#i hope this helps love

[blacksunscorpio]

If a planet Conjuncts your chart ruler, does it have an effect on your appearance?

Yes, love. It can.

A tip, look at how tightly the planet conjuncts the chart ruler. 0 to 3 degrees will have a more noticeable affect.

EX: Say, Jupiter conjuncts your Aries ascendant. Your chart ruler is Mars. This means that you may not just have an athletic appearance, but you could be tall as well. (Jupiter expands whatever it touches)

EX 2.: Say, you are a Cancer ascendant. The moon is your chart ruler. Pluto conjuncts your moon. That quintessential soft and glowy exterior could take on a darker and more intense countenance. Instead of a cherub-like look (common with Cancerian risings), you could appear more intimidating. Darker features. Etc.

#anon asks #chart ruler #physical appearance in astrology #really good q #astro tumblr #i hope this helps love

[cistematicchaos]

Cool. I uh, I had my leg give out from under me a few months back and I was in a lot of pain and couldn't really walk, do stairs, etc. reliably and without pain. And so after like 2-3 weeks my mom got me to a doctor and they said that without an x-ray I probably damaged a major joint in my leg somehow and that I just needed rest and to take care of it. But I have a really hard time with that stuff (memory-wise and feeling-like-I-dont-deserve-it-wise), and my parents didn't seem to care much about it either and they kept asking me to do chores and would go out all the time and stuff, regardless even when I said it was difficult for me to do that. It had started getting better and didn't hurt or go slack almost at all anymore but it just got hurt again the same way about an hour ago. I just, nobody asked if I was okay? Or what I wanted to do? If I needed to go to the hospital? But I did get asked multiple times whether I was just exaggerating cause apparently since I don't do anything and barely leave the house that means I don't have any pain experience and I'm just being naive. I, yeah. Yeah.

Ah. That's fucked, I'm sorry. I know that losing mobility and dealing with consistent pain can be very scary and hard as hell to go through. Especially with such a lack of support from your parents, which is neglectful and wild as hell (sending a private fuck you to them and love to you), and then throwing them forcing you to be way more active than you should be while you're healing? I'm so sorry they put you through that.

Honestly, the increased activity your parents have been putting you through could definitely have to do with the fact its happened again. Joints are very fucking finicky and even if they seem like they're healing...if you fuck with them, they'll fuck you over like, trice, just for laughs because they're dicks. I'm not saying that to make you more upset, I'm saying that because I think you should know it's serious, so that you know that even if you don't go to the hospital, your parents not allowing you to heal is inhumane and dangerous.

But putting that fucked shit aside, love, are you okay? Do you need to go to the hospital, is that something you can do if you need to? Is there anything I can do to help?

Literally fuck the idea you're exaggerating or some shit! You're hurt! You're experiencing pain. It literally doesn't matter how much "pain experience" you have, they should be taking care of you. Not to mention the fact that even if you hadn't been hurt before, you not leaving the house frequently is not a reason to accuse you of exaggerating or being naive!

You're experiencing pain and you've been hurt. You need rest, you need to take care of yourself and you deserve so much better than people refusing to see you as a person deserving of exactly that. Again. I'm sending you love and I hope your pain eases, please feel free to send me more anons, its not a bother in the least. <3

#I hope this helps love #asking chaos #disability #ableism #bc thats what your parents behavior is #as well as all the other things i called it #sorry if im blunt #i know i sound bitchy sometimes #but id rather be bitchy #than lie to you #when you chose to speak to me specifically #i'd feel bad doing anything but speaking my truth ig #i hope you feel better #and again #i hope your pain eases

[hansoeii]

let time pass.

