#healthy at every size

[shaftking]

“You can’t tell someone’s health just by looking at them!!!”

As someone with “invisible” illnesses: Are you sure? Let’s try applying this to other demographics. So someone incredibly underweight is healthy until proven otherwise? Someone with a skin condition or even temporary dermatitis? Someone who is a regular cigarette smoker? Someone with severe cerebral palsy? Are you sure that there’s so visible indicators at all for peoples health and wellness?

We can tell when people are simply tired based on physical indicators, like eye bags and posture. Are you really telling me that other even clearer indicators of worse health than just a bad nights sleep just don’t exist?

This whole argument is really exhausting because it’s another case of people trying to act like the exceptions that prove the rule are actually just the rule.

#personal #from the drafts #anti fat activism #anti fat acceptance #anti fat liberation #healthy at every size #haes #anti haes #obesity epidemic

[wahlpaper]

The Summer of Jordi Perez Review

The Summer of Jordi Perez by Amy Spalding

CW: Parents Not Believing Their Child, Emotionally Bad Experience with a Cop, Fat-phobia, Fat-shaming, Queerphobia, Heteronormativity, Self-esteem Issues, Capitalism, Bad Parents, Unpaid Internship, Diet Talk

5/5

It's official! This is the 84th book that I have read this year, breaking my record of 83 in 2021! It was a very good choice of book to do that with. The Summer of Jordi Perez is a cute queer teen romance with a fat main character! Author, Amy Spalding, is plus sized herself, giving the book an "Own Voices" element. I, the reviewer, am also fat. Further down I will talk about my personal relationship to the book and its themes.

The Summer of Jordi Perez (and The Best Burger in Los Angeles) is about Abby Ives, a gay teen fashion blogger experiencing her first big crush. When she starts her summer internship, she's blindsided with the news that she'll be sharing it with her classmate, Jordi Perez. What's even worse is that they'll be competing for a job set to start in the fall. Instead of hating each other though, they fall for each other. Unfortunately, first relationships are hard to navigate and neither girl is as sure of themselves as they seem. They'll have to be patient if they want things to work.

This book is cute, sweet, and just the right amount of serious. Abby has had small crushes before Jordi, but over the course of the book she experiences a lot of "firsts" for crushing and then "firsts" for dating. She obsesses over Jordi, second guesses every interaction, gushes to a friend, and more. While the relationship between Abby and Jordi is cute to experience, the characters also deal with important matters. They both have parents that don't see the best in them. Abby's mom is disappointed in her weight and her lesbianism. Jordi's parents don't trust her to behave. They deal with self-esteem, heteronormativity, capitalism, mistakes, and more. I appreciate everything Spalding takes the time to tackle in The Summer of Jordi Perez.

I only disliked one part of the book, the subtitle. "And The Best Burger in Los Angeles" refers to the subplot between Abby and her new friend, a jock named Jax. However, I'm not sure it needed to be included in the title. Jax needs to rate burgers to help out with his father's new app idea. He wants to do it with Abby. It is a sweet subplot, but the burgers quickly become something they do off-page. The subtitle raises their importance, but the book ends the quest in an anticlimactic way. I don't mind how it ended, but the title would be better off without the subtitle.

As I mentioned above, Abby is a fat girl. She loves fashion and blogging about it, but she doesn't like to share photos of herself in the clothes she suggests. Over the past few months I have started working with my therapist on body image issues and my relationship with food. My journey isn't precisely the same as Abby's, but I feel we are both at the middle point of our journey and have had the same negative influences. I have spent the last week taking at least one selfie a day so that I can be more comfortable in pictures. Jordi is a photographer, so Abby is forced to face a similar challenge. We both have different things that we’re more comfortable with already and different things we need to grow towards in the future. Spalding really captures the struggle of knowing it's okay to be fat in theory, but failing to apply that to oneself.

The Summer of Jordi Perez worked its way into my life at the right time. The fat girl trying to navigate dating is exactly the kind of representation I needed. I hope that this book will speak to others as well. A little bit of fat neutrality and a little bit of fat positivity, piled on top of "Healthy At Every Size" is the perfect recipe. I highly recommend Spalding's book to all!

