#hshqtask047

[barbiebraganca]

* ⠀ ⠀ 🐝 ⠀ ⠀ / ⠀ ⠀ task 47.⠀ ⠀ 、 ⠀ love language ⠀ ❫

expressing  — quality time, gift giving

receiving  — quality time, physical touch

it really is no surprise that a child of people with important and demanding jobs would show and receive love mainly through quality time. in the first few years of her life, henrique wouldn’t let barbara out of his sight; too protective to do so. having a child had been his wish, why would he want to be away from her when he finally got barbie ? it was when he dropped everything to sit in the middle of his office and play with a two year old that she felt the happiest. that she felt loved. and that’s the sentiment she tries to replicate and inflict on others: barbara isn’t one to speak of feelings, let alone confess them, so words of affirmation could never be her thing. physical contact for her is strategic, it’s done when she deems necessary. acts of service can’t be done when one barely has the time to breathe. now if she finds being with you is more important than whatever is pinned and marked on her schedule, that’s how you know you’re loved by barbara. but she can’t always be there, dropping everything is easier said than done — that she learned from her mother — so she makes up for it by giving you something that will have you know she cares. a birthday might be missed but the birthday present will never be forgotten. she couldn’t make it to an important night ? you’ll get the biggest congratulatory present. and it was never about the present itself but the time and effort she puts into finding a way to say she loves you into an object: a personal one that shows she knows you. 

just as much as she enjoys both of those things by giving does she enjoy receiving them, but neither catches them off guard as physical touch could. because she isn’t one to do it herself, rarely does she expect another to do it for her. often she thinks of how much peace and care can be showed by a simple touch, so much she almost wishes she could do it herself. but it feels so much better to be given this kind of affection when a tight and warm hug comes out of nowhere or someone lays their head on her shoulder, holds her hand, touches her hair. if she judges it truthful, barbie will for sure melt into the action. from a romantic partner she expects contact at all times — never initiated by her, god forbid she does it herself.  a hand on her arm, waist, small on the back, shoulder, hand, hip, even if it’s only their arms touching she’ll appreciate it. it really isn’t hard to make barbie feel loved: she likes to hear it but actions do speak louder than words.

#idek what this is #but i did it #hshqtask047 #* ⠀ ⠀ 🐝 ⠀ ⠀ / ⠀ ⠀ viii.⠀ ⠀ 、 ⠀ task ⠀ ❫

[laylabahiti]

TASK FORTY-SEVEN: LOVE LANGUAGE

quality time • physical touch

I. QUALITY TIME

layla’s top love language is quality time, predictable coming from someone who spent most of her childhood alone. the only time she really spent time with her parents was during press appearances and around the dinner table, both of which she endured in silence. amon gave her attention for as long as he was able, but he too eventually had royal responsibilities.

she doesn’t need much out of quality time, simply being in the same room as her friends and loved ones elicits peace. to her, quality time means paying attention to one another, which is why she prefers quiet atmospheres over crowded parties — she is aware her friends have other friends, and she’ll get it in her head that she is the less important friend. she’s the less important child, after all.

this factors in as to why layla jumped right in with aslan. he wanted to see her, be around her, and she latched onto that attention. his undivided attention. they would laze around reading together, not even the same book, but they were together and that’s what mattered most. he never seems bored of her, so yes, she dives into panic mode when she feels like she isn’t getting enough quality time (and thus ends up starting arguments, unable to outright say that she wants him around more because she doesn’t want to sound selfish).

quality time also plays a part in why layla is a hands-on mother. she wants nuray to have more memories with her than with nannies; work will always be there but sooner or later, her daughter will be grown and out on her own. she wants to ensure nuray doesn’t have the same childhood experience she did and never doubts the love her parents hold for her.

II. PHYSICAL TOUCH

this is nearly equal with quality time, once again because she literally wasn’t held as a child. if layla could live in a hug for the rest of her life, she would. physical expressions of love come across better than words and compliments (poor self-image over here): a hug, a hand on her arm, playing with her hair, anything.

this can tie into quality time, depending on whom she’s with. if layla is comfortable with the other person, she’ll stay physically close to them. she doesn’t ever outright ask for touch, even when in dire need of comforting, relating back to not wanting to sound selfish. she loves offering hugs and reassuring hand squeezes, but she worries about crossing boundaries so this is reserved for very close friends and family.

now, she wasn’t always super into physical touch, but she got used to it after spending so much time with aslan. if they weren’t holding hands or she wasn’t tucked under his arm during an outing, something was wrong. layla was a huge cuddler from the start, and he never shrugged her away. 

she definitely opened up intimately the moment they were married, and frankly, she’s never not in the mood. aslan used to be the one going for a hand hold there or hand on the arm there, but now layla is the one clinging to him. another tie to quality time: if she’s sexually frustrated (this mainly started after the date auction sry to aslan), she still won’t outright say anything and will let it fester until arguments start.

