#gender differences

[alwaysbewoke]

#Dating #women and their hints #hints #immature women #communication #understanding #gender differences #legal clarity #relationship dynamics #misunderstandings #speaking up #clarity needed #mutual understanding #communication breakdown #relationship struggles #gender roles #legal consent #consent awareness.

[mental-mona]

#migraine #gender differences #infographic #mham #men vs women

[ranger-rai]

Are Nidoking and Nidoqueen actually different species?

No, they are of the same species.

They are all of the same evolutionary line. It's just Sexual Dimorphism.

This is when male and females of a species have different appearances and even characteristics at maturity.

Pyroar has this in its male and female forms, Unpheasant as well, with the males being much more show-off and put on displays with their bright colors.

The Nidoran line is very unique as the dimorphism is pretty drastic in their final forms to the point where their 2nd and final forms are classified differently.

It's just how their line grows, and that isn't to say that there aren't more aggressive and bulkier Nidoqueens and much smaller and more docile Nidokings.

To sum it up, no, they aren't different species. They are just a prime example of how drastic dimorphism can be in a species line, and you should look for any other differences in species.

#ranger rai #pokemon ranger #the ranger base #pokemon #ask me anything #ask me a question #nidoran #nidoqueen #nidoking #Dimorphism #gender differences #pokemon facts #the studies on this topic are really interesting #but some of the researchers are weird #i dont wanna talk aboit it

[ophilosoraptoro]

How Male Minimalism Threatens the US Economy

#economy #politics #gender politics #minimalism #money #families #gender differences #Youtube

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

By: David C. Geary

Published: Dec 3, 2022

Many human sex differences are now acknowledged, but their origin and practical importance continue to be vigorously debated [1, 2]. The default assumption among many social scientists and much of the lay public seems to be that any differences are largely (or perhaps entirely) the result of social factors, such as stereotypes or gender role expectations for boys and men and girls and women [3]. For some, these beliefs are comforting because they provide a sense of control over matters that are important to them, and an expectation that with appropriate social policies and shifts in social mores, sex differences in culturally important outcomes (e.g., the numbers of women and men in computer science and engineering) will eventually disappear. One implication of this assumption is that sex differences that vary across time and place must per force be driven by social rather than biological factors.

However, the expression of many traits that facilitate reproductive competition for mates and drive mate choices have evolved to signal the underlying genetic and physical health of the individual, and thus their expression can vary across individuals, contexts, and time [4, 5]. For people, social factors, including formal laws (e.g., prohibition of polygynous marriages), informal social mores, and wealth and political developmental (e.g., broad legal rights) are also associated with variation in the magnitude of sex differences for multiple traits [6]. But while these social and contextual factors can both restrict or facilitate the expression of biologically based sex difference, they do not create them.      

Biological Constraints

Darwin’s [7] sexual selection, that is, the social dynamics that emerge with intrasexual competition for mates and intersexual choice of mating partners, is the primary source of sex differences across species [for review see 8]. Sexual selection results in the evolution of traits that support competition and choice, and the evolutionary emergence of sex differences for these traits, as illustrated in Figure 1.

[ Figure 1: The male kudu (Tragelaphus strepsiceros) from The descent of man, and selection in relation to sex, Vol. II, by C. Darwin, 1871, London, John Murray, p. 255. Males compete by locking horns and pulling and pushing each other as a display of physical strength and stamina. Females are hornless. ]

These traits can be physical (e.g., body weight), ornamental (e.g., colorful plumage), behavioral (e.g., mating displays), or supported by brain and cognitive systems (e.g., bird song). The key result is trait exaggeration in one sex or the other. But this exaggeration can also create a vulnerability for the seemingly advantaged sex [4]. Larger, exaggerated traits consume more cellular energy (and result in more oxidative stress and other cell damaging processes) to build, maintain, and express, making them especially vulnerable to energy and nutritional short falls, as well as to other stressors [9]. By analogy, a poorly working furnace will result in a more rapid drop in ambient temperature in a 300-square-meter than a 100-square-meter house. Basically, the ability to fully express these traits depends on the overall condition of the individual, which is why they are called condition-dependent traits, and the condition of the individual will depend in part on social and ecological conditions.

