Sometimes guys on direct messages on instagram text me: “Too much makeup, you look like a clown”, “Erase those eyeliner arrows, you look like a whore”, “Do you really walk out in an outfit like THIS? Lmao”. When I post a photo I like, some guys would necessarily let me know that I look “goddamn hot”, in the worst condition - send me a tensed pen!s as a compliment. Like these are the things I need to know. So, I want to make a post to let some truth out, I am tired.
(in the end there’d be a thread, join!)
I wear makeup not for you! I do it because I like how I look with it, and want to feel amazing.
Girls are beautiful even without makeup! Did you doubt? We are beautiful in no-matter-what condition.
If I wear a dress, it does not allow you to stare at my b00bs. I wear it because I want to, or it is hot, or any other reason. That does not give you a right to stand and stare at me.
We know that we are pretty, alright? Surely, it’s glad to hear that. From our friends. But it’s not ok for a random guy to whistle at my back and say a compliment, waiting for me to accomplish it.
Girls in any type of clothes are pretty. In a big hoodie, in a tight dress, in jeans or shorts, old T-shirt, “childish” pyjamas. Do not even tell me that a girl in a hoodie looks badly or “not girlish”. She looks amazing!
Girls have periods - it’s nature. We survive through pain and discomfort each month, and sometimes are insecure about it. Stop shaming us, when you see us choosing tampons or pads in stores! Literally, I was once standing and choosing pads, and the guy nearby was choosing deodorant, so he LITERALLY turned and told me: “You could have waited until I go away!” Like… EXCUSE ME?!
Stop sexualising us. At least, do not get disappointed when you will see that girls do not always look like “ladies”, wear makeup all the time, heels, dresses… And even if you do sexualise us, at least, hide a disgust on your face when you see us without makeup and with a lock of hair.
I go to the sportclub because I want to train and NOT feel men staring at me, ok? I do NOT want guys to look at my butt during my squats or something.
I go to the sportclub to keep myself fit and healthy, to have a figure I want to. And I get fit not for men to notice me. Imagine, women’s lives are not about men!
I can fix things and collect Ikea furniture on myself. Are you surprised? I do not need a man in most of cases to collect the furniture or change a light bulb. Try telling me again that I am too weak, and that’s not a things for a woman to do.
Not every woman’s wish is to sit on a man’s neck and do nothing. Many of us enjoy having own work, being independent, not using man for everything. Stop telling me that I will not so independent when I get a man! It’s not about a MAN! It’s about ME!
Unfortunately, I personally faced all of these, some of them - several times. And I am tired. I do not know if anyone else faced anything like this. If you see this post - like and write in the comments similar things that happened to you. Let’s make a thread!