#getting out

[ano-po]

Are you afraid of deciding on your own because you might fail?

Well, there are several reasons where you got that mentality, but you know it usually comes from your family.

Especially when they're controlling and narcissistic.

They don't let you decide on your life without their permission, be it buying a car, a house, deciding on a degree, your partner, even your fashion. They think they own you, and they should be deciding for you. This makes you dependent on their decisions.

Some might like that, but you know, that's not a happy life to live. Just following the path set by someone else. You are promised safety, you are promised success, but you look around and see yourself actually stuck. Not even your brain is functioning properly anymore.

You try to get out of their road, you fight them, and they will end up saying, "Fine! Get out! You'll come back to us begging."

That's actually a prayer for your failure.

A normal loving parent would pray that you stay safe, and that you become successful.

They don't care what will happen to you. They only care about the notion of owning you.

Are you still afraid to decide? Are you afraid to take risks? Well that's understandable, as you are just going out and are basically still a baby.

To gain confidence in your venture forward,

(1) You first must accept that failure really happens, and we must learn from them. Give yourself space for failure. A lot of people fail several times before learning the tricks of life.

If you want to minimize your failures, do research, observe people going towards the same fields, and always have a backup plan.

(2) Don't tell them what you wanna do. You might be compelled to tell them your next steps because either you're used to that, or you just have a big mouth, or you wanna prove that you have a vision. No, don't do that. They will implant a seed that you cannot do it. It will come off as 'I did it this way and I'm successful', making you doubt your process.

You have to accept that people have their own process. What worked during their time might not work for you, heck maybe it didn't actually work and they're just lying, because if it worked and trusted their own process, they wouldn't be too controlling and emotionally immature.

(3) In your venture forward, think about establishing your own place. Quite materialistic, but having your own place is a mental assurance that you have your own place to stay, and that you will not come back begging (as you are very afraid of that). It will be hard at first, all these legalities, real estate prices, and decision makings are complicated. You might get scammed if you don't research enough. But stay strong and well-informed. Always ALWAYS research. Why am I emphasizing research here? Well, because they never taught you these life skills, so you are parenting yourself now. You can do it.

(4) Let's talk about energy. Children with controlling narcissistic parents are always surrounded by negative energies. Do you often have consecutive strings of bad luck? Like printer not working when you need it most - kinda thing? It's a long psychological explanation, but you must invest to get out of that envelope of energy (it's just perception on life, but you know). To gain confidence and trust in yourself, you must look at the things you always get lucky at. You also need to venture out and believe that you get lucky on important things. For example, whenever I book Airbnb, I always get the best cheap places. Before, I would be afraid to decide on a place. I was even scared of ordering on Jollibee counter. Now, it makes me think that I'm good at deciding about this, leading me to believe that I can choose the best real estate, I just have to believe in myself. I just have to pray.

Remember, they are praying for your failure, so your prayers for success must be stronger. It's also helpful to attract friends and partners who believe in you.

This is the year that you must notice where you're headed in life if you stay. You must notice the negative energies so you learn how to escape it. You must gain confidence to walk your own path.

Happy New Year.

#i hope this helps because this us more like a message to myself #controlling parents #narcissistic parents #getting out #independent living #you can do this #unrelated

[guardianssystem]

Guess who finally has a new place to move into with @theharbingerofxhaos !

We're finally going to get out of here. We're finally going to get away from the years and years and years of abuse from our family. We can finally leave behind this absolute shithole that caused us so much fucking pain.

Maybe we can even finally begin to recover ❤️

-Sombra

#did #osdd #dissociative identity disorder #depersonalization #derealization #mental health #depression #anxiety #abuse #ptsd #cptsd #autism #adhd #bpd #npd #plural #system #getting out #leaving #finally #otherkin #endo safe #pluralgang #traumagenic #recovery #recover #trauma recovery #trauma response #abuse recovery #childhood abuse

[welleducatedinfant]

what if I dropped out and left everything behind and ran away somewhere nobody knows me

#feeling some Things this fine thursday morning #infant speaks #getting out

[howifeltabouthim]

She had wondered, she now realized, if she'd make it out or end up staying forever, trapped by obligation and inertia . . .

Curtis Sittenfeld, from Eligible

#stuck in a rut #trapped #i wanna leave i'll probably stay another year #getting out #make it out #doubt #obligation #inertia #leaving #quotes #lit #words #excerpts #quote #literature #the worst feeling #uncertainty #personal #curtis sittenfeld #eligible

[cardboard-crack]

Just a reminder that my first try at a Kickstarter is launching in four days. Please follow at cardboard-crack-book.com so that you don’t miss any updates. Thanks!

