#esther perel

[chaos-kittn]

“Eroticism, intertwined as it is with imagination, is another form of play. I think of play as an alternative reality midway between the actual and the fictitious, a safe space where we experiment, reinvent ourselves, and take chances.”

- Esther Perel

#words #esther perel #quotes #chaos kitten

[a-little-something-beautiful]

#esther perel #words

[grlbts]

Modern loneliness masks itself as hyper connectivity. And so people have easily 1000 virtual friends, but no one they can ask to feed their cat. That loneliness, which is really a depletion of the social capital, is extremely powerful. […]

Esther Perel

#esther perel #writing

[justascribbla]

Our desires, even our most illicit ones, are a feature of our humanity.

Esther Perel.

#quotes #life #esther perel

[albertayebisackey]

"The quality of our connections determines the quality of our lives." - Esther Perel

#art #artist #albert sackey art #albertsackeyart #life #albertayebisackey #journal #love #sketchbook #connection #humanity #living #sketch #artists on tumblr #art journal #journaling #journals #visual journal #quote #quotes #knowledge #wisdom #wise #faith #hope #peace #god #quality #esther perel #quotations

[modelcoutureee]

#Esther Perel #Emily Ratajkowski

[soulinkpoetry]

Self-love is less about the ability to withstand loneliness or establish independence and more about awareness and acceptance of our incompleteness. It’s about letting others love us even when we feel unlovable because their version of us is often kinder than our own.

• — Esther Perel

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#when you love me #I’m kinder to myself #soulinkpoetry #poetry #she writes #thoughts #feelings #that’s life #poets on tumblr #esther perel

[theregencyreticule]

In my ears this week

#esther perel #on being podcast #krista tippett #SoundCloud

[vasilinaorlova]

Have we talked about Esther Perel's marvelous red chair? That as a psychotherapist she has this red chair which is, incidentally, a jewel of furniture design, makes sense to me. She makes perfect sense speaking about the theater and her office of a psychotherapist. If I ever have a private practice with its own office (as opposed to doing my coaching or therapy sessions online), I would make sure I have one of those rare chairs (maybe not the same particular model Perel has, which, by the way, is called a womb chair). I also jokingly said to my girlfriends on multiple occasions that I would put a portrait of Freud onto the wall. To the idea of putting Freud on the wall those of my girlfriends who happen to have Ph.D.s in psychology strongly opposed. For sure, Freud can and should be criticized for a lot, and nobody who read Freud in our anthropology or philosophy seminars liked him also, but Freud was also the one who called attention to the inner life of the soul and paid scientific attention to dreams rather than dismissing and relegating the area of dream analysis to fortune tellers, and, finally, Freud was a beautiful and compelling writer even when what he wrote was not what we would accept. I think we don't need to agree with what writers say to enjoy the form in which they put their thoughts. In short, I am still tempted by the idea of a Freud's portrait and some fancy chair in my imaginary physical office. Judge me, but I would totally put a recamier sofa in my office as well! I said what I said 😆

#mental health #mental health counseling #Esther Perel #chair #Freud

[canticleofcanticlesforleibowitz]

Was it Esther Perel who said:

The first couple of times someone lies to you, they'll probably feel guilty about it, but the longer they do it and get away with it, the more they'll start to blame you for it. Your blatant ignorance makes you complicit. If you're blind to it long enough, eventually they'll see you as deserving it. ?

It's a universal truth kind of observation, but I think I heard it from Esther first.

#lying liars who lie #esther perel #probably

[themindofastrid]

🌐Recs of the Week No.6

Hello there👋🏽! Across the internet there’s a lot of awesomeness, so I decided to curate a small list of cool content that I think it’s worth sharing, I hope you find it useful, inspiring or interesting.

Thank you so much for being here♡.

Without further ado, these are my internet findings of the week:

Articles📝

Videos🎥

Podcast🎙️

IG Posts🖼️

Enjoy, xo.

