#i fully support masc and butch lesbians

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for "feeding my ex's internalised transphobia" by refusing to date a man as a lesbian? TW for internalised transphobia, mentions of rape and SA

TLDR: i am a lesbian. my teenage partner was sexually abusive to me for a year, mostly through enforced sexist rp scenarios. now, they are out as non-binary and accuse me of misandry and transandrophobia because i once told them i would not date a man regardless of his agab

I (NB20) started dating my ex (NB23) when i was 15. I was always openly a lesbian. When we met a year before we started dating, they identified as a butch. Throughout our relationship they explored their gender identity more, toying with the idea of being vaguely transmasc. I never had a problem with it; i enjoyed being in a butch/femme relationship and honouring their masculinity as much as I could.

For context, I am a very outspoken hardcore feminist; I don't like to generalise and i have a lot of love for the men in my life, but I have also made a couple of "kill all cishet men" jokes at a safe setting, with people who know exactly where I actually stand. I don't hate men, I just don't find them attractive and think they should be raised better. One day, they asked me if i would still be attracted to them if they fully transitioned and started living as a man. I told them I wouldn't; in my head, being butch/masc is extremely different to being a man, and I appreciated their presentation as a part of them being a lesbian (gender expression =/= gender identity, after all). They assured me that this was just a hypothetical question and just them being curious about my boundaries and limits, ended the conversation, and never brought it up again. My ex was very into roleplay during sex, and I was on board with it initially. After a while, however, the scenes they wanted to act out began to get extremely degrading, bordering on abusive, where they were embodying a man in a position of power (something that i was extremely uncomfortable with), while I was a vulnerable woman (usually a sex worker) getting degraded or even raped. Although I was deeply disturbed by some of the things we did, I was a child at the time, they were my first and i wasn't theirs. I wasn't ready to have sex yet and didn't know how to defend myself. Even when I tried to set a boundary, they would press on and claim it was their way of processing trauma, and that I was manipulative for attempting to withhold that from them. Eventually, with the help of a therapist and my family I ended things between us. I dreaded talking to or about them to anyone and mostly kept quiet about it all. Back to the present day, one of my old mutuals found my new account and texted me. They told me that my ex was posting about me, and that I should be ashamed of myself if what they said was true. I gathered up enough courage to view the posts myself. Their story is very different from what I remember. They claim I was being a misandrist and by extension transandriphobic (in their words, my distaste for the behaviour of cishet men was very damaging for masc people. it is weird, because healthy expressions of masculinity are the last thing i would judge a man for). They also claimed I made their internalised transphobia worse by refusing to date them if they transitioned. I have moved on with my life, but now other people are mixed in and im honestly at a loss. I never forced them to be someone they weren't with me. I never shamed them for their masculinity or discouraged them from exploring their identity, I just stated that dating a trans man wouldn't agree with my sexuality. A healthy response would be to be honest with me, and give me the right to decide for myself whether i would stay with them through their transition or only be able to support them as a friend. They could even just leave without justifying anything.

I don't know. Maybe my trauma is blinding me, but I keep going over the memories in my head trying to figure out how I might be the one behind all that hatred and violence. I don't want to be unfair to them, even if it's just in my own mind, so I'm just speaking up about it for the first time in my life through an AITA tumblr post. Any advice or insight is appreciated.

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole #rape cw

[sun-citadel]

The violet sapphic flag

I decided to start work on a sapphic flag, as the original one did not feel inclusive to masculine presenting sapphics. The inclusive sapphic flag also felt too random for me to feel aligned, so I spent time researching a flag design

Excuse any spelling mistakes, English isn't my first language.

Info below. Original thread here.

1. Why violets ?

The poetry of Sapphos often included talk of violet crowns, with one of her famous poems reading ;

` … Many crowns of violets,

roses and crocuses

…together you set before more

and many scented wreaths

made from blossoms

around your soft throat… `

Violets historically are considered a symbol of sapphic love and the LGBT movement, and are seen in pop culture, such as the cult classic lesbian movie, Bound. A 1926 play also involved a woman sending violets to another, as a potential nod to Sapphos. When the poem was censored / boycotted, women would send violets in support.

To say violets were not a part of LGBT + , and primarily spaphic / lesbian history would be a false statement.

