#family mention

[sweetpeauserboxes]

[id: a light blue userbox with a pastel blue border, and pastel blue text that reads “this user loves their online family, and wishes the best for them" on the left is an image of a small blue heart. /end id]      

#postivity #postive #soft userboxes #soft userbox #soft aesthetic #softcore #soft #cute userboxes #cutecore #cute userbox #cute aesthetic #cute #pastelcore #pastel userbox #pastel userboxes #pastel aesthetic #pastel #userboxes #userbox #family mention #family cw #family tw #family #family ment

[plato-repulsed-culture-is]

Plato-repulsed culture is calling people friends when talking about them around family because while it makes you feel sick, it's better than explaining being aplatonic to people who barely understand you being trans

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#plato averse #plato repulsed #aplatonic #apl #aspec #actually plato repulsed #friendship repulsion #plato repulsion #friendship repulsed #aplspec #queer #plato repulsed culture is #plato-repulsed-culture-is #family mention #ugh. I feel that... I minimise interaction w the bodys family but they constantly call ppl my 'friends' and dont understand #me being trans or literally anything else about me #anon ask #anon submissions

[sonocomics]

Hey all! So today was going to be the manga video talking about A School Frozen in Time, but unfortunately I didn't get around to recording it

My grandmother unfortunately passed away, so I'm heading down home to be with family so. If I miss a few other updates that's why.

I'll do the video and others once I'm feeling up to it though but for now I'm gonna give myself some time.

Thank you for understanding!

#death mention #family mention

[can-of-pringles]

My dad always wondering why no one talks to him about what they're going through but he literally talks like this no matter how serious the situation is or if the person is on the verge of tears

👹What's wrong?👹 Why are you upset?👹 What's going on?👹 Why wouldn't it matter?👹

Like bruh you really have never spoken gently in your life 💀

#vent #vent tw #tw vent #toxic dad #family mention

[atertiary-culture-is]

Sorry to bother you, but could I ask what it's like to be afam? I'm realizing some of my behaviours seem kind of afam (openly not loving most* of my family, confusion and almost repulsion to my friend's "online mother", being uncomfortable with being compared to/jokingly called my pet's and my friend's family) but I don't actually know much about afam people and I'm not sure if this is caused by just having a weird (derogatory) family

*I like my aunt and my younger family and I guess my dad but even that feels different to how others seem to feel, aside from younger family. I'm not sure anymore, I guess it's better to ask and be wrong than to not and be right

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Thanks for sending in this ask !

It is possible that you may find the afamilial label useful in describing your experiences, but you may also not find it a useful label.

Some of what you describe sounds like familial repulsion (which I also experience, but allofamilials may also experience and not all afamilials experience), and not feeling familial love. Afamilial includes disconnect from familial attraction / no familial attraction etc.

Both afamilial and allofamilial people may have familial trauma, or other bad experiences with family. Some may have perfectly normal or even good experiences with family. And some people may be afamilial due to trauma (labels like caedfamilial if one lost familial attraction due to trauma and have ptsd/cptsd, or erasfamilial for the same if they dont have ptsd/cptsd, are for that).

People describe familial attraction as wanting to be family with people, I don't know how it works myself though as Ive never felt it and I personally actively don't want to have any interaction w the bodys biological family or find found family, even if Im around them for financial dependence reasons rn.

Different afamilial people have different experiences, but I will talk about some things I experience related to my afamilial orientation:

-I don't wish to form familial bonds. I don't even want to consider my partners (Im allosexual and demiromantic, and atertiary) family even if I marry any of them at some point. I also don't want found family, and dislike that I live with the bodys biological family right now.

-I have never thought 'I want this person to be my family' or seen anyone 'as a parent/sibling/etc. figure', in fact even people who were that to me biologically I never actually wanted them to be that to me

-My orientation may be influenced by familial abuse - Im sick of how people get away with abusing me just bc theyre legally considered family

-It makes me very upset that, if I don't get married to another body, the bodys family will be given things like visitation rights or the right to make medical decisions for me if I am unable to, by law

-I never felt love towards the bodys family. When I was younger I felt really guilty for it, especially bc I didn't realise the bodys parenrs were abusive and I was constantly blaming myself for them abusing me

-For a while I thought that I only disliked the bodys family due to the abuse, but I realised I didn't want found family either

