#i mean ur not obligated to but

[comradekatara]

zukka fans boil your rocks

#id in alt text #avatar the last airbender #atla #sokka #zuko #sokkaxzuko #sorry guys i had a dream that i made this and i have an obligation to follow my dreams so. #zukka shippers annoyed me so much that i had to like. swear off them entirely #like when ur eating smth that u love but then it gives u food poisoning so u can never eat it again #but then slowly u work ur way into accepting into ur diet again #like. their dynamic is so funny #just objectively hilarious #sokka is the only person in the world who is like 'aww zuko is so nice and earnest and well-meaning and submissive' #unaware that its bc he effortlessly domesticated zuko by being hot and cool #meanwhile zuko is feral w literally everyone else just gnashing his teeth and snarling and growling and biting #katara is like the only other person who comes close to domesticating him #like he'll yell at her but he'll hug her #notice how he only cares abt winning her over AFTER he befriends sokka tho #he's like 'oh no that's sokka's sister better make sure i'm on her good side' #he doesnt even care that he & katara are themtically fated narrative foils for him it's all abt impressing his crush's family #fucking idiot.

[dailydegurechaff]

Today's Daily Degurechaff is... at the chocolate shop

#dailydegurechaff #youjo senki #the saga of tanya the evil #tanya von degurechaff #ur legally obligated to buy her a little snacc #i mean come on shes a war hero #she deserves a little treat

[dbphantom]

Long showers are a sign of depression but I always kinda just shrugged that one off cuz no I just enjoy taking long showers

EXCEPT TODAY I was in the shower and got thru 3 songs then went "I can't wait to get out so I can draw"

An embarrassing "oh!" moment for me. That's what they meant. You're supposed to actually be eager to do your hobbies! Why did no one just explain it like that?

#You mean you guys don't just do stuff out of a sense of obligation and guilt? Wild #Cruddy rambles #Genuinely for most of my life a dream day is lying in bed sleep #Very rarely was I ever happy to do something else #It's why I always write so much. Easy to write on ur phone in bed #Puts me to sleep too

[existencebringsonlypain]

gotta say it is a wild ride being aroace and having parents that don't love each other. You're just vibing, you see a husband see his wife and kiss her in greeting, think to yourself "??? that was unprompted why'd they do that", and then your parents tell you they're breaking up and you realize oh actually maybe couples actually do kiss and that's not just a movie trope

#i'm barely even exaggerating #whole ass thought kissing was just like an obligation #like ''when ur a couple you kiss to make it official. and then u do it gaain at the wedding'' #didn't even really think you did it outside of that #ig the nature of not seeing romantic love and not experiencing it yourself means most of your perception of how it works is from media #i always thought it was just insanely exaggerated #i had that same realization as jaidenanimations #where i was just listening to pop music and had a whole ''wait this is. people actually feel like this? it's not just hyperbole????'' moment #still weird to me #existenceunrelateds #aroace

[daydadahlias]

what are you getting us for ashton’s birthday

some respect for fanfic authors as people will be first on the list <3

#ashton would want me to sass u <3 #so i do this in honor of his birth <3 #no but fr this reeks of entitlement bestie and idk if ur trying to be funny or not but if u r the joke is not landing #and if this is the same person who sent asks to another author asking for stuff for ashton's birthday pls know it's just not ok #it is *rude* baby. #like this is just genuinely very not okay. and i dont know how many times fanfic authors are going to have to tell readers that. #u genuinely cannot just go demanding authors for or expecting things from them. i dont know *where* this sense of entitlement is coming fro #like also ? the tone of this is so ? #i have no obligation to give you anything baby. #i am sort of just shocked by this #bc i was like 'it's his birthday hehe' and i was really quite happy about it #and then i got this and my mood tanked instantly. i am not ?? here to *give* you things like i owe them to u. r we clear?? #and ik this just happened to another ash author too and like guys cmon?? i dont know how u cant see how this isnt acceptable #i mean readers have been entitled in the past but this last year is just... fucking insane. like i havent even been answering some asks #bc the shit i get is just like. sometimes so ridiculous it doesnt warrant a response. and ik im not the only one. im truly at a loss #fucking 40 kudos to 1 comment ratio on ao3. and yall think im gonna give u smthn bc u think u deserve it? u dont. #i dont know how u thought this was ok to send to an author who shares stuff entirely for free. like absolutely unfathomable to me. #and like i love my anons guys i really do. but a lot of people are coming in *expecting* things or demanding things from me. that's not ok #and u need to cut that shit out. now. #upsetting me on my fave holiday too :( how could u #this better have fucking been a joke that's all im fucking saying. #bc it's 1 am and im pissed. #pigeon #anon #sorry if im meeting this with an absurd amount of vitriol or whatever it is people say abt me but cmon guys #i dont know how u typed this out and thought 'yeah this is ok to send to someone <3 doesn't make me sound ungrateful and entitled at all' #fr guys u need to be respectful of authors please. treating us like people and not content machines <3 would be a really cute first step <3 #not here for ur entertainment. here for mine. and u get to read some of the stuff i write. bc i like sharing #but the second people start being a dick to me. im gonna stop sharing my shit #so be nice to me and other authors if u want anything at all