TLDR: layla needs affection or she’ll combust.

#hshqtask047 #lovely precursor to psyche #task 047.

[vrnvuld]

                    HSHQTASK047: LOVE LANGUAGES

expressing — acts of service / quality time

it’s all very simple: he believes his time is the most valuable thing on earth. if arnauld is willing to sacrifice his precious seconds on you, it means that he gives a crap about you. but... he finds it easier to express his love through acts of service. he likes to cook, he might arrange something on your behalf, either way he is willing to spend time and energy on the people he cares about... every once in a while.

receiving — quality time

this is a no brainer: if he has made time for someone, he expects them to have done the same. he knows the value of time, be it his own or someone else’s. because he leads a very hectic life, he likes the sort of calmness that comes from just spending time with someone.

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[elysefz]

HSHQTASK047: Elyse’s Love Languages

showing love: acts of service, gift giving receiving love: quality time

elyse is inherently selfish. she doesn’t mean to be but she struggles to see others’ needs at all, especially those closest to her. as a result, elyse’s way of showing love is to do something nice for someone else. it means that she thought about it and spent time and energy on something. elyse taking time for someone else is literally the most loving thing she can do. second to this is gift-giving because she is like a cat and will bring you d*ad things to show her love.

elyse receives the most love with quality time. she’s a very busy person and likes to go-go-go as a way of hiding from all the insecurities in her head. someone who will just be with her. who will listen to her theories, let her talk, or encourage her to sit quietly for at least 5 minutes so like a god in elyse’s book. it means the world to her. to just be the center of someone’s attention for a few minutes and have them smile at her. have them treat her like a human being. 

#hshqtask047 #task! #( i’ll swallow my blood before i swallow my pride. ) #( the rumors are terrible and cruel but honey most of them are true. )

[loladebelgique]

& .   HSHQTASK # 𝟬𝟰𝟳   /   LOVE LANGUAGE .

                                            HOW LOLA NEEDS   ‘  LOVE  ’  !

QUALITY TIME    __    for éloïse, who’s spent a majority of her life sheltered and fearing loneliness, having people around her has become her norm  --  whether it was doctors, nurses, her cardiologists, her parents, her siblings or her grandmother  ;  there was always someone there. it’s something she’s grown used to and has begun to associate with the feeling of love and closeness. the way éloïse feels loved is when someone is there, whether they’re talking, playing games or just spending time in silence  --  their presence is more than enough for éloïse to feel secure and protected, and most importantly, loved.

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                                        HOW LOLA EXPRESSES   ‘  LOVE  ’  !

ACTS OF SERVICE / WORDS OF AFFIRMATION    __    éloïse has always been on the receiving end of many a words of comfort and affirmation that it is no surprise that the girl knows how to throw words of concern and love and comfort in the exact same way. albert and anne had taught their kids through practice that genuine love could be found in the places one holds close and dear. for éloïse, her family has taught her this a ten-fold. for éloïse she believes love can move mountains and in that same way, it is how she shows how she loves and cares for a person by both being there in their time of need and comfort. 

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#hshqtask047 #˟ ⋮ 𝒆 . tasks

[tvkla]

HSHQ TASK FORTY SEVEN  /  tekla’s love language.

GIVING: 

i. QUALITY TIME. 

tekla is a woman on a mission, always has been !  when she was younger, time management wasn’t exactly her strongest suit, and there was apprehension on coming off the wrong way or offending people — she wasn’t as good at saying no as she is now. her time is extremely precious to her, especially the time that she carves out of an already busy schedule. if she takes the time to spend with you, it really means you’re special. this goes for friends, family, and of course, especially @thcrc. 

with thore, they are both busy, they both have separate lines of work that don’t always converge — when they do, she’s all business. but it’s in the evenings as they’re winding down for the night, the mornings when they wake up, when they’re getting ready to go somewhere, when they plan something together or when she begs him to take her somewhere on a respite from their life, even if it’s just for dinner is, when she makes the effort to be completely and absolutely present. she cherishes that. it strengthens their bond, it gives her life.

ii. PHYSICAL TOUCH.

