#i dont mean like problematic stuff btw

[infizero]

why is everyone so negative and mean all the time. what happened to the love in your hearts

#idk. its just frustrating to me how i feel like i constantly see people shitting on stuff #rather than talking about stuff they actually like. like thats just not how i function #if i watch something thats like kinda mid i'll almost always focus on the things i liked #like its not a toxic posivity thing i think people should be allowed to talk about things they dont like #but idk. i just dont think like that #like for example sonic prime. did i think it was good? no lol #but i dont waste my time trashing on it?? i commented on what i liked as i watched it #and then i just kind of ignore it now lol. thats how i tend to work lol #and im def not gonna shit on someone ELSE for. liking something??? #like unless its super problematic or something and even then i probably wont rlly care #ill just ignore or block those ppl. idk it just seems. needlessly mean #like what is the point of me going lol that thing some ppl like is stupid and bad #thats like just being an asshole for no reason 😭😭 idk idk its just something i see a lot #serena.txt #this isnt targeted to anyone btw just something ive been thinking about recently

[britneyshakespeare]

just saw a video recommended to me about "the kinks as a reactionary band" that was over 2 hours and i never saw the channel before in my life. was quite sure it wasn't worth a time investment if it had such an attention-grabbing title that didn't really say anything so i went to the channel by itself. lots of worrying titles/thumbnails. then i went to their link twitter account just to make sure they were a racist and i didn't even scroll down that far to see that they said people with anauralia/aphantasia (no internal monologue/pictures in your head) deserve to be enslaved.

#sometimes i just find it hard to believe how reactionary people are. jeez #i have no interest in this guy's takes on the kinks #the guy was called the academic agent btw if you want to go block him or ever see his stuff recommended #tales from diana #you know when you can just smell something's fishy #like if someone i knew and respected made a video on how the kinks were 'problematic' i probably wouldnt defend #the kinks are one of my favorite bands but my honor is not tied to theirs #hell. the rolling stones are one of my favorite bands and i HATE them! #their music has had a remarkable personal influence on me and ill always love it but they have quite a lot of misogyny #not to mention casual racism in their discography. #i dont feel the need to pull these things apart in front of an audience as repentance. just. i know #we ought to have these sorts of conversations about the things we love and their issues. #i mean. not me right now. im not ready right now for a rigorous or academic deep dive #i just wanted to say that i saw this and it made me laugh/scoff. #admittedly i dont understand anauralia at all and i find it hard to relate to but it does interest me #aphantasia i dont have but i guess for me pictures are less vital to my thoughts than words #im a very word-reliant person #the academic agent thinks they ought to be enslaved though. jeeeeeesus.

[alias-mike]

twitter drama was making me anxious until i remembered

1) why would i care what some random guy thinks

2) this has no impact on the world

3) why would i argue with someone i dont even like. even if i convinced them, i would still never talk to them again. might as well save the effort

#4) literally none of my mutuals care #like 2 people i followed cared and one is on thin ice while the other is. chill and doesnt care that much #i dont like person 1 that much btw. hes like. too scared of being problematic #typical fandom twitter brain tbh #succumbed to the norms and ideals shaped by piss on the poor enthusiasts #i need to study him under a microscope but also explode him if you know what i mean #a bit strange of an opinion on a real person but i dont even interact with him so it doesnt matter #anyways. surround yourself with weirdos and freaks always #and also adults from different places and different situations #in a hobby server with mainly adults (30+ i think? its an expensive hobby and some ppl talk abt their kids n stuff) #fandom drama doesnt even come CLOSE to that server #and when problems arise everyone is very mature abt it #its an absolute breath of fresh air <3

[quirkeduptransguy]

tbb are soooo good when you dont have a little fucked up voice in your ear being all “they’re weird their lyrics are weird their vocals are weird they’re abrasive why do you like this”

