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howljenky · 4 years

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I have a few things to say thats been circling in my mind a lot.

The reduction and watering down of the word Femme to mean Feminine woman, not even lesbian as i saw bi ppl use it as well, and straigh women use it as well, as an empowering feminine word that completly disregard the culture of the word, made me ocasionally think to myself "ugh i hate being called a femme" and made me have life crises in which i forget what Femme stands for, because i have no map for it, and noone to cling to, and teach me, and remind me, that i exist in this world to love butches. The loneliness i feel is tearing me apart. More under cut.

Feminine women saw the word femme, and decided femmes are trying to replicate heterosexuality, that femmes are selfish, and close minded, and "exclusuonists", and they took this word for themselves to preach about how good femme4femme relationships are, how ignorant and misogynistic we were for not choosing to date other feminine women, and for replicating heterosexuality, they took it and trampled over us for not being progressive, for choosing to date the ugly mean dykes. And this is it, this is the reason they did it. Their hatered for butches and masculine women.

This hatered is why terms like "soft butch" exists, this is why everyone tells butches they can be feminine if they want to, while pissing and dissing on the butches that reject every form of feminity, calling them links to toxic masculinity, calling them predatory, and mean, and cold hearted, and cheaters, and emotionally closed off, in our own lesbian community no less, which come to bite femmes in the ass as well for choosing to date such "heartless bastards", to the point you take the word femme from us to "save us" or whatever is going through their minds, while also telling everyone a characteristic of being a lesbian is to be soft masculine. They want that "soft androgyny" aesthetic, masculine women to at least have a feminine thing about them, as if butches are still obliged by the police to have 3 women garments on themselves like in our past culture, but not to be too feminine, because then u have to date other feminine lesbians, or fall into this category of lesbians that are being asked "so why dont you just date a man?" Because people just cannot get through their thick skulls that lesbians have NOTHING to do with men. Not too feminine, because feminity is men's.

So alright, they hate the butches, and they "reclaimed" femme from those who stay with the butches. And it is good for them! They can use the word femme as they please, while continuing to compare butches to men and out relationship to a straight one. But what does that mean for the butchfemme culture?

It directly harms out community. We cannot find eachother that easily anymore. I see the word femme and instead of being estatic that i am not alone in this world, I get wary and confused, to the point that I dont even search for femmes like me anymore. Im okay alone as well, as long as i have the attention of butches. The word femme made me so distant of its meaning, that only butches can pull me out of it and remind me just why i exist and what i am fighting for, just by existing in the same space as them. But they have it hard too. On top of all the hate, from straight people and from the lgbt+ community and even from the lesbian comunity, they have a hard time finding femmes to truly understand them, and love them, and be patient with them as well. The rings of this community falls so thight and it always feels like its getting smaller and smaller instead of larger. Consciously or not, the pressure and hatered we get drives us away from ourselves. The pressure of finding femmes like me, the disappointment i get often of not being understood by fellow lesbians drove me away from them. It's just butches i can rely onto. For lesbians and for other members of the lgbt community, this makes me an exclusionist, a demon, a bad person.

The lack of media representation is a problem here as well. No straight person wants to see an old mean dyke on the screen, so they don't put them. They don't put them so that they won't turn to "stereotypical lesbians". They don't put them because they hate them. The lesbian representation is few as it is, but it is all feminine women, or femme4femme as the others with no regard to the butchfem community chose to name it. This mainly is to appeal to the male gaze, so that no man would feel threatened by someone more masculine than them. In this world, not even lesbians, who exclude men, can never separate from them entirely. Butches get compared to men, femmes are put in a box of feminity for the male gaze, and both being called a heterosexual replica, a second hand straight couple, by everyone. No wonder it took so long for me to even know what i was. And who i was. Where could i have seen myself, if there were no femmes on the screen? How would i have known who i love if there arent any butches in media? If it hadnt been for my then-friend and now unapologetical butch girlfriend, i wouldn't have read stone butch blues, and then i wouldnt have read all the other books, and i wouldnt have gotten myself in that thight spot in the small community, and i would have still be lost and lonely. Now i am just lonely, but not lost.

This lack of representation also makes everyone go along with internet trends, and not getting documented on the culture. They go along with what the others say, because theres barely any place to learn about this and to fully capture its essence and meaning. We are silenced, and deemed not worthy to be heard, because of modernised times, and changes in meanings, and being regressive. But my love for butches is an act of revolution against everyone that might call me selfish, or straight, a fake persona, and its not lower than the other non-aligned lesbians.

This is why I am still an unapologetical Femme. I am a femme, because of the feminine women around me invalidating my identity with calling themselves femme. I am femme, because of loving butches. I am femme because i exist to love and cherish and respect butches. I am femme because when everyone hates butches, where else would they go? Where is their home? Where are they fully accepted? Unconditionally? Where are butches allowed to be masculine without getting bashed for it? Who understands how butches love? Who desires them, without sexualising them?

I am femme because i am a home to butches. I am femme because, regardless of what others say, my femininity still isnt for men, and never will be. I am femme because i want change. I am femme because until butches get accepted as they are, unconditionally and without a doubt, i am not accepted either, and i refuse to get accepted without them. I am femme, until the day i see myself on the screen, until i see my lovers on the screen, until i see our love accepted and beyond that. I am a femme because i want to leave a piece of my love for butches on earth. I am femme because i want to teach, and be heard. My femme-ness doesnt sit in my feminity alone. Femme is liberating, and secure, not restaining, and forced.