#recs #articles #instagram #Esther Perel #youtube recommendations #youtube #ness labs #black hole #ted talks #MHN #James Clear #Silk + Sonder #recommendations #Youtube #Spotify #Instagram

[valsedelesruines]

No matter what I do, I'll never be able to be quick to socialize with new people, I'll always be quiet in large groups, I'll take far too long to feel comfortable around a friend, and I'll fumble my words so that I misrepresent what I'm ultimately trying to say. I feel as though I portray a cool, relaxed demeanour, but deep down, I'm that same awkward, annoying kid who couldn't quite keep up with what everyone else was doing. For the most part, I accept it. I enjoy being on my own, I prefer quality over quantity of friends, and I am perfectly fine with the fact that not everyone will like me. But I do wish I were better at asking the right questions and listening at the right times.

My driver tonight had blue dreadlocks, was anxious about driving in the rain, and was engaged two days ago. She was a recovering addict and something about her reminded me of my sister (who has been on my mind a lot lately because I'm starting to realize how much I love her). Something about how she would constantly say "you know what I mean" and the smell of her car brought me back to the conversations I used to have. Something about the resemblance made me ask, "Do you mind if I ask? At what point did you know you needed help?" She told me when her three kids were taken away. Rock bottom. In the span of one car ride, I watched this woman overfilled with joy and on the verge of tears. The taxi is one of the better platforms for forming a connection through conversation and often under 30 minutes.

Tonight, my doctor was on the flight with me. He's a man I see every week, probably around my father's age, and has a slight limp. His wife passed away suddenly two weeks ago, and before then, he would often hang up the phone with her during visits, saying, "Goodbye, my love." It's hard for me to talk to someone who's lost someone because it's so sad. It makes me think of losing Will, which makes me think that no amount of time in life will ever be enough to spend with him. Then I kick myself for not appreciating the time I have with him now, with everyone I love now, including myself at 25 and the life I'm living. I watched a video on loss recently that quoted Einstein: "people like us who believe in physics know that the distinction between past, present and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion." I want to tell my doctor that. I want to share with him that because maybe it will reassure him that as long as he's here that his love with her still exists. But, I know I won't say any of that because it will come out all wrong.

Esther Perel writes, "We no longer plow the land together; today we talk. We have come to glorify verbal communication. I speak; therefore I am. We naively believe that the essence of who we are is most accurately conveyed through words." I am not ashamed of my attributes, but I should not excuse them as obstacles. Maybe through practice, I can learn the tools for more effective conversation. We all could learn to listen more and ask better questions.

#mine #thoughts #conversation #death #love #will #communication #albert einstein #esther perel #quote

[androgynousevilqueen]

"The erotic frisson is such that the kiss that you only imagine giving can be as powerful and as enchanting as hours of actual lovemaking. As Marcel Proust said, it's our imagination that is responsible for love, not the other person."

Esther Perel

#esther perel #fantasizing is my favorite hobby #eroticism #desire

[mrs-stans]

@imsebastianstan via Instagram Story (June 3, 2022)

#Sebastian Stan #Esther Perel #Video #mrs-stans #instagram

[yepthatsacowalright]

"You listen with your eyes, you listen with your smile, you listen with the hand, you listen as you walk closer to the person, hence therapy in-person, not just online. The whole body listens. And the more you listen like that, the quality of your listening is what will shape what the speaker will tell. How much, how open, how deep. Listening is not just the passive recipient. Listening shapes the speaker."

-Esther Perel, A Live Conversation with Esther Perel and Trevor Noah: Where Should We Begin? | SXSW 2024

#THISSSS #this is why i hate online therapy #i get that for some it's more convenient or whatever but it's NOT THE SAME #IT'S NOT #!! #esther perel #therapy #psychology #listening #where should we begin?

[obsidian-river]

"But the thing is that he has shown me, in so many ways, that he does love me and … We have, honestly, the best time. He’s my best friend in the world. I don’t know how to lose him. And that’s the thing is, I see him as a really good person, as a really kind and warm and friendly… And if you see him with his friends, he is incredible, incredible. It’s so confusing. Exactly, again. But then he turns around and does that to me." X

A caller was telling Esther Perel how their gaslighting boyfriend is also "[their] best friend in the world" and "a really good person" and I was like, NOOOooooo don't fall for that Almaviva shit

CONTE Guardatemi… Ho torto, e mi pento. Da questo momento quest'alma a conoscervi apprender potrà.

COUNT Look at me… I was wrong, and I repent. From this moment on, my heart will learn to know you better.

#lately I've been having these Peter Mattei reaction gif moments... #Le Nozze di Figaro #opera #Esther Perel