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bestyouuniveristy · 3 years

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How are some ways of keeping yourself motivated and getting daily work done/keeping yourself focused?

I have major depression but I'm highfuctioning but still struggle with motivation and focus.

Hey @artoutofmymind!

Focus is a very difficult topic for me to cover, as I struggle with focus on a daily basis. What has helped me in the past however, is really feel yourself in the moment. Let’s say you have a desk job at some company and you have to fill out paper work. It would be easy to get lost in your thoughts and easily discourage yourself in your own workplace. However, you really have to live in the moment. Really feel what you’re doing and do what you’re doing, better. Instead of getting sucked into any thoughts not pertaining to what you are doing in the moment, ask yourself why youre doing what you’re doing. Not why you’re working. No. Why are you writing that there, why are you copying that piece of paper, why are you organizing your pencils. If you are in the gym, dont let the negative overshadow the good. Ask yourself why you do each exercise and what are the benefits. If you don’t know the answer, then research it. If you don’t want to lose your stamina by looking stuff up at the gym, make a mental note. Think of all the reasons you think you would need that exercise. Or that gallon of water. Or that mile run. Keep your mind busy.

Sticky notes are your best friend! Write down your favorite quotes. Look up some motivational poems. (I’ll write some down for you below). Watch some motivational speeches and write down how you feel about them. Write down some self care reminders like ‘Drink Water’. I guess In a way, your mind is kind of like a stubborn little kid. It’ll keep trying to run around causing mayhem, but you have to keep reminding it to behave over and over again until eventually it does behave on its own. Sometimes you have to distract it with something it’s not used to. Like positivity. So these sticky notes you put up everywhere, read them. And I don’t mean glance at them a few times and then forget they are there. Actually read them every single time, and find the meaning of each one. You know why you wrote them in the first place, but how does each one help you? Write new sticky notes every day. Keep up that positive environment so that the negativity can disappear. The more you feed into the negativity and the depression, the worse it gets.

See, when you’re depressed, your mind has its own agenda. Your heart wants you to be okay and knows that what you’re feeling is unreasonable. Your mind, however, wants you to tear yourself down and hate the world and yourself. We don’t want that. I cannot stress this enough. DRINK WATER. Water lubricates the gears in your mind for smooth sailing thoughts. Which means, it could go either way. You could drink the water and get worse, faster. (Negative thoughts). Or, you can drink water and get better, faster. ( positive thoughts). Fuel your mind with the right type of gasoline. Not just the cheapest or the easiest. Your body is a temple. What you put in it, helps shape your mind and your thoughts. Alcohol is a no. Although a glass of wine a day doesn’t hurt. Healthy eating is a must. I’m not saying go eat a salad for every meal. I’m just saying don’t eat McDonald every day for lunch. Go to subway or a healthy joint near you. Eat fruits and vegetables. Make sure you have enough protein in your diet. If you don’t eat meat, drink a protein shake with your meal.

It’s all about what you want in the long run. It’s not easy to get better and still focus on living and doing living people shit like go to work. It sucks. But what’s a positive to that negative? You’re alive and you have a job and a life that you can live however the fuck you want to so why not be happy. Why not do everything in your power to be that person who just lives. The person who’s not worried what people think, the person who love their life, the person who is excited about new things and new beginnings and positivity. You got this. Like I’ve said before, the climb is hard and steep and tiring, but the view from the top is pretty fucking great.

-Your newest friend,

@feelingsarehar3 ❤️‍🔥

Here are some motivational quotes:

Imagine what’s possible once you stop doubting yourself.

My goal is to progress, not try to impress.

There are hidden blessing in every struggle. (Find them)

Inhale your future, exhale your past.

Growth is growth no matter how small.

Never let your fear decide your life.

A negative mind will never give you a positive life.

You are loved no matter how you feel.

You have been assigned this mountain to show others it can be moved.

#fitspo #encouragement #motivation #motivational quotes #positive mental attitude #inspiration #positive thoughts #self care #self care reminder #positivity #teen wolf #relationship #relationship advice

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bestyouuniveristy · 3 years

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Any advice on feeling “empty” like nothing in life is fulfilling?

Hey @mycollectionheart! (I’m so sorry I’m just now getting to this)

Boy do I feel this one…

There’s not much I can give you on this one but I will say this… no matter what you do in life or how successful you are or how in love with life you are, you will have moments where you feel like what you’re doing with your life is pointless, or like nothing could satisfy you. In my experience, that’s a sign of chronic depression. However, it’s not all bad. Maybe change it up. Maybe it’s time to find a new hobby, or a new book, or a new hangout spot, maybe some new friends. Do something you wouldn’t normally do. If you like to stay indoors and play video games all day, take the day off and go for a hike or a walk on the beach or lake or the park. Everyone’s different. But don’t beat yourself up for not feeling fulfilled. Go out and find something that does.

Your newest friend,

@feelingsarehar3 ❤️

#encouragement #motivational quotes #motivation #fitspo #positive mental attitude #positive thoughts #positivity #mental health #positive quotes #inspiration

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bestyouuniveristy · 3 years

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I'm borderline and very depressed, wanted to clean my room today but my thoughts get me so closed off I can't even move

Hey @elegantzipper!