I have so much else to say, but this is getting ridiculously long, and all over the place, but these were my thoughts. I desire for a day in which i could be understood. Of course, these thoughts are coming from an easter european mindset, as of where there isnt any representation, zero knowledge on the matter, post-comminist country in which lgbt people need to still hide in certain situations. I am angry at the world's view of the word femme, and what it got to mean these days. I am angry at the hatered towards butches. I am angry and i will not shut up about it anymore.

All i am asking is. Educate yourself. Be conscious of words and what they mean. Respect us. Stop making up new words for every single thing. Futch isnt real guys. Thats all.

Terfs and transmysoginists and any other fucker that dares to think this post doesn't include trans women fuck off. Trans butches, studs and trans femmes are always loved and welcomed here. Racists fuck off as well, you arent needed.

#butchfemme #femme4butch #butch lesbian #femme lesbian #bee's post #feminine lesbians PLEASE just call urself lipstick lesbians or just lesbians i beg of you. femme doesnt equal to feminine it has a meaning #a meaning that goes throughout decades #its okay to just be a lesbian just respect us and stop stealing from us i beg im so tired #butch4femme #long post #sorry if i was aggresive

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knightofbalance-13 · 7 years

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The One Sure Fire Sign You’re Sexist

https://valkurion-after-dark.tumblr.com/post/165079940492/aaaaaand-now-to-start-off-the-day-with-a-rant

Let’s take a look at the mind of the average toxic RWDE poster.

Aaaaaand now to start off the day with a rant before I get down to business. Gonna put this under a read more and if this offends you I’m sorry, it’s just my observations as a fanfic writer and fanart viewer/commissioner.

Which completely and utterly destroys the purpose of a rant which is suppose to be personal and biased. Meaning that you just want people to accept your personal feeling as fact.

Note this isn’t true for every single person, but an overwhelming majority.

Actually, as we will soon see, this is just a symptom of your misandry.

The One Surefire Sign That All The Male Characters In Rwby Suck

There is *one* single MLM ship in the whole fandom that is remotely enjoyed. And you wanna know what that ship is?

Seamonkeys (Sun x Neptune)

Ah yes, not like Martial Arcs is a thing.

And not like the show is advertised around girls, gay and bisexual guys would be the ones with the investment in a mlm ship and the a lot of parts of the fandom are rampant with misandry and not like Arkos, Black Sun, White Knight and Lancaster is a thing.

You wanna know why people even ship it? Because they VAs are best friends, and thus, the writing was heavily influenced to have both characters magnetised to each other for the entirety of Volume 2.

And here’s you not knowing what you talk about: People ship the thing originally to get Sun away from Blake and it just grew beyond that so the very basis of your argument is flawed.

The Season even started with Sun and Neptune as best bros, and they stayed that way until Miles dive-bombed Sun;s character further into the stinking pit of shit he was already in during Volume 4.

And yet Black Sun is one of the most popular ships in the fandom, near rivaling Bumbleby and Sun often tops in people’s Top 10 lists of their favorite RWBY characters so Sun is in fact a good character. So he’s ki8nd of a counter example of your point.

But this IS an example of your Misandry: Calling Sun shit for no reason other than he’s male here and blaming Miles despite Kerry being head writer and Gray being head animator.

Whereas almost every single popular ship is either Yuri, or just plain hetero (thanks to Arkos and Renora) only one single MLM ship floats over the rest, and that’s because it’s the only one the writers remotely set up because the VAs are best friends.

Maybe because the fandom melts down whenever a male character gets focus because they aren’t female. And you do realize that by counting mlf ships as against males is showing you don’t give a shit if there are good males or attribute them automatically to females. And then we have you ignoring Black Sun which is more popular than both of them just to enforce your narrative.

Just another reason that Rwby has been let down more than America during the last election, or more so than the Paralympic Comunity after the Trial of Oscar Pistorius.

Yeah...That just kind of confirms that You’re not a fan of the show combined with the fact you have gotten so many things wrong about the fandom.

And, just to top it of, it is yet *another* telltale sign that Rooster Teeth in general does not give a toss about LGBT+ people, as if we didn’t already know that from their latest attempt to wrench money from out already broke paws.

Which is why Camp Camp has three gay males (The two agent Millers and the Bully), four gay characters in RvB (Caboose, Donut, Agent Iowa and that Charon chick from Season 14) and a gay female protagonist of Day 5. But then again, that shows you just care about bitching instead of the facts.

Seriously fandom, wake the fuck up. The creators of your once beloved show, does not give a fuck about you or what you want from their ‘groundbreaking’ cash cow that is Rwby, sadly the show is doomed to now be milked for eternity.

Not like they SHOULD considering how certain parts of the fanbase has treated them and since we have a lack of RWBY spin-offs with only 1 that has massive demand and just ordinary merchandise.

Of course, by what you are saying, you think that the RWBY fanbase is comprised mostly LGBT guys. Which is most certainly not the case.

And THEN we have the fact that this isn’t about Male characters in RWBY and you’ve given no examples of a male actually being bad which to me, seems more like you’re whoring yourself out for notes and attention.

If you genuinely care about those characters, boycott the show and show the company you actually do not approve of how Miles is using the platform to float is god complex ridden ego and taking money baths with the profits you’re already giving him.

Ah yes, god complex ego...in which he talks about how he’s not the greatest writer in the world and how he thinks he doesn’t match up to the rest of his team (https://www.reddit.com/r/RWBY/comments/5vp164/dude_miles_we_on_rrwby_appreciate_everything_you/de4b7is/) or when he talks about how he is a bit ashamed at RWBY’s rough beginnings and how he needs to improve (http://blitz.arc.unsw.edu.au/2017/interview-miles-luna-of-rooster-teeth/).

Ah yes, profits so big that their company is still dwarfed by about 90% of their competition....

Totally not you being a misandric asshole.

#rw/de bullshit #valkurion-after-dark

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