#food issues

[teaboot]

Kind of a random hill to die on rn but "You'd eat this thing you hate if you got hungry enough" does not set a reasonable expectation of what "hungry enough" means for people with food problems.

Like, are we talking "stomach grumbling" hungry enough, or "can't stand up" hungry enough? Cause personally, I can make myself eat a bit of a pork chop if I'm barfy and shaking and can't see straight anymore, but if it's down to "black out for three days and wake up angry and confused" or "willingly swallow prosciutto", I'm having sleep for dinner. And I know this from experience.

People without food problems don't seem to understand this and it drives me insane. "Hungry enough" is for shit like chewing drywall because the alternative is death or cannibalism.

If I say I can't eat something, It means I can't eat it. It Is Not Edible To Me. It's not even appetizing. It literally does not register as food. You might as well hand me a rubber duck.

And it's frustrating!! Trust me, I wish I wasn't like this, too!! This isn't a choice!! I know it can be rude!! It's embarassing!! It's complicated and annoying and irrational!! That doesn't fix the problem!!

I just wish people didn't treat this sort of thing as "being picky" or lacking willpower or basic manners or something. I can't make myself eat certain foods the way you probably couldn't cut your own fingers off. Does that make sense? It's not just food. Fuck

#Food #Venting #Rant #Hunger #Disordered eating #texture issues #Food issues #It's ridiculous enough to live like this as a kid #I shouldn't have to put up with this bullshit as an adult too #Fucking shit

[loungemermaid]

I mean this in a very serious way. Genuinely.

What if a lot of Katniss’s anger is that she’s hungry? No, seriously. She has every right to be angry. Of course she does. I’m not negating her circumstances.

But like. Imagine, a year or two down the line. Things are good with Peeta. They’re together. No one panics anymore when they run out of something. They can run to the store and buy more. It doesn’t matter who ate the last cookie. They can make more.

And finally, finally, Katniss is in a safe place, warm, loved, happy, and fed. And she’s not nearly as quick to anger anymore. Not nearly as afraid. And sure, more than most of it is because the government isn’t trying to kill her. But a non zero amount of it is she isn’t starving.

#mer.txt #the hunger games #katniss everdeen #everlark #food issues

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID)

Spectrum Sloth

#avoidant restrictive food intake disorder #arfid #tw food #food issues #actually arfid #this really sucks #I hate certain textures #smells and taste too #sensory issues #tw disordered eating #feel free to share and reblog #Spectrum Sloth (Facebook)

[monachopsis-11]

The infantilization of having restricted eating is crazy, I get treated like a kid on a regular basis by people who were treating me normal five seconds earlier just because of my sandwich order.

I have sat at a restaurant meeting while I was a hostess where all my coworkers laughed at how plain the food on the kids menu was and how kids had no taste and they were so glad they weren’t like that anymore. At the same job people questioned my orders when I got food at the end of a shift saying it was barely even the same thing anymore and wouldn’t I like something else? If I had wanted something else I would have asked for it, you don’t need to double check and use baby voice with me I’m fully capable of deciding what I eat.

I get judgmental looks and questions from people who take my food orders in public more and more often as I get older and it’s less socially acceptable for me to say no vegetables on things without being treated like a spoiled child who’s inconveniencing them. People look at me in surprise and ask if they heard right, scoff, roll their eyes etc. on a pretty regular basis.

When I need to send back food after someone makes a mistake on my order and I can’t eat it my family acts like they’re embarrassed of me and sometimes when I’m not paying they refuse to let me. I will go hungry every time and have been made to often as well.

For years school trips and meals with other peoples families were a terrifying ordeal and still give me anxiety. I was denied desert and sometimes the meal as a whole for not eating even though I asked what was being made ahead of time so I knew if I should eat before hand or bring something else and even knowing this people ignored it and changed meal plans to try and pressure me into eating more variety.

The worst part of all of this is that I wish I could eat everything other people can but sometimes the smell or look of food I don’t like on someone else’s plate is enough to make me feel sick, the thought of putting it in my mouth for any reason is unimaginable.

And maybe the whole “they’ll eat if they’re hungry enough” thing works at a certain point but I lived off beef jerky, raisins, and half a bagel for four days on a school trip where no one bothered to accommodate my eating restrictions and I would’ve gone much longer before eating what was offered.

