect my boundaries. I can seperate what's mine to carry, and what is not. And I am free. Free from my abusers, and their sick, twisted ideas of what I "should" be; of how I "should" act, and from their vile ways. I know damn well who I am, who I'm meant to be. I can finally allow myself to have pride in my journey, and my existence as a whole. I'll never ever again try to be someone else's perfect; simply the healthiest, strongest Dawn I can be, with oodles of loved ones (and ancestors) at my side and at my back. 🖤 #TwoSpirit #queer #enby #nonbinary #transmasculine #mixed #victim #survivor #goth #gothic #glowup #selflove #throwback #reflection #healing https://www.instagram.com/p/CdrtUXcMzku/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#twospirit #queer #enby #nonbinary #transmasculine #mixed #victim #survivor #goth #gothic #glowup #selflove #throwback #reflection #healing

[dearryker-loves]

King C. Gillette Valley

T.W: self harm and mentions of child sexual abuse

I turn off all the lights 

Except for the small dim one 

That hangs above the toilet 

On the other side of the bathroom.

I turn on the shower

While the water is heating up 

I anxiously strip away the armor 

That hides and protects 

The scars, stretch marks and dysphoria.

I throw my clothes into a pile on the floor

I make sure to disclose   

Fresh bandages, gauze, tape and Neosporin  

In between my of shirt and pants.

Just incase my mom 

Comes in to grab something 

From her closest or toiletries 

On the sink.

Before the steam obscures the glass

I stare at my vulnerable naked body.

A body that I have loathed with a passion 

Since I was eight years old.

A body that I have 

Never been able to recognize.

I softly run my hands 

Over the scars on my shoulders 

From bad days past.

As I feel raised skin 

I am reminded of every mistake,

Every bad decision, 

Every fault

I have ever committed.

The tally marks on 

On my arms and shoulders

To keep track of and 

Stand as a permanent reminder of 

Why I am not and will never be 

Enough.

Why every bad thing that happens to me 

Is a direct result of my failures.

I carefully and quietly move the small 

Toiletry stand next to shower

I bend down and reach under 

The back of the bottom shelf 

As I methodically feel around 

Until I pluck a 

Beautiful and deadly 

King C. Gillette 

Men’s Double Edge 

Razor Blade.

I rub the pad of my thumb 

Against it’s delicately sharp edge 

I mouth the words to myself as 

A reminder that 

“It was all my fault. 

I could have stopped it.

I could have saved us.”

Feeling the way my warm breath

Moves through my mouth.

I repeat those words again and again

Until I can picture all their scared little faces,

And I can hear the sound of their cries for help.

Cries that no one heard.

I feel the beastly passion over powering 

Our too small bodies.

“It was all my fault.

I could have stopped it.

I could have saved us.

Why didn’t I just tell someone

What was happening to us?”

I step into the shower 

My body full of rage and such 

Immense fear and sorrow.

Guilt and shame 

Drenching me from head to toe.

 Suddenly

I am aware of an entrancing voice 

Demanding that I be punished.

Without hesitation 

I press the edge of the blade 

Against my shoulder 

Recklessly slicing through  

The wounds from the day before.

I do this over and over 

Until my flesh looks like 

It’s been mauled by a 

Wild animal.

Shredded and degloved.

Blood running down my body 

Like and ruby waterfall.

I watch as it pools around my feet 

Before it rushes down the drain.

I can’t feel a thing. 

My mind stuck in 

A dissociative daze

With no signs of return.

Again

I drag the blade slowly 

The skin squishes under the pressure 

It takes violence and aggression 

To make this thin piece of metal 

To draw blood.

Slice quickly and you cut deeper by mistake 

Drag slowly and you the pain is more intense 

And the wound is more controlled.

Slowly is my favorite way to punish myself.

That way I can really manipulate 

My internal pain so I remember

How I could have done something.

Only  a child but I could have saved us.

 I turn off the water 

And I take the towel and dry off 

Then I try to stop the bleeding

By holding firm pressure.

I step out and reach for

My safety supplies.

