"According to recent analysis from News1, sales of cosmetics, hair products and other beauty-related apparel by Korean women in their 20s has dramatically declined between 2015/2016 and 2017/2018.
Plastic surgery — another common playground for young South Koreans — has declined by 64.4 billion won."
Cosmetic sales have gone down by 53.5 billion Korean won in that period.
Escape the corset
Love how he leads.
Love how he takes charge.
Love how he makes decisions.
Love him for who he is.
3 Femininity Myths That Need to be Debunked
1. ✨You have to be a pushover to be seen as feminine!✨
Don’t be a pushover to be seen as a feminine woman. Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need or want to be seen as docile to be portrayed as feminine. You might as well draw a neon orange target on your back. Letting others take advantage of you in the name of ✨Femininity✨ with a capital F is only harming yourself. This is a difference between life and death.
Don’t stand there and let yourself be beat on, ever.
2. ✨You should have a bubbly personality to become feminine!✨
Not at all. Just because you want a feminine demeanor doesn’t mean you have to be fun loving and cutesy 24/7. You will annoy yourself if you aren’t that way naturally. I am fun loving and bubbly, but also cutthroat and cold.
Constantly maintaining a bubbly personality in every situation opens the door to you being unhappy and cut down from other people.
3. ✨You should pretend to be an airhead so people will come to your rescue.✨
Acting inept in social situations and life will cause people to drop you in a heartbeat.
It’s natural for people to want to assist others if they look like they’re in distress. However, you do not want to become known as a woman who hangs around nice areas wanting to be saved. Femininity, hypergamy and the level up lifestyle are very popularized. Others know.
Don’t think for a second you’ll integrate into an affluent lifestyle by nodding your head along with someone you want to network with when you haven’t a clue what’s going on.
Develop life, book and street skills instead of leaning on others to walk you through everything when you’re overly capable!
I actually wrote this last year after I realized that a lot on my friendships were one sided. In the past I chose to share with my “friends” that I felt as though I did all the work in our friendship and they listened and would work on it for a little while, but ultimately they would fall into their old habits. I decided after one of my long time friends that I had been there for was reciprocating but always expected me to have a listening ear did make time for me I decided to quietly see myself out. Now, I do believe in communicating your feelings with family and friends, but after that has been done and no changes have been made leave! If your leaving goes unnoticed maybe its time to find new friends!
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What is feminine energy though? Submission and being emotional? Being motherly? Almost every feminine trait we know today is assigned by patriarchy. Womens role was to serve as helpers to men
A few quotes from Captivating by John & Stasi Eldredge that I think perfectly summarize feminine energy according to the scriptures.✨
1. “A woman in her glory, a woman of beauty, is a woman who is not striving to become beautiful or worthy or enough. She knows in her quiet center where God dwells that he find her beautiful, has deemed her worthy, and in him, she is enough.”
2. “That longing in the heart of a woman to share life together as a great adventure-that comes straight from the heart of God, who also longs for this. He does not want to be an option in our lives. He does not want to be an appendage, a tagalong. Neither does any woman. God is essential. He wants us to need him-desperately. Eve is essential. She has an irreplaceable role to play. And so you'll see that women are endowed with fierce devotion, an ability to suffer great hardships, a vision to make the world a better place”
3. “A woman is a warrior too. But she is meant to be a warrior in a uniquely feminine way. Sometime before the sorrows of life did their best to kill it in us, most young women wanted to be a part of something grand, something important.”
4. “We desire to possess a beauty that is worth pursuing, worth fighting for, a beauty that is core to who we truly are. We want beauty that can be seen; beauty that can be felt; beauty that affects others; a beauty all our own to unveil.”
5. “We think you'll find that every woman in her heart of hearts longs for three things: to be romanced, to play an irreplaceable role in a great adventure, and to unveil beauty. That's what makes a woman come alive.”
BONUS: Every single word of Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés! Not a Christian text but still beautiful & life changing.
Don’t shy away from the spotlight, if it’s on you it’s for a reason. OWN IT
2022 will be...