I had a teacher who kept me in for six recesses in a row over me not trying a bite of food we cooked in class in third grade purely because they were annoyed and took it on themself to step into something that wasn’t their business.

I regularly get guilted and called out on my unhealthy diet and it hurts because I would do anything to be able to eat more foods, I hope that maybe I will in the future, but right now it’s not an option. I’m hoping if I find a good smoothie recipe I can get more fruits and vegetables in my diet but even then I won’t ever be in a position to just eat what is served and I shouldn’t have to endure judging and being treated like a child by random strangers who have no business in what I want the food I’m paying for to have on it.

It’s valid for adults to have restricted eating too, it doesn’t make us children, and it’s not a moral failing. It’s also not anyone else’s business.

#actually autistic #autistic experiences #late diagnosed autistic #invisible disability #actuallyautistic #autism #asd #autistic community #disability #restricted eating #sensory issues #food issues

[lovelettersfromdoll]

me fr ૮₍˶ >. <˶ ⑅₎ა

#coquette #angelic #bambi #dollette #dollcore #nymph aesthetic #dollete aesthetic #lana del rey #baby pink #daddy issues #ditzyteengirl #handsome older man #food issues #father issues #nymphett #nymphcore #nympette

[wangxianficrecs]

💙 as i stumble homewards by the_pretzel

💙 as i stumble homewards

by the_pretzel (@the-pretzel)

T, 27k, Wangxian

Part of the MXTX Mini Bang

Summary: Six years after the siege at the Burial Mounds, the Jiang Sect looks to Yiling once more as rumors of a young demonic cultivator and the restless spirit which trails behind him reach their ears. Luckily for the two in question, Hanguang-jun has heard the same rumors, and comes trailing behind. A-Yuan, in the meanwhile, is not pleased at having his life disrupted, especially by a man who has mysterious intentions towards his Xian-gege. Kay's comments: You know, I'm always here for stories where A-Yuan is a little bit (a lot) of a strange kid after his time in the Burial Mounds and in this one, he's a certified weirdo in the best way possible. Here, he doesn't get found my Lan Wangji and instead, Wei Wuxian looks for him, at least until Jiang Cheng notices him on his hunt for demonic cultivators... Ah, this story doesn't really pull any punches and I like this exploration of what could have happened to A-Yuan, it feel very true to the story. And of course, Lan Wangji discovers soon enough that A-Yuan is talking to Wei Wuxian and Wangxian can't help each other but gravitate towards each other. Excerpt: Fine, Wei Wuxian tells him, reassuringly, sounding as though he’s back in the present. I’m just fine. Don’t worry about your Xian-gege, he’s very resilient! Lan Wangji is still looking at him, so he does not react, but his stomach unclenches a little. Then-- “You are talking to someone,” Lan Wangji says, and A-Yuan’s stomach clenches right back up again. “What? No,” he hedges, too quickly. It’s a lie so bad Lan Wangji does not even deign to acknowledge it. “What is his name?” “None of your business,” A-Yuan snaps, curling his hands into fists. Lan Wangji only keeps going. “Wei Wuxian?” He rears back. It’s as good as an answer, because Lan Wangji stills, staring at him as though he is somehow surprised to have it confirmed. It doesn’t do anything to comfort A-Yuan. Uh-oh, Wei Wuxian murmurs, tone uncertain. “Come to the jingshi,” Lan Wangji says abruptly, and walks away. For lack of any better options, A-Yuan follows.

pov lan sizhui, canon-divergence, burial mounds settlement days, post-first siege of the burial mounds, canonical character death - wei wuxian, ghost wei wuxian, families of choice, food issues, trauma, fluff, angst with a happy ending, emotional hurt/comfort, demonic cultivator lan sizhui, getting together, mutual pining

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#Wangxian Fic Rec #The Untamed #wangxian #MDZS #Kay's Favorite #Kay's Rec #September 2023 #as i stumble homewards #the_pretzel #medium fic 15k-49k #Teen #pov lan sizhui #canon-divergence #burial mounds settlement days #post-first siege of the burial mounds #canonical character death - wei wuxian #ghost wei wuxian #families of choice #food issues #trauma #fluff #angst with a happy ending #emotional hurt/comfort #demonic cultivator lan sizhui #getting together #mutual pining