The factors that sap the development and expression of these traits are well-captured by the Horsemen of the Apocalypse (Figure 2), that is, infection, famine, and intense social competition. Exposure to these conditions, as well as some man-made toxins, compromise exaggerated traits more than other traits and therefore reduces the magnitude of any associated sex differences [5, 10, 11]. There are, of course, individual differences within each sex in sensitivity to these stressors, such that some individuals are compromised more strongly than others, but the overall results are smaller sex differences for the population and more variability in the affected trait across individuals.

[ Figure 2: Dürer’s 1498 woodcut, The Four Horsemen, From the Apocalypse.  The first three horsemen represent plague (infectious disease), famine, and war (social competition), and sex differences in sensitivity to these stressors are common. The fourth horseman is death. ]

An example is provided by beak color in the male zebra finch (Taeniopygia guttata), which influences female mate choices. The color is a good indicator of the male’s current health and his ability to withstand stressors. Poor early nutrition [12] and intense social competition in adulthood [13] can result in larger decrements in males’ than females’ beak coloration that in turn signals poor health and compromised competitive ability. Similarly, exposure to certain toxins can have sex- and trait-specific effects. Bortolotti and colleagues [14] showed that exposure to PCBs (polychlorinated biphenyls) resulted in duller plumage coloration (influences female mate choices) in male but not female kestrels (Falco sparverius), and Jašarević and colleagues [15] showed that prenatal exposure to BPA (bisphenol A) disrupted male but not female spatial abilities (supports males’ searching for mates) in the deer mouse (Peromyscus maniculatus). In all these studies, typical sex differences were reduced or disappeared entirely with exposure to these stressors.

[ Figure 3: The red beak of the male zebra finch (Taeniopygia guttata) is an indicator of the quantity of carotenoids in the diet and the ability to efficiently process them. When exposed to stressors or pathogens carotenoids are diverted to the associated physiological reactions, resulting in a bleaching of beak color. Creative Commons License ]

Turning closer to home, we find similar patterns in people, as is nicely illustrated by changes in the sex difference in height with changes in overall health. Among primates, larger males than females indicates an evolutionary history of physical male-male competition. Our male ancestors were larger than our female ancestors going back at least four million years [16], indicating a long history of such competition.

By the logic above, variation in nutrition, disease risk, and social stressors represented by the Horsemen should result in variation in the magnitude of the sex differences in physical size, such as height. More precisely, height differences between the sexes should have increased over time as developed nations kept the Horsemen at bay with improvements in public health (among other factors) and be larger today in developed than in developing nations. Indeed, from 1900 to 1958, the sex difference in height increased 36 percent in Great Britain [17]: In 1900, the average British man was 11 cm taller than the average woman, but this increased to 15 cm by 1958. For young adults in nutritionally stressed regions of Nigeria, men are 7.5 cm shorter than their better-nourished peers, whereas women are 3.2 cm shorter [18]. The result is a sex difference in height that is 38 percent smaller than it would be if these adults had received better nutritional and medical care during childhood and adolescence.

Although much remains to be learned, there is evidence for similar sex-specific vulnerabilities in cognitive and behavioral traits. For instance, male-male competition is associated with more rough-and-tumble play (play fighting) for males than females during development across species [19]. In keeping with a long evolutionary history of male-male competition, boys engage in rough-and-tumble play more frequently, with more vigor, and with greater zest than do girls. The highest rates occur in groups of unsupervised children and in safe contexts, where boys engage in various forms of playful physical assaults and wrestling 3 to 6 times more frequently than do same-age girls [20].

Barrett and colleagues [21, 22] demonstrated that chronic malnourishment through the prenatal and early preschool years undermined the rough-and-tumble and dominance-related play of boys more than girls. Overall, the most active and socially potent children were well-nourished boys and the least potent were malnourished boys, with girls somewhere in between the boys’ groups independent of the girls’ nutritional status.

It’s not just boys and men who are vulnerable to the Horsemen. Girls and women have advantages in folk psychology (sometimes called emotional intelligence), that is, in language, reading facial expressions and body language, and in making inferences about the thoughts and feelings of others (called theory of mind) [23, 24]. I’ve suggested that these advantages have evolved due to female-female competition through relational aggression (i.e., disrupting the reputation and social networks of competitors) and the benefits of forming and maintaining intense friendships that provide critical social and emotional support in adulthood [25].

