#faves: life advice

[emblazons]

I would personally like to thank all the gen x and elder millennials who allowed me to be the “kid” in all of my favorite fandom spaces 15+ years ago because lord knows if I was anything like the youth in some of my newer fandoms I should have been blocked by at least 2/3 of my faves

#I think there was a whole other rule of law in fandom back when I was under 18 honestly #and honestly in my very early 20s too #because the idea of yelling at my faves for being creeps for talking to me about a video game #while encouraging me when I had a test or even giving me advice when I asked for it? #none of them talked to me about anything that I wouldn’t tell my kid sister EVER. and they reminded me to be safe too! they were great! #now tho…everyone is super suspicious of everyone while treating the internet like their diary and it’s insane #…I feel so sorry for the young ones. I really do LMAO #(grateful I was trained to both not give every single detail of my life and mental illnesses away online) #(while also not being paranoid that everyone over 18 was going to do something inappropriate) #(it’s reversed now and the youth are SO MUCH WORSE for it) #….I may have aggressively dated myself with this but LMFAO the people should know I am not that young by now #the me tag

[raayllum]

—Book One: Moon novelization

#rayllum #rayllumedit #book quotes #mutual salvation theory #my edits #graphics #personal fave #arc 1 #arc 2 #the viren idea is his whole 'get a grip / shut down your feelings' advice is like #what callum Was doing #but rayla coming back into his life forced him to Stop and then to actually start letting it out again #poetic cinema #multi #her showing up and making him Look away from the mirror like EVEN WITHOUT THE MOON HALO IT'S A L O T #tag ramble

[silkjade]

my first genshin birthday ૮꒰ྀི∩´ ᵕ `∩꒱ྀིა I love it, I think it’s such a cute personal touch, these are my faves! 💗

#𝓰𝓮𝓷𝓼𝓱𝓲𝓷: 𝓂𝒶𝓎 𝓉𝒽𝑒 𝓌𝒾𝓃𝒹𝓈 𝒷𝓁𝑒𝓈𝓈 𝓎𝑜𝓊𝓇 𝓉𝓇𝒶𝓋𝑒𝓁𝓈 #losing my mind at alhaitham’s unsolicited life advice but his intentions are good so he gets a pass #very fitting though…. like I actually should take his advice lmao #I love nahida’s so much #and thoma’s my heart is so full #and ei’s enthusiasm is so cute 🥹 #and tighnari’s is so sweet like lifetime guarantee come on #and as someone who has always loved the moon and stars and pretty prose #layla’s is ofc a fave!!! #anyways <3

[iwantyoursexmp3]

to be clear i don’t care if people want to have a simplified relationship with storytelling and i say simplified in a neutral way because i don’t think it’s any lesser i mean. im very intentionally planning a novel idea that whilst i imagine will have some emotional complexity (just by virtue of human characters behaving like humans) i want the plot to very simply be characters hanging out. it’s just interesting seeing posts framed as complex media discussion that don’t try to delve further or critically, or writing advice posts that are written with an educational tone but are reducing complex ideas to very mechanical and often unhelpful do A or B approaches. anyway this is what happens when i let my sleep schedule become nocturnal i should be unconscious right now instead of yapping on here

#who remembers writeblr discussions about sad or happy endings as if the answer isn’t just. what works tonally for ur story. #and there aren’t two types of ending either but whatever #mechanical is my fave word for this flavour of writing advice I have a whole #thesis abt writing advice that tries to mechanise writing #anyway my novel idea in question from this post is literally me trying to write something less complex #like nuanced by the way of how my character writing is but not as. intricate as lover boy for example LOL #slice of life i guess but that’s a fanfic trope to me and I don’t use those to describe my writing

[anthonycrowley]

anyway everyone should see their favorite musicians as much as they want forever and ever

#life is short spend your disposable income on your faves. this is not sound financial advice but i’m right #text #my post #mobi

[svtrie]

me when i realize most of my co-workers are actual adults working to pay bills while i'm here to fund my hyperixations

#rev rambles #i said goodbye to them :“ #they were all so sweet #and some of em gave me something to take there #and even fave good advice!! #iits not bad to have good adults in your life honestly #ill miss them so much :“

