#focus on yourself not others

[soulwishnet]

FOCUS ON YOURSELF NOT OTHERS - Best Motivational Speech 2022

FOCUS ON YOURSELF NOT OTHERS – Best Motivational Speech 2022 Speakers: Bob Proctor Joel Osteen Tim Grover Les …

#best motivational speech #Best Motivational Video #best speech #best speeches #focus #focus motivation #Focus on you every day #focus on yourself #focus on yourself motivation #Focus on yourself not others #inspirational video #morning motivation #motivation #motivational speech #motivational speeches #motivational video #motivational video 2022 #personal development #self discipline #self discipline affirmations #self discipline motivation #self discipline techniques

[goaterror]

A traumatized Astarion’s “Why should I help others when no one helped me?” vs a traumatized Tav’s “I’ll be the hero I needed”

and that means also for you

#will write more about this later #bg3 #astarion #tav #astarion x tav #bg3 headcanon #mine #my traumatized ass continues to have thoughts and feelings #and the urge to write and maybe it’s awful but maybe they’ll be okay in the end #and maaaybe (my) Tav can learn to focus on herself too #astarion: care about yourself v tav: care about others

[ctl-yuejie]

"It will just end how it started"

#only friends the series #only friends #ofts #neo trai #mark pakin #i am living for them #glad nick found out in ep 3 and we have now a bunch of episodes of them just making everything worse for each other #nick really worked so hard on keeping boston i want to hug him #his proud smile after jerking boston off ;A; #and he tries to voice when he is uncomfortable and at the same time already realizes that boston is very much not on the same page #and my boy is already escelating listening in on the car sex #possible intended the bug for other reasons but baby - do not put yourself through hearing the whole thing in stereo....you could already #see them from the outside #have to had it to boston: he really nearly doesn't care at all about getting seen #p'jojo getting in his tweet <3 #it is very telling that nick clearly knows who boston is but in his mind their encounters are just a tad more romantic with a focus on the #kissing they are doing and not so much the sex itself #fyi: i saved these gif files under the ship name 'tonnic'

[daz4i]

sometimes i fear i am filled with too much rage but then i go online and see. people so dedicated to their anger it is practically their entire existence. are you not tired? do you not feel consumed by it? it's okay to let go. your passion can still be expressed through other feelings as well. flames of emotion do not always have to burn you to ashes. please rest a bit and let them just pleasantly warm you

#i think. people focus too much on their anger at other people for being wrong #rather than love to the people being wronged #alternatively; it is in the place of self preservation. a defense mechanism from the unfairness of life #but you can't run on rage alone. you will burn yourself out #and actively adding fuel to the fire by looking for things that'll make you angrier... aren't you exhausted yet? #if it's a thirst for justice you seek you should still take breaks here and there just to exist #or else what will be the point of achieving it. yknow? #...idk if I'm being coherent i am very tired #and as you can see. failing to suppress the 19th century poet

[daily-hanamura]

#persona 4 #p4 #persona 4 dancing all night #p4d #hanamura yosuke #yosuke hanamura #lmao yosuke did you really just call someone out for their priorities and then focus in the wrong thing yourself #having said that i think it's really funny that tamami's last appearance/conversation was her commenting that yu wasnt swooning over her #so on the one hand it's her plainly evaluating herself against yu's friend group #on the other hand its her evaluating herself against the competition for yu's attention #in which case yes OF COURSE yosuke would have to be included in it #honestly yosuke you were probably just standing too close to yu again :| probably got yourself draped all over yu's shoulders :| #dw yosuke you're the cutest one to yu #he's good with his queue

[prototypelq]

Things I know about BG3:

- almost nothing except basic DnD combat&characters knowledge, and I tried to avoid spoilers

- karlach x wyll is a ship the fandom is sleeping on

yeah, couldn't keep my hands to myself and checked out their story and how are people missing out on them? Oh, well, at the very least they are amazing BFFs, have personal stories very much tied to each other, and have great dynamic between the two. I am just choosing to see all of that through the shipping glasses, but lemme tell you, they enhance the show a lot