2. Why these colours ?

I colour picked from violets themselves, primarily the African and common violet. One for their inclusion of white, and the other for its range of hues from more blue to magenta. I felt they could align with the various presentations seen within sapphic culture, as I myself ID as transmasculine / presently as a soft butch. There are those who are transfemme, femme, masc, androgynous, etc., and this various spectrum of colours I feel could align with how the community is not just one, but various shade of violet.

I spent time researching LGBT history, and have come up with meanings for these specific colours. They were carefully chosen for both traditional colour meanings, as well as symbolisms that align with the LGBT+ community.

From lavander to pink, both colours have a history of representing the community, and have become symbols reclaimed. From sapphos flowers, to the pink triangle, it is important to remember our history and struggles. Pink triangles itself was used as a symbol for transwomen, as an identifier for example [ as well as gay individuals, but this isn't about them at this time ] , but have been reclaimed to represent lgbt+ rights and our struggles. It is important to never forget those who came before us.

Each colour was picked based off traditional meanings, as well as identifying traits of the community.

3. Colour meanings?

From top to bottom, these colour meanings are ;

1. Femininity, health.

Pink is associated with femininity, so this is for the purely femme presenting individuals, whether trans, nb, or however they ID. It also is the colour of love, and health [ ex , ` everything is rosy ` meaning good ] .

2. Love, compassion.

A lighter shade of pink is usually associated with love, and with love comes compassion and understanding.

3. Youth and age.

From our lives comes the fact that, we as sapphics, lesbians, etc. know that deep down, this is who we truly are. Whether you're young, or come to the realization later, we live life as our authentic self. May we grow old and happy.

4. Limitless potential.

With those who are not afraid to break the gender / sexual binary, and present in ways uncaring of societal norms.

Whether trans, nonbinary, asexual, or uncaring of labels, I hope you find who you truly are.

5. Soft masculinity.

To be soft and masculine is frowned upon in society, but some of us present in ways that we deem just right. It is an oxymoron on many levels to those who do not understand, but we are indifferent and stand tall.

6. Wisdom.

With our history, we can learn and grow, it is important to never forget it. Ever on we march to assure that we are treated as equals.

7. Serenity, masculinity.

A nod to the original flag that brought us here, while also representing the other side of the spectrum for fully masc individuals. Once again, this is for those in the trans umbrella, or comfortable in their gender.

4. Who can use it ?

Sapphics or anyone who falls into that general category.

TERF / SWERFS / anyone not inclusive of the trans community are not permitted.

Please do not use if m - spec.

#lgbt #lgbtq #lgbt flags #pride flag #sapphic flag #sapphic #sapphic love #sapphic pride #lesbian #lesbian flag #flag meanings #symbolism #butch #femme #transgender #trans #trans sapphic #violet sapphic flag #sapphos #sun citadel #im so nervous #but its done #lgbt artist

[alliumbugs]

Blog of some autistic sea creature

Hello! You can call me Sailor and I use he/it/mew/vwoop/disc for my pronouns. Im a queer disabled therian + fictotherian who likes to make art. My theriotypes are calico cat, raccoon, catfish and vaporeon. I don’t identify as human, please keep this in mind!

Im a butch aroace trans nonbinary lesbian dyke faggot tranny thing who wants to kiss their partners and computers and finds Ranboo attractive in a lesbian way. I like masc and gender neutral terms to refer to me (no they/them tho).

catfishsailor -> transdogday -> catfishsailor -> alliumbugs

I like to talk about disability and disability rights, if i accidentally say something ableist please tell me! Im not a perfect person and i make mistakes, but please tell me when i do mess up so i cannot make that mistake again!

"Can i use your art in a pfp/banner/edit/webweave?" Sure! As long as there is credit feel free to use my art for those!

"Can i repost your art?" Please dont, if you want to support me reblog my art

complaints box || reviews || ao3

I do sometimes reblog stuff and thats over at @alliumbugs-reblog

All art should be in #the catfish draws

All ask answers will be in #the catfish answers

Just talking posts will be in #the catfish talks

Talking to my mutuals posts will be in #the catfish friends

me goin’ to sleep posts will be in #the catfish snoozes

All my liveblogs will be in #the catfish liveblogs

All my headcannon posts will be in #the catfish headcannons

My cAllium fanchild posts will be in #the catfish flicker

Genloss zombie au posting will be in #zombiefall au

You can find any of my other socials by searching up catfishsailor, as most places i just use that as my username!

I do take time to process things a little longer then most people. Do not rush me or get mad to me about it. This is due to many reasons that i don’t even know fully. Please be patient with me.