Sitting on the tile floor 

I purposely replace the towel 

With some gauze 

Along with some Neosporin .

I take four strips 

Of medical tape and apply 

To all side of the gauze.

I place a rather large 

Bandage over the taped wound.

I wipe off the blade and 

Take a new piece of tape 

And place it back 

Under the toiletry stand

Where no one will think to look.

Once again 

I look in the mirror 

And I still don’t recognize myself 

Through the heated haze 

I drag my hand across the glass 

A tear cascades down my unfamiliar face

And in a soft voice in my head

I wonder to myself 

“Was if it wasn’t our fault...

What if it was just his.”

#childsexualabusesurvivor #survivors guilt #selfharm #dissociative episode #dissociation #major depressive disorder #general anxiety disorder #childhood truama #trying to heal #body dysphoria #transgender #trans guy #nonbinary #enby #trans man

[drdemonprince]

I read your newsletter about "transmisandry" today. I'm a trans man and I generally agree with what you said. However, I was wondering how you would classify a particular experience of mine and other trans men I know irl or have seen online.

In short, I find that in some queer spaces, masculine and/or "binary" (meaning, not non-binary) trans men are treated as outsiders and enemies. I imagine some straight-passing queer cis men experience similar.

This prejudice against masculinity has nothing to do with us being trans, and is in no way oppressive, but it seems to me that some people have a hatred/disgust/discomfort/etc. with masculine men, especially if we are proud of our manhood. I sometimes feel excluded in queer or progressive spaces, and like I have to change myself to fit into others' idea of "acceptable" manhood.

I think this tends to emotionally affect trans men in particular because being a man is generally hard-won and joyful for us. Have you experienced prejudice in queer spaces, especially trans spaces, for being transmasculine? And while I don't believe there exists systemic misandry, is this not a form of misandry, just interpersonal?

Thanks, I really appreciate your work.

Hi there, thank you for great question. What you are describing is certainly a very real and troubling dynamic within both queer and feminist spaces, and it's put me off for a very long time. I have sometimes referred to this as "playful 'misandry' feminism", always with "misandry" in quotes because, as we've already established, it's not a real locus of systemic oppression. I have also sometimes in the past likened it to "Men's Tears Coffee Mug" feminism in its performative, self-congratulatory, typically white feminist stance.*

*in the Koa Beck sense of the term. Someone who is not white can be a white feminist.

I was always put off by performative man-hating jokes and the exclusion of men within feminist spaces because, well, I was one, and because it nearly always played out in transmisogynistic ways that were transparent to me, and because I was a major ride-or-die for men who were victims of sexual violence yet were frequently excluded from survivors' spaces (again, because I was one, even before I realized that I was).

There are a lot of troubling effects that happen when feminist women make a big performance out of finding all men to be disgusting and evil and frequently express disinterest in men's feelings or suffering (which used to be way more common in my estimation, around the early 2010's or so it seemed to peak). I was driven away from feminist spaces as a young closeted trans man because I could see such spaces were not for me or for any of the other men that I cared about and needed support. On the inverse side of things, I have spoken to many trans men who said that "playful "misandry"" feminism actively made it harder for them to realize that they were guys. Men were seen as the enemy and inherently evil and destructive and so they felt absolutely disgusting about the possibility of being a man, or feared transitioning would get them seen as a betrayer of the feminist movement.

As you rightly note, it is not just trans guys who get excluded by such dynamics. Cis men who are genuinely avowed feminists can be driven away by such forces, which is especially upsetting in the case of sexual assault survivors and queer men. Trans women and TMA enbies are excluded from feminist and women's spaces because they supposedly "look like" men to these types, and their own feelings of superficial safety rank above the actual data on who is the most at risk structurally (which is trans women). Butches are regarded in some spaces as too aggressive or unacceptably masculine because of it. And people's analysis of gender oppression just overall sucks when they buy into "playful misandry" style feminism because they go around saying shit like "femme people are oppressed by masc folks." what the hell does that mean. Does a cis, gender conforming feminine woman have less structural power than a butch lesbian? I don't think so.

