So I went to my therapist the other day, and later in the appointment I mentioned that I like to write self-insert fiction to cope. I also said that I generally hide it and felt embarrassed mentioning it due to the way people treat the concept online.
She said that self-inserting yourself into art and writing is an incredibly healthy way to feel good about yourself, and that she was appalled when I told her about the way it’s mocked on the internet.
So never feel bad about self-inserting or enjoying reader insert fanfiction, 1/1 professionals agree that it’s good for you and that the jerks who say you’re doing something wrong are just uneducated and don’t understand. Never listen to the anons who try to make you feel bad <3
here’s a post sponsored by my momma, who is a clinical psychologist:
our brains don’t know these characters are fictional. i mean, they do. kind of. we know on the outside, but our temporal lobe just registers that we recognize their face and that we feel deeply for them. our brains release dopamine and adrenaline because of it. there’s no different kind of dopamine or adrenaline for fictional people vs. real ones. scientifically it’s the same. of course you feel deeply for them. of course you do. there’s no reason why you wouldn’t. you know intimate details about them that have brought you closer emotionally in the same way you’ve learned intimate details about your friends. you empathize with them the same way you would with a person you can touch. people want to give self shippers a hard time for blending fiction with reality or whatever, but that’s kinda how humans’ brains work. it’s not “i love this real person” AND “i love this fictional person”, it’s just “i love this person” and that’s it.
i cannot express how much i LOVE seeing people fawn over characters that you wouldnt expect; characters with super short screen time, characters that are considered unappealing, characters that are totally irredeemable, etc
like i am so happy that you viewed that fictional character, one that pretty much nobody else likes, and went ‘yeah, my heart belongs to them now.’
I just saw a comment on a TikTok that said something along the lines of "there's a reason you're attracted to your fictional others, they'd likely be attracted to you too" and when I tell you I feel VALIDATED in this chili's tonight
Have you ever had a very strong crush on a fictional character for a long time, but your feelings for them seem to start to fade eventually and you almost forget about them for some time, but then you accidentally see them again and just
this is your permission slip to be as self indulgent with your self ship content as you want. draw yourself the way you choose. give yourself the hair color you wish you had, make your eyes sparkle, let yourself wear outfits you don’t feel confident wearing in real life. write about the way the sun shines so beautifully on your face, romanticize your thoughts and opinions and your freckles and scars, talk about how your F/O fell in love with you as soon as they saw you. you don’t have to ‘tone yourself down’. it’s not conceited. you can be the boss. you can be anything you want. you can think of yourself as magical, stunning, breathtaking, and you can describe that in your content. create yourself with as much love and passion and adoration as you do your F/O. you have the right to. it’s okay. i’m signing the permission slip for you to do that. take it and run.