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prettieinpink · 4 months

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Urgent ask, how be a baddie as a extremely under confident person

BECOMING YOUR BEST SELF WITH LOW CONFIDENCE

i have no idea what ur definition of a 'baddie' is, so this post may have not been what you've been looking for, but I tried my best

A lot of us struggle with confidence, and it can be the main factor that holds us back from growing to be our best selves. So, I’ve created a guide on improving ourselves even with low confidence.

UNDERSTAND THAT IT IS NOT UNREPLENISHABLE. Confidence is like a cup of water, tea, coffee, hot cocoa, or whatever your favourite beverage is, it can always be refilled. While you don’t have to ‘fake till you make it’, remember that you do not live with a restricted amount of confidence.

ACCEPT IT. Whatever way you have to, crying, journalling, venting, you have to accept that you are a person who struggles with low confidence. However, instead of identifying yourself as that, identify yourself as learning to self-love.

E.g. ‘I’m so insecure’ → ‘I am still learning to love myself.’ ‘Why can’t I be like them?’ -> ‘I will learn that I do not have to be someone else.’

CONSIDER NEUTRALITY. You don’t have to live on this odd scale of loving yourself or hating yourself all the time, and letting it define you. Instead of what it looks like, what it can look like, what it can do, see it as a special vessel that homes your soul.

For example, my body can digest the food that nourishes my soul, my hands can write text messages to my loved ones which reassure my soul that they know they are loved etc. Seeing it in this perspective grows a deeper meaning and appreciation for your body.

I like to see my body, traits, and life as a gift from God. Me insulting these things, is an insult to him.

INDULGE IN YOUR STRENGTHS. When we have low confidence, it becomes almost second nature to focus on our weaknesses. Instead, try to actively focus on your strengths. If you don’t know what your strengths are at the moment, just focus on things that make you happy.

It would be beneficial to add one thing that you know you’re good at on your list of what to do. Something that you’re assured you’ll like doing and the outcome.

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Eat a well-balanced diet, make an effort to achieve good quality sleep, exercise when you can, reach out to your loved ones daily and incorporate things that make you happy.

Just these simple things can improve your quality of life by far, however, our intentions to do these things may be impacted by our low confidence, and therefore we are unmotivated to do these things.

If that is the case, take little steps in doing each thing and remind yourself that intentional self-neglect is a form of self-harm and destruction.

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kingess · 1 year

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okay so just wanted to ask how to be ready for a relationship. Like a real, healthy relationship. I thought I was prepared but when the opportunity came, I just couldn't do it. I used to think I was ready but still I would attract those very consuming and harmful situationships. But now I realize I myself wasn't ready for a proper relationship. So how can I prepare myself for one?

You heal.

You take an intentional detox period from males and go in total celibacy for at least 5 months. No talking, no flirting and no entertaining males for any purpose. You're not going to use the time to just lounge around though; you're going to want to complete 4 steps.

Trauma work. You're going to deep dive into what's happened to you and how that affects your relationships as an adult. Get the books and get the journal going. What you face can be erased.

Confidence work. You need to find yourself because after all you've accepted into your reality you're a shell of the woman you could be. Level up, refine your style and social act and get comfortable with your self-validation being your main fuel.

Be fearlessly & intentionally alone. Stop accepting "good enough"-people in your life. Stop accepting friends or family that don't align with your values or dreams. Absolutely drop people that don't respect you deep or hype you up. Set boundaries; only love should get access to you.

Learn to vet a man. Finally, to find diamonds from a sea of rocks you have to be very clear and skilled. Your standards have to be as solid as your goal. Learn to drop males from the first sign showing they're not what you're after.

In my opinion, every woman should go through this process for their clarity if they're after a commited relationship.

