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studentbyday · 8 months
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So. I downloaded a bunch of journal articles that were linked to a news article i read aaaand i really really wish they named their pdfs with the title of the article instead of whatever this is:
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opens-up-4-nobody · 1 year
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#oof. it as been a very very long day. so much talking. all day talking and interviews#and so far my feelings are mixed. bc it is a smaller university and its underfunded and cost of living is kinda high#and the town is small and isolated. HOWEVER#the faculty feels like a strong community and theyre all amazing scientists who choose to b there bc the quality of life is so high#they seem extremely supportive and the fact its small means that i could probably get around better given my intense anxiety around driving#and i could literally just walk to hiking paths rather than having to drive way out. and its fucking so beautiful. the clouds r gorgeous#bc theyre all conpressed by the mountains around this lil valley. also the potential advisor seems amazing. the grad students have good#things to say and hes excited that im interested in the things im interested in. and i talked to an astrobiology guy and he was like u#should apply for X grant and i would b happy to help u and the advisor is a former nasa post doc so he has nasa astrobiology connections.#so those r some pretty great things. i mean. of the schools im looking at this one would prob be the best for my brain tbh#i mean the uk one is too rigid in structure and i cant fuck around so much as at a us school. and the east coast on is hard to say no to bc#its a good school with lots of funding and opportunities to b creative but i would have to hard core get my shit together and hes quite#hands off. and id b living in the city which sucks. so like. i mean this school is kinda looking like the best choice for me. definitely#the healthiest. i mean assuming i dont fuck it up and get the offer after this weekend. but yeah. i mean im not fully in love i think#and the idea of commiting to 5years here is terrifying but id get a lot of support that i dont think ive really ever had. not that my#current boss isnt great but our lab is kinda disconnected. and i really fit in perspective wise in my interests. and id get to work at#[redacted] national park. which is so cool that i might have to unredact it if i end up here bc its so fucking next level#not that the national park i have access to now isnt awesome but. like its next level awesome and i could maybe wiggle may way into maybe#some arctic systems and i bet i could get my current boss to send me desert samples. so yeah i could def see a life here#but fuck i dont want roomates with all my heart. y does it have to b so expensive for a trash apartment? bleh#god. im so tried. so much talking. but a good day. and im going skiing tomorrow bc like thats a thing here lol#unrelated
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“Did you see what happened in class today, (Y/N)?? Right, I couldn’t believe it!”
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in-peryl · 1 year
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kind of tempted to buy titty tape and wear it to a science conference or like....a family gathering. idk I felt insecure in high school and stuff bc my boobs were always smaller but like.....I don't want them anymore
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angelfrommontgomery · 2 years
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One of my chem buddies throwing in the towel and deciding to teach instead of get his phd bc the grad student he works for mentioned he’s going to start pulling 18 hour days again and that was the final straw
To be clear this is not the chem buddy whose grad student broke down crying in front of him and said she begged to quit because it’s her sixth year with no end in sight but the profs wouldn’t let her leave
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lunas-side-anime-blog · 3 months
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Modern College Student/Gf Mikasa Ackerman Headcanons
Armin Version: Here Eren Version: Here
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scary goth girl that everyone is too scared to talk to but secretly crushes on
psychology major bc I think she had a tough childhood and wants to better understand trauma / help others
somwhere in the middle between Armin and Erin when it comes to academics
like I don't think she is as intense about grades as Armin is, but I also don't think she's as laidback about school as Eren
moderately studies throughout the week, but it's just basic note taking and chapter reading, i don't think she's afraid to miss a few classes though if she feels like it
only really crams and does all-nighters right before an exam if she thinks she needs it
i think she wears men cologne and deodorant and it fits her soo well, idk how to describe it but she smells powerful but comforting at the same time?
