Desiring love from someone that [negative emotion] you, aka HOW TO NOT BE A MOPEY P*CKME
You want to be loved.
But it shouldn't go at the sacrifice of dignity. Your dignity.
3 chapters: Lack of Interest, What To Do, How to Avoid Next Time
Signs of lack of interest (aka "he's not that into you")
Doesn't asks questions to you, even well into the relationship.
Lacks observance of you. Isn't proactive. He won't try to ancitipate difficulties and try to make your life easier.
You feel your life is now a bit harder than it used to be.
Doesn't do services, care. You don't feel pampered.
You tend to lead the conversations. (it should be the opposite)
You try to fill in the awkward uncomfortable silences.
You try to "win back" the initial sparkling feeling you had at the beginning, in any ways. You go out of the way to win that back (unbalanced efforts, you put in way more effort, much more than you would normally do).
You tend to become self-conscious ("What if it's my looks/weight/teeth/manners/what if I'm boring?"), assuming it's your doing. Don't worry I'm sure you're fine as you are bestie <3
You don't meet his friends, his family.
And if you do, he doesn't hypes you up facing them (p.ex."Here is my beautiful girlfriend Moira").
RED FLAG: His friends/family aren't that interested in knowing you (Sign you're "yet another girl").
He doesn't listens to your needs or desires. If you say you don't like gold jewelry, and he buys you gold.... Or if you say you don't like mushrooms at all and he brings a huge mushroom bechamel pizza home.... Run.
You feel he answers more to his own desires than yours.
You feel alone in the relationship.
You aren't sure he will have your back in extreme situations. (If you do, GIRLIE WAKE UP)
You feel some shame at the thought of showing him to your family or friends.
He doesn't do the "good morning/good night" texts. And if he does, you don't feel giggly.
After encounters with him you don't feel energized or happy, but rather depressive, down, sad, guilty, regretful, etc.
You find yourself engaging in abnormal behavior patterns. Stress induced behavior, your behavior towards other other than him changes.
You tend to neglect your own personal life, because you want to loop him back into "what it once was".
You find yourself disappointed in the relationship, expecting a GREAT thing, but find yourself with.... this. You feel disappointed.
What to do!? I find myself checking off a few things in the list above!?
You STEP BACK. Retract yourself from this dynamic. Wellness day, but from this relationship.
Take a few deep breaths. When was the last time you FULLY focused on YOU and just YOU? if it has been more than a few weeks, it's an emergency girlie.
What did you leave behind? Did you neglect duties, hobbies, personal projects? It is time to clean up your schedule and focus on YOU. Go, girlie. You need to be an individual, not his Siamese twin.
Make a thorough pros-cons to your relationship with him. Be honest and don't put in "fake pros". It's for you and you, and if you don't write it all, you're lying to yourself... Clown stuff you know. Include emotional, material, financial, social aspects of it all. Everything. If you checked off a few things, odds are incredibly high you might have way more cons than pros. Be HONEST towards yourself.
Then, if you went through all those steps, I'm sure you deduced what to do now. (If you haven't... read more of my posts) You only deserve net additions to your life. You better off single. Yeah.
Okay so.... what must I do to avoid them NEXT TIME?
Trust yourself: If you feel some negative emotion regarding a relationship you're in... LISTEN to this! You have HAVE to listen to this inner queen screaming you the answers. You need a life worth living, a life in which you're happy and comfortable in.
RUN when the inner queen screams to RUN. "Politeness" or "societal standards" go in the compost bin. If you're feeling uncomfortable, get UP. Simple.
Surround yourself with queen besties and only tolerate queen behavior. Pickmes can encourage one to ignore the gut instinct. They can tell you "oh he's actually fantastic", and the guy's breathing dust and mites. They create UNNECESSARY inner conflict. You need inner PEACE AND QUIET, aka, you know what is correct, what's not, you got it all streamlined up. Decisions should never be complicated. If you need one thick 40 lines paragraph at font size 11, or a 5 minutes monologue to explain yourself in your rationale, it's too much.
PRIORITIZE YOURSELF above everything. A great partner will be SO glad you're doing that because he won't have a decomposing mess in his hands at some point. Don't worry, he should be able to handle his own stuff. And this will naturally repulse those that want you all for themselves, those types that run women to the ground.
If you find yourself a great guy... STEPPING BACK and REEVALUATING regularly will be so useful, you throw a fresh, more objective eye to things. Reevaluation is KEY.
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Hi! Moi! I’m fishbred who deeply loves your art!!!! Firstly, thanks for posting awesome art!! Your art is soooo fantastic that I can’t express how much I love it. I feel really happy and jump for joy every time I see your new post…!!😭😭💕💕
So, Could I request for you…? I'd really really like you to request the Jimi Hendrix experience, please ...! I would like you to draw even just one of the members of the Jimi Hendrix Experience… (Jimi, Noel, or Mitch)
Also, time is unlimited! Yeah, I don’t want to push my request on you so hard. I hope you take care of yourself and stay healthy!!
Love ya!👍👍👍👍
Thank you! I don't know what to say so here is my honest reaction:
Have to say I love Jimi Hendrix Exp too but Jimi is too hard for me to draw 😭😭😭 (I know you didn't ask me must to draw him but I take this occassion as a chance to draw Jimi cause he's my hotty guitar god 🥺🫶❤️).
And I captured Noel and Mitch's features very well but Jimi's is 💀. But at least I tried my best and got a pretty good looking Jimi finally. So here you are 🫶❤️❤️❤️ (It's kinda messy so excuse me for that 🥲)
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I have a story about shiny victini
So I was playing pokemon black with an action replay, and through various fuckery I got myself a victini. And then I thought about if a shiny one would be cooler, so I got one.
Then the music began to glitch out. I ran into the nearest town to see if that would fix it and the entire town had whited out.
I reset my game to the last save, released my first Victini, and never touched that horrible creature again.
And that's why shiny victini is my second least favorite pokemon!
That's really funny, I've also had my fair share with trying to play with a hacked Victini. I tried the cheat code to make all the encounters Victini + the all shiny cheat code. Well, I thought just deleting the cheat would remove the code.
It didn't, so unless I wanted to just change the code for every pokemon I encountered, all my grass encounters would be nothing but shiny Victini. I gave up lol
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