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lovesick02 · 9 months

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Please don´t fall in love with somebody else

#lovesick #yancore #lovecore #obsessive love #yandere girl #yanderecore #possessive love #irl yandere #darlingcore #yandere #fear of abandonment #fear of rejection #fear of being alone

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av0id-reality · 1 year

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#avoidreality #mine #depression #depressed #depressive thoughts #suicidal #suicidal thoughts #mentally ill #mentally sick #broken #rejection #fear of rejection #txt

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elegyofdionysus · 7 months

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It's so weird. I can only be myself around people who don't know me.

#writers on tumblr #shygirl #double life #masking #hiding #Pretending #If i bared myself to you would you love me #fear of rejection #fear of abandonment #dismissive avoidant #avoidant attachment #low self worth

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whumpshaped · 1 year

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Whumpee who has an incredibly difficult time asking for help. In fact, they just don't. Ever. They want to be taken care of, but asking for it feels selfish and dumb. So their strategy is just to get worse and worse and worse and hope that someone eventually just grabs them and forces them to rest. Forces care upon them. Snaps at them to eat the damn soup that they made specifically for them.

But there are too many others to take care of. There's no one to tend to them day in day out, to sit beside their bed and continuously reassure them that they deserve the help. Caretaker just snaps at them to either rest or leave, they're useless in this state. And when Whumpee protests and says they don't need help, desperately hoping that Caretaker would argue, Caretaker just shrugs and leaves to tend to others.

"Do you want to get better or not? Either show me that you want the help, or I'll just go and help others who do."

Does Whumpee just shrink back and accept that they don't deserve the help, or do they finally get over themself and ask for it? Do they get over their pride/fear of rejection, and commit to the humiliating ordeal of showing vulnerability without it being forced? Or do they just wither away in silence, with everyone pissed at them for being so difficult?

#whump #whump promp #fear of rejection #bad caretaker #not rly but idk how else to tag it #i actually have no idea how to tag #emotional whump #??

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dumblr · 1 year

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If you're single, it's probably because you're so attractive people don't ask you out in fear of getting rejected.

#quotes #feelings #wise thoughts #wise words #thoughtful #sad but true #emotions #you are beautiful #you are hot #fear of rejection #love #attractive #for real #dumblr

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neurodivergentbraingoblins · 7 months

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"Why do you fear being abandoned so much? You always think people are going to leave you"

Hmm, well I'm sure it has absolutely nothing to do with my lifelong history of people abandoning me and leaving me. No clue where I would have learned to fear people who tell me they love me and then dissappear from my life suddenly.

#bpd thoughts #actually bpd #fear of abandonment #fear of rejection #these are learned fears #i fear being abandoned BECAUSE i was repeatedly abandoned

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xashtray · 2 years

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I'm scared to have friends, to have romantic partners, to just have someone beside me. I'm scared that they will only leave and abandon me, only leave bruises, scars, and pain. I'm scared that I'll get too close, get too attached to them, being dependent on them, and come off as clingy or weird or whatever. I'm scared that if I open up they will use my flaws against me. I'm scared that they will hate me for being myself, hate me for anything i do and hate me for no reasons. I'm scared to find myself being alone and lonely if they're not here with me, because I'm supposed to be okay with my loneliness. I'm scared, too scared to let someone in. too scared just to even type out a text, give a call, or even start a convo, to reach out for someone. to ask someone to be my friend, to be here for me, to be here with me, to listen to me, to have fun with me, anything they could do with and for me. because I have assumed they will leave as soon as they walk into my life.

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siecobaina · 3 months

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saw via li's vid about never being in a romantic relationship at age 20 and goddd i could so relate i can't even see myself navigating the steps of getting a boyfriend, it seems completely out of my realm entirely

i feel like in the past year i've developed this kind of bitter worldview of like: there are datable people and there are undatable people, and these categories are completely separate from any categories of 'pretty' and 'ugly' and 'popular' and 'unpopular' and even 'kind-hearted' vs. 'mean.' and i know this because i have been all over the spectrum. in middle school and early high school i was really ugly and was kind of mean and unpopular but as i grew up and learned more, i also got better at taking care of myself and became more pretty and popular.

but still, even after all of that, i have never been able to be in a relationship. even after being confessed to by a guy, it's like there's this threshold into a relationship that i can never walk through. it almost feels like playing a game, and i am admittedly ass at playing it. it doesn't help that i have all of these self esteem issues that makes me doubt that anyone loves me at all.

now that i'm in college, it feels even more isolating. i am popular among my classmates but i don't have any friends. it's like i can't even convert people from my acquaintances to someone who actually wants to spend time with me outside of school. and, of course, since i can't even make a single friend, i can't get into a relationship either.

i've been really isolating myself lately, during my free time, i instantly go hide in my dorm. i take really long showers and i eat at restaurants off campus or eat snacks in my dorm to avoid going to the cafeteria and being seen sitting alone.

i feel like it'll be impossible to start making connections with people again until i am ready to be seen having no friends. until i'm ready to admit to another person that i am lonely and i need some company. but i have too much pride and i'm too embarrassed to be seen like that to do it.