[bibleofficial]

i held 1 of the 2 chinese flatmates (that ive actually met) hostage to Force him to Talk to Me & i had him smell weed for the first time & he started coughing 😭😭😭

#stream #ALSKALSKALKAALKSALKSLAK #i learned so much from him #like how u can still smoke inside in china ? legally ? 😭😭😭 ALSKALKSALKSALKSLA HE ASKED WHY THERE WERE SO MANY SMOKE ALARMS #‘why is the west so afraid of fire ?’ ALSKALSKLSKLAKSAL #IT MADE ME LAUGH SO FUCKING HARD #like bc like the homes in this city were built in the 1800s so if 1 goes up in flames the rest of the streets gone too 😭😭😭 #he’s so fucking funny #also about maotai so i’m going to find some of that #his name is [phonetically] ‘yen je’ ‘je’ pronounced like the french pronoun je (i) idk how it’s actually spelt in english but yea #& the other guys name is arthur - i mean he said he wants to go by arthur so i’m obliging him ALSKALSKALSLAL i asked ‘is that what u want me #to call u’ bc i did the same thing w yen je bc he wanted me to use his last name bc it’s easier - like i’m living w yall; i can learn how to #pronounce ur name like u do it w mine too ? it’s not hard ? 😭😭 #i STILL haven’t met the mexican or the other chinese guy 😭😭😭😭 #ALSKALSKALSKALKSLANA LIKE ARE YALL EVEN HERE I DONT EVEN FUCKING KNOW #ALLEGEDYLY THEY ARE #THEY DONT HAVE A N Y T H I N G IN THE KITCHEN #LITERALLY ITS JUST ARTHUR YEN JE & I THAT HAVE EVEN BEEN IN THE KITCHEN IT LOOKS LIKE 😭😭😭😭😭 #like y’all …. these are sooo expensive idk how they’re just. not here - i mean it’s cheaper than private sector but still 😭😭😭 it pains me #having to put it on my credit cards 🥲 #like i’m tearing up rn bc i’ve to pay the next installment in like 2 weeks 😭😭😭😭😭

[pocket-mobster]

honestly never understood the idea of sequels that "ruin" the series like??? it's all made up. literally just don't look, and if you do for some reason, just mentally put it in the same folder as fanfiction. the concept of the "validity" of a piece being dependent on whether it's canon or not is completely fabricated bullshit made up by cappies, lame-o's, and narcs trying to force "intellectual property" agenda down your throat. write your own sequel. be your own cowboy. i hope you dance by lee ann womack.

#ipj speaks #was thinking about this while watching the hoyever man's youtube dot com videos on the Houses October Built films #saying that the second one 'ruined' the ambiguity of the first which is not wrong at all #but it carries the assumption that ur obligated to accept a sequel as canon once youve seen it when u can just... not #maybe its just my super sick wizard curse (autism) talking or my being a sw fan but im so used to ignoring garbage canon that its w/e #i mean there are plenty of series where its nigh impossible to accept ALL releases as simultaneously canon bc they contradict each other #also while my wording in the post implies facetiousness; media companies leverage yr belief in the idea of canon against u to earn money #the only thing that materially sets them apart from any ao3 user is their platform and capital. the rest is all bullshit

[whumpshaped]

Same here. I'm not cluster b but that response was cruel. It sucks that that's the stereotype. Cluster B people are just people and I can't comprehend why a whole group is blamed for something. Why not try to see the best in everyone? Kindness doesn't cost anything. I'm sorry to anyone who has to deal with that. Your brain is already giving you enough trouble on it's own and you don't deserve to be demonized. Maybe it's the autism and hyper empathy but I just can't comprehend that whole demonization thing. Hope this doesn't come off as rude I'm just saying y’all deserve better than what humanity is giving you! 🐈

thank u so much. i typed out a big rant in response to this that was just Even More thoughts on the matter but decided it wasnt worth it to then stress abt how my opinion was gonna be received so im just gonna send a hug to everyone w shitty parents/partners/siblings/friends