The nutritional deficits associated with anorexia nervosa severely undermine these social competencies in women and more so than it does for men with similar nutritional deficits [26, 27, 28]. Moreover, these women’s social competencies improve if they recover normal weight. As with men’s height, women’s verbal memory, an aspect of their language and social competencies, improves more rapidity than that of men, resulting in a larger sex difference, as populations become healthier and wealthier [24].  

The punch line is that favorable conditions, those that reduce risk of disease and poor nutrition and that keep social stressors in check, will result in larger sex differences in evolved traits. Ironically, these conditions are most common in wealthy, educated, industrialized, rich, and democratic (WEIRD) nations [29]—those that promote gender equality. The irony follows from the belief that the promotion of gender equality and overall favorable conditions will reduce and eventually eliminate sex differences [30], but it does the exact opposite.  

Social Constraints and Opportunities

The Horsemen of the Apocalypse are not the only factors that can influence the development and expression of sex differences. In many species, the pattern of sex differences, such as the intensity of male-male competition and the rigor of female choice, can vary with here-and-now social conditions, such as the number of competitors and prospective mates in the local community [31].

Social influences are even more important for people. Formal laws and informal social mores create constraints and opportunities that can substantively influence the expression of evolved biases. The imposition of legally imposed monogamy in WEIRD nations, for instance, reduces the intensity of male-male competition, resulting in less violence and crime, and intensifies female-female competition for high-status mates [25, 32]. These nations also create more social and economic niches and afford greater room for the expression of individual preferences and the expression of many sex differences.

As reviewed by Schmitt and colleagues [33], sex differences in many aspects of personality, self-esteem, and cognitive and psychological functioning are larger in WEIRD, gender equal countries. For instance, women are generally more cooperative and agreeable than men and men are more Machiavellian than women, on average. These differences are larger in more egalitarian countries. One potential reason is that religious prohibitions and proscriptions increase social cooperation and decrease self-serving behaviors in men and this in turn reduces the sex differences in these areas. The release of these prohibitions enables fuller expression of underlying differences; in this case, a decrease in men’s agreeableness and an increase in their use of Machiavellian social strategies [34].

Occupational segregation also increases in WEIRD, gender equal countries, presumably due to underlying differences in preferences for working with and helping people as contrasted with working with things [35]. Girls’ and women’s greater interest in other people and relationships follows from their greater investment in children and their need to develop BFF (best friends forever) relationships that serve as a source of social and emotional support. Boys’ and men’s greater interest in things likely follows from an evolutionary history of tool making, most of which is done by men.

Stoet and I found there were proportionally (relative to the number of women and men in college) fewer women than men studying and working in non-organic science, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM) fields, such as computer science, in gender-equal Norway and Finland than in Algeria [36]. In fact, the pattern was found throughout the world, whereby wealth and gender equality were associated with proportionally fewer women entering these fields. Women in less wealthy and less gender equal countries appear to pursue these types of degrees for economic reasons. As economic niches widen and countries become wealthier and more liberal, women (and men) pursue careers that are better aligned with their interests.

In a follow-up study, we examined the occupational aspirations of nearly half a million adolescents across the 80 developing and developed nations that participated in the 2018 Programme for International Student Assessment (PISA) of academic competencies [37]. In this assessment, students were asked, “What kind of job do you expect to have when you are about 30 years old?”, which we termed occupational aspirations. As shown in Figure 4, there was not a single country in which girls were as interested in non-organic STEM fields (e.g., engineering) or blue-collar things-oriented occupations (e.g., carpenter) as were boys, and not a single country in which boys were as interested in people-oriented occupations (e.g., teacher) as were girls. There was nonetheless considerable cross-national variation in the magnitude of these differences.

Across countries (median), there were about 4 boys for every girl aspiring to a things-oriented occupation, and about 3 girls for every boy aspiring to a people-oriented occupation. In keeping with our earlier finding for STEM degrees, for every girl who aspired to enter a things-oriented STEM occupation, there were 5 boys. Again, the ratio was larger in gender-equal countries. In Morocco and the United Arabic Emirates, respectively, there were 1.5 and 1.7 boys for every girl aspiring to a things-oriented STEM occupation, as compared to 4.5 and 4.8 boys to every girl in gender-equal Sweden and Norway. These patterns mirror those found one hundred years earlier [38].

