#i love being asexual

[charliethinks]

happy asexual day !!!

#asexual #ace #i love being asexual #happy ace day !! #ace pride #lgbtqia +

[mrtequilasunset]

Listen man, you guys can't be like "you guys need to be normal about asexuality" and then turn around and get weirdly judgemental when you find out someone doesn't have sex by choice. Like that's weird that some of you do that.

#like I love sex im glad we're hyping it up #but also genuinely some of you have got to learn how to be normal around people who dont want to have sex #even if you're not talking about asexuality when you say stuff like that you're still being a weirdass #im not ace myself but i keep seeing posts that come across like they're taking it personally that other people don't want to have sex #it sounds like theyre trying to prove something to someone

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[poetry-slammer]

Celestial bodies are the only ones I ever want to touch.

I feel guilt for not wanting to touch, or look at, or imagine the nakedness of another person for any reason other than artistic passion.

I am passionate about you.

Maybe not in the way I should be- the way I feel I need to be- but I’m passionate about you and everything you do.

Celestial bodies are the only ones I ever want to touch.

But maybe holding you, and kissing you, and being in your spaces, sitting on your bed as I watch you do your makeup or laying on your floor listening to a song, won’t be so bad when I do it forever.

#asexual #asexual poem #this is a poem about being asexual!!! #op is asexual #poems on tumblr #poetry by me #poems #poetry #I wrote this! #I love being asexual #happy pride guys

[future-crab]

It's been said before, it will be said again, but it's still worth saying: the fact that art centering on straight romance is allowed to just be bad, but art with queer romance in it always has to be indicative of A Serious Problem With the Way We Tell Queer Stories makes being a queer person making queer art deeply stressful

#just saw smthing about red white and royal blue #and like i never watched/read that one so maybe everything ppl say about it is true #and i never watched heartbreaker or love simon so maybe those ones are also genuinely a sign of a serious problem #but idk. the fact that this happens every damn time makes me think that maybe queer stories are being held to different standards #and it's exhausting writing stuff while having a chorus of voices in the back of my head saying i'm misrepresenting my own identities and #making the whole community look bad by writing mediorcre romance #and knowing that even though i'm neither straight nor a girl there WILL be ppl calling me a straight girl fetishizing queer relationships #lgbt #queer community #writer stuff #idk what else to tag this #asexual #bisexual #nonbinary #venttag

[morcantinon]

representation is so fucking important

#i'm fully crying at a fucking cartoon #this is some bullshit #i love being asexual

[carterthefrog]

fuck romance, have you ever had a friendship where you both agree that you are the single most important person to each other? one where you feel like you are kindred souls and that you can talk to each other about literally anything because you both just get it? one where there's nothing you can say or do around them that would embarrass you even a little bit? cuz that shit is so much more powerful than romance just trust me dude

#so many people assume that being aromantic means i hate affection but like. no im so passionately affectionate about my friends #you guys simply underestimate how much love and joy my best friend provides for me on a daily basis #aromantic #aspec #asexuality #asexual #aroace #aromanticism

[theartofmadeline]

new zine about asexual history! this one's been rattling around my head for awhile

#asexual #asexuality #ace #zine #lgbtq #lgbt #pride #asexual pride #asexual history #mini zine #theartofmadeline #ive been wanting to do this one for awhilllllle #i love researching things teehee #there's obviously more accounts about the word asexual being used #especially in the 70s-90s #but this is an educational zine not a research paper #not sure if i'll print this one (digest size) but maybe?? #zine making #zinester

[toytulini]

listen im ace and im pro kink at pride and whatever, but the way some of yall are wording your posts in response to the backlash against it is uh. really taking me back to the ace shitcourse era.

yall know theres nothing wrong with being a "virgin", right? that its not inherently shameful to have not had sex, to never have sex, even if youre not ace, even if you do want to have sex someday, like, its fine that you haven't had sex?

maybe if your problem is that theyre trying to police your behavior and shame you for expressing your sexuality, you can say that? instead of resorting to "haha stupid virgin gets no bitches" like my god. do you not hear how fucking regressive that attitude is? i know, i know, youre "joking".