maybe like woodsy with strong notes of vanilla and cashmere
loves a black cold brew: no creamer, foam or sugar like she's so intense that way
i think she's that one cool girl who always walks into class like a few minutes late with a hot resting bitch face, AirPods in and a cold brew in hand
tall girl and I think her height is prob her fave feature about herself, like I can see her wearing more heeled boots or platforms to exaggerate it
wears lots of black and hardly any makeup besides some light eyeliner most days
doesn't talk alot unless she fr knows you, i think most people would just hear her say "here" for attendenace and that's it
doesn't go to parties unless she has to
I think think she'll only go to watch eren and armin. she knows eren loves to go overboard and armin will most likely get distracted so she takes it upon herself to be the sober one watching everyone's drinks
def a girls girl like if she sees another female in an uncomfortable situation shes jumping in, no questions asked
i can see her working out with eren so in my mind shes ripped too and yeah...most guys don't fuck with her
has a cute lil skincare routine, only has like a three step process tho since I think she has naturally good skin
she secretly loves facemasks tho and doing her nails with armin as rewards for studying lol
I think out of the main three mikasa would have the most instagram followers, which is so funny bc she doesn't know why she's so popular?
I just think her aesthetic and vibe is very cool, if her account is set to public she would quickly get a lil following
lots of secret admires with this one, men and woman alike
I can see her being BI or Pan too so like that's very conveient
other than armin and eren, I think Mikasa would be besties with Yimir and Sasha
i can see them going to concerts together, shopping, late night drives, getting food (at sasha's demand lol) like i think they'd be a chill lil trio
views eren and armin as brother figures btw, gets grossed out when people ask if shes dating them
obviously a very protective friend
the type of freind whose like "what's their name" when you tell her you're seeing someone new and within an hour Mikasa will have an entire report on where they went to school, all their exes, hobbies, pets, address, ect.
I can see her getting a masters tbh, I def think armin would talk her into it so I think they would be grad school buddies while eren finishes his BA (he'll lag behind them a year or two since he changed his major so much anyway)
Loves cats and I think she'd have one or two if armin and eren are cool with it
I think she would have a few tatooes and piercings, but very subtle ones she can hide since I think as a psychologist she'd want to be taken seriously
music taste is kinda stuck in middle school tbh, still loves my chemical romance with a passion
I don't think she'd smoke weed or drink
^^ not that she has anything against it but i think she just hates the feeling of not being in complete control of herself so she stays away from things like that
never gets sick? it's actually medically fascinating
Overall she's that one quiet girl in class who looks scary but is a sweethear and everyon'es dying to be friends with
As your GF
omg I think she'd be the best significant other tbh
I think you would meet her in a meet-cute way since it's always the people who you least expect to be cheesy
I think maybe like you accidentally tripped and made her spill her coffee in class. you look up an see this tall, ripped, emo looking chick and you rush to apologise and give her your drink in hopes she doesn't flip
shes like "...ok." and takes it. but then the next class she randomly sits next to you and passes you a drink and is like ... "i hope i got your order right?"
the dork memorized your drink akjglalg
after that she kinda keeps sitting next to you and attempts small talk, so you realize she's actually v sweet and exchange socials
which is great bc I think mikasa is way better at flirting over text than in person and you'd quickly understand that she likes you
First date would probably be a show, i think she'd take you to a local band she likes and would get a quick bite after it
I think for second date she'd like you to choose what you guys do and then third she chooses, you guys switch bc she's all about that equal effort
once you agree to be her s/o she'd gonna be so annoying on social media like she's def gonna loose some followers as she only posts you now
type of partner to notice the smallest changes in you right away
you give her a peck and shes like "why aren't you wearing your usual lip balm? do you not like strawberries anymore?"
in bed she's a dom, is that even a queston?
I think she's actually a brat tamer, in my head rn she gets a lil smirk when you act up and i think she just mentally notes what to punish you for later
mikasa views sex toys as allies not enemies, and yeah i think she has an impressive collection so buckle tf up
okay so she's kinda yandere (tbh i think most ppl from the aot universe are but esp mikasa) I think shes very protective and a touch paranoid?