#they are great for each other i love them) #wish there was an option is games with companions to play the matchmaker pfff #though picking a character to play yourself is not the worst option to see that happen too thanks larian #tbh more rpgs need an option to just play As companion it's so cool #much better than custom nobodies the writers need to Try to account for #plus larian are much better at mechanics than they are at characters to be honest #not to say what I've seen is bad more like I was kinda hoping for dragon age kind of companion interactions between each others #but that is clearly not the case for bg3 and thats okay #still means i have a craving for party rpg with character interactions but oh well #(guardians of the galaxy are Looking at me now...feel like its going to be my new years holidays game) #for now I need to focus on dmc5 I Will beat SoS at the very least #bg3 #karlach #bg3 karlach #wyll ravengard #bg3 wyll #karlach x wyll #wyllach

[dirtychainsawconfessions]

Imagine back shots in the sunflower field from the first film

#notsafe #confession #imagine #The Texas Chainsaw Massacre #Texas Chainsaw Massacre #tcm #tcm 1974 #EDIT: I had said there are no other good clear shots of the sunflower field but that's a lie. There is one earlier just from farther away #This is more of an upclose shot of the sunflowers specifically - and there aren't any in focus of the flowers themselves 🌻 #If you want to immerse yourself in imagining being railed/railing in the flower field behind the Sawyer home play the video game 🌻🌻🌻 #Because God the game is so gorgeous in terms of scenery and does such a loving job of recreating the environment #Be careful though because The Hitchhiker might be waiting for you there

[real-sun-wukong-fan01]

"now that everything is over-" the black macaque, with six ears started saying, "that orange fits you better than black." to the orange macaque.

"Mihou, i gave you permission to lay down with me. i didn't say 'talk.'" the king mumbled back, with his eyes closed and a monkey snuggling with him.

"..right. Um- just wanted to say it. let's relax now, shall we?" He asked quietly. "..." But didn't receive any answer.

"Do i really look good with my actual fur color?" the monkey king asked out of nowhere, opening one of his eyes to look at the macaque next to him.

"Yes, yes you do. It makes you look unique among everyone else, because there's no one who will have the same fur as you."

#for anyone #this isn't shadowpeach #this is simply to show how both characters have grown #macaque finally realized the importance of being yourself #'no one will have the same fur color as you' #and wukong finally stopped trying to focus his life in ruining someone else's #and finally tried to heal and be what he really is #he doesn't forgive macaque that's for sure #but they can voth build an identity now without ruining each other's or stealing it #sun wukong #lego monkie kid #monkey king #monkie kid #master swap au #lmk six eared macaque #lego six eared macaque #the six eared macaque

[amethystina]

Hiiii🩷🩷 I have a question... does Yohan think that Gaon loves Soo Hyun in a romantic way😳? If so, oh boy thats a huge misunderstanding to clear. Also, thank you for the amazing update!!! I'm sure as hell sticking around on this journey to see these two work out their feelings!!

Hi there! 💜

Yes, he does. Because Yo Han's got no reason to believe otherwise, based on how Ga On is behaving. He can tell that Ga On is attracted to him, sure, but that's physical. And sexual and romantic attraction are two entirely different things. One doesn't guarantee the other and just because you feel one — or even both — you don't actually have to act on it.

I'm more or less writing Yo Han like a bisexual demiromantic, i.e. he's good at recognising sexual tension/attraction but he's not very experienced with love. He's never really been in love before because he's never allowed himself to get close enough to someone to actually fall in love. And when you combine this with his upbringing and lack of social interaction with other people? Love is probably pretty tricky for him.

Not in a "he doesn't feel it" way because he does — and he knows that he does — but he's not the best at reading it in other people. Not at all helped by how he just doesn't get the whole "love at first sight" thing (because, again, demiromantic), which has made him wonder if, just maybe, his concept of love is different from everyone else's. He knows what love means to him and he's seen other people be in love (like Isaac and his wife) but applying that to his and Ga On's relationship is very difficult for him, especially with Soo Hyun complicating things.

Like, if Yo Han tries to compare how Ga On behaved around/treated Soo Hyun (who he assumes Ga On was in love with) to how Ga On behaves around/treats Yo Han, he can see a lot of differences. And it's a problem when his method for figuring this whole situation out is: "That is how Kim Ga On behaves when he's in love and, if he doesn't, he's probably not in love with me." Because that misses the part where people don't always behave the exact same way when they're in love (because it can be influenced by who they're interested in) and, if anything, it should be the other way around.

