#i have plenty of friends who are 25 26 27 years old who haven't had sex purely because they haven't vibed with anyone yet

[dorefasolsido]

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1~ What quality do you value most highly in others?

Definitely stuff like emotional intelligence and warmth because I struggle with this stuff myself. I have a very hard time connecting with people on that level and when I see someone do it so effortlessly (and genuinely), I'm always really impressed.

2~ Are you more aggressive or mellow?

Mellow. I'm very conflict-avoidant.

3~ Who has made the biggest sacrifice for you?

My parents, surely.

4~ Do you take any vitamins or medication?

Not really regularly, no.

5~ Do you want to grow old with someone?

Yes, with my best friend. I want us to stay like this forever. I don't care about growing old with a partner though, I don't think such a thing is for me at all.

6~ Do you treat others better or worse than yourself and why?

I think I treat others better because I'm one hell of a people pleaser sometimes, always worried that others might drop me if I don't try my best. But I can't technically drop myself, so...

7~ What sound is annoying you right now?

Nothing's really annoying me right now.

8~ Where was your last vacation to?

Transylvania, Dracula's castle.

9~ Where was your last car ride to?

To a restaurant earlier in the afternoon, we went for a family lunch.

10~ Where did you last walk to?

Uhh, upstairs to my bedroom.

11~ What gives you a peaceful feeling?

Driving down an empty straight road at night when there are barely any cars and no people on the streets. Only me, my music, and city lights.

12~ Are you a light sleeper?

So-so, it used to be worse.

13~ When you sleep next to someone who usually falls asleep first?

Usually the other person does, just because it takes me forever to fall asleep unless I'm really exhausted.

14~ How many people have a piece of your heart?

I don't know, a couple.

15~ What do your salt and pepper shakers look like?

We don't keep salt and pepper in shakers.

16~ When was the last time you hurt yourself?

I don’t remember.

**continued from who knows when :D**

17~ Would you rather live in the city, suburbs or the country?

I'm a city person, or at the very least suburbs. I grew up in a small town and can't imagine ever returning to one for good--not while I'm young anyway. There's really nothing to do there and every day looks exactly the same. I need some vibrancy, some activity, otherwise I feel like I'm suffocating.

18~ Have you ever built something?

Yes, houses in Sims.

19~ Are you more of a maker and giver, or a taker and user?

A little bit of both, I think.

20~ Do you take naps?

Not normally, unless I pull an all-nighter. I function on very few hours of sleep without much difficulty.

21~ Do you buy holiday gifts early or at the last minute?

Lol I never do anything early, it's something I've been struggling for years. Everything's always last minute.

22~ Do you laugh when there is no joke and dance when there is no music?

I'm sure it has happened before?

23~ If someone else were to describe you what would you hope they would say?

That I'm a meaningful person in their life who is fun and easy to talk to. I never feel like any of this is true, so of course, it would be nice to hear it from someone else. I might not really believe it, but still.

24~ What is the dirtiest habit you can think of?

Hmmmmmm nothing comes to mind right now.

25~ Do you ever need ‘quiet time’?

Yeah, and I get plenty of it, working from home and all. Thing is, I need quiet time for myself, which is something I haven't had much of lately. Like, it's quiet, but there's always 50 billion things to do. I hate adulthood ;-;

26~ Do you think it is harder for a parent to outlive their child or for the child to outlive their parent?

Probably the former, though I feel a pit in my stomach whenever I imagine my parents not being around.

27~ What was your best find from a flea market, garage sale, ebay or thrift?

Well I have been to flea markets before, but tbh I don't remember at all.

28~ What is one selfish thing you tend to do?

Eat the entire chocolate instead of leaving half for my sister when she's not at home.

29~ What kinds of people do you find intimidating?

Tbh, no one in particular. Like, people who really have their shit together can be a little unsettling, but then again, I probably come across like that to some people too and that's not the case at all.

30~ Out of everyone you know who has the most unique personality?

