#eta: i'd actually love to talk to the guy who i mentioned was great more

[bidickgrayson]

when you’re a sensitive baby who wants to cry bc you’re reminded that the group of guys you love playing destiny with do still hate women even tho they like you

hahahahahaha i’m sad :(

#at least i got confirmation that the guy i thought was great is in fact great #and not afraid to call his friends out on their misogynistic bullshit #but he was the only one so it was basically me and the one other woman of the clan #going like 'this is misogynistic bullshit' #and a bunch of dudes being like '*rolls eyes* ur making shit up' #other than the one great guy was backing us up/calling ppl out on his own which i really really appreciated #anyway this really ruined my day lol :( wish i could not be so sensitive :( wish men didn't suck :( #wish i hadn't wanted/hoped for better from a group of men who i actually like play with :( #and like. there's one guy who was like. the worst. and i kind of would never choose to play with him again? #(i didn't like him before bc he would make sexist jokes about his gf and i was always unconvinced they were jokes/not actual beliefs) #(and this argument just confirmed that i was right and he is pretty unapologetically misogynistic) #but in order to do that i would have to choose not to play in times where i would otherwise want to #bc he's friends with a lot of the regulars and i like most of the regulars but.... #:(((((((((((((((((((( anyway :((((((((((((((((( #talking to myself #eta: i'd actually love to talk to the guy who i mentioned was great more #bc he actually called out something i was (pleasantly) surprised registered with him #which was the guy i mentioned who i hate referring to women as 'females' #and the guy i like was like 'lol seriously dude 'females'?' #and the guy was like 'what did i use the wrong pronouns' (this guy can go fuck himself) #and the guy i like was like 'well i would use 'women' but that's just me...' #and like. idk that stands out bc men using 'females' is kind of a red flag to me #so the fact that the guy i liked recognized it as such too was. validating. and nice. lol #and he's said other things where i'm like. i feel like we're definitely on the same page wrt politics