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blissfullyecho · 1 year

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Do you have any tips on becoming more eloquent, or a better communicator? I often struggle to find the right words or express myself clearly to others, especially in a work setting. Thank you!

how to become more eloquent + become a better communicator (workplace edition)

reading

try to read more if you don’t read as much or at all— it doesn’t matter if it’s nonfiction or fiction, but if you practice reading, you practice saying thoughts/words/sentences/etc. in your mind as you read which is clear and concise because that’s how the author wrote the book/article in the first place. authors don’t write “like” and “um” and “uh” when they are communicating to the reader, unless of course a character said those words but again, a character isn’t talking to you (the reader), but to another character. like i said, when an author writes, it’s to convey a clear and concise message to you, the reader. when you start reading more, you begin to pick up on also being more clear and concise when you not only read, but also write.

practice common workplace questions and answers.

for example, if you work customer service, what are the common questions you get asked that require a good answer from your employer, coworkers, and clients/customers/patients? think about what you normally have to talk about or answer in the workplace, write an answer down, and practice that answer so you have a quick, clear, and concise answer to that common question.

if you say “like”, “um”, and “uh” — or any other filler word, try to take a breath and slow down when you talk

you don’t have to be quick on your feet all the time and answer in .2 seconds. take a quick moment to gather your thoughts, smile, and then speak. it’s not as awkward as it may feel the first few times you do so. waiting 3 seconds is not that big of a deal. try to catch yourself the next time you are about to use a filler word and just take a short pause.

develop your vocabulary

you don’t have to use diction from shakespeare times, but simple changes such as using words like “ostracized” instead of saying that you’re feeling “left out” or “inquire” instead of “ask” could help make you seem more eloquent. i believe dictionary.com still does the “word of the day” where they give you a vocabulary word, definition, and pronunciation. also, reading helps a lot (once again)!

practice public speaking tips + techniques

even if you aren’t a public speaker, practicing the skills and techniques public speakers use when they talk to an audience would help tremendously if you’re just talking to one person. purchase books on public speaking and search up public speaking advice on youtube for free.

practice on being a better (enter your job title here)

i don’t know what you do for work, but take on training for your profession. go to seminars, networking events, purchase a course online, buy books from those in your industry, or again, go on youtube for free. you have to train to become better :)

spend time with more professionals or people who can speak eloquently

you pick up habits and traits from those you spend your time with so be careful with who you spend a lot of time with.

i hope i helped!

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lifestylebybf · 4 months

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Question for ladies with ambition. Specially those focusing in reaching a luxurious lifestyle, do you keep friendships with friends that seem to settle for everything and anyone? Unambitious friends? I feel mean thinking this way about women who I used to be so close with, like I'm sitting on a high horse or something, but watching them throw opportunities away and realising our lifestyles will probably always be totally different makes me think I should start cutting ties and looking out for new relationships.

In my opinion, to be worthy of my time you either need to be interesting or we can do interesting things together. If none of those happen then I've got better ways to spend my time tbh.

What do you all think? Really interested in hearing other povs

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daphnedauphinoise · 1 year

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which cream blushes would you recommend? budget and high end options please!

In order of price low-high

Revolution Super Dewy Liquid Blush - £5 ⭐ELF Putty Blush - £6 ⭐Glossier Cloud Paint - £17⭐Saie Dewy Liquid - £20 ⭐Rare Beauty Melting Blush - £21 ⭐Vieve Sunset Blush Balm- £21 ⭐ Charlotte Tillbury Beauty Blush Wand - £30 ⭐Tata Harper Cream Blush - £38 ⭐Chantecille Cheek Gelée - £43

Daphne xox

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swabian-princess · 1 year

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Hey girl !

I wanted to ask some advice on going out alone . I have a lot of networking events in the expensive district of my city and really want to go but kinda scared to go by myself .

Any tips would be massively appreciated 💗

Hey!

First off all, there is nothing wrong with going out alone but I know that‘s easier said than done.

Here are my tips:

Start small. Take yourself for a nice walk alone and bring a book or listen to a podcast. This is for getting used to spending time with yourself.

Go out for breakfast or lunch by yourself so you get used to going out alone.

Dress well, wear makeup, do your hair - everything that makes you feel good about yourself.

Before you go to an event, make sure that you‘re well informed. Who will attend? What is the reason for the event? What is the dresscode? Do your research so you can fit right in.

If there are people attending that you would like to befriend or just to make a nice first impression - write down the things you know about them, what you would like to ask them, what you like about their company etc - just a few things you could talk about. Be prepared.

Fresh up your etiquette.

Have fun!!

