wow. there is no one who can love you the way you want and need to be loved except yourself. there is no one who can undo and replace the painful upbringing you received from your parents or your God but yourself. nobody is ever going to be able to provide the level of care, understanding, and due diligence required to help you heal. nobody. nobody else can fix you and help you. you are the only person who can fully love yourself, know yourself, understand yourself. it’s you. it has to be you. nobody else can ever give you that or be that for you
I love getting validated on small things that I didn't even consider like it's always a treat and this time it's Gender
The Fundie Baby Voice™️ has been popping up a lot in ex-christian spaces lately and I actually had one in middle school and part of high school! I learned when and where to use it and how to turn up my southern accent just enough. I can still do it but it sounds weird after 3 years on T. The main place I used it was at church cause it made me sound sweet and polite. I used it for old ladies when I worked at a grocery store too. My family didn't like it when we were just all together cause they said it sounded like baby talk, but loved it when I used it at church cause everyone would tell them how sweet and soft-spoken I was
My therapist said it actively made him feel uncomfortable when I used that voice. He couldn't quite put his finger on why it made him uncomfortable (other than him only knowing me on T) but he very much did not like it and he's so so right for that
Check out Jess Piper's substack. She grew up in a fundamentalist Missouri family. She recognized Katie Britt's breathy cadence and sense of superiority immediately.
You would not believe the amount of chirstian fundie blogs and fundie sim 100 baby challenge blogs i had to block when i used to go to the fundy (the minecraftt youtuber/streamer/dsmp character) tag on the daily
[ID: a digital drawing of c!Fundy wearing his pastel uniform from the L'Manberg war. He's looking down, pensive and sad, holding a red flower in his right hand. End of ID].
So we all know that q!wilbur is an apsent father and c!wilbur is just even worse. But everyone kept only thinking about tallulah. No one cared about my poor child c!Fundy. Tallulah since the begining had q!Phil or q!quackity but him? Yes he had c!eret and even in my fanfiction shes a great parent but in canon my boy had noone! Everyone eventually left him except his son! My baby even jumped just not to talk to his bio dad!
LIKE CMON C!FUNDY WAS STILL (I THINK) A CHILD OR AT LEAST A YOUNG ADULT. HE SERIOUSLY DESERVED TO FEEL LOVED. WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT HIM! LIKE YES I LOVE TALLULAH BUT HE SERIOUSLY DESERVED THE WORLD.
I understand paedobaptists arguing that paedobaptism is indeed biblical when baptists claim that it's not, even if I don't agree. What I don't understand is them coming at us with "oh yeah?! Well I went to a Baptist church once that did something I consider unbiblical!" (even though in most cases it's extrabiblical at best) as if
1) I have to answer for any church other than my own (I don't)
2) one church's incorrect doctrine makes another's okay (it doesn't)
I usually respond with "You're right, you shouldn't do either of those things"
TMA!Cala meeting Fundy when they were teenagers and Dream and Techno instantly intimidating him— but the reason Fundy was Cala’s friend at first was because he had a crush on Dream but then saw Dream liked Techno so instead of sulking he spent more time with Cala and realized he liked her a lot as well c:
"Momma, Neveah's being bad and crying! I told her to not do that but she's not listening. She's being a noisy little shit! You need to tell her off!"
"Too loud! Up please!"
"Mandy, stop saying those words! They're not nice, you know that. She's just scared of the storm, you girls need to be nice to each other."
"But Daddy says she's a noisy little shit! You need to tell her off or Daddy's gonna be mad. She's being mean to Daddy!"
"She has a point, I can't fucking concentrate with all that yelling. Can you shut her up?"
"Mom, what does "sexual immor-ally" mean? My booklet says we need to flee from it but we didn't learn about that at school. And where's whoredom? Why do girls go there? Are boys allowed too?"
"Sweetie, why don't you go onto the next question and I'll-"
"God, can't you control your own kids? She's still crying! Mandy was doing better at it than you, fucking hell."
"Thank you Daddy! I love you!"
"I can't believe you can't manage your own children, it's like a damn zoo in here. All this crying, and you can't even teach that idiot! God, maybe you should just put them back into school if you can't make them behave. Mandy, do you think Mom's doing a good job at looking after you?"
"Uhhh.... no? I think?"
"Your own daughter agrees with me! You go put them back in school, ok? I can't deal with them being this awful, those fucking liberal teachers are better at this than you."
"Baby, it's just because it's storming, and they can't play out. They'll be better when-"
Anwar: A dress to wear to our date tonight. Why don’t you go get ready?
Isioma: Er, Anwar?
Anwar: Yes, honey?
Isioma: Are you sure this is the dress you wanted me to wear?
Anwar: Yes? Do you not like it?
Isioma: I mean… it’s really revealing. People are going to stare… or be rude… or tell me to change… or—
Anwar: Honey… that’s not gonna happen. Now come on, we’re already late for our reservation.
later, at Hazakura Lounge
Anwar: Why are you all fidgety?
Isioma: Because this outfit is really inappropriate for public, Anwar. Look, this guy is totally going to be upset.
Guy: *walks right past them*
Anwar: Izzy—
Isioma: Anwar, I appreciate the gift but I just feel very uncomfortable right now. I was raised to believe no one should see my body except God and my husband.
Anwar: Honey, you’re teaching me so many things about being a good Christian and I’m grateful, but let me return the favor and teach you about the real world. The average person doesn’t care about the clothes you wear.
Isioma: They don’t?
Anwar: No, honey. And especially not God. He’s a busy and important guy. Think of all the miracles He performs on the daily. He’s definitely not focused on exposed shoulders or kneecaps or women in pants.
Isioma: Huh. I guess that makes sense.
(please please please ignore the fact that Anwar has hair again, his hair changed for all his outfits except that one and i didn’t realize it until after I took all these pictures.)