At this point, it's probably better to look at how Ga On behaves around you, Yo Han, not Soo Hyun, if you want to figure out what he's like when he's in love x'D

... but he doesn't know that, of course.

So, in short: Yo Han knows that Ga On cares about him and he knows that Ga On is sexually attracted to him, but he has no way of knowing if Ga On is in love with him. Yo Han has too little experience with it to be able to gauge that.

But, at this point? He thinks that Ga On is just too in love with Soo Hyun to ever love him (which is what this post was about)

And, in a very heartbreaking way, he's kind of grateful that Ga On made it clear he's not going to act on what's between them because Yo Han assumes it's only sexual attraction and some confused fondness on Ga On's end anyway. And Yo Han would just... rather not if that's all Ga On can give him. Because, for once, he doesn't just want sex — he wants love, too.

... this man is, once again, a goddamn onion.

(and will make you cry just as much as one)

And, for my own sake, I'm going to have to make a detour and write Yo Han's POV of what happens after he's gone into his bedroom because I SWEAR THE FUCKING BASTARD WON'T LEAVE ME ALONE. There is SO MUCH GOING ON in his head and snippets keep inconveniently popping up at irregular intervals, distracting me. And as soon as I push one aside, the next one pops up.

It's like a never-ending game of angsty Whac-A-Mole.

Someone save me.

ANYWAY. I'm glad you liked the update! And thank you so much for wanting to stick around 💜 I was genuinely worried about how you all would react to this chapter. Like, who's insane enough to throw in a rejection 400k into a story? People have probably gotten chased down with pitchforks for less.

So thank you for the trust, support, and dedication — it means a lot to me 💜

#Amethystina Replies #Anonymous #Who Holds the Devil #Amethystina Writes #Even if she would prefer not to this time #Like #I ALWAYS know what's going through Yo Han's head too #But this is the first time when I genuinely can't focus because I'm just BOMBARDED by it #I WISH I COULD SHUT IT OFF BUT I CAN'T #So I'm going to write it all down just to get it out of the way I guess? #Maybe then it'll quiet down #Also #I guess it might be nice just for the sake of knowing exactly where he stands #I make no promises that I'll post it though xD #Second also #Do yourself a favour and don't ponder how that 'my love isn't like other people's' work in relation to 'I'm a monster' #And 'I will smother his light one day' #Because that's... yeah #That'll break your heart #I'M SORRY I CAN'T SHUT IT OFF OKAY

[craycraybluejay]

If you can understand that physical abuse doesn't generally happen out of pathological or sexual sadism you can also understand that sexual abuse doesn't generally happen out of pathological sexual or romantic attraction.

Your abusive ex didn't hit you because he gets off on hitting people. He did it because he's an assholr who wants power and control over you.

#control #the psychology of abuse #obviously SOME people get pleasure out of doing cruel things #but ask yourself: if you were to get pleasure out of something that is dangerous for you or others would you do it just for the sake of it? #gaslighting is about control. guilt tripping is about control. hitting is about control. every instance of this has a different cause #for the motivation. but the motivation conscious or not remains the same. control #i think i might just mute Tumblr in awhile for a week or so #i am pretty busy and i need to focus away from negative attitudes

[aptericia]

Do you know what my absolute favorite thing about Revolutionary Girl Utena is? It’s the idea that emotional fulfilment does not, in any shape or form, require love.

Every single character does horrible things to themselves and each other in the name of love, and the only way those toxic relationships are resolved is for the character to learn real maturity rather than fixating on love. I strongly believe that by the end of the show, Anthy still loves her brother more than she loves Utena. I also believe that he genuinely loves her as well. The reason she can’t stay with him is that despite that love, he still hurts her. The reason is that love isn’t enough.

There is a scene near the end of the show where Juri and Miki start flirting with Utena, although it makes no sense for them to truly be in love with her. They’re doing this as a way to show that they’ve started to move on from Shiori and Anthy respectively. Nanami shows absolutely NO interest in love from Utena or anyone else, even though she is moving on from Touga. Touga himself is shown to genuinely fall for Utena, which of course he gets no resolution on. Utena isn’t obligated to love him back, nor would her doing so help either of them. All of these characters have to abandon someone they love in order to find true happiness, and not only that, but they don’t need other relationships to fill that void. In fact, both Saionji and Miki are suggested to be trying to do just that by replacing their failing relationships (with Touga and Kozue respectively) with Anthy, when in reality they need to focus on themselves.