like i think her past is kinda messed up and I can see her mind running wild with ideas if not reassured
so you can just oversleep for a bit and you'll wake up to mikasa practically breaking into your apartment to make sure you're okay bc you suddenly went silent on her
some trust issues too, would def be really upset if you didn't give her the passcode to your phone
doesn't like your friends or anyone else you talk to tbh, she just doesn't think anyone else has your back like she does and will always remind you
i also know her manipulation skill is cray being a psych major, I don't think she's as good as Armin but ik she can weaponize some therapy speak and make you feel a lil stupid (only does it for your own good she says)
doesn't get jealous but does get even
I can see the little shit putting thumbtacks in pockets or laxitives in drinks if someone dares flirt with you, she can be so evil sometimes i just know it
she isn't even scared of the aftermath bc she knows eren and armin have her back so she wants the smoke tbh
the type of partner to death stare someone from behind your back but when you turn around she's suddenly all :)
would love matching tattoos with you if you're down
think she'll be the quickest to bring up marriage too, porbably only a few months of dating and she's like "so when we get married-" and you're like "!?"
big spoon gf, you can be bigger than her and she don't gaf she's still holding you not the other way around
Overall a really sweet girlfriend who just wants to protect you and keep you all to herself
Can be a lil crazy at times, but she means well I swear !!!
Nicknames for you: love, my other half, wifey/hubbie
Songs that fit the vibe: The Perfect Girl by Mareux, Breezeblocks by Alt-J, Me and Your Mama by Childish Gambino
"You're such a strange girl, the way you look like you do."
"She's morphine, queen of my vaccine, my love, my love, love..."
"Girl you really got a hold on me, so this isn't just puppy love"
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(She's so hot omg I love her, i developed a lil crush writing this! Anyway srry the moodboard didn't include couple stuff, girlfriend aesthetics are way harder to find than bf aesthetics and the ones I did find looked nothing like her :( tell me if you guys like this series, totally open to doing more characters! not even just from aot, i also kinda wanna do demon slayer or hxh, also love jjk and chainsaw man but I didn't read those mangas yet so I may not be the best at it!!)
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AITA for disclosing how much my partner makes to an acquaintance?
For context my partner makes a fair bit of money at their job as an engineer. I have never made much more than minimum wage, work in a difficult field and am still in grad school. Essentially I have a net worth deep in the negatives from student debt and while my parents have helped me out on small stuff they are retired/partially retired.
The disparity of wealth in my relationship with my partner HAS been a source of strife between us.
In a casual conversation today, with my mom and some of coworkers who I know fairly well (I work pretty regularly with them and fill for absent employees at my moms work), they were asking some questions about my partner and our relationship. I expressed some stress in our relationship regarding funds and the disparity between where I am in my career/life and where my partner is.
My mom’s coworker asked how much my partner made so I told her. She asked so I told her. I didn’t really think twice - I’m pretty open with my own friends and family about how much I make and they are with me (I feel like a lot of young people are more open then older generations when it comes to salary) and I was also trying to emphasize my own frustration with some of my partners habits in our relationship. my partner is fairly obsessive with saving money/reducing spending which is obviously a lot easier to do when you make as much money as they do and puts that pressure very heavily on me despite our very different financial realities.
Also for more context - I don’t share funds or live with my partner. At most my partner pays for dates bc of their more stable financial situation - but other than that they don’t help directly besides offering advice.
Later that day my mom told me I was an asshole for sharing that as that coworker is having financial troubles right now and her husband is laid off. And telling her how much someone half her age makes is rude, since it’s a lot more than she and her husband make right now.
After hearing that I feel like I am the ass hole for being so willing to share that number since it is high. But I was not trying to brag (honestly if anything I was more using number to drive home how out of touch my partner is with what it’s like to legitimately struggle to buy food, pay rent etc)
One final note - I probs made my relationship sound toxic af. Don’t worry it’s all good - I’m all good my partner is good we just get into boring adult arguments about things like 401ks and credit scores. (And I’m in weird grad school limbo which makes trying to get on with your life annoying)
What are these acronyms?