Trust me, I know the feeling. It’s really hard to get your mind to catch up to your heart when it’s telling you everything you don’t want to hear. But, You are recognizing that your thoughts are what’s holding you back. So listen. When it comes to cleaning your room, take your time. Your mind does not have to be right for you to push yourself up. One of the things that has helped me the most is the counting method. Literally just count to ten. As soon as you reach ten, no hesitation, just get up. It sounds impossible now, I know. But in the long run, you’ll thank yourself. Don’t think of anything else while your counting. Just breathe and be present in the moment. Close your eyes and feel yourself breath. And as soon as you reach ten, get up. Go drink a glass of water or splash your face with some. Tell yourself and remind yourself that it is only temporary. You can crawl back into bed right afterwards. Turn on some music. Vibe to Russ or drake or Taylor swift. Idk try something new. Listen to faouzia or Ed sheeran, or Rihanna. Don’t listen to the same music you listen to during your funk.

When it comes to actually cleaning your room, space it out. You don’t have to get it all done in one sitting. Clean the trash today, organize the closet tomorrow, do laundry the next day, organize a drawer the next. It doesn’t matter what order you do it in or how long it takes you to finish cleaning it. Just make sure that you finish whatever it is that you started that day. It’s a real motivational booster to look back and say “well I didn’t think I would be able to do that, but I did. I am proud of myself.” And if you feel a little better and want to continue that day, go for it. So long as you finish the things you started that day, you’re in for a real motivation boost.

I really hope you feel better soon. Never give up. It’s difficult to stay on top of things and live a life that your brain keeps telling you that you don’t want. But, you have to try. Like I’ve said before, the climb kind of sucks, but the view from the top is pretty fucking great.

Your newest friend,

@feelingsarehar3 ❤️‍🔥

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bestyouuniveristy · 3 years

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Heyy this might be stupid but i always like feel like my feelings are invalid ig, hehe

Hey @fallingfavourites!

Do not ever, ever, ever, ever begin your sentence with “this might be stupid”. You are automatically self- invalidating your own thought and feelings. And furthermore, inviting others to do the same. People won’t take what you’re saying seriously if you don’t. You are entitled to every little or big feeling you have. You’re the one feeling them. You are the only one allowed to have an opinion of them. If you feel like you are invalidating your own feelings, take a step back. Compare the situation, to how you reacted. Every reaction has an explanation. Dig deep into your mind and figure out why you reacted the way you did and why you felt the ways you felt. Realize that every feeling is valid. Good or bad. How you react and cope with these feelings is what shapes you into the person you are.

If others are making you feel like your feelings are invalid, breathe. Whether it be a relationship, a family member, a friend, just breathe. Be aware that the people who invalidate your feelings and make you feel like you’re crazy or don’t matter, shouldn’t be in your life. It’s difficult to pick out the people who make you feel this way because often times it’s the people closest to you. Others will gaslight you and tell you you’re psycho because they don’t want to be blamed for the way they made you feel. Not only is that extremely toxic, but it’s harmful to you and your mental health.

You’re not crazy. You’re not psycho. You’re feelings are not invalid. You are entitled to your feelings. If people can’t accept that, they shouldn’t be around you. Never invalidate your own feelings by talking down on them. We were given feelings for a reason. Don’t let people or yourself make you feel like they don’t matter. And if you’re still struggling, shoot me another message. We’ll talk more in depth and I’ll show you why you’re feelings are valid in whatever situation.

-your newest friend,

@feelingsarehar3

Change the way you feel, change the way you think.

#encouragement #inspiration #motivation #motivational quotes #fitspo #positive mental attitude #positive thoughts #self care #positivity #self care reminder #teen wolf #love yourself #mental health

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bestyouuniveristy · 3 years

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i am doing v v badly right now. i'm not sure on the right words. but it is bad.

I would like to apologize in advance for my language and for sounding like an asshole. It’s honestly just the way I type. Everything I say is with all the love and sunshine in the world.

Hey @calictii!

While I don’t know what exactly you are going through, I did take a little peek at your most recent post. First off, what you said was not dumb as fuck. Never invalidate your own feelings that way. It is harmful to the soul. Second, I have to say, I get it. I totally 100% get it. It’s hard to deal with these things on a daily basis when you’re young and still trying figure out who you are in the process of your mind tearing you down. I was there a couple of years ago myself. The only way I got through it was by throwing myself headfirst into the military where all feelings were invalid. Not saying that was the right way, but it’s what I did to hide from it. It’s okay to feel the way you do. Maybe lost, confused, hopeless. I’m not sure if you ever got professional help and are ready to start your life, or if you are still struggling and can admit that you need to start your life soon. Either way, you can’t look at it as if you were behind everyone else. It’s not a competition. You’re not behind in the race. You have time to map things out. Don’t have money? A lot of local stores and fast food chains start hiring after summer break. Want to go to college? There are plenty of financial aid options available to you. Wanna crawl into a hole and die? No. Just no.