#i went through a hater phase with them and I used to be soooo mean to them #i can’t believe it. i can’t believe it at all #i was actually insane about them before. i still am now but hey #it’s restricted to my own little discord channel in a friend’s server #so people aren’t forced to hear me randomly blurt shit out about the #*them #i feel really bad about the hater thing btw. and the obsession but moreso the former #i find myself listening to them and thinking ‘I’m so sorry girl I was awful to you! #it is a band! they do not have feelings! #ive been trying to let myself enjoy their stuff more lately without adding a bajillion caveats about it #‘they’re problematic ‘ SHUT UP! even if they were (reallt not except for like. 2 things which can be explained as ‘it was the 2000s #they were shitty for that but i dont expect a 2000s bands that yknow. while it is progressive. its still a 2000s -core band’) #as I was saying. even if they were. they broke up. they aren’t earning money from my bajillion listens to them #so i really do not feel bad over it #anyways #these tags are just me rambling about my complicated history with them #i adore them i really do now #also barely related. can you believe I used to be all ‘erm no12 looks like you is the better tbb!!!’ #i was… so utterly wrong. i was so so utterly wrong #great band obvs. adore mongrel adore nuclear sad nuclear enjoy all of their semi recent releases #its in my blog header for petes sakes #but other than the ‘sass adjacent 2 vocalists’ thing. sooo incomparable #what was wrong wit me from a ye #ar or two ago #anyways. i think im done #thankfully. sorry if anyone reads these tags #evil neighing compilation

[bee-ina-boat]

i think people who are mean to people just having fun need to go away forever

like, dude, im sorry that person is enjoying their cute fun outfits, aesthetics, art, or whatever else. idk, maybe youre just mad they'll be a far more enjoyable person to be around than you could ever hope to be

helpful tip! if you are thinking about saying something rude to someone who is just existing and being happy, try this instead: die <3

#btw to clarify: when i mean people having fun i dont mean people who have done problematic stuff #i mean #literally just people having fun #like scenekids. furrys. people who dress in certain style subcultures #dude i saw someone get insulted for just 'being too happy' #can you believe #OH ALSO DISABLED PEOPLE LITERALLY JUST EXISTING #there is always one pos who will be mean about a speech impairment or how they look #like #wtf is wrong with people #.txt

[padfootastic]

H E L L O jfp-eyes pen (thats your new name btw)

i know its a little late but my mind keep going back to it and i also talked about a similar issue w several other people on here since and i was wondering if you can/want elaborate on what you said about this:

"like, u want potters to be desi? it’s not just the cute clothes and good food and linguistic differences u need to keep in mind. there’s so much more where it comes from, including several practices that will be considered highly objectionable by this rigidly judgemental crowd."

((i am v v interested but no pressure to answer this, i totally get if you dont want to get into this discourse))

dani—you’re gonna pull me into the desi potters discourse one way or the other, eh?

so. i’m not sure how much sense this’ll make because it’s like…half-baked thoughts but my problem with this scenario actually stems from a more macro, general trend i’m noticing in fandom behaviour. for some reason, puritan culture & veiled conservatism is coming back in the guise of progressiveness? and that’s leading to a lack of critical thinking in these spaces & randomly attributing buzzwords to things out of context bc u don’t have more than a shallow understanding of it.

which means that that comment was directed at a very specific subset of fandom that decided that idk ignoring the Bad Things & Flaws would somehow make them cease to exist. let’s only take the most ‘exotic’, fun aspects even if it’s a completely one dimensional reading & run with it. they wouldn’t be able to tell u what desi is beyond the barebones.

so, you’ll have people vehemently arguing that the potters can’t be anything but desi and white james is gross and i’m just like—why. why are u, as a non-desi person, so attached to this headcanon that you’ll ridicule real people for it? and then their attitudes as well. the incest thing, for example. there are communities in india that marry their first cousins—if i write a story tomorrow where james marries his mother’s imaginary brother’s daughter, then depending on how i HC him, that’s perfectly culturally acceptable (and desirable). if i write a story where euphemia and fleamont use corporal punishment for him, and he takes it super lightly and jokes about it, that’s also fine. (which is a direct contrast to how the western black family & sirius’ abuse is treated). there’ a community in india where the man ‘drinks’ from his mother’s breast, publicly, at his wedding to symbolise the last time he’d be her son before he becomes someone’s husband. another where a new mother can’t feed her son until her sister-in-law washes her breast thoroughly. caste is something that’s not even touched upon. it’s so complicated. but how do u think it’ll be received by most of the desi potter crowd if i actually do write any of this? will i be praised for my ~representation or called out on twitter for being a freak?

and that’s really where i get annoyed. the attitudes most of this crowd hold does not have any space for cultural subjectivity, what is ok to them has to be universally ethical. there’s no way other cultures do things their way and if they do, it’s barbaric/backward/problematic etc etc. pseudo-colonial, like i said.