-The only way the 'found family' trope popular in queer media appealed to me was the idea of knowing other queer people, not being abused (though I am aware found family can be abusive too), and potentially having partners (back when I didn't have partners) - basically the family part itself did not appeal to me in the slightest

-I'm uncomfortable with being referred to as a sibling/sister/brother/parent/child etc. even jokingly - I also don't want to be a parent

-I genuinely don't understand how a spouse is automatically seen as family legally and socially. I view marriage as sexual and romantic, not familial, and if I were to marry someone I certainly don't want to 'start a family' with them

-I don't want to have pets either - both due to the way people assume pets become family, and due to being unable to take care of one (I know I can't handle that much responsibility for another life - like how I don't want to raise kids)

-I don't like being compared to people in the body's biological family - or made to feel like I cannot be anything more than who they are

My experiences are mainly of the no familial attraction, familial repulsed afamilial type so would not be reflective of all afamilial people

#afamilial #atertiary #aterspec #afam #afamspec #afamilial experiences #-Rift #anon ask #anon asks #afamilial questioning #questioning #aterspec questioning #aspec #abuse mention #familial abuse mention #parental abuse mention #family mention

[entropy-sea-system]

The campfam during most of camp cretaceous:

#camp cretaceous #jurassic world #jurassic world camp cretaceous #jurassic park #dinosaurs #campfam #camp fam #family mention #camp cretaceous camp fam #the nublar six #idk if the nublar six is like a spoiler for episode name so just said campfam on post

[internet-schvitzinq]

Had therapy for the first time in over a month and it was good; he said that people choose to not attend baby showers all the time for many different reasons and it’s perfectly okay to say no. I knew that but when it comes to telling my mother “no”, i always feel like I have to come up with some excuse instead of just telling her “Yeah sorry i just don’t want to.” 🙃

#whew #therapy is good ya’ll #family mention

[foolishfynnesse]

I just saw a post in which someone who is alloplatonic talked about how they can understand aplatonic experiences through their childhood experience of not feeling the need to have or make friends (this is the post btw). Thinking about it, I feel kind of like the reverse is sort of true for me?

My parents have told me that I was very social as a young child. I absolutely loved talking to anyone, including complete strangers. I loved making friends. Not that I don’t like making friends now, but I’m pretty much never the instigator nowadays. People always approach me, and I certainly don’t mind making friends. I’m actually pretty quick to call people my friends, since aren’t friends people you know and are friendly with and maybe hang out with every now and then? But there are only a few people I even bother to keep up with, and even then I’m not very good at keeping in touch with most of them. And sure, I love to hang out with my friends when given the chance, but I wonder if that’s because I like socializing with people around my age that I’m comfortable being around, or if it’s because of platonic attraction. I’ve read some posts about platonic pining, and I’m not sure if I really relate to those or not. Though I suppose I don’t think about my friends in that way. But when I imagine doing some of the things talked about in those posts with a friend, I feel that I wouldn’t mind it, and would likely even enjoy it. Though I don’t think I really crave it. And if a friend ever told me “I love you” (in a platonic sense, of course) I most certainly would respond with “Aw, thanks :D” but wouldn’t be able to say “I love you, too” and would feel awkward and bad because of that. But then I think of times when I’ve felt uncomfortable telling my (immediate) family I love them. I’ve grown used to telling them that through practice, and I’m pretty sure I love them (the fuck is love, anyway?). What I’m trying to say is, maybe I do love my friends, but just don’t feel comfortable voicing that sentiment.

Though I suppose, since I’m questioning about using the label gray-platonic and not just outright 100% a-platonic, the question isn’t whether or not I experience platonic attraction, but rather how frequently and/or intensely I experience it. And I think the answer is: not often, and not very. At least, I’m pretty sure. Perhaps I feel it more when I’m actually around my friends, but with the pandemic and with my friends having graduated from university, I’m not able to hang out with them a lot. And when I do, it’s not in-person. Though I notice that I don’t really mind much at all.

Hell, questioning whether I’m aplspec has been more difficult than figuring out if I’m acespec and arospec combined.