[ Figure 4: Percentage girls and boys aspiring to work in people-oriented occupations (panel A, red), things-oriented occupations (panel A, green) and STEM occupations (panel B, blue). Note that in all countries, more girls than boys aspire to a people-oriented occupation, hence all (red) points are below the line of equality (45˚); similarly, in all countries, more boys than girls aspire to a things-oriented or STEM occupation, hence all green and blue points are above the lines of equality. Creative Commons License ]

These differences were larger in adolescents from blue-collar backgrounds. Many girls from higher-income families aspired to white-collar occupations that were neither clearly things- or people-oriented (e.g., accountant, manager) or were higher-level people-oriented occupations (e.g., physician). The latter findings are consistent with changes in women’s occupational choices from 1972 to 2010 in the U.S., where there was an increase in women working in professional occupations but there was not a shift to more engagement with male-typical blue-collar or white-collar things-oriented occupations [39].

In other words, there are stable sex differences across time and place in many occupational aspirations and choices that likely result from deeper differences in interests in people and relationships as contrasted with an interest in working with things. In WEIRD countries there has also been secular changes that improved women’s educational and occupational opportunities. These improvements, however, are concurrently associated with larger sex differences in aspirations for and segregation into things-oriented and people-oriented occupations. As noted, these amplified sex differences are not restricted to occupations, and emerge in many social, behavioral, and cognitive traits.

Conclusion

The critical point here is that change in the magnitude of sex differences across time and place are part and parcel of the expression of evolved biases, and not necessarily evidence that these traits are largely or solely caused by social and cultural factors. To be sure, social (e.g., prohibition of polygynous marriages) and cultural (e.g., overall wealth, personal liberties) factors can and do have substantive influences on human behavior and well-being. These social and cultural factors can modify the expression of sex differences, but they do not create them de novo.

[ Cited references: https://www.realityslaststand.com/i/87578481/references ]

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We have to stop seeing disparate outcomes as inherently unfair. It assumes the same capability, priorities, desires and values. Such as that pay, rather than lifestyle or fulfilment or something else are the measure of success for everyone.

The most equitable societies are the ones with the least opportunities. When everyone works in the rice field for 12 hours a day, everyone gets the same result.

Reminder: James Damore was fired from Google for simply stating these unremarkable facts.

#David C. Geary #evolution #science #sex differences #gender differences #social constructivism #human biology #human psychology #human evolution #sex based differences #blank slate psychology #patriarchy #the patriarchy #religion is a mental illness

[capitalism-and-analytics]

If you’re “shunning” your child away from tractors, then you may want to question your capability to be a good parent...

#politics #Gender Differences #gender stereotypes #LGBTQIA+ #parenting

[falseandrealultravival]

Gender differences in creativity (in science education) (Essay)

Rosalind Franklin

In Japan, there have been many cases in the past where female students taking entrance exams for medical schools were given lower test scores than male students, causing them to fail, which became a social problem. Female students have a stronger ability to persevere in simple studies than male students, and many of them are likely to be better suited to become doctors.

In science, there are some areas where female students' special ability, persistence, cannot keep up. It's the power of creativity. The discovery of the double helix was the greatest achievement in life science in the 20th century, but the woman scientist Rosalind Franklin conducted the basic research for this discovery. However, she did not agree with Watson and Crick's discovery of the astonishing molecular structure of DNA, and she died and was unable to receive the Nobel Prize. Although she was able to carry out experiments with meticulous preparation, her ability to come up with ideas was definitely lacking.

This is where I see the gender difference in creative ability in science. Another example is Madame Curie, who isolated polonium and radium. Although precise and steady experiments may be possible, the repetition of these actions is what scientific work is all about. Looking back, Einstein and Bohr once engaged in a suffocating thought experiment about quantum mechanics, but I can't imagine Marie Curie joining them.

I think that female scientists generally lack creativity. To be fair, is the female mathematician Kovalevskaya an exception?

Even though male students have the potential to be creative, they tend to skip regular studies, so they lose out to female students. However, since female students lack the ability to think creatively, if they are educated separately, the negative effects of each gender will likely be magnified, so it would be appropriate to educate them with a moderate mix of the two.