(disclaimer: i want it to be made very clear i’m not demanding people nclude this stuff in their fics. i’m well aware of how escapism works, being the premier advocate for it. im just saying it won’t hurt to be mindful of these facts, that this is a whole culture that’s ridiculously diverse that doesn’t just exist for the sake of people’s headcanons)

and this isn’t even going into the cultural nuances of how desi families work. you can’t bring in american/european individualism & have james move out at 18 & write everything transactionally & do everything the way u would for a white character but only pay lip service when saying they’re brown ykno? when u say they’re a certain identity, there’s so much that comes with that. and if u don’t include any of that, then it really just makes me wonder why u want a brown james—feels like ego appeasement and falling to peer pressure half the time tbh.

another important thing for me is that so much of this crowd intersects with the ‘fandom is activism’ crowd and i just. fundamentally disagree with those people. and find their words/actions incredibly performative. by which i mean, the way they treat real people—people from the communities they’re adopting as HCs for their beloved characters. there’s this…hypocrisy, yeah? what i mentioned above, about how if i wrote some culturally different practice, i’d probably be attacked. they don’t want desi potter, they want white-lite potters that is palatable to & tailored for their own constitution but in a form that they can pass of as ‘oh look, my characters r diverse which makes me Morally Good and i can use that to shit on others’.

i think my problem is just that i don’t like it when people use the identity headcanons to portray themselves as being inherently better because they have ~equal representation. fandom is not a government institution—lateral visibility & membership is not a prerequisite to wanting to write about x and y fucking or going on a date or hugging or having a conversation. making a marauder group where each character—functionally an OC—is from a different community (often w/o considering how intersectionality works) for the sake of saying ‘oh i have a x in my HCs’ does not make u some radical leftist, yeah? and i strongly dislike people who pretend it does.

#also jfp-eyes pen skshdjhskcwdj #see i’m more open ab this now bc i’ve outed myself lol #earlier i was worried i’d fell on myself in the process of expressing my opinions so i just stayed quiet #this doesn’t apply to everyone obv #some people don’t want it to be that deep #(but then my question is why even incorporate it if u don’t lol) #this isn’t a black or white/yes or no thing #there’s no wrong or right way for things here #it’s just personal discomfort i was expressing tbh #this wasn’t easy for me to articulate #bc i’m not exactly sure what it is about this whole thing that bothers me sm #i think it’s also just—american audiences in general that irl me #irk* #esp w all this shipping/fictional likes discourse that keeps going on #bc they’re really very self centred imo #and it’s weird watching this for the outside #lol dani u really got me ranting here #but it’s an issue that bothers me sm #esp that puritan young adult/teen crowd #who somehow believe they know best #and intersectionality—identities are such rigid boxes for them #the fluidity & agency & human element of it is completely erased #bc *what* they are becomes more imp than what they can do for the plot #and then u start putting fictional characters on a pedestal and fight w real people #like i just wanna say—my litmus test for anyone advocating for desi potters would be this #if i wrote a story where fleamont hits him with his footwear and james jokes about it before going on to marry his first cousin #then will u accept it? #bc if u say u do then good. if u don’t tho—take a long hard inside urself re why u fight so hard for desi potters then #pen’s asks #pen’s notes

[disabledstraydogs]

your icon is so incredibly cute. Is there a reason you chose fyodor for it? Or any reasons you like having fyodor on it?/things you like about having fyodor on it? (it is so real btw. I dont know if I'd call him canon disabled for...reasons, but fyodor is one one if the most disabled coded characters in bsd ever. He's disabled in my heart. To me. The vibes are all there..)

Haiiii anon, we saw this last night while sawifying BSD and it made us so so happy I'm sorry we didn't answer it then but it wouldn't have been coherent.

The story of this icon is that we were thinking of 'canonically' disabled characters and Fyodor came to mind (although if he is disabled in canon is up for debate to me just because anemia isn't technically a disbaility and we will touch on the mental health stuff later) although we were going to use Chuuya we saw the art on a charm and knew we had to use it.

Fyodor is one or our favourite BSD characters (tied with Chuuya) although that's because of the system Fyodor headcanon, specifically the scene in dead apple with Crime and Punishment makes me insane. However I understand that this can be seen as a problematic thing due to Fyodor's actions in source but honestly, we feel more seen by systems who have done/do awful things.

I won't talk about our trauma but we were very much brought up in a 'dog eat dog' environment surrounded by Catholicism and hypocrisy but that does mean that even as a child we never got the chance to be a good person and because of that have always related to 'shitty rep' more than different system with different trauma would.

