#i am alloromantic

[uncanny-tranny]

The sheer pity party some alloromantics expect of aromantics is really funny to me. The expectation is that we ought to feel broken or afraid that we will never be worthy of anything if not for a romantic relationship, but as the years go on, I've been so much less inclined to feel those ways.

People expect aromanticism to feel like a prison, and I think that's looking at it wrong. My aromanticism never imprisoned me - amatonormativity did. Being aromantic taught me that I can never and will never be "made whole" through romantic attraction. Amatonormativity teaches that to be whole is to be pursued, to be in love, to be possessed, essentially. Being aromantic has freed me of those expectations because I had to break those chains in order to truly understand what will make my life worth living.

I've been finding more and more that being allo will never appeal to me - I don't give a flying fuck about allo being "normal," and frankly if being normal means being allo, I simply just won't be normal.

#aro #aromantic #lgbt #lgbtq #throw a pity party for me because i died in this video game i'm playing (i am booboo the fool who refuses to eat health items) #bro why must i be so fucking stubborn like. 'ooh look at me i'm at three hearts but i won't eat the hoards of health items i have.' #like. come ON. #but yeah. if somebody expects me to be groveling about how i'm not alloromantic and allosexual i will chase them and bite them #i will make sure they have to get a rabies shot (hyperbole but you get the spirit of how strongly i feel about this) #like i'm not even *that* aro but i still hate the idea that i need to be mournful about it. i'm celebrating this actually #it's one less thing for me to stress about yo

[entropy-sea-system]

I think it would be cool for aplatonics to refer to ourselves as 'apples' for fun

#idk. throwing this out there #especially bc it like. sounds kinda like apl #while we're on this aros could call ourselves arrows #look I am so jealous of alloromantic and oriented aces getting terms like fruitcake and pancake ok. #apls and aros deserve better we deserve more #terms and orientation culture things I will die on this fucking hill #aplatonic #apl #aplspec #aspec #aplatonic spectrum #actually aplatonic

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is shipping your friends to annoy them and being invulnerable because they know you're aro >:)

anyone who does this - please please please make sure, via a private convo with you and each friend, that they are actually okay with this. i've known plenty of people of all orientations who are genuinely very uncomfortable with being irl shipped, and i encourage everyone to consider the line between annoyed (affectionate) and annoyed (upset).

#felixisaprince #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod axel #sorry but i am not comfortable posting this without a note on consent #given that i know... so incredibly many people who would be uncomfortable with this #and are alloromantic/allosexual #i genuinely don't have any close friends who are anything less than uncomfortable with this but have never really felt like they were #allowed to express boundaries around it

[super-sootica]

Being Aromantic is hilarious because when people come to you for relationship advice it's like...I have no idea why you're dating that slippery slimey salmon.

Do your needs short-circuit your brain?

God bless

#aromantism #aromantic #am i little mean? #sure #no alloromantics were harmed in the making of this post

[rusted-phone-calls]

almost saw a sapphic couple kiss in a the lobby of the train station im :>

#i walked away. very quickly i am not built for the alloromantic life #do you understand. same sex marriage is not legal but theyre here nonetheless #+i hope my walking away quickly did not lead them tothink there was just another homophobe

[cowboylikedean]

jfc you can get high on the smell of someone its really insane this boy has changed my brain chemistry i just feel so......... anyway nonsense.mp3

#sweetheart #I CAN'T LIVE LIKE THIS #i am sooooo #🤪🤪😝😝😋😋🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 #someone wake me up from this haze please #idk how you alloromantics do this

[gay-otlc]

Is having a crush on someone who doesn't like you back romantically genuinely that painful, or does media exaggerate it?

#alloromantics send help. i am confused #it seems exaggerated but is this a feeling that people really feel? #it probably is real but like... i do not understand #s's adventures in aromanticism

[spiritofjustice]

I’ve been watching a couple videos on really awful but popular dark romance books and the more I watch the more I become convinced that romance was a mistake. It’s time to move on from love. Forever