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carltonlassie · 1 month
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Obviously this is in no way about anyone on my Tumblr circle but I was just thinking about a fallout I had w/ a friend and I was thinking, hm, why did that happen again? Was I being unfair? And then I remembered that they became a landlord (which, ass behavior but fine. whatever. you do you if that's what you want) but was guiltposting about how they grew up poor and being a landlord was the only way they can become financially stable and was seeking for absolution from the crowd. which. wow ok. But the fact that they were making 150k+ (and with stocks the total income prob came around 200k+) from a tech job on top of that made me so baffled at this nonsense. And then back around the beginning of COVID times they were posting about how it was their childhood dream to go on a bike camping trip (which, great, you go do that!) and somehow found a nonprofit to partially fund the trip with supplies (awesome! ur being resourceful!) but then they were asking for donations to help fulfill their dreams. And I'm like hello, majority of our friends are still working entry level jobs, min wage, are a grad student on a stipend, or getting furloughed due to COVID and you're asking for donations so you can go on a bike trip. While making landlord income + making 150k+ from your tech job AND got the trip partially funded by a nonprofit. And you're e-begging, selling your poverty stricken immigrant childhood story, from people who aren't even making any money right now. Please make it make sense. You preached about Marxism in college but where's your praxis. The hypocrisy. I just couldn't stand by that and be normal about it.
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quinnslogan · 7 months
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More Quogan's headcanon post S4 of Zoey 101 (cause all we want is reading about they being so in love 😭😍) sorry for the grammar mistakes, but I am not english.
-During the Summer break they introduced each other to their families. Logan is a nervous wreak, but he enjoyed see Quinn's parents stable relationship. Quinn needed a little time to adjusted to Reese's family dynamic, but she become really closed to toddler Lyric
-The last year at the P.C.A. they lived their relationship out in public. They are very touchy and super soft. They helped each other in Chemestry. Logan is beginning to become more mature and he want become a better student and friend for her. Sushi Rox and Vaccaros dates
-First time was at the end of the year in his room. He paid Chase and Michael to have a free room . He’s prob be more nervous than her. It was so special for both of them
-Graduation is a big party for everybody. He mentioned wedding for the first time. Quinn is in a crying mess for leaving their beanch.
-Quinn goes to Harward of course. Logan goes to Santa Barbara college to study economy. They go the distance during college years: he was flying to her every weekeend and they spend the holiday together
-After college's grad they lived in Malibù in one of the Reese's houses. Logan start to work for his dad, while Quinn become the girl boss we all love.
-They traveled a lot due to Quinn's job. Logan try to joined her. They also have sweet romantic gateaway trips
-Even if they are not at home most of the time, they enjoy curling in bed on Sunday morning, taking baths together and talkung for hours
These are so cute😭 Even though their parents have very limited roles in the movie Quinn’s dad was giving this is my son in law whether I like it or not vibes so Logan definitely had to do some work in the in law department lol!!
For college, tbh I definitely think Logan went to an ivy league or some good school but like not by merit. Logan’s family is rich rich and his dad definitely spoils his kids. I def think that he “donated” Logan’s way into a good school😭 Maybe not the same one Quinn went to but I bet Logan has a name brand degree.
OR my other personal headcanon where Logan does get into a good school bc his dad bought Logan’s way in but Quinn being the good influence on him she is makes him realize he wants to earn what he gets. This then leads to him doing well in undergrad and earning his own way to a nice business school for his MBA.
And ugh yes!!! Give Logan a job thank u 😭 I’m sorry being Quinn’s love is a 10/10 job I want it. But like more seriously…Logan being 30 years old and living off his dad’s money with no kind of job is just sad i’m sorry. I also don’t think Quinn would marry someone that unambitious…
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indvcible · 2 months
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don't mind me...coming to class late and unprepared. 😳 you can find more about rie under the cut while i work on eventually getting her pages up probably later than sooner soz. still going through everyone's intros, but pls hit that heart button down below and i'll slide into your ims to plot if you don't beat me to it!! xoxo, always super late girl 😘
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tw: mention of death
originally born as nakamoto yukiko (mom used to call her yuki before she gave her up to her bosses lol)
her mom was (and actually still is) the secretary of an up and coming cosmetics company who were on track of becoming super super big throughout japan!!!
