#i don't by any means argue for 'forgiving and forgetting' when people hurt you significantly

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/post/621703358845272064/when-i-was-a-kid-an-adolescent-i-remember why is that the best thing or a good thing?

bc it's like 99.9% guaranteed that that interaction is never gonna happen

#sometimes people hurt you really badly #and it's good to be angry about that #i don't by any means argue for 'forgiving and forgetting' when people hurt you significantly #but the unfortunate reality is that the people who hurt you in the past just....... don't think about it #it isnt anything to them #the guy in my class at school who attacked me and slammed me back into the bar of a chain link fence hard enough that i blacked out #ten years ago #isn't lying awake at night feeling bad about it #he probably doesnt even remember #like definitely take the time to be angry and take the time to grieve #but eventually theres a point where it becomes evident that there probably won't ever be a resolution for any of the stupid and terrible #shit people have done to you #at some point you have to close that book and stand up and go get coffee #not to diminish whats happened to you but as a conscious choice to try and use that mental energy for things that make you genuinely happy #instead of the imaginary bitter satisfaction of imagining the people who hurt you feeling guilty about it #and it can take years to get to a point where youre ready to do this! it took me years! #it's just #99% of the time there just is never any catharsis for this shit #so instead of waiting for it eventually it's just time to get up and get on with your life #and look forward to future nice events instead of constantly back at shitty ones #note: this does not apply re. people who are still actively present in your life #c #anonymous #if there's someone in your life who's shitty to you you should fuck with them as much as possible and make them pay. xoxo #I'll rb the post this is abt one sec #idk if reading that last sentence in the post gave you a strong wave of revulsion #you probably still need whatever cold comfort imagining those scenarios can bring you #and i cant fault you for that #it's just not your time yet. it's okay