It seems to me that the big problem here is that "playful misandry" feminism is rooted in a deep deep misunderstanding of the structural nature of oppression. Sexism isn't caused by patriarchy and capitalism, it's caused by "men" and so hating men and excluding them is what will fix things. Men as individuals are responsible for sexism and so women should be as detached from them and unsupportive of them as possible. This logic leads to a TERFy place really quickly, and yes, it also really really damages trans men.

My opinion is that it's best to critique this problem as the political failure that it is: a misunderstanding of sexism as individualistic rather than systemic. That's the core issue from which all the problems flow -- from rampant transmisogyny to the exclusion of cis male sexual assault survivors to the feelings of alienation of trans men. Yes sometimes naming the performative nature of "man hating" jokes and the like is helpful because people recognize instantly what that dynamic is when they hear it. But the "misandry" itself is not the core problem -- it's the shitty gender politics and white feminism.

Does that make sense? To be clear, I think it's something trans men get to talk about. I talk about it from my positionality quite a lot really. I don't think "misandry" is ultimately the helpful or clarifying way to name it, but I will sometimes throw around that term with a TON of qualifiers if I'm discussing the specific interpersonal dynamic of women saying that men are evil rapists innately or whatever. But really discussing the broader gender politics failure that leads to those little shitty comments and looks is almost always more helpful. If trans guys and cis guys are feeling excluded from a space due to these dynamics it's almost always the case that trans women, TMA enbies, butch women, and lots of women of color are too.

[femboyhorror]

🌲 pines family headcanons ✨ click the read more for more in-depth headcanon stuff!

this started out as a little silly edit of ford, then i decided to do one for stan as well and once that happened i knew i had to do edits for the pines twins as well. i might end up doing others like soos, wendy and pacifica but for now we have the main four pines.

🌲 dipper has glasses but prefers not to wear them. he thinks they look nerdy but wears them more often with the support of mabel and his grunkles. 🌲 bisexual disaster. 🌲 dipper will always be a transboy in my head. struggled with gaining acceptance from his parents but knows he always has a place where he can be himself in gravity falls. 🌲 CW SELF HARM IMPLIED: his dysphoria and dissociation from his body ends up worse for a while after sock opera. for a while turns to… not so great methods to remind himself that his body is his own. 🌲 became clingy after weirdmageddon, either clinging to his sister and grunkles before going back to piedmont or just staying by mabel's side often after. 🌲 probably has pierced ears but would wear very subtle earrings, to mabel's displeasure.

🌠 big decora kei vibes. so many stickers and hair pins. she also will often wear mismatched socks! 🌠 is the one to suggest she and dipper get a matching hair streak. blue was the only color dipper would agree to. 🌠 mabel gives me big pansexual vibes. starts to discover her own identity around the time dipper does, and ends up dating candy and/or grenda for a hot minute. 🌠 wholly supported dipper when he came out as a transboy and was his biggest ally growing up. 🌠 after weirdmageddon she asks ford for drawing lessons. the two bond over arts and crafts. 🌠 CW MILD ED suffers from a sort of survivor's guilt after weirdmageddon, guilt over being tricked by bill and almost staying in mabeland manifesting mostly in the form of being a people pleaser, forgetting to eat and sleep. the other pines thankfully notice this and put a stop to it.

🎣 i love long haired stan. i like to imagine after the series the guy feels comfortable enough to grow his hair out again. 🎣 stretched earlobes! 🎣 is a transman and also gnc as hell. he also is insanely good at using makeup. (dipper and ford don't really use makeup and mabel just likes to be Silly with makeup.) 🎣 (tbh i can also imagine stanley as being transfeminine as well, they're just That Gender.) 🎣 as soon as mabel saw his "glorious mane" she was practically begging him to let her braid it. he pretends to just go along with it for her sake but he secretly loves having her do his hair. 🎣 the adhd to ford's autism. he definitely suffers hard from rejection sensitive dysphoria and tends to panic if it seems like someone is upset with him. (i.e. ford confronting him over the broken machine, mabel upset with him for lying in the land before swine.)

