#how to explain gender

[m-for-now]

As someone who is genderfae (microlabel under genderfluid), I have a lot of different experiences with gender.

I just wish someone told me sooner that it won't go like "today I'm a girl" "today I'm an enby" but more like ,,, "today I am a swamp witch" "today I am a feminine victorian vampire boy" "today I am a forest goblin collecting people's stares about my gender expression like shiny rocks on the ground" "today I'm an androgynous pirate lady"

Like,,, sure, are those real genders? I don't fucking now. If a cisgender person asked me what I identify as that day, would I answer like that? No, definitely not.

But to my genderqueer, trans and genderfluid friends; do you get me? I can't be alone with this, right?

#genderfluid #genderfae #gender expression #genderqueer #transgender #nonbinary #queer #questioning my gender yet again #gender crisis #gender #my gender soup has so many flavours you don't understand #i needed to explain to my friend that when i say i want to dress like the cutest victorian inspired goth vampire prince #it's not actually a male gender #like.. you would really think it is #but that is a very nonbiney gender somehow #don't ask me how #or maybe it does count as male? #but the femininest androgynous male you can think of #like cute pretty let me giggle like a little girl kinda feminine #i don't even know if half of these things make sense #“why don't you just say girl or enby” #because moon witch dark cottagecore female isn't the same #as go out in the sun and enjoy the breeze i command a ship androgynous pirate lady female #anyways

[coffeelovinggayidiot]

Like all of tumblr, aparently: we 💜 love ✡️jews✡️ and we would 👊 punch nazis and we reblog five 5️⃣ different haukkah 🕎 posts a year we are like so progresive 💁✨️

Also all of tumblr, aparently: death to all jews 🚫✡️ if you're a jewish person who lives in IsNotRaEl then you're an evil 👺 bad jew and you deserve to be raped and murdered ☠️☠️ what? You fled to israel because we were murdering you by the millions??? Well you should have all died lol ☠️☠️ happy hanukkah btw 🕎

#jewblr #op is pissed off #ישראבלר #jewish #antisemitism #i/p #i/p conflict #antisemitism is so real both on this app and in general leftist communities #and I used to side with these people #if there was an attack on people based on their sexuality; gender; race; religion ect I like to believe I would have cared #that I would have shows campation to your loss and understand your pain #instead of actively be part of the bigotry againsts you #i don't trust so many of my mutuals right now because I now know that if there was a nazi uprising they wouldn't hide me #they would cheer at my death #THIS is why jewish people can't trust you guys #YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT JEWISH LIVES #there was a really good article that explained this really well and how so many people have and will lose jewish friends #because we now know that you aren't there for use. and that you were never there for us #'punch a nazi' and 'never forget' are just cute little slogens to you but they actually mean something to us #it used to mean safety; used to mean that we could trust you; now it's empty wprds ringing with betrayel #never forget #jewish lives matter #hamas #palestine #israel #bring on your hate I don't care y'all are a bunch of privliged fucks anyways who would have rallied behind hitler like a bunch of pigs #noa's jewish talk

[yardsards]

trans men who wear feminine clothing (because fuck the idea that men have to dress a certain way to be "real men") 🤝 trans men who refuse to wear feminine clothing (because fuck everyone who's been trying to force you to tone down your masculinity and "accept" being feminine your whole life):

being so strong and rad as hell and not needing to change a single damned thing about their gender presentation

#eliot posts #trans #trans men #ive been calling my gender ''nonbinary trans man'' lately #idk how to explain it but it feels like it Fits the whole Situation i got goin on? #i fall primarily into the second categary but with light dabbling in the first. like a slight fem flair to otherwise masc outfits #i might start wearing dresses again after i start hrt? but right now the way they make my body look makes me dysphoric #don't think i'll ever wear makeup though #it was something i refused even before i realized i was cisn't and was trying so hard to feel like a ''real girl'' #and i just dug my heels in harder about as people tried to pressure me into it

[canisalbus]

you say machete has to be closeted then why's he always wearing them little heels

Maybe he thinks he's a tiny bit nicer looking in them.