I also have memory issues, i do my best to remember things but if i forget your pronouns i will just default to they/them, please tell me if i misgendered you so then i can correctly gender you.

I support mspec gays and lesbians and all good faith identities if ur mad about it sorry! i dont give a fuck. Queer people can do whatever the fuck they want!

If you like ccWilbur or ccDteam disrespectfully fuck off. They are all cunts and i hate them

Please tag all cTommy + ccTommy neg! I have a special interest in Tommyinnit and id rather not see it

Unless i say otherwise feel free to rb my posts!

I moved from my old blog to here to escape the constant discourse that i kept on seeing for my mental health, so this a discourse free blog. Don’t look for my old blog please.

I only block blank blogs and people who are constantly in discourse and drama, which i decide how often is too much. If i do not like you i will block you.

As im writing this my cat Pixels is on me which is fun but i can barely see lol.

Hope you enjoy the blog!

#the catfish talks #pinned post

[cardentist]

As a nonbinary/genderfluid biromantic, demiromantic asexual, literally every part of my gender identity and sexuality has been subject to the same "you could EASILY pass as cishet, so can you REALLY say you experience oppression when you could simply CHOOSE not to" and "you're not REALLY oppressed for being XYZ, you're only oppressed when people mistake you as cis fem/trans fem/gay/lesbian/any other identity we think is ACTUALLY important." My existence in online queer spaces has been hounded constantly by people trying to tell me what my lived experiences are and what they mean, shouting me down about how I can't speak about Insert Issue/Topic Here because sure maybe I'm queer (and to some, I don't even have the right to call myself that) but I'm at the bottom of the Who Is Oppressed More Hierarchy, I am only Oppressed in the way that sometimes I experience what they deem to be a different group's oppression. Not even my oppression is my own! I am too much of an "aberration" to find community and a place to speak amongst the general populace, and I'm too privileged to have a voice in the queer community, even about things that affect me.

And now, I'm watching that same rhetoric being used against transmen and transmascs. I remember when people on this site started really exploring queer headcanons for characters, everyone cheering "let's make X character gay! Y character is trans! Z character is a lesbian!" but if you dared to suggest "can Q character be ace?" you'd be met with "... that's boring." I remember how quickly ace exclusion devolved from "aces are boring" to "god, aces are annoying" to "when you think about it, aces aren't even really oppressed, so they aren't queer, so they should just shut up." And then it wasn't just aces, it was bi folks. And then it was enbies too. And now. Here we are.

This is the only site where people will blog about how "Gender is a sandbox! It's fucky! Men can be women, and women can be men! I'm a boygirl kind of girlboy! There are genders and sexualities in all sorts of shrimp colors you can dream of!" but in the same breath, they'll still act weird about he/him lesbians. They'll still claim that ALL masculinity is toxic. They'll still say that men are boring and annoying and-- Oh? You think that's kind of hurtful? You want to use this as an opportunity to talk about your own lived experiences and vent your frustrations courteously and privately on your own blog? Why do you have to make everything about you?! You're lower down the Who Is More Oppressed ladder because, wHeN yOu tHinK aBouT iT, no man can be oppressed for being a man! Even trans men! So you and anybody even vaguely masc aligned should just shut up and stay out of the conversation and let the queers who experience REAL bigotry talk!

... They could at least say something new instead of reusing the same rhetoric they've used for aces and aros and bi/pan folk and enbies and masc/butch lesbians and countless other queer identities.

All that to say, as someone who has been subject to all this for every part of my identity, I stand with you. Trans Unity! Queer Unity!

Context: [Link 1, Link 2]

I know Exactly what you're talking about !

I was around in inclusionist spaces 10 years ago at this point, before I'd fully crystalized what I Had Going On.

I Remember it being pointed out that ace exclusionists were stealing talking points from radfems directly, up to and including ripping off entire posts and just swapping out "trans women" with "asexuals."

I Remember people warning each other that normalizing these kinds of talking points, convincing people that that Mindset is a valid one, would then make it easy to swap out the Target of said mindset.

and it Has happened, over and over and over again. people are Always looking for the marginalized people that nobody wants to stand up for. that people don't understand, that people don't see as Needing support, that people already have negative feelings about even if they don't recognize Why.

it'll only ever stop when people examine the talking points Themselves and throw them out. when people are willing to stand in solidarity with people Regardless of whether they understand them or not.

if someone is trying to convince you that class of people As A Whole are undeserving of support, are lesser than, shouldn't have their voices heard or considered, Question It ! when they hold people up in Comparison to say that their pain is Lesser and therefore doesn't Matter, Question It !!