Selene

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a-philanthropistswife · 1 year

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Say more!

I don’t know what they’re putting in these vegan protein powders but I’ve been in a real feisty mood lately so here we go…

If you fumbled the bag, just say that!!!

But don’t sit up here and tell other girls what’s possible for them and what’s not. It’s giving hater, it’s giving jealousy, it’s giving misery loves company.

I saw a post a while ago that said something like these posts telling you to dress cute and go to a grocery store are gonna have you out here looking dumb, rich men don’t go grocery shopping.

Like……WHAT?!?

I swear some of these people just don’t have social skills and are telling on themselves. How hard is it to take a shower and put some clothes on and go do things you normally do but in an affluent neighborhood? But omg noooo, you’re gonna look dumb or people are gonna say you’re a whore!! Which honestly is the real reason a lot of girls fail at this or are not cut out for hypergamy and being spoiled gfs. They care too much what other people think about them.

I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve been hit on at Whole Foods, or Erewhon, or Trader Joe’s by a man with money. And to be honest I didn’t even look that cute! At least not in the way these same pages will describe you have to look.

There’s a reason this lifestyle is exclusively for girls comfortable using seggs work tactics. Heauxs don’t care if people think they’re heauxing because those people are either gonna pay your bills or not. And if they’re not paying a bill then they can fuck off with their opinions. If a heaux let everyone’s opinions throw them off their game they’d go hungry.

It all comes back to mindset and self worth. There’s a certain way you have to carry yourself to attract and keep the attention of a high net worth individual. You have to be beyond confident that you will succeed. All this it’ll never happen woe is me 💩 is for the birds. Because it has happened for many many many girls before you and will happen for many after you. They’re not that much cuter or smarter than you. Mostly they just have the audacity. They believed they could do it and didn’t stop until they did while other girls complained about having to go to the grocery store and actually talk to a man.

So which kinda girl are you?

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dont-telljasmine · 1 year

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Today and every day…

Be completely delusional. Yes, they are staring at you because you’re the most beautiful thing they’ve ever seen when you walked into the room. You DO have THE fattest of asses, and he left you because he’s been off his meds and doesn’t know his left from right.

Believe it and be blessed 🫶🏾

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drakulateeth · 1 year

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As a femme fatale, you must have mastered the art of always saying less than necessary. I'm also trying to master that, because I often feel like I say a bit more than I should and tend to regret it afterwards, so I was wondering if you had any advice on how to avoid saying too much both in general and in a specific situation (like how do I stop myself in the situation from that kind of behavior).

Hi dear,

Thank you for your ask <3

To be honest with you, my brand doesn’t align much with mystery. But I have gone through an oversharing phase that made me view life differently and last March I set out a goal for myself that I would not say more than necessary at all times, so I will share with you what has been working for me so far.

Starting point

First off all you need to know when you tend to overshare and when you tend to not talk at all. Then you can decide on what causes you to react like that, and what you think the appropriate reaction should be. And then you can create a war map on predictable situations.

I actually like talking to people and bonding like that, so it isn’t necessarily something I want to change, but I have decided that I do not want everyone’s feedback on everything, and that I don’t want to prove myself for the sake of proving that I am doing x, meeting with y, working on z. So I do think it is necessary for you to have some degree of awareness as to when and why you overshare. Being aware of the situation is the first step into improving it.

What to do when the situation arises!

Speak slower. Learned that trick from the days that my teachers would ask me something I wasn’t very sure about, speak slowly with a low tone. It appears like you’re in full control while also giving yourself some room to think. Take some deep breaths while talking if you tend to overshare and speak fast, not only do you exhaust yourself but other people as well. Just slow down.

Do a quick estimation of the situation, do you not know what to do with yourself so you just drown the other person in words? Do you feel awkward? Why? You need to know on what topics do you not want to give your input and on which ones you would not mind elaborating on. This is the most difficult part to manage, but give yourself some time, say 3 weeks of data gathering, do you can understand where you stand on.

