#femme identity

[blushedfemme]

being a femme lesbian is just: fuck i need to get my nails done i need to love and care for other lesbians i need to have nasty dyke sex i need to hug a kind butch for five minutes straight i need a good cry i need a haircut i need to buy more batteries i need to be invisible to cishet men i need to sleep

#femme4butch #femme lesbian #femme identity #femme nsft #blushing

[burn-butch-burn]

You can be butch and not be some stoic badass. You can be femme and bE that stoic badass. You can be butch and wear earrings. You can be femme and not wear any jewelry.

Just in case someone told you otherwise.

#queer discourse #queer #lesbian #butch #femme #wlw #sapphic #sapphic love #sapphic identity #butch identity #femme identity #butch lesbian #femme lesbian #soft butch #butch4butch #butch dyke #butch4femme #stone butch #femme4butch #femme4femme #100!! #200!! #300!! #400!!

[star-princess-princess]

this is for femmes who love being super girly, being super soft, dressing delicately, angels, collect porcelain figurines, vintage lace, cute boxes, ribbons and bows, frills and ruffles, romance novels, period dramas, being kind and sweet, feeling like a princess, heart shaped anything, pink pearls, stuffed bunnies, canopy beds, silk sheets, pretty lamps with pretty lamp shades, vanity mirrors, fairy lights, mini skirts, tea parties, smelling like strawberries, cream, and roses, pretty quilts, pretty makeup, quilts, thrifting vintage, wearing heels, hello kitty, baby’s breath, bunnies, creating super sparkly adorable art, fashion, rose water, lilac, ballet, ice skating, baby pink, valentine’s day, unicorns, being a lover girl, feeling like a fairy, heart shapes purses, Sanrio accessories, lace curtains, victorian design, art history, peonies, angel themes, pretty post cards, taking yourself on a lil date, getting yourself a lil treat, vintage picture frames, sewing and embellishing, wedding decor, renaissance art, pink and white baskets, art museums, love letters, poetry, fantasy books with magic and fairies, holding hands, matching nail polish with your butch/stud/masc, couples skin care, diy fashion and jewelry, floral scented perfume, mini candelabras, pink candles, wearing skirts, vintage heart soap, tea, fluffy sweaters, gardening, tiaras, glass figurines, little trinkets, classical music, bows on everything, wearing ditsy floral or pointelle knit, making flower crowns, swans, flower crowns, candles, vintage art of flowers, ornate framed mirrors, playing dress up, rose scented body wash, and vintage strawberry shortcake,

#sapphic lesbian #pillow princess #sapphic love #sapphic longing #femme #femme lesbian #hyper feminine #femme pride #femme identity #high femme #femme4stud #femme dyke #black femininity #black femme #queer femme #femme butch #stone femme #femme positivity #femme appreciation #hyperfeminine femme #coquette aesthetic #coquette #poc coquette #black coquette #baby pink #pink aesthetic #softcore #soft black girls #softness

[sarfrills]

SHE THOUGHT SHE COULD ESCAPE IT BUT I GOT YOU BUDDY!!!!

#aya oosawa #the guy she was interested in wasn't a guy at all #tgswiiwagaa #femme identity #femme lesbian #femme #lesbian

[fairy-switchblade]

Hello! I’m collecting some info for a personal research project (nothing official) and I’d like to know what age you were when you first started identifying as ‘butch’ or ‘femme’, specifically.

if you could pass this around to friends and community members that’d be great! Thanks x

#Butch #butchfemme #butch lesbian #femme #femme identity #high femme #femme community #femme lesbian #butch/femme #femme4butch #butch4butch #butch4femme #Butch community #femme4femme

[theplushiepoke]

💙 Plushgirl and Plushboy! 🩷

🧸These are flags for people who identify as femme or masc in a way that's connected to their identity as a plush/plushkin!

🏳️‍⚧️The blue and pink represent masculinity/femininity that's sometimes exaggerated or cartoonish depending on your plushie style!

🌈The green and purple represent more neutral and complex forms of gender expression!

#plushkin #gender flag #otherkin #masc identity #femme identity #flag coining #rq 🌈🍓 #pro rq 🌈🍓 #transid

[like-this-post-if-you]

Like this post if you're a femme

#femme lesbian #femme identity #femme queer #femme enby #femme enbien #femme things #femme positivity #femme dyke #femme #lesbian #sapphic #queer #likes

[belovedzine]

Submissions for our third issue are officially open!

We put together this thorough overview for anyone interested in submitting to the upcoming autumn issue of our ButchFemme zine! You can learn more and apply at our website!

