#heartbroken advice

[remanence-of-love]

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[uncanny-tranny]

I think it's only natural to feel anger when somebody isn't "taking your advice" or listening to you about their mental health or what will help them. People want to help people, and the anger comes when you are perceiving somebody as not being receptive but...

It can be a selfish impulse to say that your opinion about their illness is the only thing they need. It isn't about you, even though the advice you give is given by you.

Nobody deserves to suffer, this is true. But, also, nobody deserves to be forced to do things that either won't help or won't be genuine. If somebody isn't taking your advice, there's a reason for it (maybe it's not a good enough reason for you, but this isn't the point). It's okay to be disappointed or angry, but it's not going to help to lash out at them. That is only pouring water onto a grease fire.

#mental health #mental health advocacy #sometimes you DO need to freefall without a parachute. sometimes the 'just get better! ☺️' mindset that's given to us will slowly kill us #the whole 'if you take my advice you'll be free from your illness 😇' saviour complex is honestly something that would have killed me #because it wasn't coming from a place of genuinely helpfulness or what would work for *me*... #...those pieces of advice came from the mindset of how to make everybody else comfortable... #...because it minimized the fact that i was (am) fucking insane and unwell and ill and debilitated... #...the advice came across as sinister because it wasn't about me despite addressing my insanity. it was ABOUT everybody else #and i just got done watching a heartbreaking video about somebody else's decline and i don't want them to suffer... #...but i also don't want to be the cause OF their suffering. my advice for them would be unhelpful i think... #...so i am still heartbroken and sad and maybe angry but that... isn't their fault. they are SUFFERING and VISIBLY so... #...i want their suffering to end in any way that will actually help *them* and not my ego y'know...

[saraswritingtipps]

dialogues that is like an open wound

1. "Why did you choose someone else over me?"

2. "I can't believe I meant so little to you."

3. "You promised forever, but all I got was heartbreak."

4. "I still replay our last conversation in my mind, searching for answers."

5. "Your betrayal left scars that won't heal."

6. "I miss the person you pretended to be."

7. "I wish I could erase the memories we shared."

8. "Every time I see you, the pain resurfaces."

9. "You took my love and trampled on it without remorse."

10. "My heart aches for the person I used to be before you hurt me."

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[end-7]

You were good enough for them. They were not good enough for you.

The memories that you have, they have them too. The fun you had, they had that with you too. The love you gave, they have felt it. I know it seems like you didn't mean anything to them, but that's not true. They loved you too. But… not all love is the same. Your love was strong. You gave and gave and gave. You wanted them to be happy. You worked hard for the relationship to work. You put them first. You have grown a heart so big, you kept loving them even though you didn't get the same kind of love in return. You would never give up on them, and that's beautiful. And again, they loved you too. But… their love wasn't selfless like yours. It wasn't unconditional love like yours. It wasn't powerful enough to work through difficulties. They loved you in that moment, but they never grew a heart like yours. They put themself first. They thought of their own needs before yours. Most of all, they turned blind for all the love that you gave.

Right now you feel like you didn't do enough. That you were not good enough. That if you would try hard enough working on yourself, then you could fix this. Please hear me out. YOU were the strong one, YOU were the selfless one, YOU were investing all you could, YOU saw through their flaws and loved them anyway. You weren't perfect, but your mindset was. And now you're hoping that they will come back, that they have realised they made a mistake. That if you decide to move on and not wait for that to happen, that you would then be the one giving up on the relationship. That you would give up on them. But you are not. THEY ARE THE ONE GIVING UP, not you.

You will lose a person that wasn't selfless, that wasn't strong, that wasn't investing all they could, that didn't know how to love you the way you deserve to be loved. Their love is the one with shortcomings, not yours. They are losing the person that would have sticked with them through everything, the person that was much more than what they deserved. You were good enough for them. They were not good enough for you.

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[devils-angels-inc]

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[growingsage]

Love and Moving On

Falling in love is a beautiful thing. We as people are always finding beauty in what surrounds us. When we find our favorite human our natural instinct is to love and keep them at all costs. We have all been in a situation where we have overlooked something we didn't particularly agree with for the sake of keeping the peace and keeping the person. The more time you spend with them the more you are bound to see what you try to overlook and that beauty that was so different and being worked hard to keep starts becoming.. normal. This happens in relationships and it saddens me when there is a partner who's drifted and one who's still in love, but feels the absence of partner A. This isn't a gender specific phenomenon as it happens in relationships across the board as well as the pain that comes with it. I've truly loved and lost, that loss being something I still feel confused about. This is my experience so I understand this is something unique to myself, but I'll share my thoughts in hopes it helps out someone else who might feel how I do..