#asks #kitty anon #also ur totally not obligated to try to see the best in ur abusers #thats never what this phrase means #before someone comes into my inbox yelling abt that lol #i will never force a single person to forgive and forget im petty and spiteful and full of grudges lmao #but to be fair... personally... im working on not being that way #i hate being angry #its very draining

[edmunderson]

There’s this weird, new thing in the queer community where you can’t say someone doesn’t have sex appeal. Like you’re being “mean” or w/e when you just don’t think they’re attractive or sexy. Yeah I’m talking about sam smith and no it’s not their weight it’s just their lack of confidence and charisma compared to plus size entertainers i’ve admired in the past.

Uh i think maybe u sent this to the wrong blog my dude?? Like, if ya don't find someone attractive that's fine, you don't have to justify why bud; your reasons aren't anyone's business unless you bring it up first imo. Afaik that sort of mindset isn't strictly in the queer community (i normally see it from cis ppl who have fallen into toxic positivity), and it's probably just a very vocal minority so i wouldn't worry about it too much

Also, who is sam smith idk who they are

EDIT: if that mindset is going thru the queer community just wait until they remember about ppl on the ace spectrum

#and why are u bringing up their weight? (i 'm not asking this aggressively i'm just v confused rn) #but yeah just a 'i'm not attracted to this person' is fine you are not obligated to expand to that with anyone even if they ask #but if ur like 'i'm not attracted to this person for reasons x y and z' then you are inviting ppl onto a conversation even if u don't #mean to #however if someone is giving u shit/calling u fatphobic or something just because #you personally do not find this sam smith person attractive #then that's their problem not yours lmao

[imaginarymen]

Queer thoughts

#Yknow I used to think anything queer was annoying or insufferable or eroding the meanings of yadda yadda bla bla oof #But now like a year later I'm like. Wow. I'm queer! I call myself queer both generally and as part of my gender #And I think working on my relationship w/ queerness has been kinda healing :) #I think there's smth beautiful and powerful ab the sorta self-determination queerness comes w/ for a lotta ppl #Severance from unnecessary obligation or expectation pertaining to gender/sexuality/etc and embracing smth that feels more... U. #I completely get y someone wouldn't use queer for themselves or would be triggered by the word bc of its past and present usage #If u do not want to be called queer that should be respected to the fullest bc imo the whole point of LGBT+ activism is like #Each of us determining who we r and not making anyone else be anything they aren't and not hurting ppl bc of what we think they should be #But it can also be v comforting if u do feel it fits u- and even if ur just trying it out! If u put it down u can still learn from it #I find that the term queer describes my individual relationship to that but also describes a community tie for me #As well as my departure from cis/hetero/amatonormativity #But yeah! #Queer and a little scared but very comforted and very proud :)

[lokh]

my alma mater has a study for mris and they specifically Cannot show you the results =)

#i get it but also that makes it mean little to me LMAO getting responses on that mri post like #ohhh just find a uni doing a study. my old uni is literally the only one with one available #and yea they are not telling u ur results #surely if theres something wrong theyre obligated to tell u tho??? jdgfsghdfg

[dexaroth]

i know its unrealistic and nonsense to feel bad bc im not as good as i could be within a hobby bc a hobby is supposed to be fun and occupy your time but i cant for the life of me not feel guilty about not drawing and not improving

like.. i have most of the resources. i often have the time. i have almost a thousand pictures in my reference folder to be used to practice and learn. i have an internet connection to be inspired and learn from those better than me and yet... i just don't feel like drawing. and i mean drawing something grand.. not just the dozens of doodles and oc refsheets i keep churning.. i want to do standalone pieces like i used to and look at them fondly and feel proud of something. but i just dont have the flame to do it for months and months on end

i mean obviously this is much more likely to happen when it has been your primary hobby for over like 7 years contrary to, say, webpage coding which i just started to learn like a year ago. what's keeping me from wanting to draw though? its so frustrating to know you Have the Potential to be a good artist and knowing How you could become more but just.. not feeling like it. and telling urself im gonna draw tomorrow and tomorrow comes and its one of those days you'd rather stare at a wall the whole afternoon and it just keeps going and going and you stay stumped