Chris hands down. I like to befriend unconventional people, but Chris is just, I don't know where to begin to describe his personality. Sometimes it feels like he genuinely just came to visit from Mars.

31~ When do you do your best thinking?

In the shower. Running water of any kind inspires me.

32~ What was a choice that you didn’t want to make but you had to?

Well, shutting out a certain someone from my life. It was a very hard choice at the time, but yeah, I had to.

33~ Have you ever written a letter to a soldier?

I don't know any soldiers.

34~ What does your favorite coffee mug look like?

Umm, it's black with some orange Halloween motif.

35~ What age do you think it is most difficult to be?

Well I haven't lived through all the ages yet, so it may be a little hard to tell, but so far teen years and mid-to-late twenties take the cake.

36~ Do you think you could handle a day in jail?

Yeah, it's a day. Even if it's absolutely dreadful, I could handle it.

37~ Who is the most overbearing person you know?

I'm actually not sure.

38~ Have you ever been on a trampoline?

Yup, not too long ago either.

39~ What do you use batteries for the most often?

Remotes.

40~ Would you prefer to wrap your own presents or have them all gift wrapped?

I like wrapping presents (tho we don't usually wrap them here anyway), but if there were many, I'd have them wrapped. I'm really slow with arts and crafts.

#personal #surveys

[lunaxriax]

Odds for Jinae?

-🦋

distract me pls

1: Is there a boy/girl in your life?

Nope. I do have a little crush on someone, though.

3: What do you think of when you hear the word “meow?”

Kitty

5: Are you afraid of falling in love?

Yes.

7: Have you ever slept on a couch with someone else?

Yes, I have.

9: Name the last four beds you were sat on?

Mine, a friend's and that's it.

11: Honestly, are things going the way you planned?

I don't really plan things and just see how things go? Because I hate planning things and they don't go the way they should.

13: Would you rather have a poodle or a Rottweiler?

Neither? I'm not really a dog person.

15: Would you rather visit a zoo or an art museum?

Zoo!

17: How long have you known your 1st phone contact?

My first phone contact is my brother, so very long.

19: Would you ever consider getting back together with any of your exes?

I think I'd rather be set on fire.

21: If you knew you had the right person, would you marry them today?

I don't know. I don't really have too many good thoughts and memories about marriage.

23: How many bracelets do you have on your wrists right now?

Right now, none.

25: What’s on your mind?

I want to go swimming!

27: What is your favorite color?

Any pastel color.

29: Who are you texting?

Right now, no one.

31: Have you ever had the feeling something bad was going to happen and you were right?

Plenty of times.

33: Do you think anyone has feelings for you?

I don't think so.

35: Say the last person you kissed was kissing someone right in front of you?

I'd feel a little hurt about it but I wouldn't mention it because I'm not dating that person so it doesn't matter.

37: Are you friends with the last person you kissed?

Yes, I am.

39: Has anyone upset you in the last week?

I don't think so.

41: Where’s your last bruise located?

On my knee.

43: Last time you wanted to be away from somewhere really bad?

I have those thoughts occasionally. Only because I'm used to moving around and never staying in a place for too long.

45: Do you have a favourite pair of shoes?

All of my shoes are favourites! I have a shoe obsession, honestly.

47: Would you ever go bald if it was the style?

Oh gosh, that would be a funny look, don't you think?

49: Does your bedroom have a door?

Yes.

51: Do you know anyone who hates shopping?

A couple of my friends do, I don't know why. Shopping is fun!

53: Are goodbyes hard for you?

Not really. I'm used to people leaving, so I learned to live with it.

55: How is your hair?

In desperate need of a trim and maybe some deep conditioning

57: Do you think two people can last forever?

When I was younger I was convinced of that but as I got older, I started hoping for it more rather than believing it.

59: Green or purple grapes?

Both!

61: Do you wish you were somewhere else right now?

I wish I was at a nice beach with a cocktail.

63: Where will you be 5 hours from now?

I have no idea.

