#he doesnt have time to figure out if hes gay or aro or demi or what have you

[kaleidoscopic-quiddity]

ok nobody asked me to elaborate but heres my pjo a(ro)spec headcanons

piper: aromantic lesbian

the whole false memories thing with juno made shit SO difficult to figure out

like she was a 16yro girl, already struggling to figure out her place in the world vis a vi being nattive, being mixed, being adhd and dyslexic, and then her baby aro lesbian ass gets fake memories of a boyfriend?? 

her thing with jason was the biggest instance comphet+compallo attraction in existence okay

its not until piper gets away from the questing/camper life and subsequently, the aphrodite cabin, that she starts realising how she feels about romance and re-evaluating some stuff 

considering her relationship with shel, i see her as romance positive/favourable but she defo has some complex feelings going on there

speaking of, piper was so focused on the revelation that she was aro that it took her a while to figure out she was lesbian too 

she kind of assumed she was some flavour of ace for a while but other sapphics around camp clocked her and gently nudged her towards the realisation of ‘yes you dont feel that way about guys. but have you considered: women?’

piper: i thought not wanting to date anyone meant i didnt want to kiss anyone, but... i think.. i want to kiss girls 

piper bolting awake at 3am after a dream about her time on the argo ii: oh shit i totally was into annabeth wasnt i? 

leo: aromantic bi demi-grey-asexual 

oh gods leo valdez 

he has zero fucking clue he’s anything but straight and allo until reyna casually mentionsn one day that her and a lot of the other hunters are asexual 

he’s only ever heard of gay, bi and lesbian so he asks reyna what ‘asexual’ means 

cue the most epiphany prompting conversation of leo’s life

leo voice: wait so you’re telling me that there are some people who just like, arent interesting in sex, at all? and not only that, but ppl can feel that way about romance too? 

once terms like demi and grey start getting thrown around too he kinda has a freak out and reyna sends him off with a book abt asexuality and aromanticism + some awkward advice 

three months of introspection and more than a few breakdowns later leo figures out that hes aro, hes demi-grey-ace, and that that is most likely why his relationship with calypso didnt exactly work out 

(he also thinks the terms cupioromantic and/or quoiromantic/sexual might aply to him but hes not wholly sure) 

just like piper he had some major compallo going on, he just thought being ‘girl crazy’ was how guys his age were supposed to act and never questioned why it felt like more of a joke for him rather than his true feelings

he figures out the bi part once he goes to college and is like cmon man i already had one sexuality crisis do i really gotta do this shit again

jason: aromantic straight demisexual 

jason wasnt raised with as much allo/amatonormativity as other ppl bc he was literally raised by wolves then the legion, but juno yoinking his memories kinda fucked with that 

once again, serious case of compallo in regards to piper, he knew he found her pretty and liked her as a friend and didnt understand for a long time that a crush was supposed to be ‘different’ or ‘more than that’ 

jason struggles with his sense of identity and definitely has this strong heroic leader persona he puts up and well, the hero always gets the girl doesnt he? 

he died before he got the chance to really figure out that he was a(ro)spec (and that there were words for what he was feeling) but he knew he felt different about romance and sex than most other teens 

the fact that he was more worried about them not being friends anymore rather than losing his girlfriend when piper broke up with him kinda tipped him off 

he did have some pretty big queerplatonic feelings for both piper and leo though which in hindsight kind of explains, other than the trauma, why he bonded with them so quickly 

annabeth: biromantic asexual 

a decent number of athena kids are aspec (their mom literally conceives via a ‘meeting of intelligent minds’, no sex required at all) so she kinda slot herself pretty easily into the ‘asexual’ label after realising that despite dating percy for literal years, she had zero interesting in getting more ‘physical’ with him

(percy is allo but doesnt give a shit about sex if annabeth doesnt give a shit about it. he’s just happy to be close to her) 

precisely because of the fact that’d she’d been dating percy for years meant that figuring out the biromantic part took ages lmao 

it feels really obvious to her in hindsight 

annabeth: ‘oh gods percy i had a crush on thalia, i had a crush on clarisse, i had a flirtationship with piper, i almost had a crush on reyna’

percy, in the middle of his own bi crisis: i know the feeling wisegirl 

she doesnt really,, do much?? after figuring out shes bi, annabeth’s already happily in a committed , monogamous relationship, but it feels nice for her to have learned something new about herself 

overall i see her as sex neutral/indifferent, she doesnt hate the idea but its not something she’d really intentionally seek out

as mentioned, percy is pretty sex neutral/indifferent (but like, in the allo way) too so the two of them just never really bother lol 

quickfire bonus round: 

reyna, evidently, is our canon allo-ace queen. this isnt a headcanon i just like reminding people :) she’s also bi/pan oriented (she uses both terms interchangeably) 

thalia is aroace and has never once gotten what all the hype is about, she assumed people were joking or like at least overexaggerating when they talked about romance and sex 

artemis/diana is also aroace obviously (apollo is pan tho, theyre twins they balance each other out) 

frank is demisexual n straight

calypso is demisexual and demi-lithromantic, pan oriented 

travis stoll is allo-ace, connor stoll is aro-allo, they think this is hilarious

magnus chase is also greyromantic and demisexual, bi oriented 

ok im done 

#pjo #percy jackson and the olympians #hoo #heroes of olympus #pjo headcanons #hoo headcanons #any and all aphobes will meet a swift end #oh and percy is totally bi btw like fucking LOOK at him #og post // #*rubs my little aromantic gremlin hands all over your faves*

[pluviophile-imagines]

Could I ask what your sexuality headcanons are? I love comparing mine with other peoples’!