#discourse #queer unity #trans unity #transandrophobia

[tavoriewrites]

Being trans in a female oriented space

I've thought about writing this out multiple times, but as I sit waiting for my chicken sate I figure now's as good a time as any.

I'm transmasc, but I'm not out to anyone in my immediate circle. I think one of them has me figured out, but I'm terrified of fully coming out.

Anyway, I have a friend who wanted to get back into yoga and more than once I said I'd join her if she ever started up. I was used to gender neutral vinyasa classes so when she wanted to get back into women's buti I was like... Oh no.

Well, every Tuesday, for the past few months, I go with her to yoga and feel like the fishiest fish out of water. I have fun, maybe strain myself too much, get sore after but that's just being out of shape and being active.

But here's the catch. I bind when I'm in public. I cannot bind for yoga. Instead I have a sports bra and I'm doing a controlled flop with every movement. I can usually ignore it but today I was at just the right angle to see my chest flop and I almost broke down.

I've felt like a big imposter this whole time. Every class ends on an empowering message usually uplifting for women. I can be uplifted too, but it also drives home how much I don't identify with these ladies. I feel bad and like I'm taking up space in a women's safe place.

I just want to have fun and support my friend, but there's always this lingering feeling of "you don't belong here".

It's weird, really. Besides my haircut I bairly come across as masc so obviously I'm just a butch lesbian. Nothing wrong with that, but it's not me. It's just how people perceive me. I'm getting better at accepting that since if I can't speak for myself I can't expect anyone to know otherwise.

So that's just a little slice of life thing. I'm not gonna stop going to yoga until the day comes where I either physically can't or I'm too masc to hide it. Whichever comes first.

I 10000% appreciate my friend for getting me out of my apartment once a week and I'm glad I can offer some vague support in her journey to getting back into something she loves. I suppose that's all that really matters.

Just wanted to share my thoughts and feelings on this particular facet of life. No real point to it. Just sharing.

#transmasc #transgender #trans #trans life

[thelemoncoffee]

Class 79 reunion with all my hcs, have them gawk(positive) at one another's changes

i want to see butch lesbians Miu and Maki show up together in matching outfits, i want to see Kokichi mellowed out and now comfortable wearing his glasses, i want to see Shuichi who's come out of his shell and started visually expressing himself, i want to see trans masc Tenko who's finally started T, i want to see Himiko and Angie supporting their boyfriend, i want to see Ryoma happy and with a support animal, i want to see Rantaro and Kaito show up late from an airport because they were travaling the world together, i want to see Gonta fucking bearhuging everyone because he missed them, i want to see Kaede also bear hugging people and excitedly trying to catch up with everyone all at once, i want to see Keebs show off his singing voice bank, i want to see Kiyo to come in right after a therapy session and with a nice new haircut and a botany hobby, i want to see Kirumi and Tsumugi arguing in the back like an old married couple because they ended up as roommates somehow and Kirumi is trying to make sure Tsumugi didn't leave her iron on again.

just, wholesome class reunion. well, until things actually get fully going, then chaos ouccurs. can't have shit with ultimates

#danganronpa #ndrv3 #danganronpa v3 #i'm not tagging everyone #class reunion #kai prompts #headcanon #saiouma #haruruma #amamota #traffic light trio #or what ever the ship name for those three is #this is self indulgent but idc it's mt birthday

[lilsqueaks]

its nice to see boyre becoming a thing.. as a butch lesbian i often feel excluded from the pastely vers of agereg often found. but i still feel like the use of boy is... still too gendered for my taste? im not a boy or a girl! im fully neither! it feels like agere in general excludes masc/nonbinary/agender etc a lot.. idk just what ive seen .

thas a lotta words . anyways support masc littles!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ☀️ ☀️

#lil squeaks. #agere community #boyreg #boyre #BUTCH!! im butch! i love being butch! i dont want to feel like i need to drop that for my regression? yknow?