65: This time last year, can you remember who you liked?

Yes.. unfortunately

67: Did you kiss or hug anyone today?

No, I haven't.

69: Have you ever tried your hardest and then gotten disappointed in the end?

A lot of times, yes.

71: How many fingers do you have?

10

73: How old will you be in 5 months?

Still 26

75: Why aren’t you with the person you were first in love with or almost in love?

They tried to kill me, so that was dealbreaker!

77: Are you friends with the people you were friends with two years ago?

A few.

79: Is there anyone you know with the name Mike?

No.

81: How many people have you liked in the past three months?

One.

83: Will you talk to the person you like tonight?

I don't know. Maybe

85: If your BF/GF was into drugs would you care?

Yes, I would care. Because I can understand it.

87: Who was your last received call from?

A co-worker

89: What is something you wish you had more of?

Self respect.

91: Do you sleep with your window open?

Yes. It's nice.

93: Are you keeping a secret from someone who needs to know the truth?

Maybe. I have lots of secrets, but I'm not sure if people need to know about any of it.

95: You’re locked in a room with the last person you kissed, is that a problem?

Nope, no problem at all.

97: Did you sleep alone this week?

I have.

99: Do you believe in love at first sight?

No, I don't.

#fluffybrowncat #( Jinae; replies ) #// Thank you love! ♡

[droppingintothedeepend]

01. Do you have a good relationship with your parents?

no

02. Who did you last say “I love you” to?

cristen

03. Do you regret anything?

yes

04. Are you insecure?

yes

05. What is your relationship status?

married <3

06. How do you want to die?

quickly and happily

07. What did you last eat?

semi sweet chocolate chips in milk

08. Played any sports?

not really

09. Do you bite your nails?

yes (:

10. When was your last physical fight?

never

11. Do you like someone?

lol yeah like for sure

12. Have you ever stayed up 48 hours?

no

13. Do you hate anyone at the moment?

plenty of people

14. Do you miss someone?

plenty of people

15. Have any pets?

binky boi

16. How exactly are you feeling at the moment?

tired // exhausted // worn out

17. Ever made out in the bathroom?

I'm sure yes

18. Are you scared of spiders?

no

19. Would you go back in time if you were given the chance?

yes

20. Where was the last place you snogged someone?

bedroom

21. What are your plans for this weekend?

play animal crossing

22. Do you want to have kids? How many?

nope (:

23. Do you have piercings? How many?

I used to have a tongue ring but I lost it in the war. and by war I mean 4 hour seizure. I just found the bag yesterday and it was really upsetting, a reminder of all of the things I have lost since my seizure, support, love, mobility, independence, my sense of self, and my tongue ring.

24. What is/are/were your best subject(s)?

math // child development

25. Do you miss anyone from your past?

yes

26. What are you craving right now?

a cigarette and some kind of chocolate candy i haven't quite put my finger on yet

27. Have you ever broken someone’s heart?

I'm sure

28. Have you ever been cheated on?

I dont think so

29. Have you made a boyfriend/girlfriend cry?

yes

30. What’s irritating you right now?

that life isn't easier and that it costs so much money to be alive

31. Does somebody love you?

yes

32. What is your favourite color?

orange

33. Do you have trust issues?

lmao I should but no

34. Who/what was your last dream about?

it was about my brother in law nathan trying to kidnap piper to sell her

35. Who was the last person you cried in front of?

cristen

36. Do you give out second chances too easily?

I'm sure

37. Is it easier to forgive or forget?

lmao I forget everything

38. Is this year the best year of your life?

not even close (:

39. How old were you when you had your first kiss?

I honestly don't remember, wish I did though.