#yes i have the potential to do so much better than what i can show you right now dude trust me #not only for personal reasons but i also want to start looking into doing commissions for real and like. #thats insane #idk what to draw > set up comms so someone gives me smn to draw > they dont know what i can draw > idk what to draw > repeat #im also like the guy that loves giving gift art but ive had so many cases where i drew for a rando and they just. treated it like a product #sold along the character like cool! so glad i spent my time into a drawing for you to throw it into your garage sale like everything else! #and that looming fucking awful sense of 'originality' like boohoo someone drew this already waaaa i dont believe in originality why do i > #> care so much. Why. its like knowing there isnt a monster under ur bed and still suffocating yourself inside the bedsheets. nonsense... #this is so tiring. not drawing to me feels like neglecting a dear friend #even though i dont feel bad at not practicing at a game. at not knowing how to code everything in 2 days #at not knowing the best clays to sculpt or the best knitting tricks. #bc its a fucking hobby. i should feel obligated to do it i should have fun when i want to and yet i chain myself to it #i shouldn't fell obligated* oop #could you imagine how crazy stupid it'd be that a construction worker felt bad for not building some lately #WHY AM I LIKE THIS!!! I DONT GET IT!!! #dextxt #<its always funny to end a post with a cry and then have it followed by lowercase txt tag like teehee just another white guy moment #but i do mean im tired and frustrated and miserable for nothing.. war and hate on planet earth or whatever. *explodes*

[rosiesared]

pls my friend was just like “omg ur fics are so good ur an amazing writer” like. love the ego boost ngl but i’m def changing my ao3 handle haha

#ali.txt #i don’t think they know the current one tbh but !! been meaning to change it again so !! #also the fact that they were like “oh lol at first i read out of obligation but like. ur writing style. impeccable’ #🥺🥺🥺

[soldier-poet-king]

The Germany Japan game was SO good this morning but this is just....painful to watch....do I just turn it off at this point like....

#franposting #world cup 2022 #like. we get it Spain. ur a top team. this just feels mean at this point #i mean im also expecting Canada's game to go poorly today #but i have a national obligation to watch that one #also im really dizzy and cold suddenly #my boss was sick AND my dad and brother were sick #and now im afraid im getting ill #and not just being a hypochondriac #i cant afford to be sick i have PLANS and also need TO BE PAID #i rlly wanna curl up and nap tho. ans its GYM DAY TODAY #i cant keep missing the gym bc im sick #this os supposed to be a 3x week event not 2.5 at best

[niishi]

the thing is, some ppl talk about ships in a way that I just don't vibe with, it gives me bad association, and that's fine and all. I just won't interact with those ppl or have those conversations, but a lot of ppl feel entitled to other peoples personal space.... they feel like "this person is the bad guy for not liking this so let's harass this person for not liking it" or "these guys are the bad guys for liking it so let's harass those guys for liking it" etc etc.... why not just????? respect people's boundaries???? like you can simply just block and move on. talk shit about it to your close friends in a private chat like God intended.

#ill make a psa on here every now and then like #'dont tag my posts with this stuff or ill block you' #which means 'i dont wanna block u I'd rather that moots but this is a boundary' #and truly..... i dont think ppl need to give a reason why #ppl feel so entitled and then ppl feel obligated to explain and its like? #who cares..... just do ur own thing and curate your own comfortable environment online #for me personally my blog is for me #we have so many options to curate it to ourselves so i utilize that massively #like talk ur shit but dragging ppl into it and making it a morality war is so fucking stupid #and annoying #no one needs to explain to anyone why they do or do not like something

[duskoscrawl]

12 (13) fics for 2022

i have published 49 fics in this last year. here is my favourite from each month (and one extra):

january - focus - critical role campaign 2

As the story of the Mighty Nein comes to an end, the Raven Queen considers what has been, what could have been, and then what could be. Aka: the final arc of C2 is a corruption arc. What if it wasn't Molly's? Featuring one corruption arc for each member of the Nein

february - guiding bolt - critical role campaign 2

Jester leaves her home with a head full of storybooks, confident in the practiced courtships of her fictional heroes. She knows the routines that lead to smut, to love, to the epilogue, wherein everything is perfect, is happy. Jester leaves her home confident that she will find a man to make her happy and dance the steps of love with her, leading them into their epilogue, so that they can be happy forever. Aka: eight times a member of the Nein helped Jester to understand how love works and one time she helped someone else.

march - don't touch the marble - critical role campaign 3

Percy and Vex needed a holiday, at least, that's what Keyleth had gotten out of her most recent work meeting with Vex. And Keyleth is a level twenty druid, she is competent, she is a friend, she can give them a holiday by having their children to stay with her for a week. Five children should be fine for a week. What could possibly go wrong? Orym is a young man, but in the space of a week he gains the permanent exhaustion of a father of five. Will is threatening to quit if the Voice of the Tempest decides to babysit five children at once again, at least if she hasn't gotten rid of that magical marble by then.