[nvrbloomagain]

thinking abt the time this girl said i was a “handsome butch” and when i said i wasn’t butch proceded to basically try and insist i was.... also another girl on a dating app was apparently a little wary because she thought i was a masc lesbian... can we stop equating short hair with masculinity? idk, it’s uncomfy. i just feel comfortable w short hair. i also wear makeup sometimes and pink is my favorite color. me having short hair actually says literally nothing about me other than that i like having short hair

#i fully support masc and butch lesbians #im just not one #and it just made me uncomfy #u would think in this community people would stop assuming #lgbtq #wlw #sapphic #lesbian #wlw community #gender expression

[mirandaputsherbestbuttforward]

copy/pasting this from my rp blog since I’m gonna delete it there later but

yknow, as i’ve gotten older and realized some things, it’s tough to be a lesbian in fandom spaces. (this is mostly spurred on by recent lore in apex but it applies to the bio.ware fandoms too).

so like, apex has built up a relationship between bangalore and loba that’s essentially rivals to possible lovers over the course of 4 whole seasons in game. I know it’s a BR but they are adding lore and how all these stories are intertwined. anyway, tl;dr it now seems like they’re throwing in a love triangle arc with valkyrie/loba for some reason and it’s like... yknow i’m glad valk is the first lesbian character, but also like bangalore is distinctly coded as a masculine / stud lesbian and for once i’d like to see good masc/stud/butch representation bc we get called “stereotypical” and thus so many wlw end up being super feminine or just “tomboy-ish” but never fully in the realm of masculine lesbians.

so like, ever notice how in bio.ware, all the wlw romances are... with feminine women? And the one woman who is more masculine in appearance wound up being a het romance because they wanted to ‘subvert stereotypes’? and i mean Sera has a lot of issues in the writing (given that her writer was a straight man lol) and the treatment of her character is kinda garbage too bc you can be so rude to her as inq and for what reason??

anyway this also applies to Sam bc as much as I do LOVE her romance and Alix’s voice acting (espec since Alix literally has two mums herself), the weird obsession with the shower and later the hot tub in the citadel dlc is absolutely catered to the het male gamer playing as fshep who fetishizes women. It’s sad, but this is what happens with a lot of men writing wlw romances. they just don’t get it.

and also, playing a lesbian fshep? Don’t get me wrong, I adore Liara, but it is clear that a) she was intended to be the Main romance with the amount of content she gets and b) that it was definitely made with mshep in mind first as the entire series truly was so there’s nothing distinctly unique about it if you romance her as fshep. (which tbh there are things that are gendered specific to fshep in the game, so it would’ve made sense e.g. eve and fshep bonding over being women; anderson saying she’d make a good mom, that kind of thing). and same goes for Kelly’s “romance” (we love kelly here, don’t insult her pls) was v much made for a male gaze.

and so these attitudes, in my experience, are often reflected in fandom spaces (which includes the rpc but this isn’t a vague at anyone, it’s just a general Vibe that I’ve gotten over the years) wherein people who aren’t into the big main straight romances (sorry garrus kaidan and thane) aren’t like,,, acknowledged as much? Like, there’s already enough hate for ash and miranda as is, but being a sapphic person who loves them in the gay way? it’s tough because your content isn’t as widely accepted as others, be it art/writing/rp, yknow?

anyway this is me just rambling as i’m finally feeling a bit better but i’m glad for y’all that stick around and support my Brand™ because sometimes i’m made to feel :/// about my presence as a lesbian in fandom, yknow?

#personal #fandom wank #being a butch/stud/masc lesbian of any kind in fandom is hard #and people dont think about your perspective that often #anyway this was word vomit from earlier but yknow

[acrystalbirdie]

This is an old tweet I found from @/FreyjaErlings and I'm really glad someone put it into words because I couldn't fully articulate why I think bi/pan lesbians are valid, and I dislike those who are open-minded supporting trans, butch, he/him, they/them, nonbinary, etc. lesbians but will very specifically choose to exclude bi/pan lesbians

hot take under the cut but tl;dr when you blame homophobia on certain people because of the labels they use, you are saying they're asking for it. if you're really, actually, seriously going to throw bi lesbians under the bus for "implying attraction to men" you better get ready to throw away your he/him lesbians and their partners too. also, it is possible to be attracted to 2+ genders without being attracted to men, because there are more than two genders. source: me because I'm nonbinary.