[spacedocmom]

Doctor Beverly Crusher @SpaceDocMom Food shaming ought to be a prosecutable crime. I'm always proud of you for eating whatever works for you. Fed is best! emojis: black heart, blue heart, masked 1:16 PM · Oct 24, 2023

#star trek #doctor crusher #star trek the next generation #star trek memes #star trek tng #support #kindness #care #compassion #health care #healthcare #medicine #food issues #food intolerance #food allergy #comfort food #food #fed is best #eat something #chronic illness #chronic fatigue #chronic pain #disability #poverty #food poverty #spoonies #spoons

[trick-of-the-troubles]

me when my symptoms make it difficult to eat:

me when my symptoms are worse because of not eating:

me when my symptoms continue to make it difficult to eat:

etc. etc.

#its a neverending cycle istg #cpunk #cripple punk #disability #disabled #physical disability #physically disabled #food issues #<-tagging just in case for filters

[kalynnmariesillygoose]

Having Autism™️is thinking you've perfected a dish and make it better than anyone ever has, but really you just have sensory issues and only like those things prepared One Exact Way

#autism #tm #autistic #autistic feels #audhd #sensory #food issues #food #cooking #living with autism #autism joke #im a joke #life is a joke #eggs

[theminecraftbox]

god yeah the horror and sadness of a pregnancy(in coparent where dreams feelings around it are messy and complicated) is really a heavy one. it's a thing Sam is excited for, the idea that they'll have a child together, but dream has to bear it all the time with not a minute away from the reminder of it. does he ever think about the things that might go wrong? he's not in the best shape after prison, his pregnancy couldnt have been easy. does he ever want to forget he is but can't because the baby kicks or it's too hard to move? does it ever feel like a parasite, something hes been forced to carry? are there moments in which he realizes the weight of what it *means* and it's just too overwhelming and terrifying to think about? i think it's been mentioned before that he cries when they find out he's pregnant. what else does dream feel? what's he experience

@cgogs

this is the damn ESSENCE of the nettle branch of coparent au and it's SICK, it's just SICK, and you should stay tuned for Angela's incoming fic which will make your stomach hurt so badly.

The pregnancy is a refuge and it is a mask: it's something that will protect him from Sam, right? something that Sam wants from him, something that Sam wants him for. But they're supposed to be past that, by now. Sam doesn't want to hurt him anymore. Sam wants to help him, treat him kindly, right? So why is the fear still here?

Dream's on a diet. A good diet this time, Sam's making sure he's eating enough and more, that's the point, he needs to be healthy, gain some weight. He has a craving and Sam will get it at once. Dream wants something off a high shelf, Sam will fetch it. Dream wants to go out for a run, Sam will come with him. There is nothing that Sam won't do to help. There is nothing that Dream can do on his own. Dream's ability to survive on nothing, with nothing, less than nothing, is being stripped away.

Why does he live in terror of the thing inside him dying, why does that feel like he'd be losing the last shield he has? It's stripped away his other defenses, it's the only thing left to keep him safe, everyone will know, everyone will see his weakness, how will he run like this? What if they get him like this, if they hold him down and pull out the knives and he won't be able to do anything about it...

Why does it feel like something he hasn't chosen, even though he did choose it? And there's Briar to consider, Briar who Dream has left behind (he didn't mean to, didn't want to, he and Sam do not talk about it.)

Sometimes Sam kisses his stomach and it’s sweet, kind, loving, nothing wrong about it. It's a totally normal thing to do for your spouse who’s carrying your child. Dream thinks perhaps he’s never felt so dehumanized.

#au: coparent #c!awesamdream #abuse. #food issues #like it's bad

[ultimate-detective]

// semi import question. What do we do if we have no food? I am not exaggerating when I say the only we have in this house is sweet tea, Dr Pepper, and hot pockets (none of the current frontera like hot pockets very much). Our grandma (who would usually bring us food) is on a trip, our mom is also on a trip, and our dad’s roommate doesn’t get home until 3:30ish and by then we won’t be allowed anything because it’s be too close to dinner time, and even if we haven’t ate all day, our eating habits aren’t the best so we aren’t allowed to eat too soon before dinner. We have no idea what to do because although the store is right up the street, we have no money:/ any ideas?