Please don't hesitate to let us know if you have any questions! 💌🫀🕯️

#beloved zine #belovedzine #beloved butchfemme zine #butchfemme zine #butchfemme #butch/femme #zine submissions #zine submissions open #lesbian zine #dyke zine #butch zine #femme zine #butchfemme art #butchfemme aesthetic #butchfemme love #butch lesbian #femme butch #femme identity #femme lesbian #high femme #femme #butch4butch #butch4femme #femme4butch #studfemme #femmebutch

[milkandhoneyfemme]

Femmes of tumblr, what does femme identity mean to YOU?

I’m a baby femme so I’m still new to this and would love to hear some more personal thoughts on femme identity <3

To me:

Femme is taking femininity in a cishet society and viewing it through an undeniably queer lens. When I express myself, I do so with intentions completely unrelated to society’s expectation of fem-aligned people. I am soft, and gentle, flowing and warm. And it is not with the intention of the “American dream” that I am easy on the eyes for cishet men, like something to look at through a bakery shop window for one man to eventually choose me for the taking.

It is with connection to my sapphic identity, ESPECIALLY in relation to my community (butches and other femmes alike). And yes, butchfemme romantic relationships are beautiful and holy, but also, it’s about family to me. That is where I am safe. This is the same culture that our lesbian predecessors lived in. Femmes and butches protect one another in a manner that you just don’t see every day.

In my relationship with my masc girlfriend, we compliment each other so well. I bake her cookies and send pictures whenever I buy a new dress. I deliver letters covered in lipstick prints and my perfume. She cracks open geodes to find pretty crystals for me. She has plans to build me a gazebo with her own two hands just because I said I always wanted one. She’s ready to throw hands at the drop of a hat to protect me. She makes me feel safer and more understood than anyone ever could.

It has also given me unprecedented levels of confidence in confirming my femme identity as a major middle finger to patriarchy. I saw a tiktok by another femme (@toothfairyfemme) describing how they want their femininity to be so extreme it makes men squirm, that it is sickly sweet and nauseating and “too much”, and oh my god YES. My femininity is PERFORMANCE. I want society to see me and feel threatened by how MUCH I am. I will not tone it down, or try to fit into a little box of what is expected of me. I am unapologetically lesbian and femme and I WILL NOT SHUT UP!!!

#femme #femme identity #butchfemme #femmebutch #femme4butch #butch4femme #sapphic #wlw #nblw #wlnb #lesbian #bisexual #Sappho #sapphics #romance

[peppermintmochafem]

I am #1 lover of butches but also big defender and supporter and lover of mascs! There is no reason we need to be making fun of hey mamas lesbians or tiktok mascs and masc who are afraid of "being too masculine" it's hard to be any masculine lesbian and everyone is on their journey with their gender and expression and its hard to feel comfortable in your masculinity when that is not Allowed for you. I think unless a masc is disrespectful of our community, appropriating culture or identities (especially white mascs) that don't belong to them, there is no reason we can't be in community and hold grace and space for each other

#femme identity #not nsft #have lots of thoughts about this

[blushedfemme]

could you give some words of encouragement for a femme who isn’t really feeling femme? I know that all femmes are different but I feel I don’t look it, and it’s making me question whether I’m femme at all

(Sorry about the excessive amount of words, hope you’re well)

-a fellow femme

firstly, giving you a big femme hug 🫂💞💕💓

this ask feels so serendipitous because i’ve been having some big thoughts about this lately, about what it means to “feel” femme and how that relates to “presenting” femme. i find that i feel the most femme when i’m doing things like making space for a friend to vent, making art for someone, bringing baked goods to an elderly neighbor, appreciating the beauty in something unusual, giving someone a reassuring touch or a hug, talking deeply with people and hearing their stories and sharing mine, all of these make me feel like myself and feel femme. how i look when i’m doing these things is of no consequence, really.

my hot take is that the connection between butch and masculinity does not translate to the connection between femme and femininity. i do love being feminine, but it’s complex because my femininity does not exist in a vacuum, and there are a lot of aspects of femininity that feel alienating to me, that i disagree with, or that i personally can’t access. and i’d like to point out too that femininity as a social construct has its roots in whiteness and white supremacy, as it mostly came about in white western european racist ideology regarding the superiority of white people being tied to the “difference between the sexes,” creating this beauty standard and category of ‘feminine’ that is only accessible to white women (and as beauty standards have evolved) now only thin white women. as a thin white person usually perceived and treated as a cishet woman, my femininity is recognized and reinforced by society and i’m rewarded for it, in a way that i do not want. my femininity is inextricable from privilege, yet it is also inextricable from my erasure.