#damn #this post kind of derailed from its initial purpose didn’t it? #i’m probably way overthinking this #questioning #questioning apl #aplatonic #apl #aplspec #grayplatonic #friend mention #family mention #swearing

[magz]

family was discuss possibly have great auntie live here (?)

even maternal aunt was say that a bad idea, apparent

though also magz view: our disabilities not gonna work good together.

would actively be worse for both us.

also, magz need more accommodation n help irl than have.

#text post #o post #family mention

[amongdetectiveking-or-qu33n]

Help, my brother is playing as my cannibal OC, Brick, with me and my irl friend- 😭 I’m playing as Brick’s brother, Metal, and my friend is playing as a rabbit lady and me and my brother are just attacking her XD

#blabbering #mention #among us #oc’s #Irl friend #Family mention #friend mention #Brick #Metal

[plato-repulsed-culture-is]

Being aroaceapl with a toxic family culture is feeling lonely all of the time and hating talking to another person even more. At least I have my art, I can just lose myself for hours drawing. My life is not bad tbh, it just sometimes hits me a little and I don't know what to do. I think I just need a therapist, I'm starting to save up for a few sessions.

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#toxic family mention #family mention #aroaceapl #ace #aro #apl #loneliness mention #tw toxic family #plato repulsed culture is #plato repulsed #plato-repulsed-culture-is #plato repulsed apl #aplatonic #aromantic #asexual #aspec #asks #we will answer other asks in our inbox too later theyre kind of buried under other asks #happened to see this one now so posting it now

[e8776]

I don’t think I’ll be able to work on any of my stuff till the holiday season is actually over. My brain is going through a meat grinder right now

#trying to be positive and not spiral but holyyy fuck my family is an insane place to be at #mine #family mention #I Guess

[can-of-pringles]

I feel bad because my family is practically dreading seeing my grandparents at a restaurant because it'll be awkward for them because of me not coming along to see my grandparents because of how they've treated me in the past and still treat me

Although I guess even if I went it would still be tense and awkward no matter what.

I know it's not really my fault and it's on my grandparents for not accepting me but still...

Last time my grandparents saw the rest of my family my grandmother threw a fit and started sobbing because I wasn't there... which also sucks for my family because my ridiculous grandmother makes it all about me (when I don't want her to even acknowledge me)

Honestly it would be better if the rest of my family went no contact like I did but I'm not going to ask that of them.

#vent #vent tw #tw vent #personal #family mention

[temistheranger]

It just struck me again how fricken weird my family is. The memory for today is that my great great uncle (my grandma's uncle) was an artist and sculpted a life-sized tree out of concrete in his living room, on the walls of which he had painted a life-sized panorama of a small village in Japan.

Sadly, I never saw this majestic living room. But my dad did, and he said he remembers his great uncle dancing with a puppet that he had carved, to some waltz, in that room.

#gpoy #family mention #dad mention #uncle mention #grandma mention #I wish I had met him #because WOW

[inner-space-oddity]

I watched Everything Everywhere All At Once the other night

It was not what I expected because it somehow slipped mind that it's supposed to have comedy in it

But it was good. Ended the movie in tears :,)

Movies about child/parent relationships are so important to me. How can you be a good child? How can you be a good parent? How is it fair that you can fail even when you're doing your best?

Movies like this one, Inside Out, and Turning Red do so well in showing that growing up is hard and growing away from your parents is hard and even despite this, your parents are proud of you and they love you and they will tear apart the multiverse to show you that.

#obviously this doesnt apply to people with bad parents #but i personally can relate #everything everywhere all at once #turning red #inside out #family mention #parent mention #katz reviews #the cinematography was awesome btw #and ive seen behind the scenes stunt/foley videos and i am WOWED #this wasnt even a big budget film and the editors learned to edit video on their own #amazing 9/10

[handsomegentlebutch]

I love how my family offered to help me finish moving and I said be here at 9. They agreed. It's nearly 10 and no one is here. I'm SO fucking angry right now. I hate lateness so much it pisses me off to no fucking end. Like?? It's rude! Get a clock!! Set an alarm!!

And don't come at me with "well something something something nerodivergence-" I dont give a fuck. I have ADHD and I'm never late, so dont give me that. I'm just so irritated and I'm complaining.

They always fucking do this and then if I say anything I'm the asshole. Like! If the time didn't work for you, fucking tell me! Goddamn it!

#butch speaks #family mention #im so irritated #i have plans at 11! i guess i dont anymore! #gaaaaaahhhhhhhhh