Ok second half of this; this is just like. non-students who i Actually have thought about HJBAFV not at all a comprehensive list. Again disclaimer i write all these chars as bi in my fics, also i am bi myself so the vast majority are also bi, and also leaving a lot of these vague so u can imagine ur favorite ship or urself or w/ever

ok lets start this off with Aizawa. I think....... hes another one who's rlly unlabelled, doesnt super care to think it through and define it, but calls himself gay bc his interest in women is very, very rare and it's just way easier to say than explain all that. Definitely do buy into the idea that he had a crush on Oboro in hs but i do NOT buy into the easermic agenda sorry. Definitely not someone who goes looking for dates, but doesn't say no if someone asks him and hes interested (also im not gonna give her a whole section but i saw a hc a while back that the Ms. Joke stuff is literally that shes a lesbian and hes gay and shes fucking with him and i love that so much i just wanted to put it out there)

on the topic of the erasermic agenda: Hizashi's pan and knew it before HS, had a sudden & intense crush on Aizawa for the first month they knew each other and then immediately got over it in favor of a similar sudden, intense, and then immediately fading crush on Midnight. Hizashi and Aizawa r just rlly good friends imo; maybe they messed around for a bit in their twenties but it never went anywhere serious. He dates around a lot, not even necessarily to settle down just to have some fun

Midnight is aro/ace but does get in qprs & gravitates towards women wrt that. Most people dont read vigilantes but theres a woman in that, Kazuho, who i imagine she's been in a long-term qpr with; her relationship with aizawa and hizashi leans a little more towards a qpr than a normal friendship, too, but it's not rlly defined that way

All Might is married to justice queer but v much not interested in relationships. He and that one guy from the first movie are ABSOLUTELY exes and i won't hear otherwise; it's the only relationship he's ever had, and they broke up bc he had to go back to japan. He was heartbroken but did eventually get over him; his lack of romance afterwards is from genuine disinterest and not being hung up on his past. I can see him finding someone else in his later years, after he's retired. Definitely feels like he's not worthy of it tho

Hawks is bi but unfortunately didn't get to figure that out until like Now in the timeline...... if youll let my dabihawks history shine through i think dabi was the reason JHBASFGJHB he was basically brainwashed by the commission to become a hero so he didnt have time to Figure That Shit Out; he knew he was into women bc that was easy & what the commission expected from him but then he started this undercover assignment and met dabi and realized Oh...... Fuck. Hawks is hard tbh, bc i think between the control that the commission has over him and his own convictions as a hero he doesn't pursue any romance (tho he does get crushes or find people attractive) and most of his flings are done to keep up his prettyboy act, not out of genuine interest in being a fuckboy. Can't imagine him having a relationship until well after canon but I do see him being interested eventually

Onto the villains, Shigaraki is unlabelled but probably would call himself queer if asked. Definitely admires women more but isn't very interested in romance; AFO actively encourages him to pursue the things interested in so imo if he were he'd talk abt it more lmfao. I kinda see him as demi as well, not the type to fall immediately but requiring a friendship beforehand; tho unlike Bakugo as i said in my last post I dont think it happens suddenly but rather slowly. Y'all know im a big fan of shigaraki being absolutely whipped for his s/o so i do thing hes a big piner, tho he's also pretty bold and unashamed of his affections. I'm a big fan of him falling for a member of the league or a civilian; definitely can't see him falling for a hero unless the hero was already halfway to turning sides already. I think he's also attracted to intelligence and someone who pushes him to think more abt his ideology...... maybe im just projecting at this point JSHDFBVAJKSHD but my point is that the gender of his partner is definitely the least of what he considers/notices

Dabi is bi and, here's my bold take, demisexual; not interested in sex unless its with someone he loves. Absolutely doesn't even think abt romance for most of the years where he's on his own. He's got revenge to plan. By the time he joins the league that hasn't changed much, and he's demi so he's not interested in sleeping around, plus he rlly denies any attachment to people at all. As I said in that other ask tho I do rlly like the idea of him with Magne, so I think they have a fling for a bit before her death :( it's one of the things that leads him to isolate himself further, unfortunately, even from Jin and the other League members with whom his relationships aren't romantic. I can see him dating someone post-canon bc i think hes gonna be redeemed lol. It could be someone he knew before but they probably didnt date again bc he was v guarded; i think magne was rlly the only person he dated

Magne is pan and heres the kicker: I think shes t4t, which led to a little moment just before she and dabi got together where he was like "she wouldnt be into me :/" but she was into him anyway so all was good. She got around in her circles, mostly casual stuff tho she yearned for something more serious.