Rei Morishita

#gender differences #creativity #rei morishita #essay #Rosalind Franklin #science education #double helix #Watson and Crick #Madame Curie #Einstein #Bohr #Kovalevskaya

[booksandwords]

"How about ten pairs of shoes? I mean, that has to be enough, right? Ten?" "Ah, Spence, it's different with the ladies. We need them to match our belts, our handbags, our skirts. And fashions change with the seasons." "Yes. Boys are so boring. Pants, shoes, out the door." "Although, it's not like men don't have their things. I dated a golfer once. He had 12 putters in his closet."

Spencer Reid, Jennifer Jareau, Penelope Garcia and Emily Prentiss (Matthew Gray Gubler, A.J. Cook, Kirsten Vangsness and Paget Brewster), Criminal Minds

From Childhood’s Hour (s7,ep5)

#criminal minds #shoes #fashion #spencer reid #jennifer jareau #penelope garcia #emily prentiss #matthew gray gubler #a.j. cook #kirsten vangsness #paget brewster #tv quotes #gender differences

[sinnohborn-trainer-evan]

I can't believe they still maintain that extremely subtle gender difference with Torchic, the males having that very tiny dot on their butts

#pokemon #diamond #pearl #brilliant diamond #shining pearl #torchic #gender differences #bdsp #dp

[academicelephant]

There's this article by Rotkirch where she presents data from United Nations Marital database and UN data that shows that most (approximately 70% based on the graph presented there) of 20-24 years old women are single. The union status does change quite quickly though, as in the age group of 25-29, approximately 40% aren't with anyone and when it comes to 30-34 years olds, the persentage of single women is approximately 25%. After the age of 50, mostly less than 10% of women are alone.

When we look at the situation with men, however, the numbers are quite different. Most of the men between the ages of 20-24 are single as well, but the persentage for them is approximately 85, which is 15% more than in the case of women. Interestingly enough, approximately 55-60% of 25-29 years old men don't have a partner, and approximately 35% of 30-34 years olds also don't have anybody. When it comes to over 50 years olds, the presentage of single men is between 10 and 20.

These numbers are from UK and Norway and the year was 2011 but I would suppose the situation follows a similar course in other western countries too. Of course, things might be a bit different now since the data isn't recent but I wanted to share this anyway because I think it is interesting. The differences between the genders are higher than I would have imagined, by a lot, in fact. Especially the numbers of single men in the age group of 25-29 surprised me because it indeed is very high. I guess they don't call it 'epidemic of loneliness' for no reason.

Rotkirch, A. What are couples made of? Union formation in high-income societies in the book Human Evolutionary Demography, edited by Burger, Lee and Sear

#university #studying #research #science #human behaviour #intimate relationships #gender differences

[meridian-street]

Conversations With My Wife: It's Not Really My Choice Edition

To help you understand this conversation, my wife does 95% of the grocery shopping by herself. When she buys ice cream it is virtually always vanilla. That is fine with me because we have toppings at home that I can add. 

The following conversation took place when I was shopping with her in the ice cream aisle.

Wife: You want to get ice cream?

Me: Sure.

Wife: What kind do you want?

Me: We can just get vanilla. We have toppings.

Wife: You can get something different. Pick out something you want.

Me: I don't care. I like everything.

Wife: Just pick out something. Anything is okay with me.

Me: Okay. How about Tin Roof Sundae? It has chocolate covered peanuts in it.

Wife: We have chocolate and peanuts at home and can add our own.

Me: Okay, let's get Neapolitan.

Wife: I don't like Neapolitan. It's got strawberry ice cream.

Me: Okay, how about Moose Tracks?

Wife: Mmmm, we could (clearly not happy).

Me: Let's just get vanilla.

Wife: If you want.

Me: Okay, vanilla. 

(I reach for vanilla ice cream.)

Wife: Not that vanilla, get the one with vanilla beans.

#wife #gender differences #Sound famliar #marriage #communication

[krisdorian]

(Sometimes I worry that I fall into this category, but then I remember that most men instead call me the most reasonable and insightful woman they've met which is the polar opposite of argumentative…)

Men and women have been inversed. Masculine traits are discouraged in men and feminine traits are discouraged in women. So women become masculine and men become feminine. And they do so because they compliment each other and will always respond to each others' polarity.