When you get into a commitment, do you really ever see "the end"? I believe you can feel from the beginning that maybe this won't be something that lasts forever, but I want it to? You want to see it through, your partner seems as though they would like to as well so naturally you keep the ball rolling. Those years come and they keep coming so do the birthdays, funerals, fights and celebrations. Then one day it all comes to an end. Whether that be a fight, cheating or relocations, that person is now gone.. but they're still alive.

You have all of these memories, both mental and physical in terms of gifts/special landmarks with a stranger. This person you've loved for years is gone; all of the growth and setbacks you watched them have, to them becoming who they were while you were together and you will be a part of who they become in the future because you, yourself are now a memory as well. Life can feels so hard in these moments and with social media you can still be updated on their life willing or unwillingly.

As somebody who has now been single for about a year now, I have watched my ex lover of 5+ years move on very quickly. It hurt me deeply. I use this pain to move forward and remind myself there is a reason things don't work out and I can use this as a reminder to keep moving on regardless of the love I hold for this person because our history is just that, history.

The hardest part of being a lover girl is the fact that even when it's all said and done, you still can't help but to wish them all the love even if it isn't with you.

Love is in everything around us and it's up to us to appreciate it and every moment because one day, the good and the bad won't matter. It'll all just be history.

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[absolute-chaotician]

Breakup Advice.

You can’t stop yourself from having hope. You shouldn't try. Accept what is. Obsessing over not wanting to have hope will only bring you anxiety.

New experiences are your best friend. Start saying yes to things you’ve never done before... when you’re ready. Stay home and cry for a few days if you want to. After you're over the shock and panic, try as many new things as you can. Build your life so big that the grief becomes smaller part.

Get real about your ex. It's natural to romanticize a relationship after it ends. To avoid putting your ex on a pedestal, make a list of everything that bothered you about them and your relationship. Reread it often if needed.

Don't force dating, but don't give up on connection in general. Dating will be fun again someday. Especially for those with BPD like me, reflect on your relationship and use it to make yourself a better person before you put energy into dating someone else.

When you think about your ex, redirect your thoughts to yourself. Focus inward. Think about what you'll have for dinner, a friend you haven't texted in a while, a workout you'll do today.

Don't try to control your emotions. Remind yourself that they are temporary. It's annoying, but this too will pass. Surrender to the waves of emotions and ride them out.

You might fuck up "no contact" with your ex. Don't beat yourself up. Think about how you feel after you reach out to them. Making yourself feel bad doesn't change the past and shame doesn't make you any less likely to fuck up in the future. Let go of pointless browbeating.

There is no timeline for getting over your relationship. Don't compare yourself to anyone else. You are responsible for doing whatever helps you move on, but sometimes the only way you can know what makes you feel better is by trial and error.

This advice is adapted from u/Wegmansgroceries on Reddit.

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[life-through-my-eyess]

Can you not see that it’s breaking my fucking heart… Or do you just not care.

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[britcision]

Listen. Could Dead and Loving It be a fraction of the length and maybe finished by now if I only focused on Danny and Jason?

Possibly

Would it be a better story?

Probably, from several perspectives

But it absolutely would not be the same story, and nor would it be the story I want to tell

Because I am hopelessly addicted to ensemble casts, and I don’t want the boys to exist in a vacuum. I want Jason to run off with his siblings and with Danny’s friends, and I want Danny to fuck with the bats

I want them to touch all the parts of each others lives that existed before they met, and will still continue to exist after even if things change forever between them

I want all the background characters to interact with each other, have their own inner worlds and their own motivations, and yeah, this absolutely means this is not an efficient telling of a slow burn romance

Because the story isn’t the slow burn romance

The story is these two people, and the world they live in, the story is the way Duke and Cass both see Jason differently than Dick and Tim ever could and that matters, and that none of them are wrong

The story is Danny finally telling people who will listen about the Anti-Ecto Acts, and all the fucked up things the GIW do, and being able to ask for help and have that be okay

The story is messy and complicated and will have so many rises and falls, so many pivotal moments that are drama and combat and so many that are just two people talking to each other and finally seeing eye to eye

The story is the way that Jason’s relationships with his family can finally mend, now that he has someone who can get him the help he’s needed

The story is the way that Danny can come to terms with the responsibilities of being a king, the constant question of agency and power and what he’s worth if he’s only Danny and not the Ghost King

The story is Clockwork fucking with the pair of them because he specifically thinks it’s funny (he’s right)

And yeah, there’s a slow burn romance in there. There’s also a coming of age tale, and a story about healing and reconciling and moving forward knowing you cannot change the past, but you can do better

Unless fucking Clockwork decides you can change the past because yeah then it’s fine to just go do that I guess

I was kinda considering breaking the story out into multiple chunks because holy fuck is 100k an intimidating chunk of words, but I’m not gonna