Spinner's bi & trends towards women but does occasionally get things for men and they're almost always intense. He thought he was straight for a while even once he joined the league and then suddenly got a crush on Shigaraki (around the time of MVA) and realized otherwise LMFAO he's definitely a hopeless romantic type, the whole mutant prejudice thing makes it rlly hard for him and i can see him being rlly happy with another mutant-type; i feel like as he matures he starts to gravitate towards them

Toga is canonically pan to my understanding, iirc her interest in Uraraka and Deku is the same (and romantic) in canon tho i might be wrong. Poor girl just needs therapy. I like the idea of the two of them becoming her friends over her being involved with them but i totally can get behind her having a thing with Uraraka (and maybe Tsu) at some point post-canon (presuming she gets redeemed), tho I think a qpr between the two/three of them would be longer lasting. And again presuming she gets therapy i can see her settling down with someone, gender irrelevant

Jin is unlabelled bc he hasn't much thought abt it, definitely had a thing for dabi and for hawks which does make me sad on both counts. I think he likes women slightly more abstractly/aesthetically and gets crushes more on men,. The dabi thing fades as they get closer and start to view each other as brothers. In his later years he doesn't rlly care about romance, I think he enjoys the experience of crushing but doesnt like dating people; his found family in the League is far more important to him. But i can see him falling head-over-heels for someone quite suddenly and having a bit of a whirlwind romance. Also someone for whom gender isn't much of a factor

Mr Compress is also queer and also hasn't rlly thought abt it. Definitely leans more towards women; he's like 30 but i like to think he also goes for older partners, 10 or 15 years his senior KJBADSJFHB idk he just has that Vibe with the way he calls himself an old man etc. A lot of the league i cant see sleeping or dating around much, i feel like they prioritize each other, but I do think mr compress gets around more than the others. i can see him having a bit of a fuckbuddy who he catches feelings for

Kurogiri is fun; as Oboro I do think Aizawa's crush was reciprocated, tho he wasn't around long enough for them to act on it :( he's bi, tho kurogiri isn't supposed to have personal interests. I like to imagine the brainwashing isnt as good as AFO wants it to be tho so I like the idea of him falling for someone anyway. I also like the idea of the heroes managing to undo the nomufication and I 100% can see him, aizawa, and someone else (someone he was involved with as Kurogiri) ending up in a triad as a result of aizawa and the third partner helping him through the aftermath of all that shit

Lady Nagant is a manga-only minor character but im in love with her so imma talk abt it. Shes bi and leans VERY heavily towards women, probably spent years questioning whether she was rlly bi or a lesbian before finally having a fling with a guy that she genuinely enjoyed. Has only ever been in long-term relationships with women and I v much think she has a gf at home who stayed even when she was arrested 🥺

Finally imma talk abt Natsuo bc i love that boy. He's one of the few unmarried chars with a love interest and he canonically has a gf. I do see him as IDing straight in canon ngl, but the kind of straight where he might actually be bi but his preference leans so heavily towards women and he grew up in a bad home so he just doesnt rlly think abt it bc hes v happy with women anyway. In shiganatsu thoughts shigaraki is the first man he has a thing for; i rlly can see the two of them in a triad with a woman specifically, who helps the two of them find each other and is the one who initiates bc its definitely a weird situation for natsuo

#ask.🌧 #anon #pattering on the roof #char.🌧 multi #again these r just the ones ive thought about so sorry if i didnt bother with any chars u care abt ajkhsfbgsjdhfb #thank yall for asking LMFAO any excuse to ramble abt this shit #it does impact the way i write these chars #obviously #bc this is meta more than anything else and so is fanfic lol

[mediocrebnhablog]

Sorry tumblr isnt letting me answer for some reason

Gender/sexuality HCs for 1A (+shinsou-mineta)

Ayoyama:

Genderfluid is probably more accurate but if asked they'll say their nonbinary. Usually uses she/her or they/them but will sometimes go by he/him.

