it's ok to outgrow your interests. it's ok to outgrow certain people. it's ok to outgrow labels you once identified with. it's ok to outgrow old beliefs and opinions. it's ok to outgrow the things that you once loved and the things that defined you, because growth is part of being human. you've come so far. don't be ashamed of your progress.
If you cut down a forest and sell the timber, GDP goes up. If you strip a mountain range to mine for coal, GDP goes up. If you extend the working day and push back the retirement age, GDP goes up. But GDP includes no cost accounting. It does not measure the cost of losing the forest as a sinkhole for carbon dioxide, or the loss of the mountain range as a home for endangered species, or the toll that too much work takes on people’s bodies and minds and relationships. And not only does it leave out what is bad, it also leaves out much of what is good – for it does not count useful activities that are not monetised. If you grow your own food, clean your own house or take care of your ageing parents, GDP says nothing, for these activities don’t involve transacting money. It only counts if you buy these services.
Jason Hickel, The Divide: A Brief Guide to Global Inequality and its Solutions
Do not ever prioritise anything over your (mental) health. Not school. Not grades. Not chores. Not family. Not friends. I know it is easy to form the habit of ignoring how miserable you actually feel when you have so many responsibilities that need your attention more (at least that is what you think). But you owe it to yourself. You owe it to yourself to stop and listen. To feel what is really going on. To take time to heal what is really going on. Do not ignore the state of your body and mind, for it will only come back worse to the point that you will break. You need to realise that it is not what you deserve. Do not let the world tell you that you are supposed to feel this way all the time. You are not supposed to feel sick and tired, exhausted and empty, lonely and down. You are supposed to feel alive. So please make sure to prioritise yourself before making a choice to prioritise something or someone else.
Sometimes I get sad when leaves on my plants die, but it’s just a part of the normal growth process! In the same way, our personal growth won’t always be perfect- we’re going to make some mistakes and have some setbacks, and that’s okay. The fact that we are growing in the right direction is what will make a difference in the end.🌱
Don't beat yourself up for reacting in ways that don't reflect all the work you've been doing on yourself. Being aware that you still have work to do is growth, and consciously choosing to continue doing the work is something to be proud of.
daily reminder that you have absolute right to take up space. if someone or something had ever made you believe that you shouldn't, and had apparently felt it as a right thing, it's not. it's okay to voice your needs, to tell people what you want, to buy that ice cream or what ever shit your mind craves. ik it isn't easy to switch to this mindset for someone who's subconscious had always been trying to deprive you. but please please please let me tell you, you are a living being and you are supposed to take up space and put your needs out there.
A reminder for neurodivergent people to set your own goals and expectations and standards for yourself and for your life than trying to adhere to the ones that were set and agreed upon by neurotypical people.