I noticed the hashtag that said you didn’t like yourself. I remember feeling that way when I was depressed. I hated myself and cried myself to sleep just about every night. Nobody in my house cared how I felt though. So I never got any professional help. But I can tell you this. You might feel like you are alone, and in the dark, but you’re not. You have the entire world at your disposal and if you feel like you don’t, I’m here to help you understand everyday why you’re not.

A lot of this getting better shit is just reclaiming your life. You have to have that mindset that says, “world, I am a badass. Hit me with everything you got.” And with that comes the responsibility you have to yourself to be unapologetically, you. The world is not out to get you, people are not staring at you in that store, nobody is watching you sit in your car. Nothing you do is being judged to the point where you have to hide away and shelter your true self. Because no one cares! It took me so long to realize that but no one gives a fuck what you do or when, how and why you do it.

“You can get through anything in the moment , but it’s the fear of what might happen that undoes us.”

-The Fosters

All of these thoughts that go on in your head during your episodes aren’t real. Well, I mean, they’re real to you. But not to anyone else. No one knows that you hate yourself or that you feel uncomfortable in your own body. Nobody knows that you feel badly about your situation. Nobody knows because it’s none of their business. Nobody knows because they don’t care. One of the first steps is regaining your confidence. You have to adapt the mindset that nobody knows all of these deep sad thoughts I’m thinking about myself so I can truly be myself. Nobody know that I’m crying on the inside because I think I look stupid, so ima go get some ice cream. Nobody knows that I want to kill myself every time I open my eyes and the bright burning fireball called the sun is penetrating my eyeballs, so ima go take a walk around the park. It’s the little things, that aren’t so little, that make the difference. You have to combat every negative thought with a positive one in turn. If you have nothing positive to say about yourself or the situation, take a walk, drink some water, take a warm shower. Depression and anxiety damage your perspective of the world and how you react to it. That short fuse? In your head. That tiredness that’s killing you? In your head. That body ache? In your head. It’s difficult to shake the thoughts and the mindset that you have adapted throughout your entire life in response to the depression. But you have to start somewhere.

With that being said. There are steps you should consider taking when it comes to getting better, if you are willing. Increase you water intake. This is very important! Hydration not only helps improve your energy levels, it also helps to clear and hydrate your skin. Start off by drinking a cup of water a day and increase your intake by a cup or two every week until you reach a gallon a day. As much as I hate to admit this, exercise is extremely important for your mental health. Even if you only do a simple workout for 15 minutes a day, you are aiding in the healing of you mind. Sometimes it sucks to get out of bed as it is but sometimes you have to push past the things that make you uncomfortable in order to get better. Which brings me to sleep schedule. Do not underestimate the value of sleep when it comes to healing. There is a reason that doctors tell you to get lots of rest when you’re sick. And I know your sleep schedule is probably fucked but everything I said before this actually sets you up for an improved sleep schedule. Set a wake up time on your phone or alarm. Make sure it’s a time that you feel comfortable waking up at every day. And then set a good night alarm for a decent hour. Make sure there is no more and no less than 8 hours in between wake up and goodnight. And last but not least, a positive attitude goes a long way. You cannot and will not get better of you don’t put in the effort. If you start getting negative thoughts and your first reaction is “fuck, I’m going to kill myself” you’re not helping yourself. Instead, take a step back from whatever you’re doing and realize who the fuck you are. Take a step back and take a deep breath. Take a step back and count to ten. Take a step back and try again. Find the positive in whatever negative thing that crosses your mind. “Idk what the fuck to do with my life! Ugh I’m so tired of this!”…… “I am alive. I was given this life for a reason. Let me go and figure that out.” You know what I mean? And I know it’s hard, trust me. Been there done that. And that’s exactly my point. Someday, you’ll be saying “been there, some that” to the next person who is having your same issues. And it will feel so fucking good to be able to say “I helped someone today, because of what I went through. I am not a burden. Never was.” And you won’t have to regret a single moment of what you did to get better.

(Do all of the above for two weeks straight and notice the difference in your mind.)

You are not worthless. You are not a burden. You are not disposable. You are not ugly. You are not stupid. You are not a waste of space. You are you. And you have missed out on a lot of things that you can bring to the table because of this disease that is telling you it’s not worth it. I take that back. You didn’t miss out. You and everything you have to offer is still there. You just have to be willing to put in the necessary work in order to get you back. It’s completely possible. You are in control of your own life. You don’t need the medication and the therapy if you trust yourself enough. But also DO NOT HESITATE TO GET THE NECESSARY PROFESSIONAL HELP NEEDED.

I guess what I’m trying to say is. I’m sorry that you are going through this. But, hopefully, one day you’ll be okay. It’s not too late to do everything that you feel you needed to do ten years ago. It’s not all gonna come at once but it will come. Be patient with yourself. Respect yourself. Know that it won’t be easy. But I can guarantee you that the view from the top is pretty fucking good.

-Your newest friend @feelingsarehar3 ❤️‍🔥

Also, I’m sorry if I overstepped in any way. It was not my intention. I’m just an ask away.

#encouragement #motivation #fitspo #motivational quotes #inspiration #positive mental attitude #positive thoughts #self care #self care reminder #positivity

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