#and the tears come streaming down your face #when you lose something you can't replace #when you love someone but it goes to waste #could it be worse? #Light will guide you home and ignite your bones #and I will try to fix you #thank you tom hiddleston for making fix you the lokius anthem #I'm still in mourning over the loki finale and I had to make something to make myself feel a little better #I hope this can help you a little too #or make it worse #haha #wanted to try something new #loki #lokius #lokius fanart #loki fanart #loki and mobius #loki season 2 #loki season 2 fanart #loki mobius #loki laufeyson #loki god of stories #mobius m. mobius #owen wilson #tom hiddleston #my art #fanart #digital art #lokius comic #loki comic

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[knifearo]

being aromantic is like. hey btw you're going to live a life that is the culmination of most of society's worst nightmares. sorry lol ✌️ but then you turn around and take a really good hard look at it and it turns out that living in that nightmare is fucking awesome and you get to wake up every day and take that fear that other people have and laugh and hold it close until it's a great joy for you instead. and being happy is a radical act that you define instead of someone else. and you're sexy as fuck that's just a fact of life i don't make the rules on that one

#aromantic people are just sexy i'm not making the decisions here it's just facts #course ur hot as fuck. it came free with the aromanticism #being sexy is just default settings for aromantic people 👍 #hope this all helps. anyway i'm on my 'i hope i die alone <3 i can't wait to die alone <3' kick rn #i think the existential fear that people have of Not Partnering specifically is so. well. #obviously that shit is strong and it is SO awesome to be free of it. #realizing you're aro and you don't Want a partner can be such a hit to the solar plexus #cause society says that's the only thing that'll make you happy. so either you go without that thing or you force yourself #into doing something you don't want which would make you unhappy anyway. #so you think it's a lose lose situation and you have to come to terms with what amatonormativity presents as the worst possible situation #but then! whoa! turns out personhood is inherently valuable in and of itself and romantic partnering is just a construct! #and that nightmare is now your life to do with as you please... define as you will... structure as you want... #best case scenario. is what i'm saying. #every day i wake up ready to spit all that amatonormative rhetoric back in life's teeth by being alone and being happy #and it's so fucking satisfying. every day. #fucking JUBILANT being by myself. and i love being a living breathing 'fuck you' to the romantic system #you need a partner to be happy? oh that's sooo fucking crazy guess i'll go be miserable then. in my perfect fucking dream life lmao #yeah obviously it's the worst possible outcome on earth to die without a partner. so terrible. can't wait for it :) #aromantic #aromanticism #aro positivity #aroace #arospec #sorry to bitches who are sad about not having a partner. i could not give a fuck though get better soon #you couldn't EVER pay me enough to go back to a mindset in which my inherent value wasn't enough by myself. #FUCK that shit. absolutely miserable and a bad life outlook in general. like genuinely do the work w/ amatonormativity and get better #life is something that can be so fulfilling whether someone wants to kiss you or whatever or not #i'm on antidepressants and i have people i care deeply about. what the fuck would i need a partner for lmao

[skizabaa]

Why did he do that 😭

#skizabaa scribbles #fnaf sb #fnaf daycare attendant #sundrop #fnaf security breach #sun fnaf #help wanted 2 #help wanted 2 spoilers #fnaf help wanted 2 spoilers #fnaf sun #I love sassy sun so much #hoping i got all the spoiler tags if not lmk!

[thatevakid]

#life quotes #loveyourself #self worth #self love #self help #healing #goodvibes #youre okay #if youre reading this #i hope you’re okay #quotes

[corviiids]

in the one (1) month since i watched death note for the first time i sure have been doing a fucking posting

bonus:

#death note #rookposting #lawlight #light yagami #l lawliet #i was like oh.. i should crosspost some of my dn shit to tumblr but idk if ive made enough posts to do a comp. #(searches for one second) ah fuck #shoutout to the lovely people who made appearances in this compilation by helping me #hope yall dont mind #by the way im also a pisces bitch so im allowed to say that about him.

