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jortsbian · 4 months
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the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again
#yeehaw#1k#5k#10k#posts that got cursed. blasted. im making these tag updates after... 19 hours?#also i have been told it should say speech loss bc nonverbal specifically refers to the permanent state. did not know that!#unfortunately i fear it is so far past containment that even if i edited it now it would do very little. but noted for future reference#edit 2: nvm enough ppl have come to rb it from me directly that i changed the wording a bit. hopefully this makes sense#also. in case anyone is curious. though i doubt anyone who is commenting these things will check the original tags#1) my friend did not do this on purpose in any way. it was not intended to distract me or to hit on me. im a lesbian hes a gay man. cmon now#he felt very bad about it afterwards. i thought it was hilarious but it was very embarrassed and apologetic#2) “why didn't he use 🫵🏼?” didn't exist yet. “why didn't he use 🆗?” dunno! we'd been using a lot of hand emojis. 👌🏼 is an ok sign#like it makes sense. it was just a silly mixup. also No i did not invent 👉🏼👌🏼 as a gesture meaning sex. do you live under a rock#3) nonspeaking episodes are a recurring thing in my life and have been since i was born. this is not a quirky one-time thing#it is a pervasive issue that is very frustrating to both myself and the people i am trying to communicate with. in which trying to speak is#extremely distressing and causes very genuine anguish. this post is not me making light of it it's just a funny thing that happened once#it's no different than if i post about a funny thing that happened in conjunction w a physical disability. it's just me talking abt my life#i don't mind character tags tho. those can be entertaining. i don't know what any of you are talking about#Except the ppl who have said this is pego/ryu or wang/xian. those people i understand and respect#if you use it as a writing prompt that's fine but send it to me. i want to see it#aaaand i think that's it. everyday im tempted to turn off rbs on it. it hasn't even been a week
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inkskinned · 6 months
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love when men cry about body hair bc "it's hygiene" and yet 15% of cis men leave the bathroom without washing their hands at all and an additional 35% only just wet their hands without using soap. that is nearly half of all men. that means statistically you have probably shaken hands with or been in direct contact with one of these people.
love when men say that women "only want money" when it turns out that even in equal-earning homes, women are actually adding caregiver burdens and housework from previous years, whereas men have been expanding leisure time and hobbies. in equal-earning households, men spend an average of 3.5 hours extra in leisure time per week, which is 182 hours per year - a little over a week of paid vacation time that the other partner does not receive. kinda sounds like he wants her money.
love that men have decided women are frail and weak and annoying when we scream in surprise but it turns out it's actually women who are more reliable in an emergency because men need to be convinced to actually take action and respond to the threat. like, actually, for-real: men experience such a strong sense of pride about their pre-supposed abilities that it gets them and their families killed. they are so used to dismissing women that it literally kills them.
love it. told my father this and he said there's lies, damned lies, and statistics. a year ago i tried to get him to evacuate the house during a flash flood. he ignored me and got injured. he has told me, laughing, that he never washes his hands. he has said in the last week that women are just happier when we're cooking or cleaning.
maybe i'm overly nostalgic. but it didn't used to feel so fucking bleak. it used to feel like at least a little shameful to consider women to be sheep. it just feels like the earth is round and we are still having conversations about it being flat - except these conversations are about the most obvious forms of patriarchy. like, we know about this stuff. we've known since well before the 50's.
recently andrew tate tried to justify cheating on his partner as being the "male prerogative." i don't know what the prerogative for the rest of us would be. just sitting at home, watching the slow erosion of our humanity.
#writeblr#warm up#ps edited so it is more clear where “half” of men is coming from:#15% literally don't even touch water#an ADDITIONAL 35% ''wash'' by just running their hands under water WITHOUT SOAP#15+35 =50%#like that is not washing ur hands. go back and use soap#btw the numbers for women are 4% never washing and 15% ''just water''#which is still gross but like. sooo much better yikes#ps i know we're all gay on this site but watching ppl ''correct'' my math on this has been wild#i have a learning disability im genuinely bad at math so i check EVERY time someone corrects me#but no they're just confidently wrong.....#182 hours is a week babes. 182/24 (number of hours in a day) is ~7.6#that's where i got that number from. also from rent we know there's 168 hours in a week.#ALSO btw if u read this and ur response is ''men are also struggling rn tho'' like babe you missed the point of it tho#this doesn't even make fun of men it's legit just pointing out that bigotry against women isn't founded#in anything men actually CARE about . like they don't actually CARE about ''being clean'' when they make fun of armpit hair#or they would be WASHING THEIR HANDS.#men pretend to be rollin' in cash and Apex Predators and instead they are trained to be lazy and unwilling to act in emergencies#i have never and will never make fun of men for asking for more support on important topics like DV and mental health.#this is so clearly not about men; it's about how common just being plainly misogynistic has become.#like they don't try to hide it anymore.