#Getting Out #Summer #Collectible Card Games #TCG #Magic: The Gathering #MTG #Cardboard Crack

[coexistwitheveryone]

I went to the new cathedral in STL, it was really nice I would say I enjoyed my trip. I took lots of photos. Me and my friends had a really fun time. Going out and seeing new things is something I’ve really been wanting to do this year and being able to was amazing!

#cathedral #artwork #old art #coexistence #art for others #life #explore #experiencing #see the world #try new things #nevergiveup #growth #vintage living #love #healthyliving #self love #self care #getting out #stay out of the house

[selectivechaos]

getting out

sometimes you just have to get out of the situation you’re mute in. yes, sm can make you mute around even kind, supportive people. but there are some situations where sm is triggered by people making you feel unsafe or unheard. in those cases, you just have to get out, rather than focusing on trying to ‘fix’ your sm. sm can be a defence mechanism; it can also be a wonderful canary in the a coal mine (meaning: warning sign) for things you may not know are making you anxious.

this is why reducing sm to ‘negative reinforcement’ is unhelpful. sometimes you don’t need to learn to speak to someone; you just need to get away from that person.

lots of people find their sm hugely improves when they get out of major mute situations. for example, leaving school, or moving to a new work, or leaving home. while that’s impossible for many, it’s important to recognise that sometimes the situation itself is the problem. that said, sm won’t magically go away once you leave those major situations behind. you still have it; it can still be triggered; there can be other situations - including ones that other ppl wouldn’t feel anxious in, because while it can be a defence mechanism, it’s still a disorder. 🌹🌹

#situational mutism #selective mutism #trauma responses #trauma recovery #actually mentally ill #getting out #negative reinforcement #defence mechanism

[tomsmusictaste]

Every² | One favourite line from every Every Avenue song (x)

Every Avenue // Getting Out

#every avenue #getting out #shh. just go with it #david ryan strauchman #joshua withenshaw #jimmie deeghan #matt black #michael govaere #pop-punk #lyrics #pop-punk lyrics #favourite line #Every² #and that’s a wrap on the ‘shh. just go with it’ era!! time ta start queuing up Picture Perfect 🖤

[koba843]

#hawaii #waimea #surfing #getting out

[baynton-nation]

Please do a costume gif set of the female plague ghosts from bbc ghosts 1x01, 1x02, 1x05, 1x06, 2x01, 2x02 and the 2021 Xmas special

Requested by Anonymous

The Female Plague Ghosts’ Costumes in ‘BBC Ghosts’ (Series One, Two, and Christmas Special 2021)

2019 & 2021

‘BBC One’ / ‘BBC iPlayer’

#bbc ghosts #plague ghosts #anya mckenna-bruce #anya mckenna bruce #jemima bbc ghosts #who do you think you are? #lolly adefope #katy wix #gorilla war #martha howe-douglas #martha howe douglas #moonah ston #getting out #the grey lady #about last night #bbc ghosts christmas special #the ghost of christmas #six idiots #the six idiots #themthere #them there #anonymous ask #mine

[imaremuslupinsimp]

trying to get out of a toxic relationship is one of the hardest things in the world to do

#toxic relationship #need help #mentally fucked #mentally drained #getting out

[czerwonywilk]

a great change and a great way to execute the idea

#gmod error looking ass #lethal company #didn't get to check out the update yet but i;m excited

[welleducatedinfant]

what if I went so far away and none of you ever saw me again and I fell in love

#having a normal one as you can see #infant speaks #getting out

[theriverbeyond]

Ideal work schedule:

I show up and am given a list of cognitively engaging but achievable tasks

I complete the list

I leave immedietly

#guy who is getting out of work at 1pm!!!! 📢 #tomorrow is my last day but u have loved this job. i love to leave. #trb.txt #i* have

[bronzetomatoes]

Why dont we all look at Andy

#look anika's talking! #it gets rough out here #(not any specific fandom. this is a general statement) #anika famous moment #greatest hits

[where-the-tumbleweed-plays]

Tumbleweed needs everyone to know that I am his most cruel and heartless mother for decreasing the amount of food he gets due to him gaining a third again his body weight over the last year no that is not all fur Tumbleweed you are shaped like a pregnant sheep!

He has spent much of the day stomping from room to room while yelling his immense displeasure.

#tumbleweed the cat #tumbleweed #cat #autoplay warning #video #turns out he was actually getting 2/3 cup of food a day due to a measuring cup mix up and more he's down to 1/2 cup per day