It’s all one story, and you will be my hapless victims as we get to fucking 300k or wherever this beast ends because we are not here for efficient story telling and motion of the plot

We’re here for the connections, the characters, the meaningless bullshit that would absolutely be cut in anything anyone ever wanted to sell, cuz I am not selling this

Imma write every fucking scene I wish I got from books, TV, movies, podcasts, actual plays, every fucking time I scream at the characters to just fucking talk to each other because messy is good too

Messy is okay

Stories don’t need to be marketable to be worth telling, and this one’s gonna be too long and intimidating for some people and that’s okay

But I fuckin’ rolled in from Critical Role which averages around 500 hours of content per campaign and a cast of 7 plus Matt’s NPCs

And I STILL want more goddamn character moments from all of them so I haven’t found a size yet that I can’t manage

I love reading focused stories that I can get through fast, and fuck, look at the rest of my AO3; I will fucking never diss a one shot, or a short story, or a piece that really focuses in on one or two characters

Delicious, I love them, my bread and butter

It’s just not what this mess is gonna be, and that’s okay too

Gods be fucking willing we will not have another six chapters that take place over the course of three hours, but we’ll just have to see how that shakes out cuz I’m being possessed by a seemingly infinite number of plot bunnies and my own tendency for “hey it’d be funny if”

And oh boy has it been funny every time

#danny fenton dead and loving it #i swear i can do short stories #i’m just not #also yeah 300k if we’re lucky based on my outlines so far #some of this will go faster but we’ll see #totally was gonna let tim just google amity park with tucker’s advice in mind but then #then my brain went ‘hey how funny would it be if danny just forgot they can’t contact amity’ #‘and tim couldn’t find a way around needing the amity park ip’ #so now we get a bunch more frustrated bat sibs #and i regret nothing #fucking adding like 5k to the story but it’s 5k of CRIME #and my sweet beloved darling harley #i did actually read all her comics up to 2018 #only dc character i go for but i am considering some red hood #mostly to see how upset comic store owners get when i ask for my 6’ of babygirl #no business for them if they got that toxic masculinity i only shop where cat maid hood rules #which fucking cannot be found online i’m heartbroken

[sudokuplayer]

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#boris was attacked by my neighbor's dog and i've been crying so much. i'm so scared #it's 9pm so my sister is driving him to a vet 1 hour away cause the vets near close at 7pm #idk why bad things keep happening to him i'm so heartbroken idk what i'll do if he dies #my neighbor is a cruel bitch cause this happened around 1 pm and she didn't tell us. she hid him in a room #she was gonna let him die like that #my sister was supposed to take me somewhere tomorrow so she came home one day earlier #i'd been crying all afternoon and i told her to please ask around and then they (w mom and brother) went to my neighbor's house #they brought him back and he looked very weak and with blood all over #my sister called a friend of hers who's a vet and she came to see him and adviced to take him to a vet clinic #cause he was bloated and there was air(?) and her face was worried when she said that cause.. where does air come from #plus he was breathing weird #i had the worst panic attack the whole time since they brought him from the neighbor's house until they left with him #i couldn't even speak cause i couldn't stop crying #now i'm calm but i'm so worried #if my sister hadn't come home today boris would be still hurt and locked in my bitch neighbor's house #cause my mom thought i was being paranoid :( she wasn't going to ask around #cause she thought boris would come back since he's been missing before #also my sister's the only one who can drive #:( #i'm so angry cause that bitch next door heard me calling boris name all afternoon and didn't say shit #i hate her. not only bc of this but she's suck a snake in general. she's always gossiping shit about everyone #she didn't do anything and locked him in a room for like 7 hours. maybe those hours were crucial #idk. if boris dies i'm gonna do some crazy shit to this bitch so she'll have a reason to call me crazy

[sweetfreedom2107]

I love the way you throw your head back everytime you laugh.

I thought I could stare at you all the time and never get bored, but I am bored. I need more.

I need your arms around my neck.

I need our lips to touch.

I want to wake up to your messy hair and the scars on your skin.

I want to openly love you.

I want to send you funny stuff and tell you everything about my life.

I want that to happen between us.

I want it.

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[uh-oh-im-falling-in-love]

Basically, i wished that you loved me

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[nicebigcuteeraser]

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[misunderstoodcrybaby]

Me cus even thru all the self care and love and progress I’m making as an Individual I’m still in love with someone i can’t have

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[therefrigeratorismadatme]

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[devils-angels-inc]

you’re breaking my heart

well, we aren’t talking anymore but you’re breaking my heart. i miss your voice i miss you pulling me close. if there’s a universe where you care for me like i do you i wish i could feel a tinge of its presence in my journey to self love, maybe that would make it easier. maybe being loved by you, feeling loved by you would make it easier. but you’re gone, worlds apart.

i miss the closeness of somebody by my side.

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