#i love to hurt them

[daemon-in-my-head]

I've decided that at least per my hc, Gortash has a huge scar on one of his upper thighs. The injury was, in fact, so bad that it left him in need of the cane. It's also one of the more recent scars he collected.

I'm still debating if it was self-inflicted or made by yours truly though. Maybe it was both of them together. Durge helping the Banite with a ritual for redemption, both defying and worshipping the Lord of Tyranny in one go. Maybe Durge just watched, ready to stitch the tyrant together after but only after thoroughly enjoying the show.

#i love to hurt them #bg3 #enver gortash #bg3 gortash #durgetash #gortash x durge #lord gortash #bg3 spoilers #bg3 durge #durge #bg3 headcanons #im switching between depraved and tragic by the minute ik

[some-creep]

faves can have little a bodily mutilation. as a treat. :)

(now I’m thinking of Mar with one messed up scar and milky white eye which is 👌 good shit)

Sorry about your career babygirl but at least it looks good with for S3 outfit :)

#i love to hurt them #constant reminder for everyone else something happened #😌

[spiderversegf]

one important thing that Must be understood about interpersonal relationships is that you have to stop interacting with people who love you like they’re one slip-up away from leaving you. you have to trust that the ppl you love mean what they say. you have to believe that when they say “this hurt my feelings,” that they’re also saying, “can you please love me this other way next time?” and you have to wrap your head around the fact that even if you don’t understand Why someone loves you, you can accept that that they do. true, honest, & open love does not function like hp in a video game !!!!!!

#🍜 #wish i could remember this more. trying to rmr that when ppl are honest w ways they are hurt it’s bc they love me enough to be honest ab it #i am not perfect. but i can do my best to love people well and to apologize when i mess up #i do not have to punish myself! i can apologize and do better in the future #the love i feel increases when people tell me how to love them. the love i feel increases when people tell me how to love them. the love i- #sueñito tag

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[captainkirkk]

I want to see characters being taken care of in an explicit and worshipful way. Home-cooked meals. Hair brushed and braided by gentle hands. Little gifts just because.

I want to read about characters who are not used to kindness being bombarded by acts of service. This trope works romantically and platonically. Give me found family and acts of service - all the ways a character is wrapped up in wordless, explicit care after years of cruelty and having no idea how to handle. I need it.

#fanfiction #this is the 'comfort' part of hurt/comfort #but i want to take it to the extreme honestly #not just comfort immediately after a traumatic event #but consonant daily comfort! #being taken care of because you are loved always and unconditionally #this is the real reason why i sometimes read sugar daddy AUs even though i don't like them #i want to read about characters being SPOILED #this is also why i love the mdzs love interests so much #luo binghe is the ultimate worshipful house husband and i love that #my posts #you can tell i'm irrationally tired when i start getting tear-eyed over someone being cooked a meal

[sheikfangirl]

"Shhh Link... I'm right here. We're home. It's okay... "

♥ Hurt & Comfort time ♥

Post-Totk Link is still plagued with nightmares of the Light Dragon, Gloom Hands, Phantom Ganon...Puppet Zelda...loneliness.

He wakes up at night screaming, hyperventilating, sobbing. But Zelda is there and she comforts him with love, kindness and patience! Like Link did for her Post-Botw.

It's gonna take time...but Link is gonna be fine ♥ Zelda too.

They are all gonna be fine and live happily ever after!!!

And Hateno domestic fluff resumes.

PS: Check out my friend's @jdetan new hurt & comfort fic on Ao3!

https://archiveofourown.org/works/54982165

Gotta love when Zelda comforts her knight

#my art #zelink #legend of zelda #zelda fanart #tears of the kingdom #breath of the wild #loz fanart #zelda #botw #princess zelda #botw link #hurt/comfort #totk link #link needs a hug #hateno house #hateno village #he loves her so much #the power of love #Link is so freakin PTSD #Zelda has trauma too but without invaliding it #I think Link is waaaaay more of a mess than her #Link took care of Zelda Post-BoTW #Zelda takes care of Link post TotK #I have a crush on both of them #sheik fangirl #its her tunic now

[nouverx]

Thought of a cute Hazbin au idea. What if it wasn't Alastor who first approached the hotel in the pilot... but Rosie? And of course she'll drag Alastor along. Let's forget about that 7 year disappearance and jsut say he was crashing on her couch like a lazy cat for this and she wants him to help the hotel as payment for letting him crash there

I'm so so sorry the only thing I focused on was "he was crashing on her couch like a lazy cat" bc I love it 😭