And finally, keep the topics light. I know small talk isn’t that appealing and that people online hate it, but it isn’t the devil they make it, if you know how to socialize adequately it will not be that challenging (if not, acknowledging the situation is the first step in improvement) Maybe I am too busy and self centered because I don’t care to get really deep on all discussions, but that’s a part of myself I’ve made peace with (I don’t particularly enjoy being vulnerable in front of other people, so when someone shows all their vulnerabilities and insecurities unprovoked, it makes me respect them less and also adds them to my can take advantage of category) Discuss about things you have in common, movies, weekend plans, work, commute, weather, history, politics, whatever doesn’t leave you feeling bad after talking someone’s ear off.

As I mentioned previously this is a work in progress for me too, but I hope this could help. You will have to strategize according to your own needs and environment, but you can start by taking my opinion into consideration. If there was a one size fits all solution, believe me I would have found it by now.

For now speak slowly on a lower pitch and keep your topics light.

Happy hunting my maneaters,

snowblack

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kingess · 1 year

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Dark mother, what is your view on gifts? Should we give them, or should we always be on the receiving end?

Ok let's unwrap some of these

Yes. You should always be on the receiving end. Once you two are established, after he has asked you to be his girlfriend or fiancé and has provided valid reasons why you'd benefit from taking said offer, then you can do cute gesture gifts to deepen that connection and show appreciation. The thought is what counts, but for the love of fuck I don't ever want to hear of another girl gifting boars xboxes.

Men show their intention through investing in you.

When you allow him to gift you you're letting him use his natural masculine effort to court you. You're allowing him to have small victories that are the pathway to winning your final love. This is what so many women fail to grasp, we are animals and this is how it happens in nature. Gifts are a way for males to engage in competitive displays and courtship rituals in our modern civilized society.

Remember that words are free and language is a new invention to our species. Gifts are way more than you getting something nice. Girls, gifts are messages and so is your reaction to not receiving them.

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haruharuz · 2 years

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How did you get into dancing? Do you recommend it to others? Are there certain types of people that should avoid dancing?

Long story short, 17 year old me stumbled upon the world of SW and outright decided I wanted to try stripping one day. At 20 I decided to say fuck it and go for it, moved halfway across the U.S. and went to an audition.

I don’t recommend it to anyone, but I also don’t say that they shouldn’t. I love dancing but the industry is fucking BRUTAL. I’ve watched good girls become felons from drug charges and a plethora of other things. It really depends on if you WANT to dance and if you have the skill set. There’s a massive skill set needed to dance, if you don’t have it or learn how to build it you won’t make anything.

Absolutely, In no particular order, if you have these you might want to reconsider:

(People with/who:)

Jealousy issues

Little to no self esteem

Money management problems

Past drug addiction issues

Past alcoholism

Addictive tendencies

Fear of rejection

Little to no stamina

Low pain tolerance

No rhythm

No variety in music taste

No social skills

Little concept of being seductive

No makeup skills

No hair skills

Can’t handle being touched

Don’t like being judged

Have bad hygiene skills

This is a small list of things you may want to consider going in. You have 100% certainty to be judged for your body, skin, teeth, hair, voice etc. You WILL need money management skills (send an ask if you want a list of mistakes and advice). And you absolutely cannot avoid being rejected, laughed at, touched in some cases, bruises, scraped, and in pain.

Thank you for the ask babydoll, ask box is still open always <3

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luxuryandlilacs · 1 year

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Man, so 99% of men really are trash eh?

Nope. I would say about 40%, but they’re just the loudest. The high-value and average ones are just busy living their lives.

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daphnedauphinoise · 1 year

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how to stop being addicted to self help contents ?

This is a very valid question and something I struggled with until a while ago. The bottom line is you need to just go out and live life. If you are out living life, you are not mindlessly consuming self-help content. A lot of self-help content is bullshit. It really is just a way to be insecure about things that dont require any of that. I have found that you can't wean yourself off self-help, the promise of a better life is so sweet. Not as nearly as sweet as living a better life so in my opinion, it has to be a cold clean cut away from self-help. At some point you actually have do the routines you have made, check the check lists you have made and all those vision boards.

Why are you consuming self help? Usually it is one of these things:

Your life is shit and you have no clue on how to fix it

You are avoiding fixing your life because lets be honest, work is hard so you rather just keep searching for your magic fix

You are deeply afraid of moving past your shitty current situation because now you have gotten used to it and you do not think yourself as deserving of the life you want. You are scared of the brigh future you can have.