Back to Fyodor in my mind he displays behaviors of someone raised in a similar situation to us (although I do think that- given that we don't know what era he was even born in and the history Catholicism in Europe is insane- I don't think he knows that by modern day standards he was raised in a cult or cult like situation) and because of this he developed low empathy and ASPD/NPD through years of abuse (which also possibly shaped his world views- although I don't think Asagiri will agree with me).

Again, I know that this is another issue entirely (people with cluster b disorders deserve more rep than just having criminals) but again it means different things to us than others in our situation.

Sorry for the rambles I get ill about this man.

#text #thank u anon (gives you a cookie) #cult mention #cult tw

[oscill4te]

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I have some controversial opinions on disso disorders but wont be sharing them in depth until I learn more about dissociative disorders and get info that isnt solely from the isstd..

"plural" tumblr would cancel me 4 the opinions i think -_- ....

I just wonder how much of this "plural culture" is real for people and how much is just from us being suspectible and easily influenced by others, esp on tumblr and tiktok where u see it get uh. Real interesting. Like, identity in general is a very easily influenced thing. I have never resonated much with "plural culture", in fact I detest it and find it annoying but yeah I was just curious idk. Anyways onto the more srs stuff

I know dissociative states are real, but does the language we use to describe these states affect these states and how we perceive them? Should i refer to my very real, unintergrated states with different memories and barriers as "alters" for example...? Or parts even? .. i also wonder if therapists trained in dissociative disorders ever think deeply and critically about this (but who am i kidding xD most therapists do not know what dissociation is...). Even ppl who struggle w dissociation struggle to explain what it is. I am slowly chugging thru Nijenhuis texts trying to figure it all out... just very slowly.... very slowly.

All of this questioning started bc I read an anonymous testimony from the "false memory foundation" that a therapist tricked her into thinking she had DID and false memories... (its a very triggering website btw, they advocate for parents who are supposedly accused falsely of things and yeah u can see how thats problematic... i dont wanna go into why its problematic. Anyways) ...that testimony could have been totally fake, yet my brain asks "well what if its real? What does that mean then?".. bc ofc my brain gives everything the benefit of the doubt which is how i fall trap to some rather loony ways of thinking.

anyways; We know the author of the Haunted Self, (a very in depth text about dissociative disorders and trauma), Onno van der Hart, abused one his patient. So like... therapists with bad intentions is a very real thing that happens and those who struggle with dissociation are at risk, esp by therapists who have studied dissociation that deeply and may know how to use it for bad purposes :( scary how a therapist who was studying dissociative disorders, which arise from severe trauma, abused his patient. Very scary stuff. I dont trust what psychiatrists or therapists say about dissociative disorders sometimes........

I have my tinfoil hat on right now, yes 8) ... i always do these days its annoying -_- i think weed makes it worse, genuinely. Idk what morning me will think of this post but im gonna sleep on it

#conspiracy theory time ^-^ yay #abt dissociative disorders #incomprehensible i think bc its 2 am

[echoesofadream]

can i say i think you might be blaming jk too much for this? jk's part is entirely problem-free. idk i honestly think the only problematic thing for jk himself is him not really getting that jack's part isn't just sexual, like he asked for him to make it, it's also problematic. in his interviews, he seems to view the song as being about 'wanting to be with someone you love'. i don't think his own perspective includes jack's, which involved fucking a whole lot of people and is just there to add more explicitness, as jk's own perspective involves dedication to just one person.

they would have to record the song, then ask harlow to write his verse and stick it in. they would have asked for him to be sexual, which is what his lyrics were. from my experience, someone from the east who learned about problematic stuff by interacting with western culture would honestly trust a western artist to not write something problematic.

jk in these songs is not doing anything unfeminist honestly. he's dedicated to pleasing one girl in both songs. both have consent involved, and the second one straight up says, "if you're ready, if you'll let me"

i'm sorry for saying all this in your asks, i just thought from your previous posts that you might get it when others might not.

like I agree but the meaning is pretty clear if you watch the music video? and did you see the tiktok(?) where jk and jack dance/act to that part and jungkook counts one, two, three four with his fingers. like I think if I put out a song in my name, in a language I'm not fluent in, I would want to know the meaning of the lyrics, instead of evading responsibility just because "I didnt know" right? like the music video is a big part of the problem for me. and that pretty much transcends language.