I'm not a lesbian, I'll preface with that, but I am nonbinary, so it's reasonable to think that being a bi lesbian can involve 2+ genders without male attraction because there are more than 2 genders

I'm aware nonbinary lesbians exist who don't divide their attraction by genders (which seems to be the majority of nonbinary lesbians). But it is entirely possible to categorize attraction to women and attraction to nonbinary people as two separate attractions.

in discussing my view of bi lesbian inclusion to one of the lesbian flag creators (I think she was the creator of the 5-stripe version?) her reply was that labeling oneself as bi hurts the community by implying that they're available to men, and inciting male attention

which I...? don't understand? because if you're policing lesbians for "implying they're attracted to men" why would you support he/him lesbians, when in relationships lesbians refer to their partners as "him"

because apparently it's okay for a lesbian to talk about her partner and how much she loves him and how he's such a good person... but it's not okay for a lesbian to say she's a bi lesbian because that sounds like she could date a man? I know pronouns do not equal gender but the first assumption made when hearing he/him is of a man, especially because that assumption is made by the same predatory men that bi lesbians will be blamed for attracting

it baffles me and it is victim blaming and respectability-politics reinforcement because the argument is completely based off what other people will perceive lesbians as. and I cannot understand why bi lesbians are a problem implying that lesbians love men when there are literally lesbians with he/him partners, that would be assumed straight by a cishet person without context. how can you support one and not the other??

I support bi/pan lesbians and I support he/him lesbians because I believe in autonomy in choosing your identity/s. The rationale behind this is secondary. But I bring up this argument because it's the rhetoric I've seen for bi lesbian exclusion, and it's hypocritical when bi lesbian exclusionists are supportive of he/him lesbians.

and in regards to identity politics I'm not a lesbian and I understand that, and it would seem to be overstepping my boundaries to challenge the creator of the lesbian flag... but I'm nonbinary, and it is absolutely possible to view attraction to women and attraction to nonbinary people as separate, especially since there are masc nonbinary people like myself who don't want to be encompassed under the femme dating pool

and the creator of the lesbian flag is an exclusionist. so there's that.

the only exclusion I support is the exclusion of pedophiles and zoophiles. I am not going to police people on what they can call themselves or whether they're included and valid.

lgbt+ revolutionaries wouldn't have cared about all the discourse about lesbians and ace/aros and truscum etc. as in not seeing it as a problem (vs. dismissing it and refusing to acknowledge) because when it all comes down to it we are fighting for our safety and acceptance and there is no reason to turn away a non-allo-cishet person, solely because of what labels they use.

tweet by @/BisexualDyke

god this was a completely unprompted rant and a scorching hot take, and I think the only reason I was so compelled to write this post was because I've recently been struggling with exclusion and my internalized form of exclusion.

#shards of thought #idk why I wrote this but it's good to get off my chest

[mvttshroomarchive]

maybe lesbians who use he/him pronouns use them bc they don't like the """femininity""" behind she/her labels, are trans women who are used to those pronouns, just like how they sound, or idk... it's different but if it feels ok for them it should be ok

Mm, okay. I can see where you’re coming from but I still cannot grasp this fully. Pronouns = gender in my opinion. If someone uses he/him, it’s because they are male or masc nb. If someone uses she/her, it’s because they are female or fem nb. If they don’t use the pronouns that align with their identity, it’s typically due to a situation where they cannot use those pronouns safely or openly. A trans woman who is used to he/him pronouns is an interesting circumstance to bring up and I must admit I hadn’t considered that situation prior. However, I don’t believe many [if any] trans women would prefer being called he/him if they were in a safe environment to be called she/her instead. Again, I cannot stop anyone from identifying under a specific label but I do not personally support it - not that anyone needs my support to do whatever they wish to do. I’ll respect it by not going out of my way to antagonize anyone who uses that label. But to me, it just doesn’t make any logical sense. Also to imply that she/her labels perpetually carry feminity is to ignore butch/masc women and only continue gender normative stereotypes. She/her doesn’t hold any preset level of “"femininity”“ and if any “he/him lesbian” believes that, they’re severely mistaken.If they like how he/him sounds when it’s being used to reference them, there may be a deeper meaning there. Not to say all masc women are trans men or anything of that sort but the way I see it is as follows; I use he/him because I’m a boy. As a trans male, I do not use she/her because I am not a girl. See the direct correlation? Many others use those pronouns for the same reason. Nb/agender/gender neutral folk use they/them to avoid the masc connotations that come with he/him and fem connotations that come with she/her. There’s direct correlation between pronouns [and I mean preferred pronouns for lack of a better term] and one’s gender identity. I'm not saying their identity is "not okay." it's fine. As said before, I can't stop anyone from identifying as whatever they identify as. They aren't physically harming anyone or anything that makes me want to stop them really. They are fine. I am simply perplexed by the phrase "he/him lesbian" as it seems like a direct contradiction to me. If you can provide me with any further evidence or would like to continue to persuade me, I am always open to listening to your side of the debate. I’m not stuck in my ways by any means! The offer is still open. I would love to understand this if I can.