her physicality speaks volumes. tekla has a sinuous and fluid form, it’s often easy to tell when she’s completely relaxed around a person. she’ll touch friends on the arm or elbow while talking, nudge them playfully, lean on them if they’re sitting next to each other, squeeze them when she gets excited, clasps their hands in hers sincerely when she is listening to something deep, loops their arms with hers when they’re doing something mundane. with the best of friends, this happens a little more in subtle ways — part of it is a sense of belonging and safety, it not only bolsters her emotionally and psychologically, but it’s something she wants known. her friends. her favourites. it is less about being possessive than it is about love and pride.

with family & thore, hugs are plenty, but she is careful not to overstep. nilsa of course gets the full brunt of her urges. she doesn’t love being attached to thore at the hip during events, it’s counterproductive, but when they are in safe, familiar territory, some part of her body is always touching his: whether her hand rests on his lap, or their knees are pressed against each other, or she is absentmindedly rubbing his arm, or has her fingers laced with his. in a way, he is like her social power battery, she feels him around her and a surge of energy boosts her to carry on doing whatever she’s doing. i don’t think i need to explain how physical tekla is with thore when they’re alone together ;) , she loves playing with his hair, it’s one of her favourite things and can be annoying about it sometimes. 

RECEIVING

i. PHYSICAL TOUCH. 

this is really not as relevant for platonic relationships as it is for thore & her family. as far as romance goes, nonsexual acts of physical touch were not as important to her from a romantic partner until thore — she can’t explain it, and neither can i. it’s this inexplicable form of comfort and need for it that drives this. if he doesn’t reciprocate the way she touches him of his own volition then what’s the point ?  

ii. ACTS OF SERVICE.

i feel like this is self-explanatory. loyalty and understanding are two things that are very important to her, and people with both tend to get into her closer circles very quickly. this is because these are the types of people who learn what she needs the quickest and are there before she even realises she’s bitten off more than she can chew, or might need a little boost. 

just look at the important people in her life: 

thore, because he’s been raised to treat women the way they want and need to be treated. the croÿs may be problematic, but they are loyal and it is the occasional lack of support in actions that sometimes make her struggle to feel valid despite @fannicroy‘s sweet words, @olimpiacroy’s praise and @lcvcntc ‘s occasional acknowledgement. @ebbv got her through a very trying time in her life when she was entering into the glücksburg clan officially without tekla ever needing to ask and surpassed nearly everyone in her wedding party. she will return the favour or die trying ( or lavish time & attention where ebba needs it because it’s how she gives love best: see first section ). i’m mentioning very very few people — there are a few more, but i am tired and lazy and very sorry about that.

                                                  xoxo, brought to you by lea,                                                       happy valentines’ day !!

#hshqtask047 #task #it is 2am i hope it doesn't suck #i took the quiz and her results were very dual tied so she has a primary and secondary for both giving and receiving!

[yihwa]

047 # HSHQTASK  :  LOVE LANGUAGE .

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HOW KWON YIHWA NEEDS   ‘  LOVE  ’  !

WORDS OF AFFIRMATION    __    baby, tell me you love me . as a child, when you’re told you are beautiful, you believe it. as an adult, if you still believe, you’re a fool, however, that proves not to be the case for yihwa. nothing makes her happier than being told she’s appreciated  --  that she is loved  --  that she’s as perfect as she’s been trying so goddamn hard to be ; little compliments that may sound pretty to the ear but make her heart swell ten times its size. communication, itself, is important to her and plays a huge role in how she perceives her relationship with others. if communication begins to drift, she begins to feel less secure. 

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HOW KWON YIHWA EXPRESSES   ‘  LOVE  ’  !

QUALITY TIME  & PHYSICAL TOUCH    __    let’s stay together . for others, yihwa believes quality time and physical touch go hand in hand. she will clear time in her schedule, drop whatever she’s doing, hail the next plane ticket if needed, in order to spend time with the people she loves. when she’s there, she’s giving you her undivided attention, actively listening and giving others the focus and meaningful attentiveness they deserve. physically affectionate, yihwa isn’t one who shies away from giving others hugs and kisses on the cheeks  --   even if it means rumpled clothes and lipstick stains on unblemished skin. she wants others to know that her presence is there for them and will make it known through small gestures like stroking their hair back, brushes of the thumb against the back of their palms, or even being the shoulder to cry on.

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BONUS !   HOW KWON YIHWA PERCEIVES   ‘ V-DAY ’  !