#bookblogger #queer books #book blog #queer characters #wlw #the summer of jordi perez #amy spalding #plus sized main character #fat representation #queer teens #pink hair #los angeles #healthy at every size #fat girls #fat blogger

[headphonemouse]

Nothing in my life has ever tasted as good as how I imagine cartoon meat that looks like this tastes

#talking tag #orv groundrat meat and yanaspleta stem #literally the only type of meat they eat in one piece #it's funny how in orv when kdj makes bbq skewers they all look like this but when yjh makes skeweres they look like normal ass skewers with #vegetables and everything #it's yjh the only person who has any culinary sense? the real answer is no. kdj is actually capable in the kitchen. the funnier answer is #that yjh was so fed up with being the only person in the universe to have taste buds and maybe a normal sized mouth that he spent an entire #regression turn learning how to perfect his cooking [this part at least is canon] just so he could convince at least one of his companions #to raise their standards and stop eating barely-chopped‚ unseasoned‚ straight off the bone monster meat #i think yjh would refuse to eat an apple unless it was peeled and sliced into cubes with little toothpicks #he wouldnt touch a sandwich until you passed it through a panini press #maybe it has something to do with diligence and intentionally putting effort into something often overlooked #its a lot of effort to cook delicious meals when the world is quite literally falling apart and reshaping itself but in a situation where #he doesnt even have control over his own death‚ he can only treat what he does have control over with the utmost diligence #cooking and eating good‚ healthy‚ SAFE food is something that is entirely his‚ i think #he doesnt need it to survive like fighting. its not a relic of his past that has lost its application like gaming. its a routine‚ a ritual #repeated daily #something that you do every day and by continuing to do it you create things that are more and more enjoyable. something that makes people #smile and feel satiated. something that gets everyone to sit close and share the joy of a single moment. a single meal #is it possible to get tired of that after repeating it so many times? every day? every day every month every year every turn #why doesnt he eat food made by other people? #because its not delicious #and the dumplings? #those were made by someone he loved. someone he loved put their time into mizing the filling and shaping the dough #someone he loves wants him to be safe and fed. and offered him dumplings that they made #was it delicious?

[regulusfate]

tw: vomiting, flashbacks

Small fingers tug on a lock of hair, clumsy, soft. A faint thump as his body jolts, and Harry tumbles from his knees to clamber against the wood into James’s hovering hands. Regulus wants to laugh, wants to smile and cry (and maybe he does want to do all those things, truly, before the water spills in) but it feels like a faint echo, slipping from his grasp even just to try.

Instead, his fingers grip the edge of the small boat - because for some reason rowing was a good idea? - where the edges dig against his skin until his knuckles protest in stabs of pain, and his thumb runs over the cracks in the wood, hoping they don’t grow bigger. Irrational as it is, his mouth is dry, and somewhere beneath the buzzing, the sound of snapping, breaking, falling -

“.. daddy’s just having a bit of hard time, love.”

Fuck, he wouldn’t ruin this.

Teeth grinding against the lump in his throat, and he tries, but to open his eyes, even under the sun and the warmth blues of the sky, and see that look. The one that caught his arm before they paid, the brush of lips against his jaw, the one asking if he wanted to find a place for their picnic instead, stares back.

fuck - !

He forces them open ( ripping of a plaster, a bottled whimper lurching from the back of his throat, a spit of blood and kreachers hands along his scarred arms ) and it’s all too bright, vacant, complacent.

Nausea biting at his heels like their hands, those bones, curling into his every shred of clothing.

He wouldn’t, he wouldn’t, he -

Vomits over the side of the boat.

“Whoops,” James’ voice, light, mild, distant, and the warbled contrast of their sons voice, ‘whoooops’ mimicking in the wind, shoes kicking against the boat. “We don’t want Daddy to go overboard, do we bug?”

A chant of ‘no’ and small hands tug at his elbow.

Warmer hands cup his cheek, as he pushes against the edge and prays it doesn’t tip, righting himself in the breeze and trying not to shiver.

“Daddy’s fine.” he gasps out, not entirely sure for whose sake. Wide, green eyes and he reaches out, smoothing the nest of dark hair curling at the ends, as Harry’s hands still grip his arm.

James frowns, tucking a stray lock of hair away from his face, and shifts until their knees bump together, hand drifting down to squeeze the back of his neck, looking ready to protest.

He’s starting to think they should’ve chosen a bigger boat. Or something on dry land.