✋ his sweater is a huge comfort for him. in general he likes heavier clothes to ground him. ✋ i like to imagine him with plenty of earrings and tattoos. earrings mainly themed around space and stars and ends up getting some tattos on his wrists to cover the burn scars from weirdmageddon. ✋ a touch of the tism. has a hard time distinguishing tone. (i.e. not being able to tell if wendy was complimenting him ironically or not.) ✋ while he doesn't mind if people see him as a man, he himself doesn't feel all that attached to the idea of being male. fine with any pronouns but probably likes to use neopronouns. (maybe star/starself?) ✋ achillean, mainly attracted to enbies and men. tried to date a few girls growing up to try and be "normal" (comphet's a binch) but at around high school enough bad experiences made him avoid dating for a while. ✋ he loves loves loves space and astronomy! it's sort of his hyperfixation. used to name constellations with stanley while spending nights on the stan o war and they bond over this on the stan o war ii!

#gravity falls #gravity falls headcanons #stanford pines edits #stanley pines edits #mabel pines edits #dipper pines edits #gravity falls edits #stanford pines headcanons #stanley pines headcanons #mabel pines headcanons #dipper pines headcanons #mutt's edits

[bluelesbian2018]

The one good thing about Catra antis being very dumb and thus never moving on beyond childrens media is that I will never stumble into their bad opinions about books I like.

Anyways, if you love Catra and want to step up into something more mature about women and enby survivors of abuse doing shady things as a result of their trauma I recommend:

The Locked Tomb

The Poppy War

She Who Became the Sun

To be Devoured

The Nine Eyes of Lucien (This one requires knowing a bit about The Mighty Nein campaign)

Sharp Objects

The Luminous Dead (I'm halfway through and it looks promising)

IMPORTANT!! Be sure to look up the trigger warning for each book as some of them can be very traumatizing.

I'm sure I'm missing some books. Recommendations are welcomed.

#she ra #catradora #spop #spop critical #catra

[tobiasdrake]

Okay, let's meet the new team.

SHINIGAMI! That's fucking RUDE, Ghost Junko. These are going to be our colleagues and they deserve to be treated with some respect and reverence for human life!

...but also, same.

Very nearly misgendered them on account of visibly being a mid-thirties Chiaki Nanami. Fortunately, their bio spells out that they "have no specified gender".

Plus side, enby rep. Downside, oh god, Kodaka's writing an LGBT character again. The guy who brought us Chihiro Fujisaki, Teruteru Hanamura, and Korekiyo Shinguji is taking another swing at LGBT rep. Can't wait to see how he fucks this one up.

In any case, all we know so far is that they're a cold and calculating mastermind who coolly analyzes the circumstances around them while giving away nothing emotionally.

Roughly the same age as me and a hot-headed jackass to offset my calm and understated persona. This kid's definitely here to be my Shonen Rival and then maybe we gradually become friends over time as our rivals-to-bromance plot overtakes the story and shunts other characters out of the spotlight.

You know how that goes.

Incidentally, when I typed Desuhiko's name in to tag it, the second result that came up on the autocomplete was "Desuhiko x Yuma". So. Yeah. You know what this dynamic is going to be.

She's in the running for fave right now but a lot's going to depend on when and how the other shoe drops. Fubuki is an air-headed noblewoman who can't count past three and struggles to comprehend basic concepts. She thinks chocolate grows on trees already in its silver wrapper.

But she's also a Master Detective. She can't actually be stupid if she's not only a member of the international League of Best Detectives but also talented enough to be one of the few survivors to skate past Amaterasu's murder-wall. There has to be something more to her beyond what seems readily apparent. Right?

You can't see it in these shots but he's chilling in the fireplace.

I don't know why he's chilling in the fireplace. The more pressing question is where he found all that leg room. My guy, did you sledgehammer open the interior wall of the fireplace so you could have a comfy place to lay?

His bio says he likes fluffy pillows and dislikes hard pillows (and living) but he's choosing an architecture-defying fireplace lounge when there are all these comfy surfaces around the room so I don't know if I trust it.