&    _    a heart half full, a glass half empty . since valentine’s day is the same day as her birthday, yihwa is usually indifferent about valentine’s day. she doesn’t necessarily celebrate nor does she think negatively of the holiday or anyone who likes it / celebrates it, even if it is oh-so-obviously a capitalist’s dream. if her friends are free, then she’ll have dinner with them for her birthday. but more often than not, they usually have valentine plans so she spends her birthday full of birthday greetings and wishes but no actual plans and usually a night in with wine. however, she does like the aesthetic of the holiday since red is one of her favorite colors. 

#hshqtask047 #⁺ 𝐘𝐇 / TASKS . #leave it to me to add onto it an hour later

[highsocietyhq]

HSHQTASK047: LOVE LANGUAGES

in the spirit of valentine’s day, this task requires you to consider your character’s love languages ? how do they express love ? similarly, how do they receive love ? dig into their psyche and show us why you think this is ! are their love languages the same in platonic relationships vs. romantic ? this task is OPTIONAL and the tag is #HSHQTASK047.

— click the source link to read up on chapman’s five love languages !

#inspired by abby ! #y'all really do the most <3 #hshqtask047 #hshqtask

[mchaeleicn]

HSHQTask047: Love Languages

giving love: touch receiving love: touch

Michael is incredibly sensitive about touch. He’s not entirely sure where it came from but he knows it started before his father started hitting him. Not that that helped. He find physical contact to be an incredibly personal and intimate thing and does not share it likely. So anytime he does so, it is incredibly special. 

PDA is very uncommon for Michael so when photos started showing him holding hands with Parker, the press knew it was a big deal. People hardly even see him hugging or being close to his sister, even though he was famously protective. That’s what started the rumors of him being unaffectionate. Cold. The opposite is truth, Michael is merely private. He saves his hugs and shoulder squeezes for when he’s alone with someone. 

When Michael wants to convey support or comfort he will grab someone’s hand and squeeze. His grip is always firm but never domineering. Michael likes to leave space for other people to be, he knows he has power and tries not to overwhelm people, he wants people to have the space he never had. 

Because Michael is so reluctant to touch and be touch he is also touch starved meaning then when you touch him he’ll lean into it. He does this mostly with Parker, leaning into touch and sinking into being cuddled like a man taking a drink of water after wandering in the desert. 

It’s also important to know that Michael would never and will never raise his hand to another in anger. He is a solider and commanders of the Irish military and nows that he will send men and women to kill and be killed. That he can accept. But he had committed himself to never striking another person out of anger. Michael has the scars that come from that and he not become his father. 

#( i’m not looking to be found just want to feel (un)lost. ) #( a healers heart and a lovers mind. ) #hshqtask047 #abuse tw #im emotional #task!

[kscniya]

hshqtask047 »  love languages.

pulled an all nighter preparing documents before a deadline ? she’ll bring your coffee order to your desk just when your eyes start dragging in sleep. just stepped into the shower ? she’ll throw your towel into the dryer, so it’s warm by the time you come out. important meeting on wednesday at noon ? she’ll have your dress shirt ironed and hung up on your door by wednesday morning. 

in both platonic and romantic relationships, kseniya expresses love through acts of service. her psyche plays heavily into the way in which she demonstrates affection — she takes upon acts that she hopes will make her loved ones feel appreciated and tasks that will assist in lightening their loads. 

despite this, she does not enjoy receiving love through acts of service. although they are greatly appreciated, love expressed towards her through acts often make her feel burdensome. with such a strong tendency to second guess her place and her worth, she feels most loved when affection is given to her through words of affirmation. 

#hshqtask047 #task. #keeping it short as usual (:

[catherinestuart]

the art of give and take, but mostly take: love in the world of catherine stuart

growing up, no one could ever accuse queen mary of being affectionate in any way. she finds the act superfluous, and little catherine — who wanted nothing more than to embody her towering mother — would agree empathically. her father, however, was softer and just a tad more loving, he used to take his girls up onto his shoulders, patting them gruffly in the head when they did something right. but that barely meant anything to catherine, she cared for the queen’s opinion more, no matter how much she loves her father. it was during her time with  her first boyfriend in university did she realise just how potent physical touch could be, he was her first love, and poor catherine was so overcome with emotions that she could never find the words to express them. so she kept her hands on him, reaching towards him in bed and barely leaving his side when they’re not in public — even though there were moments in their group outings where she managed to discreetly fold herself onto his side. after they broke up the cycle continues, albeit more subtly as she grew into adulthood, small pats of the arm to her sisters, light stroking of their hair in rare moments of tenderness, light one-armed hugs for her close friends and soft squeezes of their arms. it was easy to forget her small bouts of affection because they are few and far in between, she doesn’t really love many people in the first place and would not like to advertise where her personal loyalties lie. but when it rains, it really does pours: max will learn that eventually xoxo. 