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genderqueerdykes · 7 months
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Disabled Trans Man Needs to Escape Unsafe Home
hi, i'm equinox or johnny, i'm a disabled trans man who is currently living in an unsafe home. i am currently being forced to pay over half of the total despite only making $245/month from the government while my disability case awaits approval. i need to be out of my apartment by the second week of October, as our lease ends around that time.
i have needed to escape for a while now- my roommate is passive aggressive, has been caught lying to me on an unacceptable amount of occasions, attempted to assault a previous roommate, frequently makes uncomfortable and entrapping comments and conversations about me and myself as a trans man, and more.
if you are able to help, please go ahead and follow the link to our GoFundme. if you are not, reblogging this post and sharing the campaign will help more than you can ever realize. thank you for taking the time to read and consider me, i have been homeless off and on for the past several years and i do not want to get into a dangerous situation again. thank you, have a great day
you can also help me these ways:
chime: $Equinoxian
cash app: $glitterGraphix
venmo: Equinoxian
paypal: glittergraphicnightmare@ gmail. com
ko-fi: Equinoxian
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blachernaepalace · 2 months
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about to inform romani people that the romani holocaust was a "side quest"
edit: also when nazis and other reactionaries say that a group they hate is connected to The Jews, that is almost always a post hoc justification for a hatred that already existed. eg nazis hated communists bc they threatened their ideal of a class collaborationist state, not bc of some mythical jewish connection
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SEX-ED GUIDE, VIDEO SELECTION
Because the popular one going around since 2014 that's got 630,000 notes is full of broken links
Educational videos with Sexplanations/Dr. Lindsey Doe (also on Tumblr @tumblingdoe ), and Watts the Safeword + a couple of other sources.
GENITALIA
The Penis
Does Size Matter?
Curved Penises
Testicles
Can a Penis Break?
Vulvas and Vaginas
Hymen
Vaginismus 101
The Clitoris
37 Clitoris' (YouTube video contains images of human genitals in an educational context)
Vaginal Orgasms?
Kegals
HYGIENE
Vagina and Vulva Hygiene
Does My Dentist Know if I've Given Head
Butthole Maintainance
NON SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS
Bacterial Vaginosis 101
Yeast Infections 101
Urinary Tract Infections
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS
STIs (and puppy pictures)
HIV FAQ
PrEP
Lindsey Takes an HIV Test (no needles)
What is Herpes?
CONSENT
What is Consent
How to NOT Rape (consent 101/what is rape)
Saying No
Sexual Negotiation
Age of Consent
Consent and Kink - Watts the Safeword
DISABILITY AND SEXUALITY
Sex and Disabilities - Watts the Safeword
Disability and sex Dr. Doe
(Sex)abled: Disability Uncensored - Health Equity Institute
The Last Taboo: Sexuality and Disability Documentary
LGBTQIA+
Gender Affirming Surgeries
A Trans History
Questioning
Bisexual Erasure
Lesbian Flirting
Demisexuality
5 asexuality experiences
Polyamory, Asexuality, Nonbinary Journey: Interview
How Do I Know That I'm Intersex
RELATIONSHIPS
Monogamy with Hank Green
Polyamory
Polyam Lingo
Mismatched Sex Drives
Friends With Benefits
How to Date Long Distance
Finding a Partner
BARRIERS
Sex Shields
Condom Time - let's play
How to Put a Condom on an Intact Penis
More on Condoms
Internal Condoms
Boners vs Condoms - erection trouble?
CONTRACEPTION
Pregnancy Prevention
Choosing Birth Control
Emergency Contraception - Plan B, Morning After, Copper IUD
Does Pulling Out Work?