Believe it or not but all of these things are fixable. Those of you who are afraid of the good things in life need to do some soul searching and weed out the root of your misfortunes. If you are avoiding the hard work, then you are doomed. If you are group number one, I will come back to you.

One of my friends has a habit of telling us that anxiety is the stupidest man made concept and I used to look at her weirdly until I finally understood what she meant. She wasn't targeting those with diagnosed anxiety, our friend group knows first hand how delibatating anixety can be. What she means is a lot of our concepts we have about self, we come up with ourselves and those concepts are our downfall. I used to have this horrible notion that I was incapable and i was worth much, guess where my life was? Once I started respecting myself more and flipped that narrative my life has changed so much. Until a couple of months ago I used to go around saying ' i have such bad anxiety', it was an excuse as much as it was a justification. As soon as uni started again and I have been forced to interact, guess whose life has been better? I am not saying my social anxiety has gone but my mental health has improved dramatically. I no longer say I have that anxiety anymore eventhough I do, I dont let that hold me back. Just because I have it, I dont let myself become a victim to it. The things I thought I couldn't do, I do now; all it took was a new outlook and a new mindset. Things do get exponentially better when you actually leave your front door and tackle your problems head on. From my own experience, the more I have labeled myself as an 'anxious' person, the worse my anxiety has gotten. I did a chart and everything and I saw that there was a direct correlation to what I was perpetuating and then how I was feeling and then consequently acting.

Here is how self-help went wrong: people see self-help as the end goal. Making the visualisation board is not the end goal. Making a visualisation board is the start of your journey. I have a board right infront of me now and everyday I wakeup and I look at it and promise myself that I will do something today that will bring me one step closer to one of those pictures. A lot of people who are into manifesting hate actually doing the work but I need you remember Law of Action is literally a universal law. You cannot manifest a schoalarship, if you never apply. You won't meet your billionaire boo if you are at home day in day out. The time to start your journey to your dream life is actually right now! Literally RIGHT NOW. Stop giving yourself excuses and do that 10 minutes of whatever you need to do today. You need to be confrontational with yourself and you need to have self-discipline.

All the girls I know who have had shitty upbringings and me personally, are where we are because we dream hard and work hard. I have seen people leave the wildest pasts behind and move onto the bigger and better. From being abdandoned by her parents to golfing every week and currently she is planning her skiing getaway. I have seen people using their losing deck and win at life. They all work hard. Their work ethic and their dedication to their purpose is a commonality they all share.

daphne xox

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swabian-princess · 1 year

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How did you become a stay at home girlfriend?

Hey,

I made it very clear from the beginning of our relationship that I like more traditional genderroles.

Men = provider

Women = homemaker and mothers

it was always planned that I would be a stay at home gf/fiance/wife at some point in our relationships. I also made it very clear from the start that I wouldn't work fulltime, do all the household chores, care for children and pets AND cook for the whole family.

My bf sees things the same as me, so when I was unhappy with my current job he was quick to tell me that I could stay at home for as long as I like and that he would provide for us.

It also helped me a lot that I'm able to organize a household. I had professional cooking and baking lessons as a child and teenager in school, I can clean and plan meals for the whole week.

I know how to iron clothes, how to wash clothes and how to keep the house clean and make it a home!

Selene

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a-philanthropistswife · 2 years

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Hi philanthropist’s wife :) I was wondering what you think some of the differences in approaching the spoiled girlfriend vs sugar baby lifestyles are? I’m more interested in the spoiled gf route since I’m looking for something more long term but I know a lot of advice for all flavors of sw/hypergamy/blah blah gets mixed in together often times. I hope you’re well! x

Hi Honey,

The main difference imo between a sugar baby and spoiled girlfriend is what you already mentioned: the length of the relationship. Now that’s not to say some sugar babies don’t have long lasting arrangements with their daddies but it’s not the main goal.

The next important distinction is when you’re a spoiled gf that man is your bf so he’d better be someone you can tolerate actually enjoy being with. When you’re a sugar baby you can get what you want relatively quickly and upfront vs spoiled gf you’re taking the time to flesh out a whole relationship to get what you want.