#help #ooc post #help needed #food issues #we have a problem

[shouts-into-the-void]

Just read a Facebook post from the parent of an autistic child who would only eat a few specific foods in which the gist of it was:

"We couldn't get him to try anything new 😞 We tried sneaking things into his safe foods, force-feeding him, and starving him but nothing worked! Then, we had this amazing idea to try actual parenting and he miraculously started trying new foods!"

And my instant reaction was to go "Wtf is wrong with this person" but the entire comment section was full of "Omg so inspirational 🥹" as if this parent's first option being to starve their child over treating them like a human being was not horrifying and a great example of the dehumanizing of disabled and neurodivergent children

#some people shouldn't have kids if they are not ready for that child to not be neurotypical #starving your child because they dont exhibit what you deem as “correct” behavior is abuse #its not like the kid was refusing to eat or their safe foods were super expensive or anything #autistic community #self diagnosed autism #autism #neurodivergent #afrid #tw food issues #safe foods #food #food issues

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Fruit and Autism

The Autistic Teacher

#autism #actually autistic #autism and fruit #food issues #sensory processing #I don’t like most fruit #too squishy and weird tasting #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #actually neurodivergent #feel free to share/reblog #The Autistic Teacher (Facebook)

[monachopsis-11]

That wonderful moment when you make yourself a snack and then while you’re eating it you’re suddenly very aware of the texture of the food in your mouth and then proceed to gag and spit it out and can no longer finish eating your meal. Luckily this doesn’t happen to me often but when it does it’s not fun.

#actually autistic #autistic experiences #self diagnosed autism #food issues #autistic women #late diagnosed autistic #invisible disability #actuallyautistic #autism #asd #autistic community #sensory issues #disability #sensory overload

[batbirdies]

Throwing this out into the world to see if anyone has any ideas… I have this food thing.

Specifically I made myself soup last night, a red Thai curry flavor with veggies and paneer cheese as the protein. It was enjoyable if not my favorite thing.

I then went about my evening and a couple hours later was feeling hungry again so thought to have a little more soup. But I took two bites and immediately knew I couldn’t eat it. It wasn’t the taste and the texture doesn’t bother me. But I had an immediate aversion to eating it that made me want to gag upon swallowing.

Tried again tonight to eat the leftovers and had the same experience.

This doesn’t happen every time with leftovers. I often eat all of them over the course of a few days and it’s great! But occasionally this happens and I’m left with a ton of food that will probably go to waste because I can’t make myself eat it.

Already struggling with cooking and energy levels making food I can eat again is really helpful to me and a huge waste of money when it turns out I can’t actually eat it again.

My thinking currently is that there’s some ingredient in the soup I maybe have a food sensitivity to?? But it didn’t upset my stomach or anything so I’m not sure. But I’m feeling frustrated over it 🙄

In the past I’ve tried freezing leftovers like this to have in the distant future and have found the aversion to it never goes away. At least not within 3 months, at which point I toss the frozen leftovers.

I’m still thinking food sensitivity probably but I’ve never read about this kind of reaction before so I’m curious if anyone else has experienced this or if it sounds familiar??

#food issues #food mention #currently in the process of trying to figure out my diet #so I’ll probably write down all the ingredients and try to see if there’s commonalities the next time this happens #but UGGGHH it’s so frustrating 😩 #the last time was with an enchilada casserole thing #trying to remember if there was anything in common with this beside onions #which I eat in everything

[222mariahhhh]

i feel so fat. i feel like a failure.

yesterday i ate 426 calories, which i know is okay, but that’s 26 more calories than my limit.

and this morning i GAINED 0.1kg, and i guess now i feel like i’m being over dramatic but i finally am in control and need to lose at least 5kgs before i get to school but right now i’ve only lost 3.7kg.

i went from 55kg to 52.3kg in 6 days and school is just in a couple of days. i hope i reach my gw before school starts.

#4norexi4 #ana butterfly #ana meal #cal0ries #ed but not sheeran #ed meals #food issues #i want to be weightless #mealsp0 #mealspo #pro a4a #sk1nn1 #th1gh g@p #th1n$po #th1nsp1r4t10n #tw ana diary #tw ana relapse #tw ana shit