“I liked it before it was cool” comes in, primarily, two different flavors
Sure, there are hipsters who say this because they want the prestige of having found something before it was popular. They want their taste applauded because they knew something was cool before it had been peer reviewed by millions of other people, which they somehow think makes them superior
But there are also people with RSD (most people with ADHD and a ton of others) who say this because it allows them to remove themselves from popularity discourse.
I’ve spent my life constantly saying to myself, “I liked it before it was cool,” and thinking it somehow made me a hipster, but I put some thought into it recently and realized that the two come from different sources.
When you have RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) and fall in love with something small and unknown, that thing becoming popular can be devastating.
When something becomes popular, 90% of society suddenly has an opinion about it. 30% of those with an opinion love the thing, 30% are neutral, and the last 40% hates the thing and those who love the thing.
That means this thing you used to love quietly, by yourself, is suddenly the target of discourse and hatred from tons of people - even people who you like or are friends with. Suddenly you have people all over your social media mocking the thing, calling it stupid, calling it immature, saying that people who like that thing have no taste. It’s an RSD person’s nightmare.
Saying “I liked this before it was cool” is a way of withdrawing from the popularity discourse.
It’s a plea to not be included in the group of people who liked it after it was popular and who are being mocked mercilessly. Is that fair? Should people with RSD be excluded from that mockery when the mockery is not targeting only those who became interested after the thing was popular? Not really. It’s a desperate move to save ourselves from unbearable hurt.
A great example of this is Owl City. I was listening to Owl City when I was 11, a year before Fireflies was released and hit the radio. When I was in 7th grade, at age 12, Fireflies came out and suddenly everyone knew who Owl City was. People were mocked for liking it because it wasn’t edgy or sexy or talking about cool, adult things.
Suddenly, something that had been private, personal, untouched by the public’s disdain, was being dragged through the mud. It hurt a lot and, even now, over ten years later, I’m embarrassed to like Owl City. I consoled myself by reminding myself that I liked it before it was on the radio. I said that to myself to somehow maintain that it was something private and okay for me to like all by myself, alone, and separate from the popularity discourse.
So anyway, if you say this to console yourself because something you care about is being mocked relentlessly, it doesn’t make you edgy or a hipster - it doesn’t necessarily mean you see yourself as superior to other people for having found it first. It’s armor against rejection.
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Women's March NYC, October 2nd, 2021.
Women's March events were held all over the country in response to recent efforts by right-wing radicals to use the rigged judicial system to restrict the rights of women. Here in New York City, a large rally and march was organized. The rally began in Foley Square where participants listened to guest speakers and musical performances.
Several of the guest speakers urged everyone present to vote out any politician who is not staunchly supportive of women's rights. Other speakers pointed out that the Supreme Court has been compromised by right-wing radical judges and should be expanded during the Biden Presidency to restore balance to the institution.
After the rally, the group took to the streets, marching from Foley Square to Washington Square Park.
The weather once again favored liberal New Yorkers, with an unusually warm October day featuring bright sunshine and temperatures nearing 80F (27C) degrees.
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