#mental health #mental heath support #actually mentally ill #depression and anxiety #depression thoughts #depression awareness #anxiety recovery #therapy #never been loved #never been kissed #i wish i had friends #i wish i had a boyfriend #isolation #self isolation #attachment issues #fear of rejection

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unwelcome-ozian · 9 months

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#fear of rejection #trauma effects

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dddraconisss · 3 months

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people usually perceive me as a tough and strong person, who is rarely scared and can do anything. And while I can be all of that, it is not 100% of me. It is the only part my trauma lets me show to the world. Doing a lot of trauma work i realised and started accepting that I am actually very tender and soft. I realised I’m not only one or another. I’m multidimensional. It may seem like a silly realisation but for a long time, basically almost my whole life I thought I have to be only one way. Only strong and fearless. Because otherwise I’d get hurt again, since I was never taught how to protect my tenderness, only how to fight back and hide. This is a sad reality for many people. Childhood trauma didn’t give us a choice of who we want to be, it only gave us a shallow version of who we have to be in order to survive. It takes a lot a lot of time and courage to not only get to know yourself, but not be scared of showing other parts of your personality. But it is a needed skill if we want to have genuine connection with people who we want to be loved by. Actually loved. And it is not only about other people, but your own love towards yourself as well. You don’t want somebody who only loves the strong and tough you. You need someone who will love you and take care of you as gently as you need it. Especially after experiencing childhood trauma. And the first person to love you the most should be you.

#self love #trauma work #childhood trauma #psychology #fear of rejection #love #self esteem #self care #raw about mental health #positive mental attitude #mentalheathawareness #masking

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lovesick02 · 2 years

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av0id-reality · 1 year

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#avoidreality #not mine #rejection #fear of rejection #michael tavon

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loveyourlovelysoul · 2 years

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Insecure attachment can show up in many ways. We very likely learnt that others don't care about our emotional needs, or cannot fulfill them (emotionally unstable/unavaiable caregivers, or physically/emotionally absent ones, is often where it all started, making us feel wrong and unsafe, insecure). So yes, trying to heal this is gonna be a long walk through unmet needs from our past.

When you don't feel secure, you cannot express your emotions without fear, cause you need approval from others. Try writing first, write down how you feel and what you'd need to have those feeling (and needs) met. Don't run away from your emotions. Know them by feeling them and taking some time to write things down. Feeling unsafe may have you need for constant reassurance: be clear about what could help you when it comes to texts, calls and everything around those. Remind yourself that the other person has needs as well and find a compromise that can satisfy both parties, so to avoid you to stress and overthink by guessing things that aren't even real. Try to heal yourself by getting more in touch with yourself (needs and fears) when you're alone. You can never be really alone (nor entirely lonely), when you're with you as a friend would.

If you fear being abandoned you may end up pushing others away, to avoid being hurt if they do that to you. Try to be more vulnerable: explain yourself first and then to the other party, why you feel overwhelmed or scared, for example by arguments, and how they can trigger you into ignoring the other person (usually relates to childhood traumas). You may also feel jealous, or left alone, fearing of being not enough and therefore abandoned. Check in with the reasons behind this: don't let thoughts take over, sometimes we get triggered by our past. You need to find objective reasons, and even more, what are the needs that are not being met in your relationship. Talk those out.

If you try to be overly independent or fear being rejected for having needs, you may have many unmet needs from your past. Especially when you were a child, when you probably had to care about yourself on your own (even for just your emotions) or were in charge for keeping others happy and started avoiding your own needs. Be open about your wishes, desires, and about how having support could be of help to you and for the relationship. Don't be scared to ask for help: keep doing everything alone may have you end up into passive-aggressive mood, cause others often don't understand we need help if we don't ask. They may even think you like doing what you do, even if it's chores and it's something you hate or don't feel like doing. Tell them that. Healthy relationships are based on mutual collaboration and help. You don't have to do everything alone, not anymore.

But most of all, be open to the fact that things can change, and that you can find people that support you and help you, and appreciate you the way you are and won't leave you, cause you're worth of everything. Love and affection in particular.

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nyxmainex · 4 months

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I have three new crazy cool bg3 artists I love BUT GODS AM I SOCIALLY AWKWARD

Anyway

For the few people that see this post, if you haven't already, please go look at MAF (Velnna), Necromosss, and Bara-izu

Say hi to them because lord forbid I gain the courage to say hi myself instead of doing anon

AND PLEASE I WANT TO DRAW THEM MEETING MY OCS BUT I FEAR I'M GONNA MESS UP AHHH

Thank you for coming to my (obsessive) ted talk<3

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spiritualseeker777 · 2 years

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#wisdom #spiritual awareness #spiritual awakening #be yourself #rejection #fear of rejection #self expression #live for yourself #do what you love #do what you want #do what makes you happy

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probablyhuntersmom · 2 years

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Chronological compilation of very important little moments, of Flapjack showing affection to Hunter to get him to gradually trust others:

The second time, Hunter was even too rough with him holding him too tightly but this cardinal/Palisman alerted him, and trusted in this 16-year-old's kindness: that he'd quickly apologise and not repeat that mistake.

Hunter pushes him away in the beginning but he keeps going back to him patiently knowing he will open up more and more. It's those small instances of Flapjack implying "Hey, I wanna hang out and connect with you"/"You're totally worth my time trying to connect with you".

(the above one? My personal fave. Hunter is terrified he just failed again, is falling apart laughing bitterly in a way that isn't portrayed as funny to the audience, and is literally digging his own grave. But Flapjack here is an unforceful quiet presence and small bit of physical contact. I really think that even if Amity and King were absent in this scene, Flapjack still connecting with him would've given him enough courage to get up and find his way - and not be completely paralysed by his abuser's warning of "Do not come back empty-handed")

Flapjack was the first to trust (Luz did the same when taking the risk to hand him his artificial staff in "Hunting Palismen"). I believed it already started Hunter on his healing arc, or at least, shielded him from the eventual trauma response i.e. emotional breakdown at the end of "Hollow Mind" that, while very serious, arguably could've been much worse:

:') After sitting in lectures about attachment theory, this hits harder :')

#toh meta #the owl house #toh #toh hunter #hunter wittebane #golden guard #affection #comfort #emotional support animal #trauma #abuse #fear of failure #fear of rejection #fear of abandonment #trust #toh analysis #loz writes a meta

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