I think theyd be an aromantic pansexual with a preference to masculine people

Mina:

She/her cis girl

Shes definitely bi

Also polyamorous but doesnt consider that part of her identity to be queer

Tsuyu:

My gender hc changes honestly but usually as trans girl or nonbinary. Either way she uses she/her pronouns

Biromantic lesbian

Iida:

He/him cis boy

Demiromantic ace (not that it matters but I think hed be sex nuetral) with a preference for men

Ururaka:

She/her. Shes still trying to figure it out. Nonbinary is close but it's not quite right so shes sticking with genderqueer till she finds a label she likes

*plays Gettin Bi*

Ojiro:

They honestly perfer they/them pronouns over he/him but they're still a cis boy

Straight

Kaminari:

He/him agender

If you ask hes pansexual but he likes the bi flag more and bi jokes are easier to make for him so unless you ask most ppl think hes bi and hes fine with that. The distinction doesnt matter enough to him that he feels the need to correct people

Also polyamorous and he does consider this part of him to be queer

Kirishima:

He/him sometimes I'll hc his as trans, sometimes not it depends (mostly on how manly I feel that day)

Oh so very gay

Kouda:

They/them but any pronouns work

I've already said how I HC them as ace/aro lol

Satou:

He/him cis boy

Biromantic graysexual but he'll usually just say bi when asked

Shouji:

He/they genderqueer

Pan romantic demisexual would probably be closest but he doesnt really bother with labels so hes queer

Also polyamorous and he considers this apart of his queer identity

Jirou:

She/her nonbinary

Bi with a sexual preference for girls

Also polyamorous (I like shipping her with momo and kami) and considers this queer

Sero:

He/him cis boy

Bi with a romantic preference for girls

Also polyamorous but he doesnt consider this queer

Tokoyami:

He/him nonbinary and dark shadow is they/them

Demi romantic graysexual

Todoroki:

He/him cis boy

Very gay for deku but if he knew the girl well enough he could develop romantic feelings. You could consider him demiromantic but cause it only applies to girls and he doesnt really understand the point of him having several labels when 1 works fine he just goes by gay

Hakagure:

She/her cis girl

Biromantic heterosexual

Bakugou:

He/him sometimes I'll HC him as trans but it really depends

Gay (tm)

Midoriya:

I should really pick a head canon and stay with it for him huh. Usually he/him but sometimes I'll think of him as they/them. Usually I'll hc him as agender or demiboy but sometimes hes trans. Just depends. On what, I dont know but

Bi

Shinsou:

He/him trans man

Bi romantic homosexual

Momo:

She/her nonbinary. Took her a long time to realize cause she never felt dysphoria when other trans people talked about it and thought gender as a concept was fake and everyone was exagerating. But when jirou was telling her about her experience being nonbinary shes started researching herself when she realized that was alot like what she felt

Lesbian

(Not important but even though shes in a poly relationship with jirou and is perfectly happy in it she herself is monogamous)

Thanks so much for the ask!! 😘❤

#class 1a #1a #class 1 a #class 1a headcanons #class 1a hcs #class 1 a headcanons #class i a hcs #bnha rambles #bnha hcs #bnha headcanons #mha hcs #mha headcanons #my headcanons #my hcs #my ask be open

[incorrect-hs-quotes]

Please tell us abt yr dnd characters holy shit

OK BET SO I HAVE SEVEN OF THEM AND FOUR OF THEM ARE KINDA FLESHED OUT THE OTHER THREE ARE IN THE CONCEPT ZONE

im in the process of making aesthetic blogs for them too so like ...... check out my main if you want em @turntechgodhcad 👀

-mod dave

ok so my first one is my chaos elf. glenn meldarion is my stupid idiot bitch boy and i love him and he lives in the woods. hes a rogue and hes chaotic neutral, hes 20, hes aroace, and naturally hes an amazing shot with a bow and arrow. also his full name is glennodad gonk meldarion and each of the names has a meaning

i looked up some elvish translator a while ago and “glennodad” translates to “jared”. jared 19

“meldarion” translates to “dave”. so his name is Elf Jared Dave

“gonk” is the name of my worm on a string so his middle name is gonk

theres nothing particularly angsty about glenn, he doesnt have a sad backstory or anything but he sure has a dumb one. so this fuck head ass starts out on a vegetable / fruit farm and hes minding his own business, he hunts for meat and stuff, and what he doesnt eat he sells. so hes got his own little market goin on but hes not exactly the most Popular of the vegetable sellers because yknow everyone and their mom on the edge of town is a vegetable seller so while glenns not selling fruit hes pickpocketing. and ONE DAY he pickpockets a Haughty Noble and gets caught. so this dude is like “ok” and places a little bounty on his head and hes run out of the town by this nobles goons and shit cause He Wants Payback, so up until he finds a home he just bounces around the woods from kingdom to kingdom camping out and shit. and he still pickpockets

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my SECOND boy is named cas, full name casteris emsworth, and hes human, hes my beautiful baby son and i love him and hes a druid (circle of the shepherd) !! hes a neutral good, hes 19, hes got himself a little Knife and hes bi !! and hes . very 👀 at this one tiefling of banes (if yall dont know bane thats my partner ^^).............his names lucas and oh boy cas has the Big Gay...............

cas’ main focus in his druidism is just plants. like people have specific focuses for some of their characters, cas just fucking likes plants. he absolutely excels in potions, and he fucks around with alchemy too. he keeps this big ass tome of plant sketches that hes seen on his travels, and he bakes bread when hes stressed and hes really good at writing! and hes fucking terrified of Really Big Fish . 