get a better joke

#toy txt post #god im going to regret this post im gonna regret it so much i can feel it in my bones #let it flop..........pls #internalize my message let it sink in and understand what i am saying and then let the post flop #i say. knowing the ppl who need to see such a message are the ones who will make me regret this post and regrwt not having #1 million bajillion disclaimers #virgin is in quotes bc its a bullshit made up stupid purity culture concept anyway and quite frankly i hate even seeing the word #disclaimer: the previous sentence is not me saying that it is a slur for asexuals. it is me a single individual saying this specific word #grosses me out to read and see everywhere when its a stupid bullshit binary made up or at least historically largely used #to shame largely women and i dont know why we're still using it in 2023 #and ive just been. seeing such an uptick in this whole like. attitude? lately and like #im ace im minorly sex repulsed. mostly about anything sex at me bad. other adults sex at each other consensually? go wild #i like to think im pretty chill about it. i try to be. i think its fine ig to be like 'my meat is huge i fuck so much so good' #like okay not my thing but good for you. love that for you #but then some of yall have started turning it back around back to. 'haha your meat so small and shriveled you get no bitches' #'haha stupid incel virgin' like okay. didnt realize we all went back to fucking. middle school but okay #god im gonna run out of tine to get ready for my thing writing this stupid post UGH evil #but like idk we've kinda circled back to being like haha being a virgin still is stupid and silly and shameful #and if im quite honest. i do think the acecourse played a part in that bc i felt like we were making good progress in like #hey guys is fine to not have sex ever if you dont want to its fine to not want sex its fine #and then aphobes went fucking rabid on us and splintered and destroyed online communities all over but especially on tumblr #and so many aces went back in the closet we stopped talking about it we stopped spreading awareness and now this stupid goddamn like #and now this stupid bullshit attitude is back where its like funny to call someone a virgin as an insult but like no bro trust me its okay #its okay for me to do it bc im a hot queer person with huge meat instead of a cisstraight frat bro with huge meat #? like you know the issue was the behavior right? not the fact that it was straight dudes saying it? its bc the thing being said was shitty? #you know you can dunk on the puritan bitches trying to police your behavior at pride without getting us as collateral damage right #stop making me read that stupid ugly ass word ur not cool or funny #whatever #if you come on to this post to start shit i will not only block you but as many of your mutuals and followers as i can find. i will scroll #i will block this entire fucking website if i need to do not test me. i am exhausted and the acecourse ate up all my tolerance in 2015.

[sapphic-bats]

Rosie & Alastor Headcanons because they’re so WLW/Ace-Bestie-Coded

✰ Rosie constantly makes asexual jokes, but Al doesn’t get it at all. He assumes that she’s referring to currency.

✰ They have tea thrice a week. Sundays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays.

✰ Oh, they shit-talk people. All of the time.

✰ Romance is Rosie’s “specialty”, so she goes on dates every once in a while. She gives Alastor all of the details.

✰ Rosie herself is on the asexual spectrum, and hence popularized the term. Alastor has no clue.

✰ Alastor and Rosie met at a cooking club that they joined on a whim. It occurred on Monday nights, but disbanded after the host died.

✰ Rosie is an incredible gambler, simply naturally.

✰ Alastor and Rosie bonded over their love of food, and dance.

✰ Rosie keeps a radio on in the parlor at all times, on the station that Alastor primarily uses. Sometimes she’ll knock on the radio twice, and suggest a song.

✰ Alastor sends his shadow to check up on the Emporium every so often. He never uses it for anything other than letting it be separately-sentient company to Rosie. If anyone ever gets unruly, she easily dissipates the threat, without any help. They’ve never had to fight alongside each other.

✰ Rosie is well-loved. She doesn’t bother anyone, and no one bothers her.

✰ Alastor refers to his “barber” every so often. It’s Rosie. She cuts his hair and her hair on the same days, and will clear her whole schedule when those days occur.

✰ It was Alastor who got them both into painting their nails, he was curious.

