been thinking a lot about desi!tony (and am maybe venting personal experiences through fandom but who's to say?):
When Tony gets early admission into MIT, his mother immediately calls his mausi to check whether she's free for a pilgrimage
"Its very important to thank the gods for our good fortune beta," she says; cupping her hand around the flame and pressing it to the top of his head thrice in succession, "the gods have been fortunate to us and so we must show our gratitude"
He manages to finagle out of it, but he can't quite manage to convince his parents to let him go to MIT alone
"You're 15 puttar, you're not nearly old enough to go on your own," his ma fusses, "its bad enough that you're leaving home so early"
When they reach Cambridge, his Appa pulls him aside when his mom is busy settling things into the room
"You come from a family that once sat on the throne of Rajastan," Harish says solemnly; and Tony feels the weight of his father's fingers digging into his shoulder, "Don't forget your roots"
The thing that takes Tony by surprise, is money
Vaguely, he was aware that his family was rich and that he was well taken care of- but he never really truly understood what it meant until he met Rhodey
"The thing is Tones," Rhodey says in between bites of instant ramen, "you've never had to worry about money. So you've never learnt to budget. Now see me, I had to pay for everything myself once I got a job. Taught me a couple of life skills"
The next day Tony applies for a job at the college mess
It doesn't pay much, and Tony's social life takes a severe hit once his 'friends' figure out that he's no longer going to pave the way for them to drink (amongst other things) all night long
But the first time Tony pulls out a wrinkly $5 bill to pay for his burrito; he feels extremely accomplished
His parents, naturally, don't feel the same
His mother offers to send more money; his father threatens to cut him off since he seems to have "figured it all out for yourself anyway, what do you need me for?"
"Its not about the money Ma," he says in an even tone, squeezing Rhodey's hand everytime he feels like yelling, "Its about financial independence"
"Your father doesn't slave every single day in the office so that his son can sling food onto a white man's tray like a bloody slave," his mom yells furiously, "I thought I taught you better than you belittle yourself for money"
She cuts the call before he can say anything further, and he looks helplessly at Rhodey; burying his head against his shoulder
It takes 6 months and many, many phone-calls; but his parents reluctantly agree that the job at the college mess is good experience
"I still don't see why you can't get a job as a mechanic or something," his father says, "doesn't this take your focus away from your studies?"
"Never forget Tony," his parents emphasize, "Rajputs are lions, and a lion bows to nobody"
The words haunt him for the rest of his life
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While we’re on the subject of Connie name, I’ve noticed that you and other fanfic writers like to use the name kahani as like a nickname of sorts for her? What is that what does it means and where does it come from?
Kahaani is the proper romanized spelling, and it means “story” in Hindi.
It’s not universal, obviously, but it’s not uncommon for immigrant families to have a family name in the language of the culture they came from, and an Americanized name. There’s loads of really complicated reasons for that, and how it’s implemented can vary. Some families have that name on the birth certificate, but want a more American name for their kids in school. Some kids choose an Americanized name because the other kids won’t say their name right. Some parents only have the name from their culture unofficial, because they don’t want discrimination based on racial names to hurt their kid’s chances of success.
For instance, I have someone in my family named Alejandro, which is his official name on his birth certificate, that we all call him, but in his daily life he goes by Alex.
Giving Connie a name likely to came from an Indian culture, one that sounds like the name she uses in the show, spawns from that kind of idea.
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