"from my experience, someone from the east who learned about problematic stuff by interacting with western culture would honestly trust a western artist to not write something problematic." im sorry but idk if I get what you mean by this? genuinely btw ofc! im not taking any offense to your ask just to be clear yeah definitely agree that the lyrics from his side arent problematic they're just about sex and giving a girl an orgasm basically. but in the context of the mv and jack Harlows part I feel more icky about it. I dont know if you know this about me but I am a raging misandrist? so men in general are walking on a thin line with me. if theyre going to sing about sex (I prefer when they dont – in fact I prefer when people dont sing about sex like this in general, call me a prude I really dont care so. altho I do have many sexual songs on my "jungkook cover this" playlist but theyre mainly about well theyre different and usually by Kim Petras..) and especially (this is just a personal preference) idont like hearing about heterosexual sex. and like obviously this isnt problematic in its nature (or is it? I havent read enough feminist theory sorry) it's just personally im not gonna dig it like jungkook isnt doing anything wrong singing about these things obviously! im just being a hater on my own blog, not everything I say is valid criticism! just my own feelings about things! I think men should be castrated for less than this in general like those are just my feelings

that said I dislike the trend of jungkooks music in general and on a feminist level, wasnt his last mv about begging a girl to have sex with him? like yeah it was endearing because he was submissive about it the whole time but now this, i dont like it.

dont apologize its totally OK, thanks for the ask! im hard on him because my expectations are so high!

[myjunkisyuzuruhanyu]

Hiii! First of all I want you to know that I love your blog. I have a question about something I saw on twitter about Stephane not being a good coach because of the Rika situation and something that happened with Dennis, but like, i really don't understand and i really dont know what they mean i haven't hear anything bad about Stephane before and now i am curious. Do you know anything about that?

Thank you

Thanks for liking this blog. 😊

I think to put Stephane Lambiel on a pedestal is wrong because no human - skater or coach - is perfect and without flaws.

One thing is for sure there is no skater who ever has come forward with any allegations against Stephane, but tbf that doesn't say much. I think though that we actually don't know that much about how he is in training behind closed doors. We know a lot about abusive methods when skaters or coaches are open about it like Team Tutberidze and don't even find fault in that, but with Stephane we know his approach which I find no fault in and the outside view he gives off at events

That being said first I don't know what situation exactly the "Deniss situation" is referring to, but Deniss has been coached by Stephane Lambiel for the most of his senior career and I know perspectives that say that Stephane is maybe too invested into his skaters to not have the best coach-student professional distance and I can understand this perspective from an educator point of view. For example to let a skater live at your home even if it is shorttime. I have no direct example with Deniss Vasiljews I could name that was problematic, so I can't help much with that.

Rika Kihira is a different case in my opinion. The criticism is that Stephane contributed to aggravating Rika's injury by letting her train and compete when she was under Stephane's supervision. Some also said his methods were wrong like practicing with weights. I think there was no explicit discription of her training though, so it's hard to judge whether those weight lifting methods harmed her or not. Rika fans give Stephane fault for her poor outcome at Worlds 2021 and competing at WTT 2021 with an injury.

Rika came to Champery for a training camp, it was never meant to be a long time solution, it happened because of the pandemic and Stephane was just an interim coach for Rika. Mie Hamada was still her coach and imo still the one with the most say in decisions and until this day she is still listed as her coach. Rika was already injured when she went to Stephane for that camp. And injuries don't just disappear. Did Mie Hamada let her rest and recover from her injuries before she went to Stephane? No she didn't. Rika has been dealing with injuries for all of her senior career. So at this point I don't how much you can blame her injuries aggravating on Stephane. Still training with this much load certainly didn't help but show me any skater who isn't dealing with some kind of injury, it's a side effect of elite sports. It doesn't make it better though or excuses that the injury couldn't heal.