#psy's no punctuation posts #i watched a video recapping Twisted Love and I genuinely mean it when I say hearing abt what the love interest does n how he acts #made me feel sick. genuinely ill. I’ve never had such a visceral reaction to a book like that LDNDN #also I’ve just been realizing lately how deeply alienating it is to not be interested in romantic content in books #like overall #y’all know I like ship stuff n the dynamics they can offer. i am obviously not opposed to that #but goddamn it. i fucking hate reading romantic stuff #how can these people all be alloromantics and can’t write fucki ng . romance #i can’t write romance but at least I’m honest about it LDNDN #like idk it’s a small thing but once it occurs to me how obsessed the world is with romance. i feel rather alone #idk it may also be 4 am existential unease talking

[mansplainmanipulatemalewife]

Thanks for the colours

I'm excited to see the ace rep I'm not to far into season 2 of fantasy high

You're welcome <3

Fantasy high isn't as overt in it's ace rep as A Crown Of Candy is, so if you're specifically looking for explicitly ace characters and don't mind high stakes and seeing your blorbos subjected to the horrors I'd definitely recommend that season too.

[Very minor FH spoilers I'm gonna briefly talk about the aspec rep :)]

Adine cannonically is exploring the possibility of being aro/ace, but it’s not something that is particularly central to her character, so while it's reflected in the roleplay I don't particularly remember it being discussed in depth.

Riz is definitely read as allo by some people, but a lot of his character arc in s2 just resonated with me as an aro person so I'm claiming him. I don’t think he ever specifically describes himself as ace or aro, but like he spends enough time going "all of my friends are obsessed with sex and dating and I don't understand why so there must be something wrong with me" so like... #relatable if he's not some kind of arospec I'd be surprised

So yeah like the bad kids are kids, which means that naturally they're a lot less sure about their identities than older characters might be, but at least to me it felt like a pretty realistic depiction of how it feels when you first start figuring out that you're aspec. <3

#note i am not actually using ace and aro interchangeably it's just the ace characters in FH *are* also aro #while the ace character in acoc is very much alloromantic #and while both are important trying to compare them gets a little confusing because like #they ARE both ace rep but also fundamentally different #and i don't want anyone getting the wrong idea if they're looking for something specific

[neon-angels-system]

if somebody doesn't make out w me by the end of the week then I'm going to riot

#sorry for being alloromantic on main but I am surrounded by very hot people atm

[smzeszikorova]

2-In-One Tag Game 🙃

So I got tagged for two different games. @writingpotato07 tagged me for Last Line, and @the-stray-storyteller tagged me for Heads Up Seven Up. Which made me squeal with joy, but also I'm kinda unsure what to do since these games cover pretty much the same ground. I've technically got two WIPs if we're counting Theodore Diaries (which, as I mentioned before, takes place in the middle of Book 3 from the perspective of a character I haven't introduced yet), but pretty much all my lines in that document are very spoiler heavy. So instead, I'm thinking I'll post my last seven lines from P&K 1 and call it a two-for-one. Unless you all revolt, in which case I'll post both, but don't say I didn't warn you about the spoilers.

Thanks so much for the tag, by the way! The fact that y'all actually wanna see my most recent writing really motivates me to write more stuff (that way I won't just have chapter 4 material to draw from).

Tagging @sunhunger, @bookish-galaxy, @god-of-identity, @graciecreates, @the-child-of-darkness, @unluckybasil, @moonandris, @aye-write. If any of you are interested, take your pick from these two tag games. Better yet, do both! If you don't want to/if you've already been tagged, no pressure! I'm also leaving this as an open tag for anyone else who wants to participate! :D

I'm not exactly sure what a line is in the context of prose, so I'm just gonna post the last seven sentences.

Be warned, this passage is very new, so what you're seeing is basically what my writing looks like unedited. I promise it's better after I've had a couple days to revise.

Ok, no more blabbing. Here we go!

From Pemoki and Kenacia:

“That soon?” Lyn’s eyes widened. “Catherine—” But before he could say anything else, Catherine stood on her toes and kissed him, and again his eyes went dark. "Try not to count the seconds, love," she said. "Just hold me. Relish every moment you've got left with me, and then take comfort in the knowledge that there'll be many, many more when I return."

#p&k #original fiction #writing snippet #tag game #heads up seven up #last line wip #last line tag #2 in 1 #yeehaw i guess #sappy on main #am i good at writing alloromantic shit? #we shall see #oc: lyn leures #oc: catherine leures

[fowlblue]

For the record, I do also hc Lazuli as aroace. She even kinda matches the flag! But I completely forgot about her in the original post because unfortunately TFT didn’t stick very well in my brain.