#master detective archives: rain code #drake plays rain code #halara nightmare #desuhiko thunderbolt #fubuki clockford #vivia twilight

[mxanigel]

10 some # of characters | 10 some # of fandoms | 10 a negotiable number of tags

thank you for the tag beloved @poetikat <3 <3 <3

1) Hange Zoe + Levi Ackerman -- Attack on Titan. (They're a unit to me, okay?) Hange is an energetic ruthless clever jovial skilled enby who has captured my whole heart. Levi is crude and harsh and strong, someone who needs and deserves love AND HE WILL GET IT.

2) Beatrice the Golden Witch -- Umineko When They Cry. My ultimate "I support women's wrongs" character. Queerqueerqueerqueerqueer. I can't explain too much because MASSIVE SPOILERS but she is everything. ahahaha.wav (Her Japanese voice actress is freaking incredible.)

3) Renne Bright -- The Legend of Heroes series. My beloved Angel of Slaughter. What you've been through. How you've fallen. How you've gotten back up. How you've faced the demons of your past and the unexpected family in your present. You're loved for who you are, not what you could have been, and that's one of the most precious things I've ever seen.

4) Lloyd Bannings -- The Legend of Heroes series. I don't know where to start with this guy. I love him. I know I'm cheating by not choosing a different fandom here (even though he was introduced in a different game from Renne), but he is MY BOY. He sees the good in people and ensures that his actions are driven by evidence and truly cares about those around him. Part of my inspiration for OC Shion Miller tbh.

5) Toothless -- How to Train Your Dragon. Flying black cat who breathes fire. 'nuf said. :D

6) Mara Jade -- Star Wars. Female Force-using badass with a lightsaber and a dark background and red hair and falls for Luke and and and AUGH. She is why I fell for the Expanded Universe. She is why I fell out of love with Star Wars when Disney made those novels not canon. I still love Star Wars. I just can't engage the same way I used to.

7) Qifrey -- Witch Hat Atelier. I'm not even four volumes into this breathtakingly-drawn manga but this man provides one of THE best examples of a mentor-mentee relationship that I've ever seen in fiction. He sees his apprentices as individual, unique humans each with different strengths and different needs. And he teaches them magic in line with those strengths and those needs. While acknowledging that they're human and don't need to be perfect. He's the kind of mentor I want to be to my students.

8) Saeki Sayaka -- Bloom Into You. Oh girl. You deserve the world. And yet you fell for a girl who would ultimately fall for someone else. Despite all the things you did for her. It's fine. You're fine. You'll be okay. You'll find someone new. Who will love you and challenge you and and and I JUST LOVE HER ARC OKAY?

9) Anora Mac Tir -- Dragon Age. Queen. I love Loghain and she loves Loghain and SHE STANDS UP TO HIM. Yet her behavior UNDERSTANDABLY changes depending on whether the Warden spares her father. She deserves the world and more.

10) Ashley Williams + Kaidan Alenko -- Mass Effect. The one-or-the-other Virmire survivors (someday I may install the mod that enables both to live. SOMEDAY). I've romanced them with different Shepards. I've had those Shepards rekindle their relationships post-Horizon or never try. They're amazing wonderful nuanced characters who deserve more love.

Honorary mention: Lae'zel, Shadowheart, and Karlach from Baldur's Gate 3. I'm still in Act 2. There's so much I still don't know about these women. But I love them and I will defend them until I'm out of breath. And someday I will get to know Minthara and fall hard for her too.

no-pressure tagging @saraptor @spindleweedss @mxkelsifer @milesmentis @blightcaller @druckkugelschreiber @nightingalesighs @korblez @dr-paine @captastra @perhapsrampancy @socially-awkward-skeleton @valiantvillain and anyone else who might like to play~

#tag games #oh the obsessions are coming out to play #I could talk about Lloyd all day #y'all already know I'm obsessed with Hange and Levi #Renne and Beatrice *flails* they make me incoherent

[trans-wojak]

Hi! I was just wondering, what are your views on non-binary people who actually experience dysphoria and choose to medically transition? I've seen you sorta condemning AFAB enbies who only identify as such without transitioning medically or even just socially, and got genuinely curious, what's your overall opinion on non-binary people. Just in case - I did choose to transition, I've got my top surgery scheduled this year.