#okay but imagine regulus going on every size boat in hopes that he can cope with at least one #just because little harry really wants them all to go on a boat together #and James is just like #baby you have to stop his isn’t healthy #harry will not hate you if you don’t join us #so basically angst #jegulus muse hits at the most random of times i can’t lie #jegulus raising harry #jegulus au #james potter #regulus black #harry is about three

[handcat]

instagram should be set aflame

#EVERY reel i’m reccomended of a woman or #or disabled person or queer person etc etc has the WORST people in the world in the comments #saw a vid just now of a woman with crazy long hot using it as a jump rope (sick as hell) and a BUNCH of ppl in the comments were accusing #her if being a trans woman like??????? like the third time today i’ve seen comments on cis women calling them trans (usually just calling th #em a man and saying awful transphobic shit) and i CANT TAKE THIS MUCH LONGER #also any woman who isn’t size 0 getting called fat and told to work out INCLUDING videos of women AT THE GYM WORKING OUT bc they also have #body fat which is literally healthy to have #and also some people will work out regularly and eat auper healthy and still be fat like ????? #soz for venting i really just need to not go on instagram lmao #i’m getting better at that but when ever i cave i just get so pissed #and then have to come back here for comfort lol #and have to remind myself that the people saying that shit are def the most sad lonely angry people in the world #and also they will die soon maybe <3

[shiroselia]

TLDR on the new model creator so far

The models are Incredibly bottom heavy, the forearms literally never change size and the neck barely does either and it creates a Bit of a weird effect, I like the models, I think they’re good, but they definitely look a Little off because of how much more the thigh area changes between sizes compared to the torso and Especially the arms

#I think we could use a size between the second smallest and smallest #Only because I think it's a Very big difference when you go from one to the other as compared to every other model #Y'all going on about how the smallest model is not skinny enough are Still fucking smoking tho y'all do not know what healthy skinny looks #like that is the Most skinny a person can be without SSE going here giving us malnourished body types #Like full offence gain some healthier views #Source: That's literally my body type and if I lost any significant amount of weight #I'd have a problem #Significant as in like two or three kilos barely

[iturmom]

finally got onto my old phone. finally have my pictures of my babies back. have this photoset of them cuddling. hope you want to see more bc you will very soon

#my children #my babies #my loves #there's half of my heart right there y'all #miss them every day #especially lately #i love them so fucking much i just hope they're happy an healthy ❤️ #btw this is the og middle biddle. #my sweet bastard son midnight and the sweet and pretty permanently kitten sized honey

[wisterianwoman]

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#body neutral #body neutrality #body positive #body positivity #diet #diet culture #Fitness #fitness blog #fitness journey #fitness myths #health #health at every size #healthy diet #healthy lifestyle #love yourself #misinformation #self love #weight loss #Wellness

[harvestar]

I feel like I have been so excellent as far as food budget and eating healthy but the flip side of that is having to cook every freaking day... call me walter white because jesse we have to cook,

I'm actually complaining for no reason half the time I have leftovers to eat and my brother invites me up for dinner. lol

I invited them over today to return the favor and I made thai curry, jasmine rice and miso cabbage soup. They really liked ittt I was so happyyyyyy ;_; obligatory pics

#ktxt #but anyway its surprising how im not really having too much trouble with feeding myself like in the past #its easy to make a family size meal and just pack up the rest to eat over 2-3 days and I just want to eat the same thing every day anyway #also safe food being curry is fucking great because its healthy and you don't have to work hard at it and you can put so many vegetablrs. #I love vegetables so much I feel like exploding. and you just dont have to eat the gross ones! #food /

[beeseverywhen]

if you have hair that you can brush when it's dry without it immediately exponentially increasing in volume, please, please, leave me out of your hair care tips. I really, really don't need to hear your opinion on how often I wash it or the products I use. The conditioner weighing it down and making it greasy is literally not possible. It being heavy is a good thing. No conditioner isn't optional. I'm pleased for you that your bristle brush is working for you! But it can only redistribute oils if you can pull it through the hair to start with.

Trying to give hair care advice to someone based on what you do when they have hair with a completely different texture is like trying to apply cactus care tips to bedding flowers. It's like putting wood polish on aluminium. It literally will not work. Do not comment on my hair routine being high maintenance if you have the option to forgo all hair products and only wash it with water and can still wear it loose. What did people do before conditioner? Well with my hair type they were 100% using oil to moisturise it and they also didn't wear it down.

Its not the same. It's not grown dependent on conditioner over time. It's always been dependent on conditioner to look like this. It can not retain moisture by itself. If I didn't condition it I would have to keep it plaited all the time or it would twist in to itself without any input. It only looks similar enough to your hair that you think your tips will work because I've put in an enormous amount of effort to keep it healthy in spite of me wearing it loose and uncovered most of the time. Your hair looks neat when you brush it and the weather doesn't destroy it, we aren't the same.