[transurgender]

i hope u guys know that whenever i say "YOU" i either mean it like that one tweet of a cat who knocked over their owners plant OR that one panel from pnat where izzy vists maxs familys convenience store and he spots her. no inbetwen

in that same note if i say "ME" I am directly quoting izzy from that same panel. goodNIGHT

#benjitalk #that one pnat panel is one of my faves btw #the YOU. ME. #the fact izzy was telling maxs sister to just steal cash registers (WHAT would even start that convo btw????) #the fact izzy was buying a new toothbrush bc eightfold told her to before she got conked tf out. gogwh. #comedy. life advice AND angst all in like 2 frames #i need to reread pnat man someones gotta yell at me to do it or smthn. #or mayhaps if i had a friend to read it with oh ohoho #thats never going to happen though ive been begging my friends for YEARS to read pnat #and not once has anyone done so 💔 benjiphobia at its worstest

[moved-please-leave-me-alone]

my own life advice:

YOU CAN BACK DOWN FROM STEAM GIFTS AND THEY WILL GET A REFUND. DO NOT GET COCKY AND/OR UPSET AT A BAD SHITPOST.

also fuck steve jobs. and apple in general but esp him

MAKE COOL CREATURES. like what ive done

use ms paint every now n then

dont pay for professional software

RHANK YOU ALSO

#jimmy.txt #we got a letter! #mutual mail! #LIFE ADVICE #SAVE #FAVE

[archivoasks]

questions I think would be fun to be asked

what are 3 things you’d say shaped you into who you are?

show us a picture of your handwriting?

3 films you could watch for the rest of your life and not get bored of?

what’s an inside joke you have with your family or friends?

what made you start your blog?

what’s the best and worst part of being online/a creator?

what scares you the most and why?

any reacquiring dreams?

tell a story about your childhood

would you say you’re an emotional person?

what do you consider to be romance?

what’s some good advice you want to share?

what are you doing right now?

what’s something you’ve always wanted to do but maybe been to scared to do?

what do you think of when you hear the word “home”?

if you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

name 3 things that make you happy

do you believe in ghosts and/or aliens?

favourite thing about the day?

favourite things about the night?

are you a spiritual person?

say 3 things about someone you love

say 3 things about someone you hate

what’s one thing you’re proud of yourself for?

fave season and why?

fave colour and why?

any nicknames?

do you collect anything?

what do you do when you’re sad?

what’s one thing that never fails to make you happy/happier?

are you messy or organised?

how many tabs do you have open right now?

any hobbies?

any pet peeves?

do you trust easily?

are you an open book or do you have walls up?

share a secret

fave song at the moment?

youtuber you’ve been obsessed with and why?

any bad habits?

(this post was stolen from @teenage-mutant-ninja-freak, since it couldn't be reblogged anymore)

#ask game #ask list #send a number #asks #tumbr

[polyphonial-old]

i havent read chainsaw man yet but i enjoyed your analysis :)

aww ty <3 i'm glad to hear it!

#ask #anon #also some advice: if u haven't read it. don't. <3333 #life gets better don't get into csm etc #<- /j /lh #if u do read it i hope all your faves live 💗

[vixenvoider]

intention setting practice

step 1 spend one week practicing simple intentions

intention setting is easier than you think. i think living in the end can sound confusing, if it works for you thats fine but a word i prefer is expecting things to happen, so this is what i want you to do.

decide what time you are going to get sleepy each day by expecting it to happen. intend that you will get tired at 8pm tonight by just expecting that you will get tired at 8pm tonight

decide what time you will wake up each day by expecting it to happen

decide that you will remember your dreams each day by just expecting that you will

REMEMBER: make sure to change the times each night and morning. if you expect to wake up at 7am everyday your body will just get used to it and it's not your actual intentions working each day

step 2 spend another week practicing slightly harder intentions

decide what temperature each day will be. you don't need to go too crazy, do it simply. if it's raining, expect that the rain will stop when you're outside and will only resume once you're inside or covered and can't get wet. or expect that even if it's hot that whatever room you're in will be cooler and comfortable.

decide you will get a text from someone or a text from a friend telling you something specific by expecting it to happen

decide that people will be in a good mood around you. this works best if you have someone in your life that is a moody person, like if you have a teacher who's class you worry about going to because they are so moody, just expect when you go into class they will be in a good mood today.