[triona-tribblescore]

I WANNA DRAAWW!! RAHHHGG!! Absolutely swamped with college work, im so tired TT (hence whatever tf this is lmao)

#posted this doodle on twitter yesterday but it's still very relevant today #fr cant do anything until I get 12 posters drawn make my homemade paper and finish/publish my 200 page book I'm gonna- #Send help #i miss being active sm :'(( #SORRY TO THE 60+ ASKS IN MY INBOX I PROMISE ILL GET TO YOU SOON <333 #anyway I hope everyone else is doing ok #sending love #(also husk please- stay off the internet lmao) #angel dust #angel dust fanart #husk #husk fanart #huskerdust #huskerdust fanart #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel fanart #tribbleart #<3

[musubiki]

please save me star rail danmarch

#hsr #honkai star rail #marth 7th #dan heng #danmarch #art #fanart #please just kiss #anyone peep that very small danmarch crumb this update #(small spoilers from here) #love how dan heng has been hella quiet in the family chat for the whole ass thing #and as soon as march goes (im panicking help) #hes like (do i need to come down and help? should i come down?) #and himeko has to be all (everyone chill please) #huehuehue dan heng.... #i hope he brings his ass down here in the final act

[deep-space-lines]

okay but like. I just had the weirdest thought about that ‘don’t look I’m naked’ comic. Which is that that’s essentially the same thing Adam and Eve did after they ate the fruit of knowledge of good&evil. So I feel like the theological implications of that could kneecap Gabe if he doesn’t think V1 is a being with free will.

yeah ok. i dunno man. is this anything

((side note. this isn’t necessarily meant to be in-character or story-accurate or take place at any particular point in time, just a way to explore some Thoughts. i was also imagining more that V1’s words aren't actually spoken, more like Gabriel’s more articulate interpretation of whatever garbled mechanical noise V1 is using to communicate. I think an angel could do that.))

and then they fucked nasty the end

#my art #my writing #who fuckin sent this. fuck you. come off anon so i can kick your ass. (the thoughts this ask sparked consumed almost 3 days of my life) #i dont know what this even is #i just work here #disclaimer i don't come from a particularly religious background so like. #most of my knowledge of christianity comes from when my mom sent me to vbs for cheap babysitting in middle school or absorbed via osmosis #so i have no idea what im talking about except for when i do! hope this helps #i love how i say that like i expect biblical scholars to tear apart my ultrakill gay fanfiction #if you are a biblical scholar and you want to tear apart my ultrakill gay fanfiction please know i am not going to read the bible for this #ultrakill #v1 ultrakill #gabriel ultrakill #gabv1el #blood #love tagging ultrakill stuff with blood. hmm yes the floor here is made out of floor

[pinkydoggy83]

🌺🌿 — They like to help each other

#my art #Uhh I hope my idea was able to be translated #Kinda embarrassed to share but I love the idea of them helping the other feel better about things they feel self conscious about #Also trying to give them a more noticeable height difference #broppy #poppy #branch #poppy x branch #branch x poppy #trolls broppy #trolls #dreamsworks trolls #dw trolls #trolls world tour #trolls band together #poppy trolls #branch trolls #comic #trolls comic

[pokeberry5]

girl experiences gender euphoria and is immediately slammed by grief

for @litttlittt <3. this was supposed to be a portrait of caroline hill, but litta mentioned tim looking like janet when dressed as caroline and identity issues and angst and things spiraled

something about tim not knowing if he's his mother's child or bruce's or neither's.

figuring out the looks:

i wanted janet to have that poofy 70s hair

#tim drake #dc #bruce wayne #janet drake #sart #i'm picturing this as transfemme tim hence “he” and also compounding issues about bruce treating him as a daughter #which is exactly the gender validation tim wants and needs but isnt sure he deserves #but this also definitely works for trans tim #she gets to process that she looks like her mom!! and her mom will never get to know her daughter #would she have wanted to know her daughter? even though she showered tim with love when she was around #she barely knew her son #gender idk he's a girl 👍 hope that helps #i went down a rabbit hole looking up vintage dior necklaces -- hopefully something martha wayne wouldve worn #-- but dior necklaces are COMPLICATED #i almost drew pearls but i think that wouldve been too cruel to bruce lol #(a decent amount of my art--even when it's not femme tim--gets tagged 'gender' and i dont know what im going but im glad 👍)