when it came to receiving, catherine expects and demands people around her to perform acts of service in varying degrees. it might be the official love language for all stuart heirs, it had been clear in their upbringing that you were supposed to give and give to your country. as the future head of the country and someone who will be synonymous with scotland, she must be on the receiving end of such acts of service, even in her personal life. however, she never expected anyone outside of the family to do anything for her, merely assuming that most of her work would be hers to do alone. having someone actually do something for her would be a pleasant surprise, it might even touch her heart.

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[jclvni]

hshqtask047 »  love languages.

some believe that your love language takes form in the avenues that you lacked throughout your upbringing. 

it was very much in andrew rhodes’ nature to have hurled shiny toys to a young jelani to distract from the animosity he’d harbored towards his stepson. now, material possessions do very little in quenching his desire for affection. he seeks love through the quality time he’d severely lacked, growing up. words came easy to him, but only when they didn’t matter — only when they were for show, or when he had something to gain from them. 

when expressing love, his mind turns to scrabble. he’d grown up accustomed to matches of insults and slurs echoing through the halls of the palace — a far stretch from words of affirmation. he expresses love in silence. when slammed doors caused his jaw to tense, imani’s hand would always find his, and offer a gentle squeeze. when his paintings were selected for a school exhibit andrew was too busy to attend, niara mwezi would pull his shoulder into an embrace. when his team would lose a game by two points, imani would rush onto the field, arms outstretched. where words can never suffice, he expresses love through physical touch. 

#hshqtask047 #task.

[vslvano]

HSHQTASK047: Aslan’s Love Languages 

showing love: gift giving receiving love: acts of service

Okay, so, Aslan has this drawer in his closet that is full of gifts he’s purchased Layla but hasn’t given her yet. He realize early on that he couldn’t go around giving her diamond tennis bracelets and stupid snow globes from whatever city they were in every day. So, when he sees something he wants to give her, something that makes him think of her, he buys it and stores it so he always has something for whatever occasion or just when he decides it’s been enough time. Aslan’s definition of enough time is about 10 days. 

He used to give things to his mother as well. Somewhere there is a box full of drawings, little crafts from school, and pressed flowers that he’d given her. Lilit would always smile and kneel down to kiss him on the cheek, make a show of inspecting and commenting on something specific she liked. Aslan learned that he could make his mother smile by giving her things, though Lilit smiled all the time. Still, Aslan always strived to make her happy.

Aslan likes receiving gifts just fine. However, for some reason, when he is receiving, the whole thing seems perfunctory. Instead, he receives love through acts of service. As a child when he was ill, requiring frequent medical attention and not infrequent hospitalization, his parents were always by his bedside. Yes, there were nurses and doctors around to do things but his parents were at every step holding his hand, getting him things, checking on him. Aslan associates attention and helpfulness with love. Even when he was older and much healthy, his father and sister were always checking his temperature, making sure he had a scarf. To him that is want love looks like.

#i suggested this task purely so i could talk about aslan's gift drawer #hshqtask047 #( let the pain remind you hearts can heal. ) #( be careful making wishes in the dark. ) #childhood illness mentioned #task!

[vrnvuld]

HSHQTASK047 — LOVE LANGUAGE

under a read more because i got carried away !

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[fannicroy]

RECEIVING — words of affirmation

It’s all very simple: you tell her she is important, make her feel seen, make her feel loved — and she’s content. It��s one of the reasons why she very much prefers straight forward people. Directness makes her worries disappear and she doesn’t spend time second-guessing the relationship. Be it friends, lovers or family, she needs to hear she is wanted around, adored, loved. She can sometimes have trouble reading between the lines and her mind is very capable of filling her head with doubts. Words are important to Fanni. 

GIVING — gifts

The difference between acts of service and gift giving is small when it comes to royals but Fanni’s thinks little trinkets are the best way to express her love. Someone crosses her mind when she sees an item, she buys it. If it’s something more expensive, she saves it for a special occasion, otherwise she simply surprises the other person. She puts in a lot of effort into birthday and Christmas presents, plans them months ahead and is terribly displeased if she feels like her present is lacking. It might not be a lot considering how wealthy everyone are but it’s just goes to show how the people she cares about inhabit her mind and how often she thinks of them. 

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