if your confidence has boosted after these two weeks, then start deciding on your own intentions and watch them come true. after you have proven this to you, then most void methods should work for you. intend that meditation works, intend that subliminals work, intend that you will lucid dream. if you think you need to practice more, then repeat this process until you are confident and every single intention is working for you.

come up with other intention ideas of your own as you wish too btw i just recommend starting off with easy ones and moving onto slightly harder ones just so you don't overwhelm yourself. other ideas for you could include, your fave chocolate bar going on sale when the sales change, finding money on the ground, if you live at home and someone cooks for you that they will cook your fave dinner one night, that customer service workers will be really friendly to you, that a friend buys you something small like a coke or friendship bracelet, homework or an assignment or exam being postponed.

and if the word expecting does not work for you, change it to what makes sense for you. you can choose believe, intend, or whatever else resonates.

if you try this please let me know how it works for you, this is all based on what advice i would have told myself :)

#void state

[frenchublog]

Pls help how do you draw eyess(or faces in general)💀💀 like what do you dooooo help my faces always look so weird and the same whenever I draww

Hi !

I'm learning with Proko classes but he has a Youtube channel with free cool lessons for beginners (perspective, shading, construction lines) he does have lessons for the head too I believe ! Of course, drawing your faves on the side, many times, helps.

It's very important to understand the basics first. I also do figure drawing too thanks to this website ➡️ https://line-of-action.com/

I also have the Michel Lauricella Morpho book that I have since I'm 21 (he also did one for the clothes, it's really nice)⬇️

When it comes to style unfortunately there's nothing more I can do, you make it, as you go 🎨🖌️I'm sure you have favourite movies, shows, books, artists, good strong influences that can help you craft it. The best way to get better at drawing is to have solid knowledge of your fundamentals. Understand how it works, why the bones are build that way and why they're called that way too ! (same thing for the muscles !) You can't draw something if that something doesn't have a name. Identify your weaknesses, keep pushing and working ! You'll see, it pays off ! ⬇️ (there's the Proko channel link down there)

Another very important advice would be to keep a sketchbook and fill it with doodles (no pencil !! only marker) we humans have this reflex of erasing our mistakes and then not learning ! Using a marker allows us to draw, fail, fail even more until we're on our knees crying, asking for mercy. But it's good, failure is good. Failure means you're learning, it's proof of your artistic journey. Like footprints. I understand fear can hold you back too but you can't do anything with nothing. You're not trying to reach for absolute perfection, that is not the purpose of this type of notebook, you can draw whatever you want!

(like this !! look at my THOND silly doodles ! no one can judge me this movie is a masterpiece)⬇️

I'll leave you with the 4 P's of life : Passion, Patience, Persistence, and Practice !

#ask box #anon ask #personal #to be deleted later #i'm sorry i'm not good at tutorials i'm an idiot #and i'm still learning #so it's best to recommend real masters !! #maurice lauricella was my figure drawing teacher's mentor #i'm sorry anon if that wasn't what you were expecting...i'm not very good at giving advices #i think you messaged me twice i was very busy i tried to be quick

[theveesbf]

STAR !!

helloooo!!! i think your requests are open?? idk LMAO

anyway i saw your angel + bsf!reader who go to a spa hcs and it had me thinking, could i get platonic!angel + reader with boy problems ?

fem or gn reader is fine!! tysm <3

— @signedmio/mio ❣️

P.S. you’re so sweet and supportive, you’re already one of my fave mooties, all the love!!! ^^

Platonic!Angel X Reader who has boy problems

⌗notes - HII!!!! I'm sorry I took so long to write this 😭😭 I hope you enjoy it!! And thank you so much <33 you're also one of my favorite moots!! 💗💗

⌗content - Headcanons of platonic!angel dust X Reader who has boy problems

You and Angel Dust were basically best friends. So of course you told him everything about your life. Including your love life. Or therefore, the lack of a love life. Angel Dust listened to you ramble about your problems with boys and how not even one of them were good enough. He would laugh with you, but still give you some advice. Angel Dust was kind of sorry for you because from what he heard of you, it seemed you had literally no luck on love. Especially on boys. With that, Angel Dust can help you out on trying to find someone for you, a decent person in Hell. You're so hopeless on finding love that it's almost funny. But hey, whenever you get frustrated because of a boy who you thought it would be the one and only disappointed you in the end, he's there with open arms to hear you ramble about your problems.