✰ If someone’s ever slightly wronged Alastor, she’ll give them purposefully bad advice.

✰ And ditto, as Alastor will make trick deals with people who wrong Rosie, and screw them over.

✰ Rosie doesn’t like television either, but has written before. She writes short stories, and will sometimes give them to Al to read. He was the one who started asking to read them, first.

✰ They get the same songs stuck in their heads at the same times.

✰ Rosie likes red wine, Alastor likes bourbon.

#i love them #alastor #rosie #alastor hazbin hotel #rosie hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel #hazbin rosie #hazbin alastor #headcanons #hazbin headcanons #rosie and alastor #alastor and rosie #wlw/ace solidarity #just two highly intelligent laid-back overlord asexuals being best friends #vivziepop #vivzieverse #vivienne medrano #not ship

[alastors-antlers]

Being someone who sees a lot of talk about shipping Alastor (sexually, romantically) in fanworks, I just want to take some time to talk about both sides of the issue. It's long, I know - please, please bear with me until the end, and I hope you'll understand what I mean in a bit.

I hope this helps someone, but as an aroace person who understands the frustration and hurt, this is often how it feels to me:

Alastor, being one of the limited cases of aspec rep that I've seen and one of even fewer which I actually enjoyed, means a lot to me.

That being said, his canon rep establishes that he's aroace but not much about how this factors into his life or relationships at all -- and when there's a gap in canon, I turn to fanfiction, which tends to spotlight characters' queerness even when the source material doesn't or can't. Don't we all want to see ourselves in the media we engage with?

When I pull up AO3, there are already a good number of fics about him. Great! Some of them are definitely incredible; but as I read on, it starts to seem like a lot of fics I see acknowledge that he's asexual or aromantic in some way but don't really factor that into the story. It reads like you could have written the story without keeping his queer identity in mind, and it would've come out the same.

Even when representation that does resonate with me exists, it starts to be exhausting to pick through the slash tags to see which ones are written in an aspec-coded way, so I wonder if it would be easier to not read anything with slash at all. On the other hand, when you filter ships out completely, only a tiny fraction of the fanworks are left.

People often respond that aspec people can have relationships, and I think we tend to know that. They can have sex, some can experience sexual attraction in select situations, they can romance others beyond romantic attraction -- any combination of things. But some aroace people don't want either, and sometimes we're struggling to see ourselves in how Alastor is typically portrayed.

Out of all of the fics, sex-repulsed, totally aromantic Alastor isn't seen much. And when Alastor's limited canon seems to be pretty supportive of a reading where he is those things...

Sometimes, you start to feel lost. If fics were evenly distributed along the aroace spectrum of experiences, wouldn't you expect more fics of him being the "totally uninterested" brand of aroace? But there aren't. People seem to have a preference toward seeing him in relationships. Even if they mean well, it can make you think: what does that say about how we view asexuality/aromanticism as a whole?

Is there something less interesting about Alastor, when romance is taken out of the picture? Do others find him less appealing as a character if they can't see him dating, or in love, or having sex or wanting it? Why do we need romance, when romance is already everywhere else, when it doesn't even feel like he was originally really interested? It brings to mind a struggle to be societally accepted, even today.

Even when it's not technically wrong to write Alastor as you see him, being told that we should all be able to ship him however we want can feel like this:

It brings to mind people who try to swing in with misinformed good intentions, telling us "oh, you're aromantic? but you can still have romantic relationships, right? so you can still be normal." when all we want is to be okay outside of the normal.

Or trying to find a partner who can be with us, out of everyone who tells us "I know you don't enjoy sex, and that's okay, but I can't have a romantic relationship with you without it." and being so tired of hoping for someone who gets it.

Or talking with peers, and hearing them all commiserate and fawn over their experiences with love, then telling them about someone you like non-romantically and getting "aww, it sounds like somebody's got a crush!" but not being believed when you tell them it's not like that at all.

Alastor is not a big deal, not really, not in the grand scheme of things. But in an allonormative world, it can feel like a sudden splash of cold water when we were expecting a warm fire to sit around. Even within this ecosystem, we squint to see ourselves reflected.