- pilates and/or yoga 5 days a week
- taking care of my body, mind, and soul
- less screen time
- more podcasts and books, less social media
- home cooked meals and trying new recipes
- fresh flowers around the house
- peaceful days
- creating a staple wardrobe
- quality time with loved ones
- loose leaf tea before bed
- biweekly manicures
- at home facials, face masks, and gua sha massages
- growing in my faith
- working towards my dream life
Talk like your higher self. Walk like your higher self. Remember she is you and you are her. She has been calling you, will you answer the call.
𝟓 𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐁𝐥𝐨𝐜𝐤𝐞𝐝 𝐅𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐄𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲
𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐬 𝐅𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐄𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲?
Feminine energy is the “being” energy, in contrast to the masculine “doing energy”.When you are in this “being” energy, you are in receptive mode and allow your partner, experiences, and life itself, to fill you up. This is again opposite to masculine energy, which is a forward-moving, penetrative force that “gets things done”.When you are in your feminine energy, you are not busy doing, but instead enjoying that which is before you.
This idea of “not doing and just being” may feel like an alien and almost annoying concept at first, especially to those of us who have trained ourselves to be in our masculine 24/7. However, it helps to remember that reconnecting with our femininity is the key to restoring that balance that is missing today from so many women’s lives.
Traits that are most often associated with the feminine are things like connection, empathy, nurturing, and emoting. She is pure energy and flows and changes like the water of a river. She has a diffused awareness, thinking many things at once and she finds details and intricacies that escapes the masculine. She is born to receive. She is most identified with her feelings and craves love deeply to feel fulfilled.
𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐝𝐨 𝐈 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐢𝐟 𝐈 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐛𝐥𝐨𝐜𝐤𝐞𝐝?
If you are out of balance with both energies, you could experience blocked feminine energy. The feminine energy is lost instead of balancing both energies. It is still possible to have a strong feminine presence within a society that tends to favor masculine energies. Don’t lose yourself in the process.
𝟓 𝐖𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐓𝐨 𝐑𝐞-𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐅𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐄𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲
Dancing is a powerful practice to help you get out of your head and into your body. Find some privacy where you can dance as wildly or sensually as you like. Put on your favorite song or playlist and start off by closing your eyes, taking a few deep breaths and feeling what it feels like to be in your body. Ask yourself if this music could take form, how would it move? Then allow your body to express the music as if you are translating into a form of language.
The feminine in all of us craves to feel and see the beauty around us and in us. Adorning your space with anything that brings a smile to your face helps nurture this craving. This can be in the form of pictures, decor, or luxurious fabrics or colors. To bring beauty to our wardrobe will also help us express the feminine within. Maybe that means wearing flowy skirts with delicate sandals or rocking a sexy pair of heels with a sleek skinny leg pant.
The divine feminine in all of us is associated with creative energy and life force energy. Similar to the energy of flowing emotions or timelessness, the feminine craves creativity. Our wombs are designed to create life after all. Some ways I express my creativity are through crafting, painting, dancing, clothing, and crocheting. I know a lot of people that express their art in other forms though such as cooking, entertaining guests, writing, comedy or gardening. Expand your mind and see where in your life are you creating something out of nothing. It’s a common misconception that traditional “art” is the only form of creativity!
4.Planning a “Free-Day”
A day of “no planning” is one of my favorite things to do to step into my feminine. Allowing ourselves to just flow and be in the moment can be one of the most relaxing feelings for the feminine. One day out of the week I schedule a self-care “free day”. This is where I make zero plans and just allow myself to do whatever I feel like from moment to moment. My free-days normally include, taking myself out for dinner at nice restaurants or grab a coffee, simply enjoying my surroundings.
Our bodies hold a lot of power and wisdom as women. We can connect to our feelings and intuition more easily than a masculine associated person, but we need to trust our bodies and heart in order to hear these messages. One way to connect to our bodies more and get out of logical thinking is to practice incorporating more sensuality into our lives.
This means intentionally using the senses to experience life with pleasure. One way I practice sensuality is by soaking in a warm bath with essential oils. Setting the visual with candles or petals, feeling the warm water against my skin, smelling the aroma of lavender or eucalyptus, hearing the water splash against the tub, tasting a treat like dark chocolate or red wine. Any activity can become sensual if you intentionally experience it with all 5 senses.
Have any other tips you’d like to share? start a discussion in the comments!