#why are people so determined to see hair care as one size fits all #why do they feel the need to force their opinions on me about things they clearly don't know anything about #oh I've never seen hair do THAT when you brush it. i know!!!! that's obvious from the fact you wanted me to brush it dry #every time they are like 'i know someone with hair that looks like yours and it worked for them #oh so their hair looked like mine after I've heavily conditioned my hair and babied it? does it feel the same. did brushing make it smooth? #it isn't the same!!! you can't compare end results of 2 ppl looking after their hair in the best way for their hair and assume its the same #the look of shock on their face when you cant run a brush through it #when it stays together without a band #it's almost like we've got different hair types!!! who could have guessed #and then ppl are surprised by how healthy it is.you can just tell they are like. how can it be that healthy when you arent looking after it #because i am looking after it!!! this is how you look after hair like mine! any damage is literally from the wind and the sun #it has been babied. this is it at its peak. that's why it's growing so fast and has no split ends. it's not luck #it wants to clump together so if i don't let it do that yeah the exposed layer is going to get battered #every time someone suggests i do less with my hair i want to show them a picture of my grandads hair like: does this look like a good look #to you??? the conditioner is entirety necessary if i want any chance of it lying flat (ish) and don't want it to feel like wire #your experiences are not universal

[onlyonewoman]

I’ve fallen down the rabbit hole of Fat Acceptance tiktok in the last few days and as a former obese person, I just wanna say hooooooooooly yiling patriarch and the last candy of Xue Yang, this is one crazy mess of delusion. 7 years ago, I was obese. Not morbidly obese, but definitely obese. My body ached, my thighs shafed against each other, I was exhausted, my joints, knees, hips and back hurt. I was 33 and had gone from someone of very good health to a slow but steady decrease over 10+ years, due to mental health problems. I managed to lose the excess weight when I lost my then job and got diagnosed with clinical, mental exhaustion. It took three years for me to recover and one part of my recovery was a slow, gentle weight loss. I lost more than 75 pounds over 2 years time, slow and steady and I have been at a healthy weight for about 5 years now. To me, it’s Just. So. Weird. to hear the fat acceptance people come with the wildest, unscientific, bat shit crazy lies about weight loss. I just can’t wrap my head around how it’s possible to make actual, measurable physical data to a purely opinion driven thing. There’s a reason why the vast majority of FA advocates are YOUNG. I was young once too and didn’t feel the years creeping up on me. I’m pushing 40 and with a heavy, physical job, I can feel the wear and tear each day. My back and shoulders ache easily, my joints are stiffer, I have to take extra care of my mobility with daily stretches. I can feel how it takes more effort to keep mobile and not be aching unnecessarily. And let me tell you this: had I been obese, I would’ve crumbled a long time ago and certainly not been working with the things I love. Because being obese at 20 is not the same thing as being obese at 30 or 40. It doesn’t matter, for real doesn’t matter, how much you proclaim your fat acceptance and pride, when you find yourself: - struggling more than before with the stairs - get problems maintaining your daily hygiene - slowly loosing your mobility - unable to get up from a nasty fall - struggling with diabetes - unable to dress yourself LOOK, I GET IT! The sickly thin body ideals SUCK. They SUCK BAD! Unhealthy and unreasonable ideals are a fucking bedsore of the mind, for real and yes, OF COURSE can thin people be really unhealthy too. Only a fool would claim normal weight automatically makes someone a healthy person. But for the everloving fuck, my dear tiktok generation of YOUNG, obese/fat/overweight people: While you are absolutely RIGHT to demand equal respect and dignity as human beings, it still DOESN’T make an obese - or starved! - body healthy. Yes, you’re being all sassy and confident, sparkling and pretty on TikTok now, because you’re YOUNG and don’t feel the inevitable downfall of your bodies yet - there will come a day when you do. And let me, as someone who has both been obese AND provided healthcare to obese AND morbidly obese people, tell you this: It doesn’t take an awful lot of overweight, for a 75-year-old to become completely dependent on bathroom assitance. It’s not fun for an 80-year-old to be turned and rolled in bed, while two from the nursing staff carefully change your poop filled diaper and the stench of diabetic pee hits you worse than the feces. You will NOT feel proud, self-loving and body positive, when you realise you have traded years of independence for a quick self-esteem boost. The choir chanting about “health at every size”, will not stand by your bedpan, will not put cream in your groin to help with your fungus infection. There will be no “fat and fab” feelings when your feet start to deteriorate because you can no longer reach down to care for them. And when you have a nasty fall, you will be too heavy and too weak to get up. Think about that last one. Do you even understand how difficult it is for medical staff to help someone of 350 pounds and up from the ground? Please, do not trade away years of better health for a temporary feeling of belonging and acceptance. Should weightloss be painful, humiliating, shallow and short term? Of course not. And no, you shouldn’t strive to be “perfect”, whatever that means, but you should be nice to your joints, your mobility, your intestins, your lungs and your energy levels. You deserve so much more kindness and quality in your life, than struggling with obesity. Because once you’re getting past 25 years, 30, 35... your body, like all bodies, will naturally age and age is NOT kind to obesity. There is no such thing as health at every size and in five years time, a lot of the now very fab, confident fat acceptance tiktok people will struggle with aspects of their health they thought was a myth, because for them, feelings rule supreme. Don’t let yourself be fooled. Because just as someone slowly starving themselves over a long period of time, the people who claim it’s okay to overeat throughout your life, will eventually loose years and quality of life and independence for it. It’s not about ideals, it’s about the only body you will have.