#no in fact he's just a little ahead of the curve let me try to explain #again I'm not a historian I'm just sharing what I've read I might be misremembering stuff so don't quote me on this #high heels became extremely fashionable in the early 1600's probably just a few decades after Machete's time #and they were originally worn by men #because they were inspired by Persian riding boots #if your shoes had heels you'd have easier time keeping your feet in the stirrups (think of cowboy boots) #Europeans saw them thought they looked snazzy and they became wildly popular in noble circles fairly quickly #for some hundred years or so high heels were the epitome of class wealth power and status and they were essentially genderless #remember that concepts of masculinity and femininity are fluid and change over time #things that were seen as manly a few centuries ago may seem downright effeminate to a modern viewer #it's all matter of perspective neither is objectively more correct than the other #they started to separate into men's heels and women's heels around mid 1700's iirc but the changes weren't massive even then #and only truly went out of vogue when the French Revolution hit in 1789 #and people all across the continent were suddenly put off by everything that reminded them #of the frivolousness and extravagance of royalty and aristicracy #so in his canon timeline I don't think people are looking at him and going “hmmm that's pretty gay” #because heels hadn't become gendered yet #maybe he likes how they accentuate his already tiny paws and make his legs look even longer than they are #he's interested in fashion or at least likes to dress nicely in high quality garments #he tries very hard to look his best despite never really feeling comfortable in his skin #he was a real shrimp as a kid and even though he eventually grew up to be a beanpole he might still find the extra height appealing #no one's going to look down on him ever again #I admit the way I draw them is a lot more modern than the true historical style at the time but not outrageously so #artistic freedom and all that in the end I'm not aiming for 100% accuracy #modern au Machete has no excuses though he's just a little bit fruity #if the guy feels empowered by wearing little clip cloppers let him #answered #anonymous #Machete

[manchesterau]

random dnp gifs 13/?

#dan and phil #dan and phil games #dpgdaily #daniel howell #phil lester #amazingphil #phan #dan is so gender here i dont know how to explain it #.gifs #my edit #mine #dnp #random dnp

[mistydragonflyart]

Cheers to always learning new things about ourselves and happy pride month!!

#pride month #pride #pride month 2022 #my art #art #digital art #comic #lgbtqia+ #queer #lgbt #gender #genderqueer #okay I'm going to rant a bit about gender here #I didn't realize how much pressure I was putting on myself when I identified as a woman #because once I started using genderqueer I felt a weight was lifted off my shoulders and it felt freeing #all the things that made me feel uncomfortable about being a woman is all gone #and for the first time I feel way more comfortable in my own body #I feel like now I can truly be whatever I want and present myself however I want without feeling like I need to explain myself constantly

[elodieunderglass]

I’m glad to be included in gender, and it’s an honor to trans your gender, but gender is astrology to me. “Girl sun boy moon.” You don’t agree, but now you get me better. Send post

#super super fun and everyone likes to look themselves up #but we made it all up yeah? #it’s like holidays yeah? #and then you learn more about (being very serious here) #there are living cultural practices that take astrology very seriously #and set up aspects of real world material oppression around your birth chart #(I was educated by a good friend on how astrology is handled in other cultures than my own) #which is also like gender: all in good fun until you realize people are taking it so seriously #that little kids are growing up in unconscionable circumstances #because their parents have decided who they are based on various external quirks like stars and colors #rather than the kid showing who they are through their heart. #so it’s all in good fun except when it isn’t. #but once again going back to the all in good fun part #it really is so sensible to say girl sun boy moon. #you can feel this #you get me!!! #it explains so much

[dreamtydraw]

gender and bodies, that something complicated

#my girlies #i miss doodling them #boop #I know this doodle isn't much but I wanted to bring gender dysphoria #I haven't draw valentin and idk why I wanted to draw a vulnerable part #idk how to explain #anyway #my girlies are in love #tamarack baumann #olnf #our life now and forever #my oc #olnf oc #valentin second #doodle

[moonflwer-gutz]

the barbie movie was great guys [muffled inconsolable sobbing]

#this is my gender identity btw #i dont even know how to explain myself with this one #just watch the movie youll get it #also listen to the lyrics of what was i made for #like #be so fucking for real #moonflwer shitposts #barbie #adam murray

[wellthatschaotic]

whenever i see someone who is like "yes but [x] isnt as oppressed as [y]!!" or "[x] is widely accepted now!!" as a way to like. disregard queer people's experiences. i'm just like. have you been outside? have you been in the real world?