#in the AF series a large number of characters are canonically alloromantic in some capacity and honestly I don’t mind it I think it’s sweet. #I may be aromantic but I am also a bit of a hopeless romantic I love thinking about people in love. i use a lot of my ships as a way to #- express that. #(nothing wrong with hcs that go against cishet canon lol- I’m just talking about in this case for me)

[axolotluv]

Ax, it seems like the votes are in favor of the romance game, and as your aroace friend I must join in when you play it. I need to hear the pain of a normal romantic attraction feeling person playing a dating simulator please I am on my hands and knees begging

I'm not playing Five tries at love

#ax speaks #ask #noodle #ALSO IM DEMIROMANTIC?? #NOT ALLOROMANTIC?? #I AM NOT GOING TO FALL IN LOVE WITH ANYONE IN THE FNAF CAST NOODLE

[small-strong-bookish-butch]

Honestly though, every time I hear or think about If I Loved You, I’m so !!!! because it’s so important. The whole premise of the song is like, if I loved you, we’d be happy together and we’d have this whole life together, but I don’t. Do you know how few songs there are where someone is openly saying “I don’t love you” or “I don’t love you like that”??? The fact that she’s breaking up with him because she loves him but not in a I’m-in-love-with-you way???? The fact that she’s saying over and over, You deserve love, just not in my arms and clarifying that he should have a good life and kids and a mutual relationship with someone who loves him like that, and it won’t be [with] her

Almost every song/book/media is like “You GO girl! BE his wife! If he loves you, you’ll get used to him! Being married to a man and having kids is THE most important thing you can do! Do 👏 it 👏 for 👏 him👏👏👏 and for the kids you’ll have together! Isn’t that a good enough to stay together? Don’t you want your kids to see a relationship that isn’t quite fulfilling, and both parties are still in it because they’re supposed to, and they’re not brave or honest enough to leave or to say that it isn’t making them happy???”

And like! Seeing something that’s openly not that is so refreshing! You should be honest with your potential partners about what is/isn’t working! You shouldn’t stay in a relationship where both of you feel stuck! If he’s not The One™️ then you should both be able to admit that, and move on to happier relationships (and reciprocated relationships if you want that)! Aaah!!!

#if i loved you #delta rae #heteronormative bullshit #amatonormativity #i’m posting this as an alloromantic person but i see how this could be aro rep but i also am not going to put that label on the singer #divorced parent feelings coming out during this i guess #personal #i have opinions

[aroaessidhe]

2023 reads // twitter thread

In My Dreams

romcom novella

when the nature reserve she works at goes into lockdown due to dangerous fugitives in the area, an ace woman is stuck for two weeks with the childhood friend she was in love with as a teenager

#aroaessidhe 2023 reads #this is.... #the writing is not great. pacing is weird. it’s kind of random #also as with the other book I’ve read by this author sudden dramatic danger??? #i feel like there could have been another reason to lockdown a park for 2 weeks other than. terrorists are in the area #it's quite ace 101 / revolving around asexuality / a bit..alloromantic #or like. the people around her are aphobic in ways that feel like they were just there as an excuse for the mc to refute it…..there’s ways y #you can do that in a narrative without being that direct? #the way there’s this other woman who she thinks he’s gonna be into and her only personality seems to be ‘wears makeup and is obvious about t #trying to seduce him” #also the male mc is kinda misogynistic #'he's never known a woman to take less than 15 minutes to shower" ???? #also his mum has a heart attack and he leaves in the middle of the night! she assumes hes broken up w her ! why is this drama! #i cannot name a single good thing about the love interest lmao #am interested in reading the f/f one in this series but. if it's ever on scribd i guess lol

[legisaskerator]

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#I’ll be real seeing all this anti romance onthe dash got me feeling a little weird #like go off have fun this day is for everyone for all types of attraction or lack thereof #but damn can I enjoy today as part of a couple? #shoutout to bisexuals in relationships today just trying to have a fun time I guess #i can barely scroll through my dash right now cause it’s all just bashing Valentine’s Day and alloromantic people #): #oh well don’t come at me for this. I’m not commenting on anything I’m leaving everyone alone so leave me alone #unless you’re here to be nice to me idk #anyway my boyfriend bought me TWO giant boxes of chocolate today and some flowers and I am so in love and happy