his backstorys kinda sad but not really fleshed out; he was raised druidic in a kingdom that outlawed magic, his family got Found Out, they were ordered to be executed and cas escaped. usually this is where people would get vengeful and angry and wage a personal war against the kingdom, but cas doesnt have an angry bone in his body and instead went fucking asap to another place to keep practicing in his parents’ names !! he stayed with a cousin until he got a little hut of his own and now hes just Vibing. his main goal right now is to recreate this potion that he did. he was just fucking Mixing Shit and he grew a baby ent. and now hes like. Hellbent on trying to figure out how the FUCK he did that

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then i have a fire genasi whos kind of just in physical character development right now, his name is mathias ganteoran and hes a fighter !! hes 21, chaotic neutral but a Different Flavor than glenn, more Harsh, he fights with a bo staff, his hair is Literally Fire and hes trans demi and gay

mathias is the Grumpy Friend who Doesnt Have Time For This Bullshit but he gets roped into a bunch of stupid stuff anyway and its really great. also he has a rebellious streak and hes just Big Punk. or at least as punk as 1394 can get. also i know for a fact that the way he did his top surgery was that he just went up to some magic friend of his and went “de-tit me” and they did and long story short Magic Top Surgery .

also i didnt have a name for him for six months and i called him “motherfucker unlimited” until i named him

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aaryn mendalyn is my next character i love her so much shes my triton, and i really want to use her in a campaign soon. shes a monk (way of the open hand), chaotic good, 19, pan as hell, and this bitch has GAUNTLETS !!!!!

and let me tell yall aaryn is here to do three things and three things only. punch the fuck out of things, party like a rock star, and EAT DIRT

she has a bit of a backstory that involves dirt actually, so shes kinda got a little mermaid complex going on but not cause she finds a guy or smth. so tritons as a species act really superior cause theyre underwater and shit (think amporas) but aaryn always thought “but hm. the land is pretty cool. it has dirt, we have dirt but wet, its the same shit??” so she decides “ok im gonna go be on land now” and she just fucking loves the dry dirt. shes not worried about what her family will think cause shes really fucking impulsive and hey if she doesnt go back then she doesnt go back. she is having the time of her life

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for the characters that are still in progress, and all of their info is “X until further notice” cause i still have a lot of research to do on these species and classes

i have a 21 y/o lawful neutral nb lesbian aasimar cleric named kirijah whose entire aesthetic is half-victorian, half-classical, all sun / clouds. theyre trying their best to be poised all the time but god theyre confused as to why they hang out with these people

then theres my 19 y/o chaotic neutral-turned-good human witch named myra !! shes my only character with a homebrew class so im gonna have to figure out how to work with that. shes an aro bi demigirl, and she doesnt have a Full backstory but i Do know that she was definitely forced to commit a Major Crime, it left her fucked up, and now shes trying to move in a new way better direction. so now shes the cheerleader of her friend group !!

and FINALLY my latest and least developed, my DWARF CLARISSA !!!!!!! shes a barbarian, probably neutral, DEFINITELY chaotic, im probably gonna end up making her trans (if i write her character well enough that is. i want to flesh her out to where it makes sense cause i really want to avoid the “barbarian trans woman” stereotype, obviously thats really fucking harmful) and out of the seven she is the ONLY one with a brain cell

#anyway i fucking love them all and i will shit if anyone talks about them #im about to use glenn in a campaign and im so excited cause i havent actually played a real round of dnd in over a year #all of my friends have been busy and no one was brave enough to dm >:( #but THEN i dropped a lot of toxic people and adopted a whole new group of bitches and LO AND BEHOLD #ONE OF THEM IS A DM !!!!!!!!!! #I DID IT BOYS I FOUND A DUNGEON MASTER #anyway holy shit. #long #not a quote #mod dave #dnd #dungeons and dragons #my ocs

[theillusionofsafetypod]

can u talk about their identities? like lgbt i mean,?

Raven: Asexual (sex neutral) and probably somewhere on the Aro spectrum (demi or grayromantic) They never cared about relationships or really understood the appeal until they realised that what they were feeling for Tristan was in fact, romantic attraction. It was a confusing time. Also nonbinary, using solely they/them pronouns.

Tristan: Bi and agender, doesn't care what pronouns people use for them. Allosexual but sex repulsed for separate reasons.