[myheartsoarsforyou]

The gay asks, as many as you feel like doing. Starting at 1 stop when you feel like it

Oh, you don’t know what you’ve signed up for. I’ll put it under a readmore, lol. 

Just to note: Probably going to do most, if not all of them, so there you go. :)

how tall are you? 5′6″

what is your body type? Chubby, but curves are still there.

what is your favorite part about your body? Ehh, I don’t really like any part. My eyes, I guess?

is your current hair color your natural hair color? For now, but as soon as I’m able to get to my salon I’m dyeing it

are you more outgoing or more shy? Depends on the setting but for the most part definitely shy

are you more femme or butch? Femme I guess? I dunno, I’d argue probably somewhere in-between but leaning towards femme. 

are you tol or smol? Height wise? I guess kinda tol? Iunno I don’t think I’m either but hey! lol

wine mom or vodka aunt? Vodka aunt, but I don’t drink much anymore.

weird habit? Uhh idk?

favorite meme? Don’t talk me i angy

do you sing in the shower? Oh yes, especially if I have music going lol

ever used a bow and arrow? Not yet!

are/were you a theatre kid? Nope, 

have you ever seen a broadway musical? Not in person? 

do you think musicals are cheesy? Probably but that’s half the fun.

have you ever been a part of a protest or a march? I wish, especially right now, but I would probably break down around that many people. I support as much as I can.

favorite Cards Against Humanity Card? I don’t think I have a favorite?

last movie you watched? Silent Hill: Revelations

behind the camera or in front of it? Behind, 100%. I hate having my picture taken. i’ll make exceptions, but. 

favorite tv show? Mmmh... it used to be Supernatural but I don’t really watch TV. Maybe ATLA? I’m rewatching/finishing that sporadically.

meaning behind your url He makes my heart soar higher than ever.

reason you joined tumblr A looong time ago, because of SPN. 

who’s your closest tumblr friend? I don’t really talk to people on tumblr ?? I’m just kinda... here

what’s something most people love that you hate? Iunno o.o

have you ever taken narcotics? Technically yes I have

have you had sex? Mhmm

have you ever gotten caught sneaking out or doing anything bad? Err, yeah. I got caught with a ‘friend’ of mine when I was younger. Woops.

worst/funniest lie you’ve ever told? I don’t remember any? I don’t know. 

describe your passion without mentioning it. Escape, building something completely new with friends, making friends within a universe you help shape, seeing and doing more fantastiscal things than could be done in real life. 

describe your best friend. I have two people I consider best friends. An artist, an activist, passionate about her work, heartfelt and exciteable. Another artist, unsure of his work but talented none the less, overly critical of himself. 

give us one thing about you that no one knows. I don’t think there’s much if anything that my bf doesn’t know about me?

how do you feel right now? my tummy hurts

what is your biggest fear? Losing him. 

what’s a song that always makes you happy when you hear it? Love Me - NU’EST

what is the best decision you’ve made in your life so far? Definitely sticking it out and staying close to my bf before we got together and persuing things when the opportunity arose. 

have you ever tried your hardest and then been disappointed in the end? Very often in my life rn tbh

something you fantasize about. Living with my love in a 3 bedroom house with our little domestic zoo and being happy. 

last time you cried and why Saturday, multiple times. It was a rough day and was thinking a lot about my cousin (long story short he’s no longer around)

what was the last thing that made you laugh? Probably my boyfriend. 

do you really, truly miss someone right now? I miss my bf because I haven’t seen him irl in two years and it kills me. 

who do you feel most comfortable talking to about anything? Bf

the last time you felt broken? Saturday again because of the aforementioned. 

are you starting to realize anything? That I will put up with a lot if I feel like I have to to see him. 

are you more dominant or more submissive? Definitely submissive, but I have my moments. 

i’ll only date you if _____. (fill in the blank) Mmm, I don’t really have strict qualifications. Treat me well, tell me if something’s up, and just love me. But I have that right now, so I guess the strict qualification is if he agrees & We’re good to be a polycule. 