(tw: mention of death) at their peak, the company heads lost their daughter (tw end) who was coincidentally around the same age as yuki
after a few years had passed, they asked her mom to take yukiko in as their own as they were in need of an heir and unable to produce more of their own (for timeline purposes, yuki was prob about 12-13 years old at the time)
to this day, she still has no idea what conspired between the adults involved in the discussion, but she's sure as hell bitter that her mom had given her up so easily on top of the fact that she was a "replacement daughter" and her "parents" never let her forget it
to say she was an angsty teen would be an understatement, but she never reacted outwardly or rashly. rather, she just acted as a lifeless doll, never really reacting much to anyone around her or showing much emotion around her "dear family"
this was beginning to raise questions throughout high society as the sato daughter, who had hardly (if ever) made any appearances when she was younger, had always been said to have been clingy but endearing towards her parents. but now that she was a frequent event attendee, the daughter was now the complete opposite
in order to hide the truth and keep others from digging too deeply for the dirty details, yukiko (now rie) was shipped off to study abroad in south korea, where she couldn't harm the company's prestige
there, she was forced to play the role of the perfect daughter or risk being cut off financially
for a while, she remained quiet in the background, allowing others to assume whatever they wanted to about her. at the time, she could barely make out anything they said anyway — she simply wanted her time in the country to pass
but then they appeared [subplot 7/muse l + m!!!] and changed her life around. now that she had friends that she found dear and could (sort of) open up to, rie was a bit brighter and expressed herself a bit more. their company also made a rapid difference in how quickly she was able to advance her korean language skills
when the whole "seduction" plan was brought up, she'd honestly thought it to be a dumb little game that she didn't care for whatsoever, but she went along with it anyway bc they wanted to do it
the one time she decided to act on her feelings and do something of her own volition to make herself happy, it ruins her entire friendship and rie is suddenly back to being on her own all thanks to someone she doesn't even end up with in the end
this incident makes her shut down once more and now she's beginning to understand that maybe her "parents" were right in insisting that doing what she was told and looking pretty was for the best. so she does just that and quietly makes it to graduation
the same thought process continues in the present day; she's become the face of her "mother's" cosmetic brand and is currently a grad student majoring in operations management, ready to step in and take over the company whenever the time comes
she does still see her birth mother every now and then, but chooses to ignore her whenever possible
plot bunnies 🐇
the only person she's ever come close to revealing her secret to; that her entire identity is a sham. but something always came up that kept rie from doing so
someone she considers a true friend. though she remains closed off around all others, you break down those walls. she's always ready to drop what she's doing to be at your side if you ever needed her to be
you were enemies in high school and you're still enemies now. despite doing everything in her power to avoid you, somehow you always end up appearing before her, proving to be a constant thorn in her side
a colleague begged rie to go on a blind date in her place, and there she met/reunited with you. can you two hit it off or will this be a horrible disaster?
she gets a little homesick every now and then, but your presence reminds her that she's not alone (req. muse must be from or have lived in japan)
current fellow snu grad students
one night stand turned regular fling
fellow models/industry workers
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moonjxsung · 2 months
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i’m super scared as well! but it’s my second semester teaching a course but it’s a different one now so i have to prepare it once again and most of the student aren’t in psychology so it’s added pressure! thank you for the good wishes!! grad school is def intimidating so i feel your friend so hard!
i love cute pc holders too!! i have a few fluffy bats (i have a jisung pc on a bat rn) but i really wanted to get some sanrio ones and pochacco was too cute to pass up! i’ve been searching for a badtz maru fluffy one for ages and have had no luck! where i live we don’t have any kpop shops either😭
i forced my bf to get into kpop lol he liked bts bc he though they were funny but he really liked skz (he’s a musician and produces his band’s songs) and he really appreciates that skz is self produced too! he also loves shinee! his bias is taemin. and he says his ult bias is jimin😂 i have trained him well😂
ahhhh i’m probs def going to get the pochacco plush, bc it’s too good of an opportunity to pass up. i have a few sanrio bab from like the first collection (my melody, chococat, keroppi, and HK). this’ll probs be my new hyperfixation and end up getting kuromi as well!