Ryder: Cis lesbian. Ryder is cisgender in the sense that she's fine being called/seen as a woman, but she just doesn't really care or think about it. She doesn't care if someone calls her he or they, but she also doesnt care that she's usually just seen as a woman. Gender is just a non-thing to her, but if you ask she'd tell you she's a cis woman. (I have been informed this may be normal for cis people, but I wouldn't know)

Cy: Trans woman and lesbian. I cannot stress how much of a lesbian she is. fellow he/theys i see you simping for her and i absolutely understand but she is. lesbienne. (that doesnt mean you have to stop simping for her though lol)

Lori: Bi cis woman

Eisa: He doesn't know or care he's like eight. (In all seriousness, probably gay, but like, he's twelve. He absolutely hasn't figured it out yet, he just gets cute little kid crushes and listens to a lot of mother mother)

#tios podcast #the illusion of safety #the illusion of safety pod

[thegeminisage]

can i ask what language you're referring to exactly? like i know about the SAM model but what is "cassexual"

theres a few different terms you could use

bearing in mind that i myself dont rly love the split attraction model myself (u see that my bio says asexual and doesn’t list a romantic orientation) but it’s dead useful to a lot of people

when you talk about sexual/romantic attraction you can use suffixes. so like homoromantic is romantic feelings for your own gender, biromantic for two or more genders, etc. so “demi” is one of those suffixes - to mean attraction only after a strong bond is formed - demisexual would be sexual attraction, demiromantic is romantic attraction

so if dean wasn’t into anyone but cas you could use that kind of language for him - though i should also note i truly don’t think dean is aspec, i think he’s bi and repressed/dealing with sex repulsion wrt men, repulsion that either comes from a history of sexual violence/his past as someone who turns tricks for cash per jackles, or if you don’t like those headcanons from the sheer homophobia of the community around him

speaking of sex repulsion aces&aros also developed language around this - just bc one doesnt experience physical attraction doesnt mean one doesnt wanna get busy so we have a spectrum of people who are ok with that and people who aren’t. we use sex positive/sex receptive for people who like sex, sex neutral/sex indifferent for people who don’t care, and sex repulsed/sex averse for people who really are Not into it. these terms don’t just apply to aces either, people of any sexuality can experience repulsion. i strongly favor the idea that dean might be repulsed by men despite being attracted to them which is why he’s Like That

furthermore in the Real World it’s often that people trying to figure out their sexuality go through a few different things before they find the right fit. so someone could THINK "i’m just a really butch lesbian” and realize "wait i’m a trans man” someone could think they’re demisexual and then realize they’re gay, or like dean could think cas is his exception or that he’s only romantically attracted to cas and then ten years down the line when he’s had time to sit with it realize he’s full-on bi. it’s not bad to use any label as a stepping stone, but aspec labels get a bad rep for people who stop there for a minute because they involve less sex and that’s sometimes outside of someone’s comfort zone when they’re “newly” realizing they’re queer. vice versa, sometimes ace people think they’re bi first bc both involve feeling equally attracted to many genders, the difference is just “all” or “none.” it happens! 

idr EXACTLY where i was going with this but yes the point is we have all kinds of terms to describe all kinds of complicated experiences w/ sexuality. that’s one of the things i love about being ace, is that we have so many ways to defy the traditional relationship setup when it doesn’t work for us, and have developed so many ways to talk about the endless variety of ways human beings express love...queerplatonic relationships, nonsexual intimacy, polyamory, etc. i just genuinely from the bottom of my heart think thats beautiful and also like what’s more queer than that!!! nothing

#this ask has gotten long enough but if u have anymore questions lmk #liz answers asks #anonymous

[charismat1c-megafauna]

Long boring post ahead abt my queer journey bc i feel like blabbin

Idk i just feel like talking about this but... I probably went through damn near every label.

At 11 i was like wow hot diggity girls sure are prettier than guys. Im gay.

At 12 wow you know what theres a lot of cute guys. Im bi!

At 13, wow i sure do look better when i flatten my chest and do my hair this way! But still a girl lol! Also im probably ace but im not dealing with that because just thinking of the things people have said about it makes me want to die. Maybe when the time comes ill be able to just leave my body so ppl wont leave me. Also i was pressured into a romantic relationship by an abusive friend and i figured hey maybe... Romance... Is ok... And it felt weird.

At 14 eh probably pan? Ace is at the back of my head tho. But gender??? What even is that.

15 im like "ok im asexual" and straight up thats... The only label i used. No modifier, no romantic orientation, didnt even know if there was a good word for it. Pressured into another abusive relationship with the explicit goal of fixing me and i went with that bc i hated myself lol i seriously thought wow if im ace my life is bad and its gonna be bad forever.

At 16 "hey sometimes i like girl clothes and sometimes i like guy clothes... Genderfluid???"

At 17: abusive friend thinks boys are yucky uwu youre not a boy are you and im like... Im gender neutral and use they them and have days where i feel like being feminine or masculine but i dont like she her... But he him is... Huh. That feels good. Also i think im ace but i like girls?

At 18 yeah nope im a demiguy i love being feminine sometimes clothes have no gender i am free and... Panromantic ace? I think i feel the same way about everybody!

At 19 huh... Maybe... Demi-panromantic asexual... Maybe i havent met the right person yet!

At 20: im gray romantic maybe? I think im attracted to people but... In theory... Also wow yeah theres a lpt of pretty girls but theres a few guys and nb folk who are FUCKIN STUNNING oh hey aesthetic attraction is a thing.... Oh wow... Turns out im aro. But i like romantic activities? And relationships? I just dont experience romantic attraction? Kinda like aces who like sex? And i thrive with multiple significant others... Idk abt girls but they still pretty.