40. Have you ever walked outside completely naked?

no

51. Favourite food?

chicken strips

52. Do you believe everything happens for a reason?

nope

53. What is the last thing you did before you went to bed last night?

smoked // watched bobs burgers // cuddled on cristen

54. Is cheating ever okay?

no

55. Are you mean?

I'm judgemental and tactless, but I wouldn't say "mean"

56. How many people have you fist fought?

none

57. Do you believe in true love?

duh

58. Favourite weather?

sunny days in the 80s

59. Do you like the snow?

not really

60. Do you wanna get married?

yeah, I did it

61. Is it cute when a boy/girl calls you baby?

yes

62. What makes you happy?

cristen, piper, and harry styles

63. Would you change your name?

nope

64. Would it be hard to kiss the last person you kissed?

not at all

65. Your best friend of the opposite sex likes you, what do you do?

tell them to knock it off, im gay married

66. Do you have a friend of the opposite sex who you can act your complete self around?

no I don't have any friends, and if I did- they wouldn't be men lmfao

67. Who was the last person of the opposite sex you talked to?

I said good morning to my elderly neighbor today

68. Who’s the last person you had a deep conversation with?

cristen

69. Do you believe in soulmates?

yee

70. Is there anyone you would die for?

yesssss

[slightlyrebelliouswriter23]

oh my gosh I love your list on why to love Jude Duarte. Another thing about the not having had sex before and the way that's respected is that it also isn't being sexualized. As someone who hasn't had sex before even though I'm in my twenties, I've experienced my fair share of people thinking it's "hot" that I haven't had sex and it's kinda gross. It seems to be fading now (thankfully), and I'm not sure if that has with me now interacting with older dudes or if society is progressing past the "innocent virgin" trope. I just love how in the series, despite having sex and having lots of it is considered pretty normal, her not having had that isn't a thing that's looked at as neither strange, childish or hot. Anyways, just needed to get that off my chest

ffs do people really sexualise that shit?? listen, i can't relate to that reaction because i was never exposed to anything like that but i was in my twenties before i had sex. all people ever did upon learning of my "virginity" was go "😳 oh." and make me feel like shit for not having had what can probably only be described as a very anticlimactic (pun there if you want it) life experience.

in retrospect, this could've just been genuine surprise that i, absolute mantrap that i am, had yet to woo a bedfellow (/s) and therefore i am retroactively flattered. but anyways, my point being, most people either saw my virginity as this huge burden that i was putting on them, or they just thought it was weird that i hadn't had sex by that age.

and it absolutely shocks me to my core that the flip side of the coin is taken to such an extreme as some gross fetishisation (i mean i can believe it, cos how dare we expect to exist without being sexualised, i'm just extremely disappointed).

so i guess this is all to say yes. i 100% agree. i love the TFOTA series for not making virginity a big deal point blank period. and you ABSOLUTELY FUCKING NAILED IT by saying that despite this hypersexualised world that the fae live in, they still somehow manage to not have Opinions about what other people do or don't do with their bodies.

whether it's when Jude legit had her first kiss at 17/18 (which some would consider "late") or that it didn't matter to Cardan how much experience she had or hadn't had by chapter 21 of QON because THAT'S NOT THE POINT OF SEX, the concept of Jude's sexual experiences throughout the series were put forth simply as this:

"here is this life experience that many people who are in love or not in love have, and it is sometimes scary and sometimes vulnerable and often times not quite how you pictured it happening for the first time, but it's one way of connecting with someone in ways that even words can't. and if you don't want to partake in that, here, have a sword."

thank you so much for sharing, nonnie. ilysm 🥺❤️

#asked and answered #nonnie #tfota #also just for the record #i have plenty of friends who are 25 26 27 years old who haven't had sex purely because they haven't vibed with anyone yet #(or maybe even cos they don't want to idk it's none of my fucking business) #so just in case you were wondering if you were weird or if there was something wrong with you: YOU'RE NOT THERE'S NOT #bc that was very much how i felt at 20 when it seemed like everyone around me was doing it and i just look back now and think #GOD that's so young. that's so fucking young to be thinking there's something wrong with me bc i was ''inexperienced'' #and people who sexualise virgins are still fucking gross #ahhhh this was such a lovely ask you receive thank you for this #jurdan #holly black