I wonder where he lived before crashing at the hotel? Maybe he had a cute little appartement at cannibal town who knows. But I like to think he used to be Rosie's roomate eheh

#hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel fanart #hazbin alastor #hazbin rosie #radiorose #radiostatic...? kinda? #doodle #sketch #art request #I'm throwing some radiostatic here and there bc I love their dynamic I wish I could draw more comics about them #even tho it's one sided I like to imagine that Alastor still liked Vox as a friend and got just as much hurt by their fallout

[egophiliac]

well, I can't say I expected the new chapter to feature Idia (metaphorically) going to (metaphorical) hell, getting a pep talk from his (metaphorical) Phantom brother which helps him finally move on once and for all from his brother's death, and (metaphorically) overblotting again to fight his way back out of (metaphorical) hell, only to have his darkest fear (non-metaphorically) come true when his mom goes through his computer and finds all his secret files. but I am glad it did!

also this is all a flashback for the purpose of explaining to our group what the heck is going on (whether or not any of it is getting through is another matter)

#art #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #twisted wonderland episode 7 spoilers #twisted wonderland episode 7 chapter 7 spoilers #twisted wonderland book 7 spoilers #twisted wonderland book 7 chapter 7 spoilers #it's okay she said she didn't look in the password-protected folders #your secret recipes are safe #what's up guys it's IDIA TIME #red idia. redia. is this anything #(my thoughts are all over the place so this is not going to be comprehensible sorry in advance) #woooooo and his character arc is resolved!!!! #including my new favorite shroudbros interaction #idia: ortho i need to apologize for how much i must have hurt you -- #ortho: whatever niisan i went to SPACE #they're so stupid. i love them so much. #not to mention idia starting to realize something is up when he pulls 3 ssrs no problem #(stares at 3 currently-running ssr pickups) twst is mocking me personally #aw man though! i forget if he had that line before about crimson muscle coming to his entrance ceremony or if that's new #either way i think that's sweet! #there's been a bit of a running subplot that idia actually really does want to be friends irl #but is too shy/anxious and convinced crimson would hate him immediately if they ever met #so idk. it was kind of a throwaway line but it still got me! when are he and lilia gonna meet for reals :( #(this will definitely involve makeovers) (this is not how idia expected their friendship to go but he has no choice now)

[pcktknife]

zoroark pokedex entries

#pokemon #zoroark #hisuian zoroark #myart #i think its funny that u!zoroark is like yeah it can trick ppl w illusions but one of the biggest examples is to protect its pack #n keep itself safe and then h!zoroark is like I Want To Hurt You So Badly Come Here #they hate u so much it hurts them like #i always think its funny that u!zoroark is the 'villain' type and its just like...a standard wild animal #anyways i love u zoroark <33333

[wasyago]

so, would you?

nothing important under the cut, you don't need to look haha

#inspired by the random youtube short i saw about how these types of questions are not really about logic but about emotion and reassurance #doesn't matter if the question doesn't make sense. you say 'yes' because you love them no matter what. not because its a worm or a bug or #or anything. its a way of saying 'i will love you when you've changed and when you're different. because it's still *you*.' #idk something about it just felt so gentle and genuine. like a pure display of affection through a silly question... #and of course fnc was the first thing i thought about because i got brainworms #jrwi fish and chips #jrwi riptide #jrwi chip #gillion tidestrider #my art #sketch #also im back from a vacation! and i feel so awful i got sick the first day home and im sitting here at 6am drawing fishes and chips #the dialog feels a little ooc but i cant figure out if it really is or if its because my head hurts and i cant think #tbh it doesn't really matter.......... but it matters to me augh #ALSO yes the under the cut bit is about episode 109. i dont know if its clear or not

[potato-lord-but-not]

tma sonas for my gf and I because ummmm uhhh

#she hasn’t even listened to da podcast………. #PLEASE ASK ME ABOUT THEM I WANNA RAMBLE #also I knowwwww the stranger and the eye do not go together at ALL but that’s the fun of it yk? #to be an unknowable creature loved by something all knowing? trusting they won’t use their knowledge to hurt you? ugh whatever #the magnus archives #tma #tma sona #tma oc #tma fanart #tma the stranger #tma the eye #starry eyed #uncanny valley

[carlyraejepsans]

genuinely you need to love the trans girls in your life with everything you have. love them until your heart bursts.