At 21 yup its me the big weird demi dude comin at ya with the high heels and star dress on monday and the flannels and jeans on tuesday boy howdy it sure is a good day to be queer. Also im a polyamorous aro ace who likes cute couples shit and s.o. relationships and if im gonna be with anybody theyre gonna be a dude or nb.

Turns out i was kinda... Somehow having weird coercive heterosexuality shit despite not knowing i was a dude like... Somehow i had it in my head that bc i was masculine i guess i like girls. I mixed up gender expression with gender itself. I thought that maybe this was what romantic attraction felt like until i realized its... Not.

Idk this is boring dont read but tldr even if tou go thru god knows how many labels youre gonna figure your shit out one day and its gonna be ok and just bc you change labels doesnt mean its necessarily a phase. Those labels were a good home for me when i was there, and an important step on my journey.

[artistictrance]

lgbt+ meme?

what is your sexual orientation? - demisexual :3c what is your romantic orientation? - demiromantic, so a full demi lol side note: demiromantic/demisexual is a person are ppl part of the ace community, they prefer to build a strong bond before even entering a relationship [and yes, im aware that most ppl are like this, but with demis its a bit more harder to feel attraction towards someone else without building a friendship first. of course nothing wrong with not finding anyone attractive, and no, it doesnt mean youre "picky"] what is your gender? - a female demigoddess cause why not B) [female] what is your sex? - like i said above, a female demigoddess [female] what pronouns do you use? - she/her/they/them how long have you been in the lgbtqa+ community for? - i have no clue tbh, i didnt realize i was demi till like...what?...2-3 yrs ago??? but then again, looking back during my middle/high school yrs ive always been demi and never noticed cause i thought i was straight [tho thats still kind of true, if that makes sense??? idk im still figuring it out] have you ever dated anyone in the lgbtqa+ community? if yes, explain what they identify as - ive been a single pringle so far my whole life how did you find out about the lgbtqa+ community? - tbh i didnt know much about the lgbt+ [besides gay/bi] till like college when i joined tumblr, so mostly from tumblr then some from school too (: do you have any friends in the lgbtqa+ community? -its funny cause my irl friends are mostly straight [minus 1 who is bi-curious], while the majority of my online friends are either gay, ace or both [with a few exceptional straight friends]. theyre all pretty great :3c have you ever been at a pride event? - no, but from the pictures ive seen it looks super fun! on a scale 0-10, how confident are you with your sexuality? - hmmm i guess 10? but i do remember when i first figured it out i was self-conscious about it cause i thought i was one of /those/ ppl who just picked a random sexuality to look "cool" till after some hard thinking/teaching, ive realized im ace af and proud B) on a scale 0-10 how confident are you with your gender? - idk, i dont really think much about it??? not sure how to explain it, but even if i identify as a girl, i dont really see myself as one? [maybe thats just my mind being mean to me and separating myself from all the other girls and yadda yadda. long explanation] are you out to anyone yet? - my mom and brother know, and all my friends do too but i guess most ppl just forget/dont remember what demi is do your parents know about your gender/sexuality? - yeah my mom knows, tho she has a bit of trouble understanding it, but i do my best to remind her and teach her again, and again do you ever get misgendered? -tbh i dont even know :/ i remember one time some guy in hs called me a guy cause of how i was dressed? [school hoodie and some jeans] but then again, he was a pretty annoying and stupid person so i dont really count it plus i wasnt the only girl wearing something like that on a cold day have you gotten any hate for your gender/sexuality? - not gender, but ive had close ppl tell me that "ppl shouldnt label themselves like this, it doesnt make sense" so obviously that hurt ;v; in all honesty, do you think that theres a sexuality that might not be valid? - no, all sexuality is valid. tho those toxic/nasty ones, i dont label them as "sexualities," i label them as "ppl who shouldn't talk to me, or my dogs, ever" do you own any pride merch? - nope, im not sure where to find some cool ace merch. [there was this kickass sweater my friend showed me and i love it to bits, but there was no link to buy it, i cri T v T] plus even if i did, idk when or where would be a good time to wear them ;v; do you think that theres a possibility that you might change your mind about your orientations/gender in the future? - i know im pretty confident in being demi. as for gender, idk, i just have to see : P what are your thoughts on people that identify as cis? - cis? you mean that store "cause it's spring"? [i kid you not, thats an actual store name, ive seen it with my own eyes] lol jk, i identify as cis [???], but besides me, they good folk (: [of course those who bully peeps who dont see themselves as cis are just bullies and i dont want you near me or my dogs 8) ] what are your thoughts on people that identify as straight? - nothing wrong with it, if youre cis, youre cis just remember my cis folk, dont judge or be mean to those who are trans, bi-gendered, etc. theyre ppl like you if someone saw you on the street, would they realize that you are in the lgbtqa+ community? if yes, why? - honeslty idk, i dont think aro/ace ppl really have a "look" to them? [ive tried looking it up and nothing much comes up other than pride clothing] other than we're hella good lookin' folk, be aware of us plus most of the creepy guys that hit on me think im allo. so i just feel like a cleverly disguised spy lol [alloromantic/allosexual or "allo" for short = basically means that ppl who are not aromantic and/or asexual ] on a scale 0-10 how familiar are your friends and family with the lgbtqa+ community? - since i teach my mom and brother stuff about this whenever i get the chance, theyre pretty ok [tho my mom has a hard time remembering the ones outside the "basic" ones like lesbian/gay, bi, pan. it mostly has to do that spanish is her 1st language so english can be confusing for her] as for irl friends, idk. i hardly talk to them about this, i doubt they even remember/know im demi but for my online friends, im pretty sure they know, lol This tag is almost over, did you enjoy it? - it was fun, i hope more ppl are aware of the aro/ace community and possible learn a few things about it :3c i want more ppl to know more about the aro/ace communities cause even if our population is kind of small, we're still here...eating all the food at the parties...petting all the cute animals > v > do you love yourself for who you are? - of course, sure it was kind of hard to get to where i am, and at times i still dont really feel part of the lgbt+ community, but i try to at least accept myself (: shout out to my sweet friend @dirtydaggy for suggesting i do this, it was fun thanks again friendo cX also check out their journal! [they did the same meme too!!!]