#hazbin hotel x reader #angel dust headcanons #angel dust x reader #angel dust hazbin hotel #hazbin angel dust #angel dust #hazbin hotel #hazbin x reader #hazbin #platonic #gender neutral reader #♡ star's writing

[saintsenara]

How are you able to enjoy toxic/unhealthy/“problematic” ships/characters without feeling weird (for lack of a better word) about it?

I ask this because I want to be able to do this myself as it seems like a much more enjoyable way of engaging with fiction to me. I can get over some ships just being toxic and the characters not being good together and still enjoy their dynamic but I have trouble with the other ships that feel morally wrong. I know it’s just fiction but I can’t seem to get over the ick feeling I have when I think about those ships/characters. I feel like I’m being too puritanical about these things but I don’t know how to stop feeling like something is gross when I feel it’s gross…

Do you have any tips to stop jumping to moralizing ships/characters?

thank you very much for the ask, anon!

i'm going to be upfront that this reflexive gross feeling isn't something i've ever really struggled with - both in fic and more broadly. this is due to various personal idiosyncrasies, above all the fact that i've got disengaged boomer parents who didn't police our media consumption [my favourite book when i was eleven? lolita...] and that i'm a doctor, which is a profession which requires you to develop a very high threshold for what you find disgusting. the human body - at all stages of its life-cycle and its cycle of decomposition - produces a lot of different fluids... and it's also the case that [just as if you can think of it, there's porn for it] if an inanimate object exists, somebody somewhere has got it stuck inside them...

and so the situation that i find myself in is that i consider it infinitely less weird that i enjoy the odd bit of hot tomarrymort action than that i actively enjoy cutting through bone with a saw...

but, obviously, "get a medical degree" isn't particularly helpful advice...

i am a ride-or-die fan of the concept of stepping outside of your comfort zone. this is why i'm such an avowed multishipper - i think it's good for us as fandom citizens to examine the potential of our faves in relationships [romantic or otherwise] which are either not their canon endgames or which aren't our preferred pairings, and in situations which don't align with their canon experiences [whether that means making them suffer or giving them full-on fluff]. it draws out the multiple aspects of a character to consider them from these different angles - and it prevents us from getting so stuck in one interpretation of a character or configuration of a ship which means that it puts our backs up to stumble across stories which approach things differently.

but stepping outside of your comfort zone doesn't mean that you have to go enormously far. it may be that a reader decides - having only ever read teen-rated fics where characters' sex lives don't extend beyond hand-holding and forehead kisses - to take the plunge into an explicit piece filled to the brim with watersports and age play. it may be that a reader decides - having only ever read teen-rated fics for one canon pairing - to read a teen-rated fic for a non-canon alternative. both of these are entirely valid approaches.

by which i mean, our comfort levels and our thresholds for discomfort are subjective, they're personal. if there are ships or themes or characters you don't want to read about because they don't feel good... you're not doing something wrong if you avoid them. exposing yourself to fics you expect to make you uncomfortable can be useful - and fiction is certainly a way to explore discomfort which gives you much more control over the experience than encountering it in real life - but it's not something you're obliged to do to be active in fandom.

the thing you are obliged to do to be active in fandom is to be nice to other people, no matter what their tastes in fiction. this means, at its fundamental level, that when you see people who ship pairings or like themes which make you think "ew"... you keep it to yourself/the group chat rather than putting it on the timeline.

but, once this is something you've got the hang of [which takes a bit of time! but practice makes perfect!], something i feel can be a really useful way of overcoming a tendency towards knee-jerk moralising reactions is to just vibe in the vicinity of people you know like the content you instinctively feel is gross.

this doesn't mean you have to read any of this content - but you'll learn just by hanging out near them that the people who do are just... normal. one minute they might reblog a rec for a pairing you think "absolutely not" about, the next they might reblog a cat picture which makes you squeal with delight. you'll like some of their content, but not all. you'll agree with some of it, but not all. you might like progressively more of it as you spend time in their orbit - maybe they'll explain why they like the pairing or character in question and you'll think "huh, i've never looked at it like that" - or you might not. this is absolutely fine.

