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mischiefmanifold · 6 months

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a lot of people like to, when someone describes themself as "broken", vehemently insist that "you're not broken!!"

so shout out to those of us who ARE broken

those who survived horrific things they never should have had to endure

those whose bodies are permanently fucked up, whether from abuse or physical disability

those who have such severe mental illnesses that people don't treat us as human

it is not a bad thing to be broken

#mental illness #mentally ill #actually traumatized #physical disability #stigmatized disorders #feeling broken

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furiousgoldfish · 1 year

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Abusive childhoods can make us feel like we’re fundamentally unlovable, but also, like there’s maybe a chance that we will become lovable, but only if we do x and y and fix x and z in ourselves. We’re not allowed even to ask for any attention or acceptance until we do these exact steps, because if we do, we’ll just get reprimanded for not doing those steps.

And it can be really idiotic things, like, you have to look a certain way, you have to respond a certain way, you aren’t allowed to have any trauma or any symptoms or emotional wounds, you’re not supposed to be emotional or get upset, ever, or be justly angry when the situation calls for it, and you have to do everything perfectly on your first time, never get tired of being devalued, ignored, neglected and excluded, never think of yourself first, be exceptional at sensing everyone’s needs and fixing them, never have any needs of your own, never have opinions that clashes with someone else’s, each and every one of these does not describe a human being. None of this is a pre-requirement for being loved. If you can’t be any of this, that means you’re normal, you’re human, you’re incredibly lovable.

It goes beyond childhood as well; once you attempt to enter adulthood, you’ll easily get informed that you’ll be looked down upon (that translates to ‘unlovable’ to us) if you are not independent, extremely skilled, having a job, always fun to be around, in a relationship, into the same things everyone else is into, social, looking a certain way - you’ll get told that without these qualities, you’re low value, to be ignored and cast aside. It can make you feel like you’re not even allowed to be proud of yourself, you’re not allowed to even like yourself, for who you are! If feels again, like you’re fundamentally a failure and that everyone else must be right not to like you or want to be around you, because you’re ‘no good’ and ‘only a burden’.

But this also isn’t true. None of these qualities are a pre-requirement for being loved either. And I know this, because I know people who have none of these qualities, and they are loved. All of these things are based on a construct, and we do not love others based on how well they can fit to a construct, or based on how well they can obey us.

We love others because it’s in our nature as a social species. We like spending time around humans who are warm, who have kindness in their hearts, who pose no threat to us; who are capable of making us think, or making us laugh sometimes. We bond based on experiences together, situations we worked thru together, helping each other. We like sharing our happiness and grief alike, we like knowing there’s someone we can rely on when we’re lost, confused, or alone in our troubles. We also like seeing others being free to be who they are, we like spontaneous joy and passionate ideas, we like to be engaged and be filled with hope, or even just enjoy moments that would pass unnoticed if someone else didn’t point them out. We like knowing someone else’s opinions and perspectives, we like feeling like we’re alike. We like hearing stories. We like witnessing things together.

And none of this demands for any of the participants to have a certain skill, job, appearance, behaviour. Not for any of this do you need to be subservient, convenient, or perfect. You’ve been lied to. You’ve been good as you are, capable of bonding and being loved the whole time. There was nothing that needed to be fixed.

People are loved when they’re struggling. People are being loved when they’re sick, addicted, impoverished, demanding, imposing. People are even loved when they’re manipulative and abusive. So you are not unlovable. Convenience is not the key of love. You do not have to maximize how convenient you are to everyone in order to be loved. You are lacking in nothing.

#abusive parents #child abuse #toxic parents #convenience equated to love #feeling unlovable #feeling broken #consequences of child abuse

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tatis9 · 5 months

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#childhood #childhood trauma #mother issues #family issues #anxiety #general anxiety #people pleaser #codependency #anxious attachment #feeling broken #breaking the cycle #self improvement

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starlightmeadowbloom · 2 years

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I Felt Like I’m Completely Worthless…

I thought I was alright but every time I made a mistake or that I did something that I should’ve done, I felt like what they say about me is nothing but true…

#sad #sadness #heartbroken #heart breaking #alone #worthless #despression #feeling hated by others #struggle #struggling #feeling worthless #broken #feeling broken

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ruthoakenshield · 2 years

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Tired of living in this world. Wish I could just walk out my door and disappear into an AU Middle Earth and never return here.

#life in the real world sucks #i wish i could disappear #i’m broke af #need an adventure #lonely #feeling cursed #feeling broken #feeling unwanted #feeling unloved #single woes #chivalry is dead here

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originalitysquared · 2 months

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Sitting around today like

Maybe I AM a mean person.

Maybe I AM deeply annoying.

Maybe this is all for a reason.

#feeling broken

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unlovablereject · 4 months

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I tried to talk, to explain.

You say

"Okay."

...

I'm so fucking crushed and heart broken.

