why is cad included in your ships gifset when he's aro ace so he doesn't have any romantic attraction to anyone?
Great question! Disclaimer that I’m not aroace myself, so I’d love to get input from other aspec people on this topic. I want to listen and learn from your thoughts and experiences, and if the gif set offends people then please let me know.
My currently preferred head-canon for Cad and Fjord’s relationship is a QPR (a queerplatonic relationship), where two people do not share any sexual or romantic feelings, but are deeply committed to each other. I think it’s safe to say that in canon Caduceus and Fjord share a special bond already, so it just makes sense in my head that they could deepen that bond and decide to enter a QPR.
I understand that this sort of head-canon is controversial and not always appreciated by aspec people. Aroace people get so little representation anyway, so to see Caduceus continuously being shipped regardless of his canon sexuality can be upsetting, even in the case of a QPR head-canon that is in line with his canon sexuality. But I keep thinking back to what one of my aroace friends once said, that being aroace can be extremely alienating in two ways: people deliberately disregarding your sexuality and people going overboard to respect it. The former is bigotry, but the latter is also harmful. Aroace people still have full, rich social lives. They have friendships and feelings and can get confused at times - just like everyone else. Caduceus being aroace does not mean he doesn’t have deep connections within the Mighty Nein. It means that he knows himself and where his boundaries and preferences lie. So, that’s why it was important to me to include Fjord/Caduceus in the set. Taliesin has always played Caduceus as aroace and yet he still has that bond with Fjord. And to me that is lovely and the best kind of aroace representation.
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I know this might sound a little mean, but why do stimblogs not allow nsfw blogs to interact/reblog posts if it isn't even their content? If the person who made the video doesn't care I don't think the blog should set the terms. There are like 0 sexworker friendly stimblogs even though I doubt the content creators care about who shares their stuff
Every time I get an ask like this I age 25 years…….please just let me rest;;
Normally I wouldn’t answer this because this ain’t the place for it but I think it’s important to understand that when someone makes a post (their own oiriginal post on tumblr I mean) and puts a banner asking certain groups of people not to interact, they’re not saying “these people aren’t allowed to enjoy this content at all”, they’re saying “I made this post and I don’t want these groups of people interacting with this post specifically bc it’s triggering to me”
What I mean is, when someone makes gifs of a video, the video doesn’t belong to them, but the gifs do? So when someone makes a gifset of a stimmy video and puts an anti banner on it, they’re saying “I don’t want these people interacting with my gifs specifically so I don’t get triggered”, not “I don’t want these people to interact with this post OR the source video in general” if that makes any sense? Even when they’re reposting a video rather than posting gifs, if there’s a banner on it they’re asking those people not to interact with that post, not the whole video, usually they add a link to the original source too so if someone wanted to interact with the post that bad they could just go to the source and repost it themselves (EDIT: also this, when it comes to “no nsfw interaction” they mean they don’t want blogs centered around those kinds of things interacting, not necessarily that they don’t want sex workers or anyone who enjoys nsfw material at all irl to interact)
Also there’s more nsfw-friendly stim blogs than it seems, I’ve promo’ed a few in the past so there’s lots more for sure (one of them I promo’ed isn’t nsfw friendly anymore, but the other one is here if you wanna check em out)
This was long but a lot of people have a similar mindset to this when they think it’s okay to not credit gifmakers when reposting their gifs, which bugs me a ton as a gifmaker myself, so I get kinda heated?? Anyway like I said this ain’t the place for discoursing so I won’t be answering any more asks about it, at this point I’m already like 2000+ years old and I just need to Rest
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I hope this doesn't sound bratty, but I was wondering how to get more notes or kudos on fics? I'm starting to get really discourage...
Aw man, no, not bratty at all! Much as I’d love to say “psssh the numbers don’t matter,” or “be sure to appreciate every single note because it means somebody read your stuff!” (which is true) I know exactly how frustrating it can be to see maybe one or two notes or kudos (tops!) on the story you spent ages writing. To that end, I have some super duper cynical advice, and then I have some more genuine advice, and both are really based on the fact that, once you hit a certain baseline level of coherence, the quality of the writing has almost nothing to do with the number of notes or kudos it gets.