this is why i strive to be an accomplice to dismantling that link between femininity and whiteness, between femininity and thinness, between femininity and cishet-ness. i learn from and am inspired by femininities of color, Black femininity, fat femininity, trans femininity, all forms of subversive femininity, inventive and alternative femininity. to me this is also part of being femme. my innate femininity is very personal to me, which makes me less inclined to present feminine in public, because people don’t see it the way i want it to be seen. when i present hyperfemme, i get treated differently, i get talked down to, and i get a LOT of weird attention from random cishet men. i really only enjoy being feminine around my butch, femme, queer and trans friends. the rest of the time i prefer to present more visibly queer and androgynous, or i prefer to avoid being perceived at all. and all of this and i haven’t even touched on the energy and maintenance required to present hyperfemme!!! it’s exhausting! it’s fucking expensive!! it’s simply not accessible to me all the time, and to many folks it may not be accessible, period. and this doesn’t make us any less femme. 🥰

i highly highly recommend any writing by leah lakshmi piepzna-samarasinha about femme-ness because that’s where a lot of my understanding of femme comes from and it helps a lot to disconnect from “looking femme” as a meaningful basis of femme identity. sorry this turned into more of an essay than words of encouragement!! 😅 but i hope it was encouraging all the same. i have so much love for all femmes everywhere especially those of us who struggle with feeling valid in our femme identity. we’re doing the thing, loves. we’re so fucking femme 🧡💖💓💝

#clarke answers #ask a femme #femme identity #femme lesbian #sfw post #unsexy post #long post

[wecametobealonetogether]

I was just talking about this phenomenon, but it is so weird how other queer people will hear that you are femme or butch and take it upon themselves to tell you how those labels are not useful to them so no one should use them. They’ll remind me that “not everyone is either butch or femme” and it’s like. I know. But I am. Just because an experience isn’t universal doesn’t mean it isn’t real.

#butch/femme #femme lesbian #femme identity

[star-princess-princess]

I love being a femme so much, I love being able to finally make femininity mine. I love loving and protecting my stud and other butches, mascs, and studs. I love leaving lipstick kisses on all of my studs things. I love making sure I’m a safe space in our community and being able to ease the struggles of butches, mascs, and studs. I finally get to be as gentle and dainty as I want. My existence is only meant for my community and myself and that’s beautiful. The idea that who I am and my identity is all about love and that I choose to surround myself and show as much love as possible. Knowing that I’m safe among community and knowing that I will always try my best to make everyone feel safe around me. Experiencing queer femininity, knowing that I am safe with my stud and that he’s safe with me. Having a history so intertwined with each other that it makes me feel like my stud and I are made for each other. I love my closeness with butches, mascs, and studs. I love meeting other femmes and sharing our love of butches, mascs, and studs. I love that my identity is a source of comfort for my studs identity. I love feeling like a matching pair. I love that my femininity can really only be properly perceived by people in my community. I love being a femme more than anything, I love what it means and how it makes me feel. I love being femme as in femme for stud or femme for butch. I love being femme as in protector of butches. I love being femme as in lipstick marks on masc cheeks, lesbian poetry and love notes, femme as in you’ll always be safe with me.

(Inspired by Toothfairyfemme on tiktok)

#high femme #femme4stud #femme4butch #pillow princess #femme princess #sapphic lesbian #femme #stone femme #sapphic love #femme4masc #black femme #sapphic longing #femme for masc #femme enby #femme thoughts #femme things #femme identity #femme pride #femme positivity #femme appreciation #femme sapphic #femme lesbian

[sarfrills]

i love you femmes where the only way to describe their gender is with their identity of femme <33 i appreciate you and i love you!!

#femme appreciation #femme #femme lesbian #femme identity #lesbian

[fairy-switchblade]

Spending 3+ hours getting ready is a femme constitutional right, and you also reserve the right to both enjoy that time and then complain about it later. I don’t make the rules, that’s just how it is.

#She speaks truth #femme #femme lesbian #femme4butch #femme style #femme identity #butch/femme #butchfemme

[mishimakitan]

A blog for femme people of various genders! I wrote an in-depth article about the Japanese "female language" (女性語), its history, and modern feminine Japanese vernacular! 

In this blog, I explore:  1. What 女性語 is. 2. Its summarized history including how Japan's colonialist past & post-WW2 history shaped it. 3. Why using 女性語 can make you sound like an old lady. 4. 女性語 in terms of transness. 5. How to get familiar w/current feminine Japanese vernacular.

You can read all about it here on my Ko-fi! It's public for everyone to read! 

https://ko-fi.com/post/Japanese-Female-Language-history-modern-femi-E1E4CPOHD

I wrote this as the first article in the series of blog exploring gendered Japanese vernacular, so if you like this blog, make sure to follow me here and on Ko-fi!

It took me over 4 hours to write this article and I'd appreciate it a lot if anyone (who is able) could donate to my gender-affirming care fund if you found this blog (or my other online activities) insightful, helpful, or entertaining! Thank you! (；ω；)

https://ko-fi.com/mishimakitan

#japanese #japanese culture #lgbtq #transgender #femme identity