HAVING SEX
How to Get the Sex You Want
Sex and Autism
Orgasmic Sex Positions
First Time Tips
Fingering
Squirting
Anal Sex Prep
Anal Sex
Prostate Massage
Cunnilingus
Felatio
Analingus
Pegging
Transgender Sex
SEX TOYS
Toy Cleaning Experiment
Sex Toys 101
Vibrator Guide
DIY Sex Toys
DIY Dildos
DIY Fake Semen
Cock Rings
Clit Stimulators
KINK
Consent and Kink - Watts the Safeword
Aftercare - Watts The Safeword
Large Object Insertion
Kinky Red Flags - Watts the Safeword
Bondage 101
Trans and Kink - Watts the Safeword
Rubber Kink 101 - Watts the Safeword
Chastity for Beginners - Watts the Safeword
Pup Play for beginners - Watts the Safeword
Breathplay for Beginners - Watts the Safeword
Erotic Asphyxiation
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isabellascarlett1 · 7 months
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No Queer person owes you an explanation for their Queer identity.
No Plural person owes you an explanation for their Plural identity.
No Disabled person owes you their diagnosis.
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September 26, 2022 - Congratulations to the Cuban people for voting in favor of the Family Code! [article]
The new code guarantees the right of all people to form a family without discrimination, legalizing same sex marriage and allowing same sex couples to adopt children. Under the new code, parental rights will be shared among extended and non-traditional family structures that could include grandparents, step parents and surrogate mothers. The code also adds novelties such as prenuptial agreements and assisted reproduction.
The Code promotes equal distribution of domestic responsibilities amongst men and women and extends labor rights to those who care full-time for children, the elderly, or people with disabilities. The code establishes the right to a family life free from violence, one that values ​​love, affection, solidarity and responsibility. It codifies domestic violence penalties, and promotes comprehensive policies to address gender-based violence.
The Code also outlaws child marriage and corporal punishment, stating that parents will have “responsibility” instead of “custody” of children, and will be required to be “respectful of the dignity and physical and mental integrity of children and adolescents.” It also asserts that parents should grant maturing offspring more say over their lives.
The new code also expands the rights of the elderly and people with disabilities. It recognizes the role of grandfathers and grandmothers in the transmission of values, culture, traditions and care.
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bigbeanbear · 9 months
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Nimona is also a milestone in western queer animation history because Ballister (South Asian) and Ambrosius (East Asian) are both of Asian descent in the movie, the same as their voice actors. They are a canon gay Asian couple.
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fairiepunk · 10 months
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THIS!!! This is what Trans Joy looks like!!!
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I legally changed my name today, and I’m just so so happy. I feel like the weight of the world has been lifted from my shoulders.
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the-intuitive-divine · 8 months
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as a reminder, since a TERF tried to follow me, you aren't allowed here 😄👍
my blog is a safe place for all of my LGBTQIA+ brothers, sisters, and siblings.
i do NOT tolerate homophobia, transphobia, ableism, sexism, racism, anti-semitism, xenophobia, etc. and if i see it on your blog when you like my posts, reblog, or try to follow me - you WILL be blocked.