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Men and women work together. A strong man needs a strong woman who cheers for him and celebrates his success with him.
How do you care for yourself without feeling guilty about it? I've recently started buying self care products, clothing items that I actually like.. etc, but I feel like it's selfish of me to spend money on ...well me..
Take Care of Yourself First!
I used to buy gifts to give my family when I’d go to a store instead of browsing for myself. It came to a point where I had to be told to stop coming back with nothing for myself and either return what I bought or chalk it up to a lesson learned. This can be a very expensive lesson!
The most important thing I can tell you is to WORK ON your self confidence this second! Begin exercising and making beauty appointments for yourself. Your confidence will increase from being energized and you will love looking at yourself.
Start looking at items and clothes you want. I started off buying cute skincare items and shirts I was interested in.
The feeling of guilt can come from putting others before yourself and having negative, self conscious thoughts. Monitor where the source of guilt comes from. Are you repeating what others say about you that causes you to feel guilty? Is the self talk really originating from you? Peer pressure can also be a major reason for feeling guilty.
Write down the moment you feel guilty and be honest of what triggered it. Being honest with yourself brings on massive amounts of self-awareness and growth!
Don’t buy what others think you need or look good in. Don’t ask anyone what they think you should buy, wear or say. That’s the same thing as someone using your money.
Make a wishlist. After I bought skincare I liked, I discovered I wanted to wear makeup too.
Take yourself out to eat. No more “Is there anything you want when I’m out?” and you ordering dessert and extra drinks. You are stopping a habit of adding other’s expenses to your own.
Find out something you want to learn to do on yourself. You can learn how to do lymphatic massages with gua sha, apply eyeshadow, give yourself salon level pedicures and form an exercise routine tailored to your body type & activity level.
As you take care of yourself constantly, you will naturally know what you want to do without wondering what others will think of you for doing so!
Here’s what I keep wondering: Does J.Lo remember anything from that night? Could she focus on the speeches, the performances, the friends sitting around her? Honestly, how could she think about anything besides whether her breasts still had just the right amount of coverage? What happened when she sat down? Did she have to suck her stomach in? Can you even sit down in that dress? How much of a distraction must wearing that dress have been?
As fashions exposed more of the body, they required more body monitoring. Once the legs were exposed, they needed to be smooth and hair-free. As clothing became tighter through the torso (not just the waist), the whole torso needed to become slim. What seemed like greater freedom in terms of clothing actually in some ways translated into more restrictions. Sure, you can bare your arms and legs. You can wear jeans. But now you have to worry about how your arms and legs look. And now those jeans you love reveal the exact shape of your butt. Your freedom to wear a bikini means you have to worry about the size of your thighs. Chronic body monitoring is a ridiculous price to pay for fashion, but as women, we pay it all the time in dozens of different ways. I don’t want young women to feel shame about their bodies. I don’t want them to be called sluts when they wear what fashion moguls have decided to be the in style of the season. They should be able to wear whatever they are comfortable wearing. But how comfortable are they? We should have the freedom to dress how we see fit, but we should also have the freedom to be present in the moment. If we are to monitor ourselves, I want us to be able to monitor our thoughts and feelings, our desires and goals, not our appearance.
- Beauty Sick by Renee Engeln
i refuse to lower my standards. i know what i deserve and accepting less than that is just disrespecting myself.
What 2022 Is Going to Look Like for Me:
1. Cultivating healthy habits that better my heart, mind, body, and soul. Joyful movement 5 days a week. This can include anything from an intense workout, to taking a walk around the neighborhood or a nearby park.
2. Developing better sleeping patterns and habits. This means in bed by 10pm and up at 7am daily. Winding down with a book and a cup of tea rather than being on my phone.
3. Being very particular about all things that I consume. Mainly, I'm referring to media. I'm going to focus on educating myself, using technology more for mental stimulation. This includes listening to podcasts, reading more books, and engaging less with secular music. Don't underestimate the power that music, tv, tabloids, endless scrolling on social media, etc. has on your mental state and the way you think and act.
4. Trying new things! I'm so ready to find new hobbies that I'll love, new foods to grace my pallet, etc. I am quite the introvert, so in 2022 I want to learn to put myself out there and getting out of my comfort zone.