april - a seagull interlude - ofmd - from a minivan called the revenge with @doctors-star

Since the 'incident' the Bonnet-Teach household has been unsettled (and Teach-less). Karl and Olivia do what they can, but it's rather hard when you're a stuffed seagull who can only really talk to one of the many, many distressed children. Things work out for the best, though, even if that best involves being covered in jam as Buttons eats his breakfast.

may - firebird and flame - critical role campaign 2

'Some beings that naturally reincarnate, such as the phoenix, are considered holy creatures that carry a shard of the Luxon within themselves' (EGW 38)

Bren is born burning, with phoenix blood running through his veins. He might be sacred in the Dynasty (not that he knows that as a sixteen year old), but to Trent Ikithon he is a curiosity, an experiment in motion. Years later, once he is freed, he keeps his nature hidden from his closest friends and dies and dies again to be revived in fire. He catches himself in Essek Thelyss' orbit and they swirl around each other, the heretic and the shard, the hero and the traitor, only to crumple to death in Essek's arms as a flesh city puts up its last stand.

june - waldhexe (spare us from your claws) - critical role campaign 2

Blumenthal, bread bowl of the Empire, knows hardship - doubly so with the taxes raised recently by the war that steals farmhands from the fields. Hanna and Torsten Ehrler are deeply acquainted with hardship. As they watch their children vanish off to war, one by one, they see them vanish past the charred remains of the Ermendruds' home. For fifteen years, they are uncertain as to whether they've managed to recover all the bodies from the wreckage - there are graves for three in the cemetery, but no certainty.

No certainty on the final moments of their friends, until after fifteen years, an almost ghostlike red-headed figure appears on the spot where once Una Ermendrud had grown green beans.

july - stay with me - critical role campaign 3

Milo is the last Nobody in Jrusar. The watch people who were once family depart like scattering pigeons, leaving family for dead in the street. 'Stay with me,' they beg their final friend, as they work for three days to stabilise and heal Ashton, 'stay, please'.

august - from western woods - chronicles of narnia

Edmund learns a crueller Narnia than his siblings. The others are greeted by high teas and lullabies and snowball fights. Edmund learns Narnia in ice and chains and enchanted food. He learns it in threat and death and violence. And yet he still kneels and takes up a sword for it. He is eleven years old when he becomes the King of the Western Woods, eleven years old when he is sentenced to death over Turkish delight.

Aka: Edmund's Narnia from the Wardrobe to the Dawn Treader

september - flōd æfter ebban - the sandman

Eating cheese before bed is said to make your dreams weird. Hob used to take cocaine for a cold, so he's not scared of cheese before bed. Anyway, that cheese toastie comes back to bite as Hob has one of the weirdest dreams he's ever had. Good thing it's only a dream, then, and he won't see the subject of it for over sixty years.

october - find familiar - critical role campaign 2

Peck Beck is the best guard goose in the Zemni Fields. At least he is according to Astrid, his favourite family member. He meets her when she is six and follows at her heels until she is sixteen and leaves him on guard whilst she goes off to school. Good thing he's such a good guard goose. Nobody is getting past him to hurt his family (or his chickens).

november - how quickly we burn out - goncharov

Caught in the moment between the pivotal dinner party scene and the boat scene, Katya and Sofia take a moment on the balcony and the world hangs in the balance. Katya has a loaded gun strapped to her thigh and all the the jewels she wears tonight are glass. Her husband is coming. Things will end tonight.

december - to the radiant, southern sun - chronicles of narnia

Susan Pevensie is thirteen years old when she is made a Queen of Narnia. She is also thirteen years old when her mother pushes her onto a train with a promise to look after the younger ones. Susan Pevensie is an eldest daughter in a warring world that is not kind to eldest daughters. She watches her mother adapt to each change, and she copies, learning to make the best of the world she is given.

bonus, special mention:

january (part two!) - stronger than you - atla - for @ash-and-starlight

A vision from Agni is not something to be scorned, especially not a vision of a Firelord. By why, just why, are Azulon and his family being confronted by this upstart little wretch?

Aka: Zuko briefly pops back in time to stir shit up and then leave.

#chill to reblog #fic recs #critical role #ofmd #our flag means death #the chronicles of narnia #the sandman #gonchorov #i aimed to publish at least one fic a month this year and i did it! #for months where i was chatty it was really hard to pick #atla #ash pls don't feel obliged to interact with this post if u don't wanna #i just want people to be able to find ur bangin art