I think people can do whatever they want with their bodies cause it’s their body. Buttt being a flat chested female isn’t changing your sex to a third sex, it’s just making you look more or less like a breast cancer survivor. Even in trans guys most top surgery results look terrible. It doubles in awfulness when the person is overweight… Because a male chest doesn’t look flat or even caved in. And most of the time, I don’t think it’s wise to do such surgeries unless you have actual dysphoria - which is, problems with your sex AND wanting to be the opposite sex, not some mix or made up version of the two sexes. I also think a good portion of women who self ID as non binary and want top surgery only want it so (mostly imagined) men won’t see them as sexually attractive and available, because more or less - potentially denying they are lesbians. then again, most enbies I come across are “T4T” but rarely date each other & only go after trans women and trans men who have actually transitioned.

I also want to emphasise that most women who ID as non binary are also mentally ill, with a diagnosis like borderline or bipolar which has identity disturbance issues as a symptom. Do I think that this should stop them from getting surgery or hormones? It’s hard to say: in a perfect world I would like transsexual healthcare to be accessible without threat of removal due people misusing it and regret and I would want non binary people to get their hormones and surgery by paying for it, like anyone else does for cosmetic procedures. Just because you really want something doesn’t mean it’s a medical need, I really would like a nose job because I hate the shape of my nose but my need for testosterone and potential surgery (I may/may not need top surgery due to my chest size) is vastly different. Living socially as a woman is painful but not just that, feeling immense disconnection with my body’s sex is extremely uncomfortable. The nose job would just make me feel satisfied and happy, whereas transition has made me feel content and a sense of ease.

I think all body modification is fine cause it’s their body, what I disagree with is people using trans healthcare coverage for their body modification needs. These days the ‘progressive’ climate allows anyone to be given a diagnosis of dysphoria even when they don’t. Removing breasts while retaining every other female sexual characteristic won’t make people think you’re androgynous, so if it’s just for your satisfaction, then that’s great but if you’re doing it in hopes that people won’t see you as a female, it’s the wrong choice.

#personal #thanks for the ask!

[batnip]

6. as per winning of the poll!! i will go over my personal au which contains my own hcs, and is for my own enjoyment. to start off we have THE slugcat, survivor <3 . look at my sad , traumatized, sleepy enby scug.

hhahhaha oh boy!! starting off strong with our feller, survivor. i always hc'd them as nonbinary, even before i got the game. i use they/them pronouns for all my scugs, they are slimy little pixels after all. i imagine them REALLY guarded after the events of their campaign, and being someone who hates the rain especially due to being separated from their family in it. thats why their is the element of only interacting with close family/friends. especially monk!! they are very grateful to their little sibling and thinks monk is so brave!! rrest this blob's soul, oh man [reblogs>likes]

#my rainworld au #personal au #rainworld #rw survivor #rw headcanons #rw au

[greentrickster]

Ultimate Don’t Starve role reversal AU - all of the usual survivors are now rulers on a danged half-circle of nightmare thrones, William is the only survivor in the entire Constant and they’re all bugging him in different ways. He never became the Great Maxwell in this AU, he was just a two-bit stage magician trying to find his big break, he has no idea why this is happening to him or what he did to earn the attention of, like, fifteen crazy shadow people, but he would like to go home now, please - he had an interviewed scheduled with a very nice lady about possibly being his stage assistant and hopefully he hasn’t stood her up too badly...?

(As to why this situation is as it is... I dunno. The current nightmare kings, queens, and rulers of an enby nature gamed the system, and they chose William because Willow went, “Wait, no, guys, hear me out... it would be so funny.”)

#don't starve #don't starve together #dst william #Ultimate Don't Starve Role Reversal AU

[greaterpaladin]

not an enby in survivor. can't escape their cringe asses anywhere fr

#personal