A loudmouth masculine woman, if she has any sense will girlify herself right before your very eyes when you outmasculine her.

Just like there can only be one angry person in a conversation; forcing the other to want to de-escalate, If you overtake the role of masculine and you commit to it, you'll push her out of it.

Similarly if a girl is being feminine, but you are also persistently feminine, she'll take on the masculine role because she's reacting to the polarity of your interaction. Or, if she's self-aware, she'll walk away.

But self-aware women are incredibly rare. If you want a woman to stop being masculine, I'd recommend experimenting with outmanning her.

part 2

Thomas Begen Well for example if you treat a woman's words with too much weight, AKA, overreact to her words or take anything she says seriously, she will respond with a masculine frame; the one she believe you failed to take.

She will start to become dismissive and roll her eyes in response to YOUR words, which she was what she expected to happen, but since it didn't she has to take the masculine role, because order must be established in one way or another.

If you are not establishing order yourself, she will become the orderly one, and she will resent you for it.

If she is in the role of already dismissing your words, then you are just dismissive to her dismissiveness. Which is pretty easy to do since you are the man, you have all the resources, so you can just do as you please and pay her no mind.

If a woman is being cold, don't pursue, don't react, take away your presence completely.

A lot of men seriously underrate the power of their presence. It's literally so calming to be in a man's presence, even if it's a feminine man. Women who do not have the presence of a man in their life are in a state of CONSTANT anxiety. Take it from me who lived with 3 other women and no men for 3 years… it's day and night.

Just you existing around us is valuable. That's what we don't tell you.

Ellie

#Masculinity #femininity #gender differences

[inkskinned]

the thing is that they're so fascinated by sex, they love sex, they can't imagine a world without sex - they need sex to sell things, they need sex to be part of their personality, they need sex to prove their power - but they hate sex. they are disgusted by it.

sex is the only thing that holds their attention, and it is also the thing that can never be discussed directly.

you can't tell a child the normal names for parts of their body, that's sexual in nature, because the body isn't a body, it's a vessel of sex. it doesn't matter that it's been proven in studies (over and over) that kids need to know the names of their genitals; that they internalize sexual shame at a very young age and know it's 'dirty' to have a body; that it overwhelmingly protects children for them to have the correct words to communicate with. what matters is that they're sexual organs. what matters is that it freaks them out to think about kids having body parts - which only exist in the context of sex.

it's gross to talk about a period or how to check for cancer in a testicle or breast. that is nasty, illicit. there will be no pain meds for harsh medical procedures, just because they feature a cervix.

but they will put out an ad of you scantily-clad. you will sell their cars for them, because you have abs, a body. you will drip sex. you will ooze it, like a goo. like you were put on this planet to secrete wealth into their open palms.

they will hit you with that same palm. it will be disgusting that you like leather or leashes, but they will put their movie characters in leather and latex. it will be wrong of you to want sexual freedom, but they will mark their success in the number of people they bed.

they will crow that it's inappropriate for children so there will be no lessons on how to properly apply a condom, even to teens. it's teaching them the wrong things. no lessons on the diversity of sexual organ growth, none on how to obtain consent properly, none on how to recognize when you feel unsafe in your body. if you are a teenager, you have probably already been sexualized at some point in your life. you will have seen someone also-your-age who is splashed across a tv screen or a magazine or married to someone three times your age. you will watch people pull their hair into pigtails so they look like you. so that they can be sexy because of youth. one of the most common pornography searches involves newly-18 young women. girls. the words "barely legal," a hiss of glass sand over your skin.

barely legal. there are bills in place that will not allow people to feel safe in their own bodies. there are people working so hard to punish any person for having sex in a way that isn't god-fearing and submissive. heteronormative. the sex has to be at their feet, on your knees, your eyes wet. when was the first time you saw another person crying in pornography and thought - okay but for real. she looks super unhappy. later, when you are unhappy, you will close your eyes and ignore the feeling and act the role you have been taught to keep playing. they will punish the sex workers, remove the places they can practice their trade safely. they will then make casual jokes about how they sexually harass their nanny.

