How to improve your self-esteem
If you tend to:
Compare yourself to others
Call yourself loser, stupid, ugly and other similar things
Downplay your skills
Not realize your worth
Think basic human decency is something you don't deserve
Overthinking every situation
This post is especially for you.
Self-esteem isn't just "confidence". It's being aware of your skills, traits, achievements but most importantly, it's having trust in yourself so you don't question your abilities and it's the realization that you can take care of yourself so no need to worry.
Some exercises I've read and tried that help with your self-esteem:
Avoid negations in your speech, especially when you refer to yourself. Using too many not, don't won't, etc can make you think negatively. Use affirmations. "I am stunning" has a bigger impact than "I'm not ugly".
Compliment yourself daily for 1 thing. It can be about anything. You can also write them down if you have a planner.
Say affirmations like: i am confident, i am capable, i am smart etc. You don't have to believe them, you'll believe them with time but just saying it out loud or whispering them it's enough.
Acknowledge your skills and achievements. Write them down actually, so you see that you're accomplished in quite a lot of areas. Reminder: achievements doesn't have to be "i won a national competition", it can also be "i learned to cook by myself", "i read 2 pages of a book during a very busy day", "i finally brushed my teeth after a week of depression" etc.
Your clothes and your environment will influence your feelings. Think a little bit, do you have a favorite hoodie, t-shirt, shoes? They make you feel good, right? Now, when you get anything new for your self, make sure every item makes you feel like royalty. Same for your environment, you want to have a space that you love being in.
Invest in yourself. Learn new languages, read new books, pick up coding, crochet a bag, volunteer at a shelter, gave a herb garden etc. The point is, get new skills and experiences so 1) you enjoy life, 2) you get out of your comfort zone, 3) you get new skills and views.
Take yourself on a date every once in a while. It's important to spend time with yourself and relax but also ponder what you'd enjoy to experience next. Being alone seems to be scary for many people but you can discover many new sides of yourself in solitude so have a break from the world every once in a while.
Your self-esteem is important because if you have trust in yourself, nothing can shake that. No one's opinion, thoughts or actions can influence your love for you.
The mountain just doesn't bow in front of a blow of wind.
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