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melandrops · 4 months
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hollywood could never top the casual but meaningful representation that horror fiction podcasts have
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"Yes, it's true: I was the type of young femme who managed the girls basketball team in high school, just to be able to take in the sight of all those butches parading their muscles up and down the court. I found Girl Scout camp to be femme heaven and reveled in being able to explore my athletic self and still maintain my femmeness. And, to my horror, I have to admit pushing Tina away from my breasts in the back seat of a Buick while attending Mount Saint Mary Seminary. And then there was feminism... Although I came out as a "gay" woman before reading The Feminine Mystique, the seventies brand of white feminism had me trimming my nails and cutting off my hair. Soon I was outfitted in farmer jeans and high tops. And still I was told by my "sisters" that I didn't "look like a dyke" (read: I didn't look butch). I began to lead two lives- one as an outrageous, skirted, lipsticked femme while I worked in and traveled with carnivals, and another as an imitation butch back home in the women's community. Eventually, I pulled the pieces of my being back together and proclaimed boldly, "I am a working-class lesbian femme." So I had maybe six years reveling in unleashing my seductive femme self when, as lives go, mine changed: slowly at first and then more dramatically. Recurring back pain and limited range of mobility were finally diagnosed. Soon after came decreased mobility. No more mountain climbing. No long mall walks in search of the perfect piece of sleaze. No more standing against kitchen walls being gloriously fucked by some handsome butch. I stopped using alcohol and drugs, became ill with what is now known as CFIDS (Chronic Fatigue Immune Dysfunction Syndrome), and began to use a three-wheeled power chair. The more disabled I became, the more I mourned the ways my sexual femme self had manifested through the nondisabled me: cruising at the local lezzie bar, picking up a dyke whose eyes refuse to stray from mine, dancing seductively, moving all of me for all of her. Cooking: love and suggestion neatly tucked into the folds of a broccoli quiche. Serving my date in varying, sleazy clothing, removing layers as the meal and our passion progressed. And making love... feeling only pleasure as my hips rose and fell under the weight of her. Accomplishment and pride smirked across my face as her wrists finally submitted to the pressure of strong persistent hands. There are the ways I knew to be femme, to be the essence of me.
It's been five years now since I began using my wheelchair. I am just awakening to a new reclamation of femme. Yes. I still grieve the way I was, am still often unsure how this femme with disabilities will act out her seduction scenes. I still marvel when women find passion amidst the chrome and rubber that is now a part of me.
There have been numerous dates, lovers, relationships, sexual partners, and fliterations along the way. Cindy, Jenny, Ellie, Emma, Diane, Dorothy, Gail, June, Clove, Lenny, Cherry, Diana, Sarah I, and Sarah II. You have all reminded me in your own subtle or overt, quit or wild ways that I am desirable, passionate, exciting, wanted.
Yes I am an incredibly sexual being. An outrageous, loud mouthed femme who's learning to dress, dance, cook, and seduce on wheels; finding new ways to be gloriously fucked by handsome butches and aggressive femmes. I hang out with more sexual outlaws now- you know, the motorcycle lesbians who see wheels and chrome between your legs as something exciting, the leather women whose vision of passion and sexuality doesn't exclude fat, disabled me.
Ableism tells us that lesbians with disability are asexual. (When was the last time you dated a dyke who uses a wheelchair?) Fat oppression insists that thin is in and round is repulsive. At times, these voices become very loud, and my femme, she hid quietly amidts the lists.
Now my femme is rising again. The time of doubt, fear, and retreat has passed. I have found my way out of the lies and oppression and have moved into a space of loving and honoring the new femme who has emerged. This lesbian femme with disabilities is wise, wild, wet, and wanting. Watch out.
-"Reclaiming femme... Yet again" Mary Francis Platt, The Persistent Desire (Edited by Joan Nestle) (1992)
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genderqueerdykes · 7 days
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homeless disabled trans person needs help paying for hotel, storage unit & phone while government assistance housing program keeps delaying their move in date
March 21st, 3/21/2024: hello, I'm equinox or Johnny, I'm a severely multiply disabled trans person living in a hotel right now due to not being able to afford apartments on the housing market right now. i have a guaranteed apartment through a government assistance program, but their compliance team keeps delaying my move in date because they cannot figure out how to calculate my earned income because i am self employed. they have been running me in circles asking for the exact same information for six months and have been becoming increasingly more condescending and rude as I've pointed out that they're asking for information i physically cannot provide, like "bank statements" for GoFundMe, a fundraiser website that considers all money earned personal gifts, and tumblr bank statements.
i haven't been able to get my hormones in weeks.
i was promised to move into my apartment on the 7th, then the 11th of this month, and it was requested of me to put the electricity bill in my name so I could get moved in as soon as possible. I did this and now i have a $20 electric bill in my name because they've delayed for so long. my unit has been sitting empty for 6 months and now I'm expected to pay for the electricity that is running in a 1 bedroom apartment I'm not living in.
i have been homeless for 6 months straight. i have been living in my hotel for 2 months. my hotel has been without WiFi for a month which forced me to get a Tracfone with a data plan so I can do my job and communicate with this apartment complex via email. i unfortunately need to buy more data because this has taken so long. most of my possessions including large portions of my stock and shipping supplies are in my storage unit, of which the $78 bill is due in 3 days.