But I think we have to consider some things. Here comes the part with unpopular stuff that lots of ppl don't mention, that I do think have played a big part as well and makes putting blame not that easy: Rika is not a child who can't decide for herself. Rika has always emphasized how much she decides on her own about her training, a thing many Rika fans are proud of btw. It was her decision this season also to return to competition despite doctors telling her she would need 6 months off ice to heal. Now she is with Brian Orser and I don't see those complaints ppl had with Stephane with Brian. It's the same situation. I don't say that because I want ppl to blame Brian as well, but because she is making her own decision despite knowing the doctors advise. So it's on you to decide whether Stephane would have had to keep her off ice and if he would have been able to do that. 2nd and this is something that a lot of ppl don't even ever adress, she didn't spend much time in Champery between Japanese Nationals which she won with the first quad by a Japanese women (and she didn't seem to be badly prepared or more injured than before) and Worlds 2021. After JNats she stayed in Japan to do ice shows, she went to a training camp in the US with Mie Hamada, she just returned to Champery one week before Worlds. So who was in charge of her well being at this point and for her preparation, Stephane? Well...partly... We know the outcome at Worlds and it was pure heartbreak. She really didn't seem to be herself at all in the free skate. Rika, just like the other Japanese competitors, had to go to Japan right after Worlds because of the covid protocols. Stephane didn't accompany them, but came later with the rest of the teams. She should have withdrawn from that competition, but I am not sure if she was able to because she would have had to make that decision directly after Worlds to let someone else take her place. Already at the event it was impossible due to the covid protocols to just bring someone else in. So I am almost sure she wouldn't have wanted for Japan to place last because they would get 0 points for one women. It's a team competition you cannot just think about yourself. There's also a lot of money at stake for everyone competing there. We also don't know if she got pressure by sponsors etc. So again the question remains how much influence Stephane really had on those decisions about withdrawals.

I think we should consider those things for a final judgment. Btw it's not about blaming Rika at all, even if it may sound like it, I am aware that Rika is influenced by her surroundings and upbringing and this sport expects you to perform even if you're unwell. The sport career is too short to wait for injuries to heal. So I do understand why Rika competed and practiced. I just think the plan for her 2020-2021 season - no matter who had the final say in that - was not a good one and mismanaged on all sides.

Was there mismanagement in Rika's case? For sure. On Stephane's part? I won't say it's got nothing to do with him. But I actually blame mostly Mie Hamada. She is the reason Rika never healed from injuries, she is the one who had most influence on Rika's mindset about competing while injured. Rika was in Stephane's care for a while, so he is not free of any faults, maybe he should have not agreed to be her coach or insisting on her rest. It's always easy to blame without all information on our part. I just think it's not as black and white and easy like "Stephane destroyed Rika" or "he's a bad coach"

Is Stephane a good coach? I think there is no entirely good coach anywhere. And not every coach no matter how good they are for one skater may do the same good coaching on another skater. I think certain styles and methods work for different ppl for some they are right and for some they are wrong. So I don't even have an opinion about if Stephane is a good coach. I just know that he is a good match and coach for Shoma,but that doesn't necessarily mean he is a good coach for everyone and it doesn't mean he couldn't have been a better coach for Rika. (Rika herself never said any bad word about Stephane and praised training in Champery, but I am not sure of the value of such statements as no one knows what is really going on between a skater and their coach behind closed doors unless your name is Eteri Tutberidze and your not even ashamed of your methods to even let camera film them

Not sure if this was the answer you were hoping for, but this at least is as far as I know about the situation with Rika and shows my not knowledge about a Deniss situation.

#stephane lambiel #I am not tagging rika or deniss here #replies #I like stephane but i also have ambivalent feelings towards him bc I liked him as a skater but he is a coach now #I don't like to put ppl on pedestals #And Stephane is surely not a person without flaws

[allamericansbitch]

I need everyone to stop talking about the matty mess now. I've been trying to forget that shit for 3 months and every week there's something new about it. Like the beatles shirt discourse (btw (one of the) the dumbest things I've ever seen people talking about) or him being on 1989tv. I want peace. I don't want to hear anything about that guy anymore. I'm trying to forget everything that happened (by that I don't mean I'm just gonna erase the problematic stuff she did but I mean that I just don't wanna think about it anymore) but if people keep bringing him up it's just uff

no fr like people message me updates on what he's doing and stuff and im like?? what makes you think i wanna know this mans every move... i dont care and never wanna think about him again

#answered #cowboylikemaryy

[joligarcon]