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Ahhh that sounds very intimidating indeed!! Sending you all my good vibes pookie, you got this 👼🫶
ALSO THE BAT PC HOLDER my sister has like 2 of those and she brings her Chan pcs everywhere in them! I have a few random ones from amazon & shein and some from local kpop stores but I definitely need to snag a few from Etsy at some point bc I’d love one with skz designs on it if I can find one. I can’t say I’ve ever seen any badtz maru ones either !!! Why are there no badtz maru things ☹️💔
GIRL. YOUR BOYFRIEND’S TASTE >>>>>> SHINee Taemin biased and Jimin is his bts bias?? And he’s a musician???? Marry him stat
YESSSS if you get the pochacco plush let me knowww !! I’m so excited for you I love Sanrio plushies so much 👼🫶🩷⭐️💓
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opens-up-4-nobody · 6 months
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#hmm its been an interesting week i suppose#very busy in a good way. but that is always how it starts. i make myself so busy and it feels good and then i wobble and fall out of my body#so im feeling wary. also bc ive been under sleeping more than ususal but im not really tired but im also not boiling out of my skin with#energy. i just feel ok. so thats good. but also a demon in the back of my head is always like: then stay up all night. lets see how far we#can push this. which is not good. and in fact ive been proscribed like basically emergency mood stablizers to knock me out if i start like#losing my mind and not sleeping lol. bc i dont wanna b getting ready for something big and like completely unavailable to control my#ability to think. and ive also been proscribed birth control to get a handke on my fucked up hormones. so we'll see if that makes things#less all over the place. hopefully it works bc im so busy i kinda dont have time to like freak thr fuck out#but i am a lil apprehensive bc like i can count on my hormones to make me feel things when a lot of the time i dont have much emotional#range. so its like fuck finally i can cry abt this. or like fuck this is so beautiful. but then i also cant function sometimes#so i guess i just gotta see what happens. sigh. also the typical frustrating in having to read so much. like ppl hear im dyslexic and r like#oh do u want accommodation? like literally wtf r u gonna do to help me as a grad student? it just takes an agonizing amount of time to#understand thing. i have my computer read to me and i suffer. theres literally nothing else to b done abt it. and fucking next week i have#to teach a fucking lab abt reading scientific papers. they have to read a paper in class. fuck off. those r the types of exercises that make#me feel so fucking stupid. like do this thing right now. read it right here and answer questions abt it. and i fucking read it and retain#fucking nothing. im fucking 26 and literally in my grant writing class i have to apologize to every person before i give them feedback like#lol sorry i can barely fucking read. i fucking cant understand language. its fine but it sucks. theres nothing to do abt it. it just makes#me mad i have to teach a class that would have made me cry as an undergrad. so ill prob hold their hands thru it more than the other TAs#will. bc fuck u im not making them read a whole fucking paper in class. fuck u#plus the frustration of not being able to express myself well in thr moments. like theres a delay in my brain so i feel so dumb when im#trying to convey myself off the top of my head. like give me time and ill write it all out for u i just cant actually process wtf ur saying#to me. also i probably spaced out for a sec so i missed part of the convo lol. frustrating but at this point its just how it is. it makes me#more empathetic when i have to teach i guess. like listen ive got all kinds of fucking learning probs i just wanna help u learn something#how can i help? fucking dyslexia. god. i dont wanna prep for class this weekend. ive gotta show up like yea i kno reading papers is hard at#first but it gets easier! fuck u. its worth the suffering if i enjoy to topic but its always suffering. but thats what i get for going into#academia. thr dr who proscribed me stuff was like well sounds like u have a stress trigger and ur a phd student where life is stress... u#gotta figure out whats gonna work for u. sometimes thats a career change. not in like a pushy way just like: if what u do makes u suffer#then wtf r u doing? and hes got a point. but in contrast to what i was doing this is a massive improvement#well see if its manageable. ugh. i just wanna draw#unrelated
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dreadfutures · 5 months
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honestly? if I've learned anything as an adult, it's that hitting someone I vaguely know up to be like "hey I'm planning a trip to your city, could I crash on your couch for a day? no prob if not, I would love to grab coffee otherwise" usually ends really positively
like people I met briefly at conferences, people who just are grad students of someone I vaguely am connected to, online friends. 🤷‍♀️ good times to be had
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wooahaes · 1 year
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i hope i'm not too late for the ask game! how about ceo! hoshi with minimum wage service worker reader? i've always found this trope funny - ☁️
omg no ur good! i answered a few last night before i slept for a bit and now im finally back after getting dinner <3 (as u can probs tell from the gap between the last ask and the one before it)
sdfkhdsf i both love and hate this trope bc i both would and wouldnt date a rich bitch. like eat the rich but also.... i would enjoy a money.