the hotel I'm staying at is normally $40/night but the prices are skyrocketing this weekend because this is a very cheap hotel due to its low rates. i can't afford any of these nights independently of each other, let alone altogether, and it's Thursday and i haven't heard a single word about my move in date.
i have been depressed and crying for days, i cracked a tooth from clenching my teeth and i haven't been sleeping due to stress and nightmares. anything helps. thank you for taking the time to read and support and share. everyone has kept me housed for 2 months so far. i owe you all so much
cash app: $glitterGraphix
venmo: @ Equinoxian
chime: @ Equinoxian
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notabled-noodle · 2 years
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more examples of the intersection of ableism and queerphobia
JK Rowling’s essay about trans men specifically talked about how autistic girls are being lead astray by the trans movement
in some jurisdictions, people with cognitive and/or intellectual disabilities are not allowed to medically transition at all
again, psychotic people constantly being questioned about whether their identity is a delusion/hallucination or not
queer spaces not being accessible for those who use mobility aids (particularly wheelchairs)
disabled people not having access to sex education that specifically educates them on having sex whilst disabled — and abled people not bothering to learn the same
the concept that having someone who is both disabled and queer is “bad representation” somehow. constant messaging that you’re either one or the other and can’t be both
ideas in the queer community about what the queer lifestyle looks like often does not consider that the lifestyle is impossible for people who use mobility aids and/or have a carer
I could go on and on. disabled people are constantly excluded from queer movements and queer people are often excluded from disability movements. we’re ignored. we’re pushed aside. our needs are put in the “too hard” basket, and we’re not given necessary supports to live a happy life as a queer disabled person
do not tag this “q slur” or similar
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A COMPREHENSIVE SEX-ED GUIDE
All resources linked were vetted by me, general resources are queer and disability inclusive, and cover the topic of abuse. Intersex resources are labelled by topic.
Text Resources
Scarleteen is a great youth focused platform, with everything from the basics to kink ed. Easy to navigate with an excellent search function.
For Planned Parenthood's sex-ed resources you can go to the LEARN menu.
Video Resources
AMAZE is a comprehensive catalogue of video resources.
Dr. Lindsey Doe runs the YouTube Channel Sexplanations, I have recommended her before and will continue to do so, also here on Tumblr @tumblingdoe
Pup Amp and Mr Christopher present Watts The Safeword, they tackle lgbtq+ sex ed and kink education/safety. If it's queer or kinky they have likely covered it.
Intersex Specific Resource
Intersex Human Rights Australia
some information may be region specific, but IHRA are the organisation I'm familiar with and that I trust
What is Intersex?
Intersex Youth
Intersex for Allies
Intersex people and Covid 19
Intersex for Parents
Bodily Integrity
Genomics and Genetic Selection (Eugenics)
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yinza · 8 months
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I wanted to try putting together some queer couples in this style...
Stickers available in my Etsy shop, and prints via Inprnt!
[Image Description: A set of six flat-color drawings in a simple style. From left to right, top to bottom: 1, against the trans flag: a thin white person with a blue undercut holding a fat black woman bridal style. The black woman wears a pink flannel over a red shirt and jean shorts and red sneakers.
2, against the pan flag: a thin black man in a wheelchair with hot pink accents, his clothes in the corresponding purple and blue of the bi flag. Beside him walks a thin black woman in a white dress holding a rainbow umbrella.
3, against the gay man flag: two South Asian men in salwar kameez stand holding hands with their foreheads touching. The one on the left is wearing trans colors.
4, against the lesbian flag: a chubby South Asian woman with long dark hair and glasses sits embracing a petite East Asian woman with short hair. Together their outfits comprise the colors of the flag.
5, against the polyamorous flag: a chubby freckled Latina woman with long wavy hair and a skinny white person with a shaved head, tattoos, and a prosthetic leg stand embracing a hijabi woman between them. The two on the outside have outfits with the colors of the aroace flag, while the hijabi woman wears aromantic colors.
6, against the nonbinary flag: a fat white person with a grey beard and ponytail, using a forearm crutch, and a mid-size black man with long greying hair who is gently touching his partner's face. The black man wears ace colors, while the white person wears nonbinary ones. /end ID]
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