do you prefer to date people the same age as you, younger, or older? I used to say strictly older, but honestly AS LONG AS it’s legal and moral either or. Bf’s two years younger than me and more mature than anyone older than me that I’ve been with so lol. 

describe the person you’re in love with/have a crush on in great detail. My height, great eyes, gorgeous to me, dyed-red hair, avid gamer, tattoo enthusiast. He’s passionate regardless of how he sees it, and he’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I love every part of him and I will even if things change. 

do you have any kinks? Many. Lol. 

first thing you notice in a person? Depends, sometimes eyes, sometimes voice, sometimes approachability lol.

how can someone win your heart? You’d have to ask my bf

been rejected by a crush? Yep! 

have you ever had feelings for someone who didn’t have them back? Oh yes lol

would you have sex with the last person you text messaged? Actual texts? No. But if discord messages count - yes. lol

is trust a big issue for you? Yes

did you hang out with the person you like recently? Yes

is confidence cute? It can be, but there’s a fine line between it and arrogance. 

what would you say if the person you love/like kissed another girl/boy? It depends entirely on the situation. Did we agree on a romantic/sexual third? Sure. If not I’d probably be pretty upset. 

would you be able to date someone who doesn’t make you laugh? Probably not. 

does the person you have feelings for right now know you do? I should DEFINITELY hope so lmao

ever embarrass yourself in front of a crush? I’ve been in high school. 

do you want to get married I do, though I never thought I’d be able to say that

worst thing you’ve ever done? Probably cheating on someone I cared about with someone I should’ve never involved myself with. 

three things that turn you on. Biting, neck kisses, making out. 

who do you hate? Eh, my boss rn.

favorite term of endearment? My bf calls me kitten c: 

who was your celebrity/fictional gay awakening? Probably Willow from Buffy the Vampire Slayer 

intimidating girls or kind girls? Why not both?

what do you look for in a possible partner? If we’d work well together lol, it all depends. 

do you tend to like more masculine, feminine, or androgynous girls? Err, a little of all? I tend to go for masc in general, but I am definitely interested in all of the above. 

are you good at flirting? Not...really lol

who was the first person you came out to? My bestie

do you have any friends who are wlw? Yep!

is your crush wlw? See, this is complicated. Technically at the moment no, but there has been gender questioning in the past and it’s possible that at some point in the future yes. 

last person to make you reconsider your sexuality? That’s been a long time ago lmao, I’ve been pretty confident I am Super Queer for a long while. 

write a short love poem to your crush/self? I am not good at these and very tired so I’m gonna pass on this one

do you fall in love easily? I used to, but not anymore. Mainly cause I’m still very deeply in love with the person I think is my soul mate. 

is there something that happened in your past that you hate talking about? Yerp.

are you good at hiding your feelings? Not really no

are you a forgiving person? I can be. Bf thinks I am too forgiving. 

what is your “type?” Uhh, it depends? And fluctuates? lol

fall asleep in her arms or rub her back until she falls asleep in yours? Both.

tall girls or short girls? Both, though prob tall more often than not.

hugs or kisses? Kisses

twirl her around or get twirled? Twiiiirl. 

tummy kisses or thigh kisses? Thigh

hairline kisses or neck kisses? Neck

play with her hair or stroke her tummy? I have Two Hands

making out or soft kisses? Both, but I Really Like making out

hugs around the neck or hugs around the waist? Neck, but also both. 

how confident are you in your sexuality? 100%

when you like someone do you blush or get butterflies in your stomach? Yes, a lot lol

have you ever liked a friend as more than a friend? did you tell them? I would not be with my bf if this wasn’t the case. 

how old were you when you realized you were into girls? I think I was 13? 

most embarrassing thing you’ve done in front of a cute girl? Uhhh... I don’t really remember lol

do you have a favorite lesbian ship? is it canon? Yes! But it ended not great so :(

what is the most aggravating thing someone has said to you about your sexuality? I really hate when people say I should identify in a certain way because it’s a “slur” the whole point of reclaiming things is to take the ammunition out of it. And a lot of words have been slurs in the past that seem to be fully acceptable. 

when was the last time a girl made your heart flutter? I don’t really remember. 

what is love to you? It can change but at its heart it makes you feel warm and soft, and makes you feel a little bit better about the bad things in life. 

#P.s. Pretty sure my bf sent this but that's ok #if not pls tell me who you are bc you honed in on what i love lol #Anonymous #well that readmore didn't work okay thanks tumblr