also im gonna tag:

@lunarprinc3 @thatsweaterdude

if i miss anyone [friends/mutuals] or you would like/not like to be tagged in the future, let me know c:

#Nightly Posts #tagged #i guess i should tag this as #personal #too? since it does relate about me?

[spoiled-truth]

I have had the same gender label dilhema, and have come to the conclusion, that I'm not confused by who I am. I'm confused by why society puts so much stress on identifying gender. For some, labels help them see themselves more clearly, but I'm content to just be me. People always wonder about being something theyre not, about what its like to live a different way. That doesnt strictly mean you *want* to be seen that way forever. I think, if you want a label, maybe genderfluid would help?

Wow, that’s some insight. And I think you’re absolutely right.

I think there’s a lot of pressure on trying to categorize people as LGBTQ or not and has, in some ways, created more division than inclusion.

Example: only girls can like girly things if you’re a girl and boys can only like boy things if they’re a boy if they are cis and don’t have any LGBTQ labels. If you’re a boy that likes more feminine things, you’re automatically trans and gay. If you’re a girl that’s into more masculine things, you’re automatically a butch lesbian or trans.

One popular way we see this harmful stereotyping among the community is trans theories. Not all trans theories are harmful and incorrect, don’t get me wrong, but I have seen more trans theories that are incorrect and harmful in being so as opposed to having legit evidence that makes sense.

Take the Marco is Trans theory, for example. It’s all built upon the idea that he presents himself feminine/female at times and enjoys feminine things. (Princess Turdina for example). It sets this awful standard that if you’re a boy that’s into feminine things or a girl that’s into masculine things, you *must* be trans, and that’s simply not the case.

I think that my gender identity is a journey that will take a while. I’m only 16, I have plenty of time to figure myself out. Hell, it took me 16 years to come to the conclusion that I’m bi, so why not take another 16 years to find out my gender identity?

However, that’s not to say that I can just brush this all off. I will still have nights where I stay up thinking about what it must be like to put on a binder and how nice it must feel. I will still have days where I sit in the shower and think, “am I really a woman?”

I really do think our society puts pressure on us to have a gender identity and to stick to it, don’t think about it or else you’ll confuse all of us. That’s simply not the case in any way, shape, or form.

From the way I see things, I think the community is going through this phase where they wanna label shit everywhere. This character is gay, this character is trans, this character is nonbinary, NO CHARACTER MUST BE CISHET!!! And I get it, I really do. But sometimes it goes way too far. We all have our LGBTQ headcanons and ideas but when we take that mindset and apply it to actual people and pressure them into having a label, it can be very harmful.

Thank you for sending this ask in, it really has helped me stop, take a breath, and realize that I don’t have to have a label by tomorrow. 

And I would like to let you all know that too.

You don’t have to have a label any time soon. Take as long as you need to find out your gender and/or orientation identity.

And it’s also okay to hop around identities too.

I know I most certainly had many phases I went through. I think this community hates the concept of phases and has this mindset that once you have an identity, you must stick to it. You’re not allowed to change it.

For me, I thought I was lesbian, then aro/ace, then demi, straight, and now I know I’m bi. But even now I still question if I’m bi or maybe pan. For now, however, I’m comfortable with identifying as bi and if I realize I’m pan then I’ll be pan, but that’s for the future me to decide.

TLDR: blueeyedangel is absolutely right and I think we must stop this mindset of having to have a label right away. It’s completely okay to switch identities along your journey of self-discovery and it’s okay to think about it for a while and not give yourself a label right away.