#heart break #depression #bpd #marriage #feeling broken #all i do is cry #im so tored of crying #life sucks

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ptsd-phoenix · 8 months

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ms paint vent art

#actuallytraumatized #actuallyabused #traumacore #phoenix posts art #asexual #arcsexual #feeling broken #phoenix trauma vent

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mirajanefairytailmage · 10 months

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Feeling Broken (06/25/2023)

Today, my senior dog is a little more responsive. She can only stand a few minutes before stumbling to the ground. Her head is tilting to the right. I FINALLY got her to eat a little of something since Wednesday night. When she is up, she goes for the water bowl. Once she lays down. She's down for hours at a time. Her heart beat slows down. Her breathing becomes deep, with 30 seconds in between each breathe. At this point, I'm either hoping for a miracle that she pulls through whatever this is, or that she will pass peacefully in her sleep. 😭 I wish I could do more for her, but being broke, my options and abilities are limited. 💔 All I can do is keep her comfortable and make sure she knows just how much she is loved.

#personal #feeling #feeling broken

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uncanny-tranny · 9 months

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Amatonormativity has destroyed so many people's understanding and acceptance of themselves, and it's heartbreaking.

Yes, it is normal to be in your 20s, 30s, or older and not have lost your virginity, had a first kiss, or a partner. It is normal to say that you aren't ready for those things, too! It is normal if your life doesn't follow the "college graduate -> engagement -> buying a home -> 2.5 kids and a dog" trajectory that so many people have idealized.

So many people associate maturity with losing your virginity, or having a first kiss, or a serious relationship, and I think that's a dangerous association. Maturity isn't gained through those things, and you don't have to have those experiences to be considered "mature" or "grown." It is not a bad thing to go at your pace. Nobody else can live your life but you. If you end up having those experiences, that's great! But it should be done because you want to experience them, not because you feel "broken" and "immature" without them.

#amatonormativity #ask to tag (genuine)#i honestly *wish* conversations like this were things i was exposed to when i was younger...#...maybe then i'd've felt less of a need to surpress my aromanticism and asexuality...#...the feeling of brokenness still trails behind me sometimes because so many of us are taught that this all WILL happen...#...we WILL fall in love. we WILL have a nuclear family. we WILL be satisfied with this...#...and that this is the IDEAL for cishet patriarchal structures...#...and that /any/ deviation to the SLIGHTEST degree is that fault of the *individual*. who WOULDN'T want this life?#there's this idea like i said that maturity is gained as you almost... adhere to expectations...#...and that's genuinely dangerous to associate maturity with that and i hope you can fill in those gaps because it can get dark fast

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mixmangosmangoverse · 4 months

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If you ever needed to know the extent of how the I/P conflict is fandomized, there is a popular post going around with a Sailor moon sticker saying Free Palestine and all the comments are talking about how it's their aesthetic and they totally need to buy it

Because this doesn't matter to them, it's just the cool hip and trendy thing

#and here i thought i could just return to talking about magical girls when WanPre comes out #seems not #seems no matter what goyim can freely talk about fandoms and make my life a fandom #while i need to defend my existence and feel if I talk about anything else I'll be invalidated #fuck goyim. my trust has been broken. I'm never returning to fandom again #mango rambles #personal fruits #jumblr #ישראבלר #ישראל

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mrmrsman · 3 months

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The bats have so many folks around, even if they aren't always working together. Enough that folks like to joke/write about Danny just kinda showing up acting like he already lives there. He just kinda blends in.

I'd love to see more magic motivated versions of this. Some kind of spell that affects the bat's perceptions of the past and present, making them actually miss that this boy wasn't with their family too long ago. Maybe it changes their understanding like it's a time line shift, maybe it fogs their mind just a tad and makes them glaze past something like it wasn't even there. I like the second if only because I feel like that would make it more likely for the bats to realize a spell was a foot.

Imagining this from Danny's side, hes terrified this whole time of getting found out. He knows how and when he showed up here and maybe even how flimsy whatever magic is in place is. Imagining a Desiree wish that was either very carefully worded or Not so carefully worded. Maybe he placed himself with the Wayne family with the expectation that he would quietly mooch of some rich idiot until he was ready to be on his own. Or maybe he wished himself to be a part of the batclan, taking up a mask and patroling with them as a bird that Doesn't Exist.

Ofc eventually the spell has to be broken, leaving the bats confused worried scared angry probably even amused, and a billion other things. WHY did this teenager decide to adopt himself into the Wayne/bat family? Who the hell is he and where did he come from. Someone call Zatanna, there is some magic Fuckery going on.

#dpxdc #dp x dc #dp x dc crossover #dcxdp #dc x dp crossover #dc x dp #desiree is far too underutilized in this crossover #imagine if the bats tried to play it off like the spell hadnt broken #they wanna get information thry cant get that if the gig is up #depending on how well they feel like they actually know him they might think hes a flight risk #maybe hes been with them for weeks maybe this is day 5 #anyway i know there been stories and prompts somewhere in the area of this pls pls pls share in the replies if u can

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nocek · 9 months

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