all of us - at one time or other - have made a black-and-white moralising pronouncement: people who think x are gross; people who like y are fucked-up, you'd never catch me doing z. and these pronouncements are different from our wider, societally-influenced moral codes - which are good things, otherwise we'd live in the purge - in that they're fundamentally ways for us to feel good about ourselves and our families and our friends by defining ourselves as better than a faceless other. we say "you'd never catch me reading that, it's foul" when we know [or think we know] that the friend we're talking to would agree with the statement. we are far less likely to say it if we know that the friend - whom we see as a human being who is beautiful in their imperfection and inherently worthy of love simply by virtue of being alive - was reading and enjoying that just the other day.

and so the best way to train yourself out of reflexively moralising ships or characters or tropes is to put a face to the faceless other who likes them. be intentional in sharing a space with fans of the stuff you feel uncomfortable with and, eventually, it just becomes background noise. you'll scroll on tumblr, say "well there we are, jane's written some more of her sirius/harry piss kink fic - although i'm not interested in clicking on it" and go on with your day.

because the other thing i think it's really useful to do is to train yourself into reframing your disgust as disinterest. there are plenty of things which i don't seek out to read - and some of these topics are completely benign and some are darker [i don't enjoy reading explicit non-con, for example] - but this is because i try to frame it as that i don't think these things would interest me.

this is still the maintenance of a personal comfort zone, but thinking of the content outside this zone as something you are disinterested in turns it into something neutral. when you think of it as something to be disgusted or grossed out by, it naturally provokes a visceral response which makes you look through a moral lens. thinking in terms of disinterest, instead, gives you sufficient detachment from this visceral response to recognise, interrogate, contextualise, and control it.

and - in time - this neutral reframing may result in you feeling more interested in taking the plunge into the ships and characters and stories you currently don't vibe with, once you don't have an instinctive disgust response as a barrier.

or it may not. and this is absolutely fine.

#asks answered #on fandom

[inevitably-johnlocked]

With so many of the greatest writers leaving the writing in our fandom, I was wondering if you could recommend some newer or even older fic authors that are of the same level? I don't want to stop reading Johnlock, it's basically all I read anymore! I know I'm spoiled with having read fics by @chryse @breath4soul @arwamachine @7-percent @therealsaintscully @ohlooktheresabee @runnfromtheak @meetinginsamarra and @jbaillier

I understand that not everyone wants to dedicate their lives to writing fanfic, or have outgrown the fandom, or real life has become overwhelming. By no way am I demanding more fic from these amazing writers. I'd really just like to know of any other wonderful writers that are just as good. I need to feed my addiction hahaha! Thank you for your advice and suggestions, I love you!

Hey Nonny!

Ah, I get what you mean :) Our authors are people too, who have lives that keep them busy, AND they still provide us with amazing fics for free!! <3

That said, because I ALWAYS feel like I'm going to miss some great authors, I'm gonna once again default to: you can always be guaranteed "newer" fics in the fandom by checking out my weekly #FiveFicsFriday posts!! It's a weekly collection of new fics suggested to me, often brand new stories in the fandom! Here are over 1000 fics for you to check out on these lists:

YEAR ONE MASTERPOST (Sept 29/19 to Sept 25/20)

YEAR TWO MASTERPOST (Sept 25/20 to Sept 24/21)

YEAR THREE MASTERPOST (Oct 1/21 to Sept 23/22)

YEAR FOUR MASTERPOST (Sept 30/22 to Sept 22/23)

But honestly, I think every author is amazing here!!! Without them we wouldn't have the amazing content we have! Always support our authors and artists <3

If anyone wants Nonny to check them or their faves out, please don't hesitate to add themselves to the notes!!

(and if you don't think you "deserve" to be listed among these authors, STOP BEING SILLY!! We love you!! <3)

#steph replies #author appreciation #fanfiction #johnlock fic recs #fandom love #i love all of our authors #i'm slow af to read these days #but please give all of them a chance and some love!!! #because even stephen king had a first story first draft <3