#obesity is not healthy #there is no such thing as health at every size #fat acceptance tiktok is delusion hell

[signofthree]

i love you steamfresh veg i love you microwave rice cups i love you snack time chickpeas i love you individually pre-portioned food

#and not feeling any shame about it!! #like is it slightly more expensive. technically is there more waste due to the individual packaging. #yes to both #BUT now i actually eat at least 2 serves of veg a day #i can have a hot lunch every day which is really pleasant #and most importantly i dont have to THINK #from choosing what to have for lunch to buying it to putting it in my bag to preparing it to making sure im eating healthy #and watching portion sizes #no thoughts at ALL #i just grab the same stuff off the shelves each week #and get a random assortment of the bean tin flavours #so every day its lucky dip #its been many months and i still look forward to it every day #also its really convenient having a guaranteed satisfying gluten free meal each day for the celiac #and considering earlier this year i was in struggletown with not having regular lunch or meals and struggling so much with food #i can only recommend this method a million percent #legit has changed my life #it does have vibes of only eating boiled chicken and steamed broccoli a la gym bros #but like fuck eating clean?? its more like when you go to town on a bowl of soup and crusty bread

[ginger-grimm]

Really tired of the narrative that all fat people are unhealthy slobs who sit around and eat all day. People may have medical conditions, EDs, or simply have diets not working. People may try their best to lose weight but not be able to on their own and not have money for specialists. People may not want to lose their weight and just love themselves for who they are. Tired of people preaching body positivity and then playing doctor for people who never asked them to.

#anna says things sometimes #ik no one is going to see this #but i am so tired of the fatphobia running rampant #also: not every 'curvy' person is even fat #ya'll do realize that people with healthy weights don't always have to 'look' skinny #yeah? #like there's people with belly fat who have a perfectly healthy weight #or with big arms or big thighs #and it's FINE #i really do think everyone is genuinely beautiful #no matter the size #no one should be judged for wanting or not wanting to lose weight #just let people live their lives #unsolicited advice just ruins the mood everytime #sorry for all the tags

[exactlyfullcollector]

#It’s Summer vacation again! Here’s to less work feeding the kids their mid-day meal or dinner this summer! #It’s time to start thinking about how to feed your kids #prep their meal real quick and still feed them every bit of a healthy feel😉👌. #A bowl of Ree's greek yogurt #granola and chopped fruits of your choice and drizzle of honey or date syrup is a great yummy🤤 option. #Stock up with our Greek yogurt #granola #coconut chips and almond nuts for the summer. Also available for bulk requests. #For your preference #our Greek yogurt comes either sweetened or unsweetened. #Granola #coconut chips and almond nuts are available in different sizes. #Kindly send a DM for any enquiry or send a direct WhatsApp message via the link in my bio. #rees_yogurt #greekyoghurt #greekyoghurtbowl #greekyogurtinlagos #granolainlagos #healthydessert #diy #summermeals #kids #gbagada #lagosnigeria

[heretherebewolves]

Off to meet our mum

Which is a super triggering experience

Kill me now

#doctor told her she had to lose weight #and now she points out how skinny she is and the size of her thigh gap every time we see her #and its important to note #SHE KNOWS WE HAVE AN ED #Though what did i expect #this is the woman who once said our younger sister doesnt need to eat healthy #she'll lose weight like we did #i.e all-encompassing anorexia

[female-malice]

just came across a sports blog that's also a HAES blog 🤔

#oh god i DO NOT want HAES ppl in my inbox PLEASE leave me be #i'm just saying like... isn't it Interesting that athletes have many body types but none of those body types includes obesity #almost like... obesity is not healthy. so you can't technically be healthy at every size lol. anyway...