In this day and age sugaring is done lol it’s become so mainstream it’s mostly salt daddies and scammers in the bowl. There are still some successful sugar babies but the ones I know are vets/part time escorts.

There’s a reason all the advice sounds similar when it comes to getting into this game. You can call it whatever you want but at the end of the day it’s all different iterations of the same thing. You’d be wise to learn as much as you can from high end escorts and sugar babies and never mention it to your future bf.

Happy hunting sis and good luck! Send me an update once you’ve snagged your whale 🎣

Xoxo

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dont-telljasmine · 1 year

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So I need some input/advise if you wouldn’t mind please 💕. So basically I was talking to this guy for over a year long distance, he lives in Miami and we’ve met 4 times in person. We would talk consistently, he told me how he wanted a relationship, for me to move there, have kids with him and all that but every time I’ve gone there something happened (him leaving me unexpectedly, him not being able to see me for very long telling me it was because he was taking care of his grandpa who he lived with) anyway but he kept in contact all this time and was just about to go see him again in 2 days and I received a call from a Miami phone number which I thought was weird so answered it and it was a girl and she goes “hi I received a phone call from this phone number” and I was like “no I didn’t call you” then she hangs up abruptly...then she calls back like 2 minutes later and then says she actually saw my phone number on her boyfriends phone and wondered how I knew her boyfriend...we continued to talk she at first told me they were together for a year and then she changed it for some reason to 3 years over text after I sent her the proof and everything of our texts and she was nice and respectful and not mad at me at all and after sending her all the texts to confirm she told me they broke up...he blocked me after I called him as he was on the way back to see her and I was like “you have a girlfriend” and then he goes “you had a dating app and hangs up and blocks me”...I did have a dating app and he went through my phone last time I was there and saw it and was upset and said “it broke him”. We weren’t ever official and like I said every time I went there he would leave me. Anyway, I have tried to call him from a private number many times because he blocked me and he’s been so hurtful. He unblocked me and said to “stop texting him, to move on, how he’s blocking me, how it’s clearly over, to stop being obsessed and to find someone else” why is he saying this when I was supposed to go there 2 days after the girlfriend called me?? Like they broke up and now he’s saying he doesn’t want to see me? I don’t understand...he’s also done this a lot with me where he’ll say bye or it’s done, block me and always come back. So our relationship has been challenging to say the least. But doesn’t it mean something that he’s kept in contact with me this long? At first, I thought he just wanted to hookup but he kept on talking to me and wanting me to go see him...for over a year. Why would he do this when he’s had a girlfriend of 3 years and she said they basically were living together. I don’t understand. Any input?

I want to start by saying that I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience this. It’s not easy finding out that someone that you care for and trust has been sharing their energy with someone else.

It’s a hard pill to swallow, but when the red flags are there, they’re there. The worst thing you can do is ignore them. Seeing a guy 4 times out of a year is not Princess treatment. A man who’s invested in the connection craves your time and attention. YOU ARE THE PRIZE.

When a man tells you things like “stop texting” “just move on” it’s SO hard, but DO IT. Not because he told you to do it, but because any man that is YOUR man would never tell you to do that. Talking to you for a year, but she was able to get his phone and find your number? She’s a lot closer and deeper with him than you think. She’s use to this. She should only be able to come to you as a woman ONCE before you let her have him. Let her deal with him lying, cheating, being sneaky, finding texts, and DMs.

Move on babes!

For me personally… I don’t block. I let the embarrassment of you working up the courage to send me a text or call me. Just for me not to answer or respond. I LOVE the feeling.

Find you a man who wants to see you multiple times a week, who takes you on dates, sends you money for no reason. Just cause he likes you. Who’s showing you off, bringing you around his friends (this is very important. If you aren’t meeting people in his circle… you’re not that important and this is not progressing) get to know him in person. NEVER let a man put you in a text/phone-lationship. Find your Empress Energy as I like to call it. Research what it means to be in your goodness or empress of energy. You’ll never let a unsure man waste your time again.

I hope this helps

-xoxo

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