Society isn't built for us. It can be exhausting to be reminded of that.

~~~

I hope to support people writing Alastor as any variation of aspec, or not even aspec at all. At the end of the day, I think that fanon is really whatever you want it to be, and everyone has their own reasons for writing what they find enjoyable. They should be allowed to do so, and I want to believe that people do what they do with good intentions.

They want to imagine scenarios with the templates of characters they love, and that's okay; even beyond sexuality/queer identities/etc., fan interpretations of characters can be incredibly, wildly different from who they really are in the story anyway, and that's what I try to remind myself. But still, I also can't help feeling disappointed about the aroace representation we could have seen.

(Is Alastor canonically sex-repulsed? Uhh, maybe. If I had to guess, that'd be my top guess, but this might be a hot take: I wouldn't really say there's enough to go off of considering that this view is supported by Angel propositioning him both times, and it's not like Alastor is a particularly big fan of Angel at those points anyway lol)

To my fellow aroaces struggling with Alastor's fandom rep: if you need a break from it all; if you need to block the tags that you hate; if you need to talk to someone about how you're feeling; that's okay. It makes sense that you'd want more representation in a way that helps you feel seen and validated and less alone. I can't speak for everyone, but I think I get it.

I don't have any solutions for how you're feeling, because sometimes I'm feeling the same way. I understand that you want others to get your position and you have the right to express your feelings, but even if you're correct, often being angry or frustrated won't help change others' minds, so let's try to save our energy and take care of ourselves.

Something that helps me to think about is that even now, asexuality is gaining more visibility. We're gaining support. Real change is happening in the world that's helping incredible amounts of aspec people feel freer to be themselves. And maybe one day, we won't be reaching to protect our scraps of representation.

Let's fight until that day together <3

#seriously I appreciate everyone who's out here posting about alastor I love being in the radio demon fanclub lol #just some thoughts that's all and maybe it'll resonate with others #please let's be patient with each other though it's rough out there already #alastor #hazbin #hazbin alastor #hazbin hotel alastor #hazbin hotel #asexual #aromantic #asexual alastor #aromantic alastor #aroace alastor #alastor hazbin #ace #aro

[captaindibbzy]

Inevitably someone in every fandom: there's nothing platonic about that! They must be fucking!

Me, a tired little ace, grabbing them by the collar: listen here you little shit. Could you perhaps dump a bucket of ice water on your libido for five fucking minutes and imagine that someone might love you entirely and fully for who you are to the point it can bring back memories and raise the dead WITHOUT the necessity for a dick down at the end of it? That perhaps the intimacy and closeness of knowing the other person to their core, faults and glory, is not in fact an element of sex, has nothing to do with sex, and is not even remotely in the fucking ball park of sex. And is actually really Fucking Boring to read it is.

Them, inevitably: you're just homophobic.

Me: I'm going to slice you in to pieces so thin they'll be able to read a fucking newspaper through you.

#personal #asexual #aromantic #i'm so fucking tired #of being passively told that no one will ever love all of me cause i don't want sex #and i imagine people who want sex are fucking tired of it being this magical intimacy that is only shared by love

[thattheater-kid]

Figuring out that I was aplatonic made so much sense.

I’ve never made a friend on my own. All the friends I’ve made approached me and made me their friend, or I met through friends. I’ve never felt a desire to have friends. Even as a child I never felt I needed them, which made adults think there was something wrong with me and peers think I was stuck up, thinking I was “too good” to be friends with them. I was seen as a mean person. Adults pulled me aside to ask me why I was by myself, and I told them I didn’t like people. I told them I didn’t want to be around people. I said there were more important things to worry about. This got me sent to school counselors, who would ask me why I pushed people away and didn’t want friends and I didn’t have a reason. I enjoy my friends’ company, but I don’t miss them when I’m away. I never understood why it mattered so much, even as a kid. I always preferred to be alone, honestly. I thought for the longest time it was related to being autistic and ADHD, and maybe it is to an extent, but I simply never liked people and never had a desire to be friends with them.