#im just. #infighting is so dumb #'you're tme so you can't talk about-' first of all. we're not tme. transmasc =/= tme. honestly tme is a dumbass label anyway and has just #become a 'progressive' way to ask for agab #what do you think a boy/masc person in a dress reads as to transphobes. you think theyre gonna apologize if i say #'actually im transmasc not transfemme' #thats not how that works- #every time we try to correct our pronouns we get stopped because it's 'inappropriate' and 'uncomfortable' #same with every time we try to explain our gender #and yet there are still people online trying to judge if a complete stranger is 'queer enough' to count #(and if they're 'not' the reaction is like. death threats for some reason??) #and im always like. GO OUTSIDE. PLEASE. #the queerphobe on the bus does not ask for your labels before calling you slurs. the bully harassing you will not stop and apologize if you #try to say 'i'm not [x] actually im [y]' #they do not care. they are full of hate and they have already decided on a target. #also? you have no right to a stranger's labels and life experiences #trying to demand that is already creepy. especially since your goal is to see if they're worthy of respect #ok rant over i think. just. ahhghh

[webcxre]

idk if this is a hot take but ive seen so many have decided kinito's a trans guy and i love that

but let me raise you my headcanon............

he's a trans dude in the sense that while he was assigned male when created he never really. had a gender? as a computer program? he just was? so when more information about trans people and more trans people became open online he saw it and went. wait... what am i, then?

and decided he sorta resonated with something between nonbinary and trans guys from what he saw online. if he were to draw himself anthro he'd give himself top scars because he just thinks that's a marking all transmasc people have <3

#kinito #kinitopet #kinito the axolotl #headcanon #kinito hc #to explain how he's amab & transmasc: his very existence as a computer program puts him. ironically. outside the gender binary #so while he was TOLD he was male. he saw trans people and went “hey well hold on a second.” #“i dont really resonate with what people are saying about how men have to act. what if im not actually a male then?” #and then he learns and loops back around to. well im a guy but in my OWN way. #if that makes sense. idk

[worstloki]

Sigyn avoiding the allegations by only referring to masc Loki as her ‘husband’ and calling fem Loki her ‘bestie’ in the most allegation-inducing tones possible while insisting she’s unmarried for the time being

#‘how are you not married??? that’s the same guy!!!!’ #Sigyn: I’m heterosexual 🗣🔥🗣🦅💥💥🦅💯🔥🗣✨💥💥🦅🚨🙌🗡✨🦅💥💥 #people like why don’t u just call him your partner or explain that he’s living life as a woman at the moment and she’s like ‘...no <3’ #Sigyn avoids misgendering this way but also avoids people being mean about the gender switch bc she insists fem Loki is not the same guy #a true ally fr #‘does your husband know you’re at the club right now??’ *sigyn looks Loki in the eyes and asks ‘what husband?’*

[chroma-imp-draws]

Winx Club but make it ✨ high fantasy ✨

even thought this took me forever to finish, this all started from the pretty simple idea of: what if Winx fairies but with actually fantasy inspired designs?

I actually first had a more ambitious concept planned but I settled for something more reminiscent of the original outfits to keep them recognisable. I still want to eventually revisit my more ambitious designs but for now, have this.

The design inspirations for every character should be pretty obvioius: Bloom gets some fun dragon features, Stella gets to be a little more extravagant because of her royal status, Flora gets to look like a dryad, Layla is a fish, Tecna becomes a straight up (installation) wizard and Musa gets some fun bird features (cause songbirds, you know)

If you want to hear me talk about it more, I made a video talking about it: https://youtu.be/dhVM2W9aqHw

#winx club #digital art #character design #character art #clip studio paint #fanart #I cannot explain how happy I am that this is finally done #I'm thinking of makiing prints of these available but setting that up is a bunch of work that I don't have the energy for at the moment. #anyway hope you enjo #i can't tell you how hard i had to fight myself to not throw a radioactive vat of gender over these designs #my grubby little hands were shaking #maybe I will do that eventually. if I get on the Winx nostalgia train again. mayhaps