Here’s the super duper cynical advice that probably applies to almost all major fandoms: write the most popular ship. Most of the time, it’ll be super easy to spot! Find the fandom fave character, who by complete coincidence is almost always the most conventionally attractive and whitest dude on the show, even if he’s a relatively minor character. Does he have a close male friend that the actors and producers constantly joke/hint might be something more? Write ‘em together! Is there a female character who may or may not be a love interest but seems to be heading in that direction? Write ‘em together! In all cases, though, make sure that the fandom fave is the center of the story, and that his female love interest/less-conventionally-attractive and/or less-white male love interest is mostly there as a means of providing support for the fandom fave’s angst. Better yet, create a villain who opposes the ship and must be defeated: an inexplicably vicious revenge-driven canon female love interest is a common choice when writing m/m fic, and an unexpected betrayal by the female character’s best friend that sends her straight into the fandom fave’s arms is a common choice when writing m/f fic. Write slow-burn fic with a vanilla sex scene at the end. Scene.
…it hurt to write that. Listen, it’s undeniable that there’s some amazing and creative and thoughtful stuff out there for these mega-pairings, and if that’s what floats your boat, by all means, go for it (I’ve shipped and written for mega-pairings, goodness knows), but it’s also kinda important to keep in mind that the way these mega-pairings come about and the way they tend to be written most commonly can be… not good—some of that’s on the show-creators’ end, some of that’s on fandom’s end, and it’s all a mess. But if you just want notes, go ahead and write that to the exclusion of all else (just please try to keep away from the more actively offensive trends, whatever you write?). You’re more likely to get picked up by the big-name fans, because they probably became the big-name fans by writing that stuff themselves.
Here’s the more genuine advice: there’s an element of randomness to what does and doesn’t get picked up by the internet, and once it happens to you one time, it’s more likely to happen again. Here’s some more of the genuine advice: passion shows. If you’re passionate about a teeny-tiny little pairing or no pairing at all, you’re way, way, way more likely to write an enjoyable and likeable story than if you force yourself to write the big, popular stuff. You might put out a dozen fics that get virtually no attention, but if you keep producing quality stuff that lights a fire under you, that thirteenth could well get picked up and reblogged by someone with a sizeable following, or appear on somebody’s rec list, and then your backlog will be the delight of all. Try new things. Have fun.
There’s also been, over the past five years or so, a slow-growing fatigue with the old model I mentioned up in the super duper cynical advice paragraph. Fandom is changing, slowly but surely, and is starting to push back against its more distasteful elements. You see it pretty frequently now: conventional fandom-fave-ship fics will reliably pull in a lot of notes, but every now and then something completely off-the-wall and creative and brilliant will resonate with everyone at once and it’ll pull in a lot of notes. That happens. Take note when it does, because that’s the way fandom’s slowly shifting, and that’s nothing but a good sign.
I mean, heck, I write mostly PG-13-rated genfic focusing on female characters and femslash, which isn’t exactly most fandoms’ favorite thing; I went through a very, very, very long drought in terms of support and interest when I started writing, and the only thing that kept me going was that I genuinely loved what I was writing. For whatever specific numbers are worth, for me and my relatively small- to medium-sized fandoms, it took slowly climbing to a four-digit follower count on tumblr and a three-digit subscription count on AO3 to ensure any sort of reliable interest in the stories I wrote, no matter the content. How do you get there? Reblog the stuff you like. Create in other ways, if you can–fanart, gifsets. Make shorter meta posts that require less effort on your part but might get people’s wheels turning in a familiar way. Review other people’s fics. If you’re participating in the community, it makes it a lot easier to maybe convince people to try reading something that might be a little outside of their usual wheelhouse. You gotta be having fun, first and foremost, or else what’s the point? And it’s marvelous when you pull in someone new. One of my favorite things is getting comments on a post that start with “I literally never read genfic, but…” Most of all, try to communicate how grateful you are when something like that happens. It’s so important to let people know how much it means to you that they took an interest in your passion.
Anyway, this is all really rambly and I hope some of it makes sense. I’m sorry you’re feeling discouraged, but I hope you stick with what you’re doing, because goodness knows fandom could always use more variety!
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