I’d already known I was aroace. I never felt a desire to have sexual or romantic relationships. I never saw a point. I felt no attraction towards anyone and had no desire to. My life was enjoyable without it. Once I learned about aromanticism and asexuality, I understood that that was what I am.

However, aroace spaces put so much emphasis on platonic love that I never felt like I really belonged in the aroace community. I felt like I was still weird and gross. I felt like a freak who was destined to be alone, someone who could never be fulfilled and would always be missing something. I felt like a freak in my own community because I felt no love. I didn’t feel platonic love or attraction and frankly didn’t want to.

I found the word “aplatonic”. Someone who feels no platonic love or attraction. Now I understand that’s who I am, and that’s not a bad thing. My life is no worse without love. I’m not missing something. I still live a fulfilling life. I’m still human.

#by extent I also feel no desire to form queer platonic relationships with anyone #this is no hate to aroace people who do feel platonic love and do value it #I just don’t #and feel that we shouldn’t put so much emphasis on it #and use it as some way to justify being aroace #as if feeling no love is bad #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aplatonic #triple a battery #aroaceapl #aspec

[aro-goddess-artemis]

Margot Robbie saying Barbie is asexual because she doesn’t have genitals has the same vibe as robots/aliens being non binary because they don’t have the human concept of gender. It feels like it’s based on a technicality. It feels like they don’t understand how real people experience these identities.

#asexual #ace #nonbinary #barbie #I love barbie being aroace but the way she explained doesn’t really sit right with me #I might be late for the barbie takes but I’ve been thinking about this for a while #aroace

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

I did try to make friends. But I couldn't let people in without giving myself away...

#mine #sex education #sex education spoilers #O #Sarah 'O' Owen #asexual #aromantic #asexuality #aromanticism #aroace #ace #aro #aro stuff #ace stuff #aroace tag #I... honestly don't know how I felt about this storyline + this season as a whole #I loved this scene #but none of this stuff was shown in the show #i'm not opposed to her being a villain it's more that this wasn't handled storytelling wise in the way they wanted it to come across #i read what yasmin benoit put up on her insta and she basically said this #that she was also disappointed cause they cut and edited it in such a way that none of these things were breadcrumbed in before this #and for real like... when Otis was like were you lying about being ace to make me look bad #LIKE IT DID SEEM LIKE THAT #that's how they played it!!! #idk this whole season needed more work I think cause there was too much telling and not enough nuance #not enough fun not enough messiness #not enough build up to the tracks idk man #like it wasn't bad just... not quite what it should have been #wasn't organic #also she just calls herself ace but she said she doesn't have crushes so... aro too ig

[slices-of-naranja]

do any of my friends know the love I carry in every word i say to them. When I add too many words, drag on a joke that’s over, when I message them despite the fact the conversation barely ended five minutes ago? every word i speak is an intimacy that’s laced with outright adoration for them as people and all the little details that make them who they are. Do you know I love you? Do y’all know how much of you I try to commit to memory? How much I try to make you smile? do y’all know the love I feel for you?

#ignore this I am just being philosophical and queer #very exhausted and overcome with human emotion #the human experience as pack animals is so fascinating #also fucked up friend emotions bc I’m aroace #and friendships mean so much to me #i am so sleepy #aromantic #asexual #aspec #asexuality #aromantism #queer platonic love #platonic love #i love you #friendship #late night emotions #alterous yearning #shouting into the void #free form poetry #poem

[zbloodwhisper]

aroace experience of shipping characters in non-romantic ways .

they're each others world and would do anything for the other. they're constantly seen holding hands and cuddling, they share clothes, secrets, a bed.

and you ask them if they're dating, because to most people it would look like that. but no.

"they're my best friend."

and it stays like that, because that is all.

#ˑ ֗ ִ fire crackling ⊹ ࣪˖ #aroaceposting #writing this thinking about emadauchi <3 #not me projecting . #but seriously #there's so much flavor in qprs and non romantic shipping #i love being aro #aro #aromantic #ace #asexual #aroace #qpr