[endermagpieart]

What do you mean I’m a bit late for Janus’ big day? Of course not, how could you say such a thing! I definitely didn’t forget all about it in my absence and only get reminded in the incorrect quotes video live chat; that’s not like me at all ;]

Anyways I decided to dress our sassy snake in some different outfits I think he’d like. He seems like the type to get all dolled up on his birthday and it goes with Thomas posting pics in outfits inspired by the sides on their appreciation days!

@thatsthat24

#sanders sides #janus sanders #ts janus #thomas sanders #sanders sides fanart #my hoard #I’ve returned! #the newest asides came out and I remembered how much I love it #so I’m hyperfixated again and I’ve not now peace since #it is nice to actually finish something again tho #I’ve been pretty busy working lately and now I’m starting to pack to move into my first apartment! #so not much time to really sit down and draw #and when I do have time I can’t get the motivation to actually draw anything #I want to get better about posting stuff on here #(even though it feels like I’m just dreaming into the void a lot) #even just silly little things or rough sketches I’ll never finish #I hope it’ll help me continue to draw and make things again #I forgot how nice it is #anyways if you’ve read this far thanks #have a cookie :] 🍪

[fox-guardian]

[ID: A digital comic of Sam and Celia from The Magnus Protocol and Danny from The Magnus Archives on a gray background. Everyone is colored in a single color. Sam is red, Celia is green, and Danny is yellow. Sam is a fat Arab man with short curly dark hair, a mustache, and a small goatee, and he is wearing small black earrings, a cardigan, a turtleneck, trousers and loafers. Celia is a slim Korean woman with short dark hair and she is wearing rectangular glasses, piercings including an industrial piercing, an x-shaped earring, and snakebites, a button-down shirt with the sleeves rolled up, a vest, trousers, and black wrist cuffs. Danny is a tall, beefy Latino man with short hair, a cut in his brow, and a "cat mouth" and he is wearing small hoop earrings and a waiter uniform including an apron and name tag.

Sam and Celia sit at a table looking tired. Sam is resting his chin on his hand and Celia has her fingers steepled.

Sam: We'll NEVER get what we need without this specific thing and/or connection. WHATEVER will we DO?

Danny appears holding a notepad and pen, shrugging sheepishly and smiling with flowers around his head. Sam and Celia sit up, smiling at him excitedly with their hands in the air

Danny: UM, I might just know a guy! Sam: Our regular waiter, Danny Stoker! Celia: You ALWAYS have what we need! Danny: HAHA, what can I say?

end ID]

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rusty quill i have a suggestion

#fg's art #the magnus protocol #tmagp #samama khalid #celia ripley #danny stoker #tim stoker tuesday #feat danny #HEAR ME OUT OKAY #listen. listen. danny has hobbies. a lot of weird niche hobbies. i imagine he knows a lot of people even if he himself can't help them out #it would come in handy!! and it would be fun!! #and if they're bringing other magnus people in why not danny?? #he'd be fresh and funky in an arguably better way than the tmagp versions of tma characters since we didn't have much to go off of anyway #please please im begging i love him so much #(obviously this isn't a serious plea to rq im just. Hoping. hoping and coping.) #(.... unless? 👀)

[artgletic]

hopelessly romantic over the concept of information

#the ancient is a design i made up for someone that srs could talk to #just wanted to explore a robots love thru computation and physicality 😇 #and how the extent of this is deranged when not literally a supercomputer #how would the ancient even hold wnough pearls to contain the entirety of their structure 😭 #srs rain world #seven red suns #iterator rain world #rain world iterator #rain world #why did i pick srs? nsh too busy fucking around lttm doesnt really care for the ancients and 5p isnt capable of love. hope this helps💛