despite the nice place you work in, all you get paid for ur server job is minimum wage. the only thing stopping you from quitting is the fact that rich people tip rly fucking well half the time, plus if you laugh at their stupid jokes they'll like you more. insert: kwon soonyoung, the CEO of some company you stopped caring about minutes after you overheard business talk. for some reason, he always comes to this restaurant and he apparently always requests you (your coworker, vernon, says that he said you 'take really good care of him' aka you literally just do your job??? you don't understand it). but the guy does give really good tips (and sorta nudges for his partners to do the same there)...
so u and soonyoung are friendly enough with one another. he asks what you do outside of this (hobbies or school or w/e), you tell him you're a grad student, and hes impressed bc wow u must work hard considering ur always also working here during the day (to which you admit you switched to the online program for personal reasons).
more convos. sometimes he asks how you're doing and its genuinely sweet. sometimes he comes in alone for a lunch by himself and he still requests you. and then one day he asks if you actually aren't interested in him. ur confused, and he mentions he left you his number like... three times on a napkin. he even drew a lil tiger next to it and wrote 'call me! :)' too. ur confused and he says he thinks you're sweet and wanted to ask you out for drinks one day. u admit that u weren't the one to clear the table the last few times, and kinda outright say 'you should have just given me ur number' but he admits he got shy w tht. idk what else to put here rn but maybe u take him up on the offer for drinks and ur worlds kinda open up a bit more as u talk to him more genuinely. he talks abt the struggles of family pressure, u talk abt grad school n family stuff, and u just kinda find a home with one another through tht even though u have two very different living situations.
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anj ur fics are so fun and well-crafted i am a huge secret admirer of them who has been following u for a yr (and i respect the dilf prof anthony agenda frfr it's always the english depts too getting called daddy thank u for this homage) but omfg as someone in the humanities phd track, i cannot help but ask why kate is so young for a prof???? esp since almost all humanities profs start a fulltime teaching position at 28-30 yrs old minimum... i had a hard time imagining how 25 yr old would allowed to teach as a professor full-time by effect of her 'merit' unless it's some exploitative semi-illegal gag clause contingency hidden in her contract that renders her basically a 'pre-'grad student but w/o even their flimsy benefits n protections which actually usually is the case... 😭😭 knowing the dysfunctional politics embedded in uk and north american tenure systems, i unfortunately couldnt get past it! but looking forward to ur milf kate writing, hope u dont find this question too nosy or offensive lol (i enjoyed the fic for what it is hehe) i realize traumatized phds r probs not the target audience of this fic nor entitled to an explanation for why ur not reading and incorporating paywalled exposes of uni working conditions into a fic but was still curious if u were just taking reference from a different context or more ethical precedent of academic labor (which may ease my conscious reading it haha). tysm!