#erase the idea of trans women as competing bitches in the fight against transphobia #scrub it from your brain power wash it off of t #recognize your own privilege recognize your own ignorance recognize the cruelty that is leveraged at them SPECIFICALLY #not as a disqualification of your own hurting but as a sign that they NEED your support and your love #i am talking to TME transmascs specifically. we owe it to them as their brothers and siblings

[obsob]

there he is......the man of the house

#mine #ough hello not posted in a while!! #im busy doin portfolio stuff so . not much cat drawinign going on THO i will. hopefully do one tomorrow hehe #i was gna get stickers for my next shop update but its hurting me head so. gna order new prints hopefully!! this week and then #do stickers n postcards next time. i am so low on stock sihfdkggwe #need 2 buy envelopes also....my least favourite thing 2 spend money on #what hve i been up to ....i made a blanket!! maybe i will post picture. it was gna b a cardigan i started it like last year #n then i went 2 sew it together n was like. this pattern is insane also this wool is too thick so. blanky :) #its very good. good lap blanket!! #what else what else....been re reading lotr. im reading it on ebook i lov ebook sm. i love printed books but i jus absolutely cannot #read them. dyslexia gang rise up !!!! #im reading it so much quicker tho n also actually remembering it ....would die for gimli #also started rewatching cr2 >:) i dont . actually like th new campaign so KSDFKJDN rewatch it is #even tho i dont like molly. not that thats gna b an issue for long sifubshbhebwj #im so seepy...so cold.....gna rest now probably n play skyrim hehe #cat drawings tomorrow >:) #okay bye

[starwarjotta]

Day 5 - caf since my scribbles can be totally illegible, here’s a transcript Obi-Wan: Here you go, Cody Cody: Oh, thanks, sir Cody: this... it’s caf? Obi-Wan: Ah, yes! I’ve noticed my teas are not really to your tastes, so I stocked up some caf for you instead! I hope it’s okay Cody: ... oh Cody: ...thank you.

#codywan #obi wan kenobi #commander cody #star wars #tcw #starwarstober23 #little comic #I absolutely love the trope of them doing flimsiwork together and drinkin tea and caf #and Cody doesn't really like the teas Obi-Wan gives him but drinks them anyway because no one has EVER offered him something like that #and he'd rather jump out of an airlock than hurt Obi-Wan's feelings #so he sucks it up and drinks it and maybe even almost likes one blend or two #but ofc Obi-Wan notices at some point that Cody obviously isn't a big fan of teas so he'll get him caf instead #and if Cody already marveled at someone offering him something like tea this is a whole another level #a cup of caf is practically a love letter to Cody #I love them so much #codywan every day all the time #THEM #idiots in love #I also always struggle with coloring comics like do I color them or not????? so they end up colored kinda in this half-assed way usually #also if it hasn't become clear yet I can't draw backgrounds and struggle with that too so everything always takes place in some weird LIMBO

[iooiu]

good to know all casey jones’ are the same

#as a fandom i think there is so much hidden potential in casey jr that we're not talking ab #thats an apocalypse baby right there he knows how to de-bone things #he WILL fight you to the death for the last scrap of pizza no he is not joking #u all watch tmnt for the turtles i watch it for the funky little humans #they're so messed up!! i love them!!!! #trashcan kids i swear every single one #sorry 2003 casey i havent watched enough of the show to remember you </3 #tmnt #rottmnt #tmnt 2012 #casey jones #casey jones jr #cassandra jones #foot recruit #kk im done #leave me alone folks im inconsolable #the formatting is so wack LIKE WHO HURT U

[tubbytarchia]

Somewhere in the woods, a moth tires of seeking light

#gempearl #shinyduo #shiny duo #not meant to be shipping propaganda for the poll but I mean... feel free to take it as such!! #the solitary plants feel out of place and maybe the color gradients could be better but its fineeeeeee. Not my proudest background... #also haha get it. Moth tires of seeking light. There's light all around her but its symbolic you guys #vaguely inspired by an estonian song. Some of the lyrics: #Luck pat her little girl’s head and repeated that beautiful is everything that there is #The girl then smiled and that was enough for her heart to understand where the sun lay #one of my favorite songs ever. Very beautiful and Id love to make an animatic or smth for it but the lyrics get a bit too specific :( #Shame that its in estonian and probably offputting to a lot of people too but.... õnn ja arm by mari pokinen....... #hermitshipping #commission #centaur cuddles tee hee <3 #horses etc cant actually twist their bodies that much without it hurting them I think. But please suspend your disbelief for me pleasee #tubby art