i cant possibly go over every single thing that bothers me about the whole hogwarts legacy debacle but one of the most annoying and hurtful things about it is the way cis people are seemingly incapable of Not making it about themselves and whether they are Good or Bad people for buying the game and playing it. like has it ever occurred to them that not everything in the world is about them? that maybe its not about whether they get to be Good People and feel like Good People or whether they are Ontologically Evil No Matter What? that maybe i have better things to do then to waste my fucking time and energy reassuring them that they are Good or convincing them that they are Bad? that maybe just maybe this is about the IMPACT of what they are doing when they line the pockets of one of the most notorious transphobes in recent history and help her maintain cultural relevancy by continuing to engage with her creative property? because yeah, when you do that, you ARE contributing to a culture of transphobia, and you ARE complicit, because JKR isn't some rando celebrity with views that happen to be problematic, she is literally using her money and influence to empower shitheads who have the means to strip us of our human rights, and to normalize their transphobia as well as that of the public who remains passive and complicit at best. and if me saying that makes you feel guilty or like i'm calling you a bad person, maybe sit down and reflect on it for a bit. because what you're experiencing is called cognitive dissonance and it's not my fucking problem to deal with. and if you're still going to play the game in spite of all of that, at LEAST have the decency to do it in secrecy and shame and not come begging your trans friends and acquaintances for validation that youre still Totally A Good Ally uwu because i promise you we don't care to listen to you justify why the nazi terf game is Fine Actually and that youre Totally Engaging With It Non-Problematically we really truly dont. trans people aren't the catholic church, we aren't here to give out indulgences. so either play another game or fuck off.

all of this applies to your jewish pals too btw, they don't want to hear about it either. because yeah, apparently it wasn't enough for JKR to be a terf, she also had to be a raging antisemite to spice things up!!

i dealt with cognitive dissonance and a LOT of guilt before i went vegan so it's not like i don't know what thats like. but you know what i did? i boycotted animal products instead of making it everybody's problem. i was privileged enough to have the option not to fund animal abuse so i stopped doing it. and i'm not saying i'm a bastion of animal rights and good virtue, quite the contrary. i know i'm not actually doing anything amazing by simply Eating Different Food, but that's kind of my point. even with just that the stakes were much higher than with a video game boycott- i had to give up the food that had kept me alive for 20 years. whereas with a video game there are NO stakes at all, you're not actually sacrificing anything by not playing it but yall cant even fucking do that. you don't need any level of privilege whatsoever to partake in the boycott and yet. it just makes me think yall are the absolute lousiest people on earth if you cant even bring yourselves to do 1/10th of the lousy stuff ive been doing for other causes because "but my childhood uwu"

it hurts so much because it feels like betrayal. or rather thats straight up what it is. thing whole thing sheds an ugly, ugly light on the pervasiveness of performative allyship and it makes me think the future of the trans rights movement is looking bleak as FUCK if all our supposed "allies" are willing to abandon us over a video game. a fucking video game.

and maybe some people just dont realize the extent to which JKR has a direct impact on the state of human rights for trans people and they think shes just a kooky problematic fave but i don't think that's an excuse either because we have been SCREAMING at you guys for YEARS about what kind of person she is and what she does so at this point if you're still not aware it's like, where the fuck have you been?

i just. i just cant wait until the day we move on from harry potter as a society and let it and JKR fade into obscurity forever. im sick and tired of having to hear and talk about her.

#wow this ended up way longer than i intended sorry. i just have many thoughts and feelings #also had a really rough week so. :(

[ultramanyaoi]

also deep think just a silly thing is a commentor joked about suho probably wearing make up too as the big twist of episode 8 but like while suho doesnt #naturalbeauty or whatever someone we know those. it's seojun!! i havent gotten to him yet but yea thinking abt it like seojuns connection to gukyeong as someone who also hides a part of him more directly under makeup and his model life, burying his past with seyeong and suho and his love of music to appeal to others. theres rlly something quite interesting that could be said

ofc the most surface level reading is being with suho represents being her true self and feeling safe n free n stuff vs being with seojun means continuing to live the makeup passion life albeit at the cost of her freedom to be who she really is but theres probably more u can find

anyways i do want to say smth in terms of like the more metaphorical stuff i find it pointless to argue that jugyeong deserves to be w x or y boy more because hes more healthy or whatever

BUT in terms of true beauty as a romance self insert fantasy yea it is worth discussing what it presents as romantic and whether there are problematic elements to this depiction

AND AND i am going to be very wary of how the series handles the various mental health and serious topics which are a part of the characters lives. like i will actually be so mad if they only briefly let it be serious then wrap it up n never talk abt it again. i will actually be so mad

final notes i know some people will say im overthinking things. and i probably am. but i also dont want to act like yaongyi cant write or is completely mindless abt her work. no doubt she has to spend a long time on this and while i can easily believe over time popularity n demand can cause quality to degrade as a series is extended beyonds its intended or appropriate end point, i think at least at the start since she adapted it from a kinda crappy story she'd have improved it and given it substance somewhat. i feel like why else even establish the ideas of makeup creating a divide in who jugyeong is without actually allowing her to confront her trauma n insecurities over not being born pretty, u know?