and they love sex but they hate that you're having sex. you need to have their ornamental, perfunctory, dispassionate sex. so you can't kiss your girlfriend in the bible belt because it is gross to have sex with someone of the same gender. so you can't get your tubes tied in new england because you might change your mind. so you can't admit you were sexually assaulted because real men don't get hurt, you should be grateful. you cannot handle your own body, you cannot handle the risks involved, let other people decide that for you. you aren't ready yet.

but they need you to have sex because you need to have kids. at 15, you are old enough to parent. you are not old enough to hear the word fuck too many times on television.

they are horrified by sex and they never stop talking about it, thinking about it, making everything unnecessarily preverted. the saying - a thief thinks everyone steals. they stand up at their podiums and they look out at the crowd and they sign a bill into place that makes sexwork even more unsafe and they stand up and smile and sign a bill that makes gender-affirming care illegal and they get up and they shrug their shoulders and write don't say gay and they get up, and they make the world about sex, but this horrible, plastic vision of it that they have. this wretched, emotionless thing that holds so much weight it's staggering. they put their whole spine behind it and they push and they say it's normal!

this horrible world they live in. disgusted and also obsessed.

#this shifts gender so much bc it actually affects everyone #yes it's a gendered phenomenon. i have written a LOT about how different genders experience it. that's for a different post. #writeblr #ps my comments about seeing someone cry -- this is not to shame any person #and on this blog we support workers. #at the same time it's a really hard experience to see someone that looks like you. clearly in agony. and have them forced to keep going. #when you're young it doesn't necessarily look like acting. it looks scary. and that's what this is about - the fact that teens #have likely already been exposed to that definition of things. because the internet exists #and without the context of healthy education. THAT is the image burned into their minds about what it looks like. #it's also just one of those personal nuanced biases - #at 19 i thought it was normal to be in pain. to cry. to not-like-it. that it should be perfunctory. #it was what i had seen. #and it didn't help that my religious upbringing was like . 'yeah that's what you get for premarital. but also for the reference #we do think you should never actually enjoy it lol' #so like the point im making is that ppl get exposed to that stuff without the context of something more tender #and assume .... 'oh. so it's fine i am not enjoying myself'. and i know they do because I DID. #he was my first boyfriend. how was i supposed to know any different #i didn't even have the mental wherewithal to realize im a lesbian . like THAT used to suffering.

[selajoro]

i had a thought today (surprisingly)

Not too long ago, I saw a video on Instagram where a woman had to give herself a note from 1 to 10. She was very beautiful so I thought she would say 10. Well, she said 4/10 and I was very surprised, but mostly at the comments: everybody saying that her being humble definitely made her a 10.

All of this reminded me of a video I saw a moment ago where a guy (very good looking too ) was asked the same question, and he answered 10/10. In the comments everybody said that the confidence made him an absolute 10 or even higher.

So like.... It made me think ; to be considered a 10 (personality wise) should a woman be "humble" and a guy "confident" ? Would this very pretty girl i mentioned before be considered "ugly" if she was confident? And if the very pretty guy was "humble", would he still be considered the same?

Idk if the people who commented were the same (obv not) or if the tiktokers/interviewers were the same person, but it was the same content so likee.... yk

#no drawin 🧑🏾‍🚀 #rant post #tiktok interviews abt being a 10 idk #10/10 #gender differences #for sure

[larryhappiday]

Widowhood: Unique Gender Experiences and Support Needs

Grief has no regard for people or their status. Men and women both suffer bereavement at some time in their lives. The path through widowhood is not the same for everyone, and gender influences the experiences of widowers and widows. In this article, we will look at the distinctions between widowers (men who have lost their wives) and widows (women who have lost their husbands), as well as how…

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#expectations social #gender differences #mourning #parenting #role adjustments #social isolation #widow

[cipheramnesia]

Tumblr stop recommending me horny sapphic blogs that all say men dni in the pinned post, go back to sending me posts from the one that's just horny all the time please, I want the fat furries and the queer freaks that are way less respectably normal about me and my body.

#long post #feels weird to have this tagged important although I'm glad it resonates with many different trans people #dni lists are generally useless and rarely seen but i see all the saph ones bc I'm checking they're not terfs and its weird #but its just always weird bc they always are trans inclusive binary exclusionist and its like what are you doing #anyway its pretty much all an online thing but weird insight into the whole neoliberal gender politics #trans inclusive politics that still fundamentally are binary exclusively in action