First of all—thank you! I appreciate you reading and being a secret admirer (tho I promise I don’t bite, ur always welcome to say hey!). I appreciate it 💘
Second of all—lmfao I was wondering when I’d get this ask or comment 😭😭😭😭😭 I just knew there’d be some poor phd student or some professor reading this fic who’d be like “hang on… what’s that?” and the answer I’ve got for you is let’s have a healthy dose of suspension of complete disbelief because it was the only way I could make this work 🤓
I wanted it to be an age gap because I wanted to write an age gap but I didn’t want there to be too horrible of a power imbalance that would definitely come with it being a student/professor relationship. That was just too far for me to personally go, even though with the ages I have them at, it would be the most realistic thing. Idk making them student/professor made me feel icky. I suppose I could’ve made her work some admin job within the university but I really liked the idea of them both teaching, and I originally planned on having him sort of rediscover his own love of teaching thanks to her enthusiasm. For some background (this didn’t make it into the fic, but I did hint at it); Anthony specializes in teaching a lot of western lit canon/comp lit things and Kates specializes in post-colonial lit/Asian American lit, and I liked the idea of her challenging his perspectives and changing up some of the ways he approaches his work and the things he assigns, and that all helping him rediscover his love of teaching as well. There’s a repeated theme in this oneshot of rebirth; how love can find us at unexpected times and make the world feel brand new again. I kinda heavy-handedly drove the theme home when he says I love you and I write that it washes over Kate like rainwater in spring—a sort of nod to baptism/rebirth imagery, a nod to rain being necessary for renewal even though she’s afraid of storms but the storm scene is a huge turning point for them, and rain and springtime and rebirth etc lol. ANYWAYS—all this to say, I really do try and make things as realistic as possible, because that matters to me and I like world building and tbh I do get paranoid that someone might read my fic and go “oh well that’s wrong, a mechanic would never say that” or something lol, but it is fanfiction land and I do have to make some concessions to make the story work in the way I want it to work, and I sort of ended up here lol! Trust me, though, I totally hear you; I was an English major myself (if you couldn’t tell) with a concentration in post-colonial lit and a minor in poli-sci and for a while I thought I’d get my masters or a PhD in the humanities and then teach, before a professor discouraged me from it bc ya know this is the US and that usually means a lot of debt and no teaching positions lol. But all that to say—I totally hear you! It’s not realistic and it’s icky if you work/study in it and know exactly what the dark and ugly side of academia looks like! But most folks probably didn’t catch that bc no one really knows what it’s like until you’re in it tbh. I tried to sort of make it work by having her have these two masters degrees (again, insane) and be some sort of wunderkind and exciting new voice in the post-colonial lit field that Agatha just had to bring on lmao. Basically it’s not perfect and it doesn’t totally work irl, but it’s not too big of a plot point besides getting them in the same place, and it’s not a huge focus, just in the background as they’re grading things or walking around campus, and I hope it doesn’t totally impede your ability to read it, but I totally understand if it does 😭
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goooood morning! it’s a WFH friday everybody cheer!!!! I have one meeting with a former student from 11-12 to work on grad applications but the rest of the day is project work which will be very fun. I am planning to do a long brainstorming + synthesizing + AY23-24 goal-setting session this weekend (maybe tomorrow?) so I think I can keep focused on discrete projects today. that way I will have some nice concrete ~deliverables~ to show for the week.
here’s what I’d like to do:
FINISH STUDENT LEADERS PROPOSAL. write opening context paragraph. make list of concrete asks for summer/fall at the end with short explanations. draft questions for the working group to discuss next week. move doc into sharepoint (my beloathèd). attach new link to meeting agenda.
FINISH DIGITAL STRATEGY PROPOSAL. I made a long list detailing the limitations of our current strategy earlier this week bc I was so exasperated about it lol but I think that’s way too negative and I don’t want to hurt feelings or bulldoze!! SO I'd like to rewrite the list in the language of opportunities (ie look at all these exciting areas for growth!). I want to limit this proposal to 2 pages and while I can tinker with the order/framing of content I’d like to convey the following: specific aspects of current strategy we need to change (bc not achieving desired results), a new purpose statement, a list of short-term concrete asks (redesign of launch page and search results page, pruning of entries, streamlining of submission process, proposed delegation of new work, etc), and a skeleton sketch of our fall promotion strategy.
ONBOARDING PREP. add a few items to the running list of potential projects for the new hire... maybe fill in some of that onboarding plan if i need a sort of mindless task to work on...
this is a big chunk of work and I’d be satisfied if I got through all that today in addition to this student meeting. however if I am on a roll (or if I get frustrated with the above projects and need to take a break) I can also think about winter course planning (look at sample syllabi, think about learning outcomes, brainstorm possible assignments).
rough timing of the day:
8-10:30 worked on onboarding stuff and work emails
10:30-11 comments on AU's draft
11-12 AU mtg
12-1:30 pick your poison... whichever proposal you feel least like procrastinating on. prob student leaders?
1:30-2:15ish make lunch & do a burst of pod editing
2:15-3:30 work on the other proposal
pod editing
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