In short, Utena is not a show where the power of romance or friendship or family saves the day, or where people are redeemed by their relationships to others. Obviously, the characters affect each other’s lives for better or worse, but at the end of the day, each one has to walk their own path and discover their individual self. Utena helped Anthy imagine a life beyond being the Rose Bride, but the force that actually pulled her out of that coffin was Anthy, not Anthy & Utena, not Anthy’s Love for Utena. RGU is a story about love, but its conclusion is not that love is essential. If anything, it’s that there are things in life far more important than love.

#revolutionary girl utena #rgu #rgu spoilers #rgu analysis #my stuff #this is SUCH an important message for teens especially #bc that’s a point in your life when you have to focus on YOURSELF instead of others #anyway. utena is one of less than like… five shows that have made my cry #I love utena

[soulwishnet]

FOCUS ON YOURSELF NOT OTHERS - Best Motivational Speech 2022

FOCUS ON YOURSELF NOT OTHERS – Best Motivational Speech 2022 Speakers: Bob Proctor Joel Osteen Tim Grover Les …

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[heavensickness]

There are few things more maddening than seeing people who have hurt you, wasted your time and even ruined your life continue to live much more happily and comfortably than you

#it rlly is something you cant cope with #“just focus on yourself not on others” failed step one. i want them dead #journal

[pixlokita]

Why do people like ggy? I don't like what it does to Gregory's characterization and how it makes Vanny pointless.

he’s just 👉👈 so sillay ! But that’s ok if you don’t like it :’> everyone has something they like and dislike >> just focus on what you like tbh

#fnaf #pix answers #Gregory can be whatever you want him to be honestly #Also ? Feel free to unfollow me if you don’t like what I draw :> or reblog #not saying it to be mean I’m seriously saying this because you should focus on the stuff you like instead #And my blog has plenty of GGY content so >> y’know ? #It’s ok to do this too #Not really sure why you’d ask me that knowing it’s something I draw but sincerely it’s ok to unfollow people when something upsets you #Be kind to others and yourself and put your mental health first y’know ? It’s just fiction and everyone is sharing their ideas for fun #✨🌸✨🌸🌸

[holysaintscathedral]

The way cishet men are so insecure and entitled to women's bodies that just knowing their partner has been with other men is enough to deeply upset them and make them lose respect and the desire to be with the woman their partnered with. Grow up.

#so you're partner has been with other me #cry me a fucking river #the cishets are at it again #CISHET men specifically are at it again #misogyny #cause that's what the root of this is #sorry its so pathetic to me that women being with other men before them and being pretty experienced upsets cishet dudes #absolutely pathetic #like why do you care so much? get over yourself #women are not objects that get worn out with use #i just think its so weird to that upset over your partners past #like bro they're with you now focus on that

[oatbugs]

everyone will always be haunted by what they are and i believe it is far more beneficial to embrace the haunting (as long as it isn't derailing your life or others') than to strive to be a truly "balanced" person. the idea of someone who is truly equalised to the point of utter harmony is an essentially unachievable thing imo

#too nice/kind/giving and you neglect yourself. focus on yourself and you neglect others #you love things too much and it consumes you. not enough and you are numb. meditate too much and you neglect life #not enough and life neglects you. speak your mind and you are sometimes abrasive. dont and you will sometimes be a pushover #etc etc. overly academic or too unconcerned. is politics your life to the point where you ignore the small mundane things around you? #are you so unconcerned with politics that you end up unaware of critical factors that harm or help your environment #like obviously not everyone is imbalanced in everything ever but #there is at least something at least one thing (and likely many more) that haunts everyone yk #and like. i think w some of these things as long as the haunting doesnt harm you to the point of derailing your life etc its...ok to be #haunted. or else you risk no longer being who you are. change and growth are essential but sometimes when youre upset you still say things #you dont mean or when you feel in love with your friends you offer to pay for their coffee even if you dont have money. you can fluctuate #and.change and grow but sometimes its ok to be haunted by who u are. #like i think the idea of being truly in harmony as a final destination for ur being is essentially bs. why would the monks spend their lives #meditating? its an active effort yk. #youre at the dj booth. youre tuning the violin every time you play. youre constantly adjusting your glasses.