idk a thing about if yaongyi is problematic btw

#lab reads true beauty

[galaxygrv]

oh jeez,, a sys blog we really liked is proship.. i know we are neutral/neither on the shipcourse topic but like. calling yourself either title is very uh. hmm.

big ass long rant about our shipcourse stance under the cut. in short: its complicated and varies a lot. we do not like the black/white views on proship/antiship stances, it is a giant grey area with a shit ton of shades in it. reminder that we are on neither side for a reason.

we have all proship dni because they are typically not following their own stance correctly and we dont want to interact w most comshippers (which.. technically we would fall under that title but . yknow. we are not into that label. and it implies we are on a specific side of the argument. plus a lot of them make us uncomfortable) and then our "violent antishippers" dni is when someone is actively supporting harassment over fictional topics.

we also fall under a lot of different parts of either side. our opinions throughout the system are different. spyte and pebbles r a lot more relaxed with "problematic" stuff (we hate that term), while some of us are more strict w it.

we absolutely go by "dont like, dont read. also tag your shit correctly". we do not harass people, we might not like the things theyre writing, we might think its disgusting and a red flag, but we are not going to click on it and make a comment about it or interact in any way. we will simply block and move on.

while we technically fall under the "comship" label: no, our fictional interests are not triggering nor does it impact our outside experiences. we are not "loli/shotacon". we enjoy genuine and realistic depictions of abuse, while keeping it interesting in a fictional standpoint (which makes it a little unrealistic like the limits of the human body. but the impact of abuse is realistic). it is mainly for the enjoyment of reading the story and/or enjoying the plot, or to vent if we're the ones writing it. we have never read anything fictional (that wasnt intended to be taken as a real, intentional opinion) that has severely impacted our world view. and i doubt it ever will.

fiction is able to be seperated from reality in specific topics. ex: abuse, even when "romanticized", can either be posted with a disclaimer of "i dont find this hot irl". or not, and you should assume they dont find it hot anyway. you should expect that person to not support genuine non consensual abuse unless there is evidence of the contrary (btw! having smth as a kink does not mean theyre into GENUINE non consensual things!! the fact that its labeled a kink strongly suggests that it is a consensual thing)

HOWEVER, when things are treated as they would in reality, ex: bigoted political comics, they are supposed to be taken as a reality equivalent!! they are trying to turn that comic into a real scenario! that is what they want! THAT is when fiction absolutely impacts reality!

now it gets a lot more complicated when it comes to stuff like COD or whatever other war/combat games like that, which can be taken as anti-military or pro-military. which.. it really depends on who youre taking to. which is the point. it gets complicated, it sometimes changes peoples opinions about reality, and sometimes it doesnt. should the intentions of the game be expressed explicitly, whether outside the game or not? yeah, probably. but it doesnt (to the majority of the public, at least). thats why its complicated. do violent video games inherently make people violent by exposure? no, of course they dont. CAN they impact someones world view, thus their morals and such? yes. they have before, and they always will. it gets complicated, like i said. its from person to person depending if other people were the reason, their environment, or simply the video game alone (which i dont believe is very common)

its all about intention and the way it is expressed. COD does not explicitly (to my knowledge) express its intentions, so people can take it any way they want. political comics are aiming for a specific opinion change, and is explicit about that (its a political comic). now: ao3 fics about sexualized domestic abuse? thats.. REALLY unlikely to be expressed in a way that means "yeah i like this irl when non consensual." if it is? they should probably be investigated for that behavior, that is obviously not fucking good. if it isnt? its just a sexualized abuse fic. who knows why theyre writing it. could be to cope, could be for fun, could be to get off on it, etc. people have always had "weird" kinks n shit like that. im not here to dictate censorship for others comfort or whatever.

cw on various things for this list but if ur curious about what "comship" stuff we like if its important to you: its mostly various types of abuse, yandere topics, "noncon", and teenage underage (which we generally do not read, though we have a few exceptions). the underage we do not find attractive or "hot" and it is ALWAYS for vent writing purposes and the underage character are typically self inserts. any character younger than 15 is repulsive to us to imagine writing about in a way that we would with the older teenagers. we have been writing about/making art of most of these topics since we were a little over 4 years old /serious

anyways uhhh yeah. shipcourse! fucking hate it! everything is black and white over here! where are the shades of grey!!! fuck !!!!!

#cw shipcourse #shipcourse cw #abuse cw #cw abuse #our posts #🐾 #i KNOW we said we didnt want to talk abt this but its haunting me #🌸