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bxprinsloo · 5 years

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are you...? | shayhati

who: Behati Prinsloo & Shay Mitchell

location: los angeles clinic

date: April 2, 2019

summary: Behati has been feeling sick for days, so Shay decides it’s best to go to the doctors. the result is something neither of the women were expecting.

tagged: @sxmitchell

triggers: pregnancy

Behati: had been feeling ill for the past few days, hoping she wasn't coming down with some sort of stomach flu. She was keeping her hands clean along with any furniture she touched just so she didn't get her housemates sick. Especially since Candice was pregnant. Laying on top of the sheets because she was so hot, she groaned. She could feel Shay's eyes on her, assessing her and the situation. "You know, you don't have to stay babe. I'm sure you don't wanna see me die." She joked, just as a wave of nausea washed over her. Making her groan once more, she rolled over onto her back. Looking up at the fan blades spinning around rapidly on the ceiling. Realizing the motion was making her dizzy, she closed her eyes.

Shay: heard that Behati hadn't been feeling her best, but she figured with the amount of days that she'd actually been ill, that perhaps she should pay her a visit. Shay didn't love coming to people's homes, especially where she wasn't tight-knit with every member of the house, but she offered to bring natural medicines over to see if anything would be of solution and Shay thought she could wait with her to see if she'd improve, but Behati didn't seem to be. "You're not dying," Shay shook her head, "but it may be a good idea to see a doctor, they can identify what's going on with you and help," she suggested. "If you want to go while I'm here while I have my car, I'm not gonna force you to go or anything, it's totally your choice."

Behati: opened her eyes again, listening to her friends advice. She wasn't the biggest fan of doctors, but Shay was right. She needed to at least try and see what was wrong and with Shay offering to be there for her since nobody else was at the moment, she wouldn't dare refuse. "Yeah. We should go." She sat up slowly, fixing her hair and slipping off the bed. "I really don't deserve you as a friend." She looked over at the younger woman, flashing her a smile, even if her head was pounding with a migraine.

Shay: "Yeah, Bee, better safe than sorry, you know?" Shay stayed put while Behati got ready, which seemed to take absolutely no time for the model. Shay went into her bag for her keys and got of of her seat, "let's do this on the move," she nodded, gently brushing her hand on Behati's arm to signal to follow as soon as she was ready. "Don't say stuff like that, you silly, who am i? i'm just here to help, babe." Holding Behati's hand, hoping to emit some strength onto the blonde, Shay finally noticed it was beautiful in LA. As soon as Shay had gotten downstairs and into the garage, Shay opened the door for Behati and prepped the car. Figuring the sun might be a little offensive to Behati's eyes, so she put up the windows up and turned on the air, to hopefully alleviate any feelings of nausea. "I have really dark sunglasses if in the glove box, they block out all the sun, if you need that," she looked to her friend, not yet climbing into the car, "I have fruit gummies and cold water in the back, do you want anything before we go?"

Behati: knew she was having a hard time in her marriage, and maybe this was some sort of bad karma or something but having someone taking care of her right now was a blessing in a way. she was always running around taking care of everyone else, mostly dusty so it was nice to have someone be there for her for once. "No, Shay. I'm serious. You are a really amazing person." She followed behind the woman, giving her hand a gentle squeeze to show she meant every word. "You're taking care of me when you can be enjoying the beautiful sunshine today." Her eyes squinting as the sunshine hit her eyes. Climbing into the car, she felt the instant heat, but then a blast of cold air was on her. "Thank you." The blonde leaned forward to look through the glove box carefully, pulling out the glasses and putting them on. The nausea slowly going away. "No, I think I'm good now babe, thanks again." She reached her hand out over to the drivers seat, patting it for her to get in. "Come on. Let's go."

Shay: rose her eyebrows at Behati's words. It wasn't that she didn't believe them, she knew she was willing to be there for whoever, especially her friends. "You don't have to say that, plus, I like spending time with you," she shrugged softly, "you always have nice things to say, you're very honest," she smiled softly. The icy air filled the car within minutes, as soon as she got the okay to go, she figured she wouldn't waste anymore time if Behati felt terrible. As soon as she knew where she was going, Shay was cruising through until they reached the clinic. It was a well hidden establishment, one that was clearly fashioned for celebrities and people who wanted to keep their private matters as private as humanly possible. Getting out of the car, Shay took lead and opened the door, noticing they were the only ones there. She smirked, glad that there wouldn't be a wait at all.

Behati: smiled. “I like spending time with you too. You’re one of the few friends I can be totally honest with.” She sat back in the passengers seat, looking out the window while her house disappeared behind them. After parking the car, the two women headed inside. Thankful they were alone, she didn’t need want any attention from strangers or paparazzi today. She had no patience for it. Stepping up to the desk, she checked herself in. Since the office was empty, she was able to go straight in to a room. The receptionist explaining that a doctor would be with her shortly before closing the door. “I really hope they give me something to make this go away in the next few days. I don’t wanna travel to New York with this crap.” She snickered, rubbing her head. Looking over at Shay just as the door open and the doctor entered.

Shay: smiled hearing those words, "that's nice," and it was true, it was nice to hear that. In a city like theirs honesty was sparse and she'd gone through a lot of tricks and lies in the past few months to last her a lifetime. Shay was surprised but thankful that she was able to go into the office with Behati, but honestly, Shay didn't expect to hear more than it was a cold acting very badly or insisting it was a lack of vitamins. Shay nodded in agreement, travelling sick was such a hassle, it was so uncomfortable, she didn't at all wish that on Behati, "of course, there's gonna be enough avoiding that at the airports and everything and New York, no less," she confirmed. Looking to the doctor, Shay sat back, trying to blend in as much as possible so Behati could get treated, listening quietly.

Behati: sat up straight, answering his questions honestly. Feeling mostly awkward about the question about if she had been sexually active lately, she wasn't proud of the yes that slipped out of her mouth, but she needed be honest. After another few questions and a blood test, the two women were left alone in the room again. "You know, I would really love to go out and grab a coffee after this. Join me, I'll pay." She smiled at Shay. She was in debt for accompanying her to this appointment. The door swung open before the women could continue the conversation. "Well good news Ms. Prinsloo. You aren't sick with any illness." The immediate relief was seen on the models face. "You're actually with child. Congratulations." The doctor stood there with a smile. Behati's stomach dropped, eyes widened in shock. "Excuse me?"

Shay: noticed how uneasy Behati looked admitting to her recent sexual history and she wondered why. There was nothing to be ashamed of, she thought, but she never spoke. Smiling as soon as the doctor had left the room, she smiled hopefully at the blonde, "coffee? that sounds nice, I haven't had a white chocolate matcha in forever," she encouraged, honestly, anything to calm Behati's nerves, "oh, don't be silly, but I would love to join you, it'll be fun, then we'll head home because you need to rest before you leave––do you have an assistant at least to help you pack since you..." she trailed off as soon as the doctor came back at the near-end of their conversation. Shay anticipated an answer and beamed when she heard Behati wasn't ill, "Yay, Bee!" Shay said as a compliment for an achievement, but soon her brows furrowed wondering if it wasn't an illness, what was this? The room became heavy with the news of Behati's pregnancy, Shay's eyes were wide and she turned slowly towards the wall so Behati wouldn't mistake her obvious shock for something bad, especially when Shay had a good idea who the baby could belong to and knowing the condition of their relationship at the moment. Rolling in her lips, smudging her gloss out of nerves, she turned towards the doctor and Behati, trying not to be so clearly startled by the news. Shay stayed quiet upon hearing Bee ask the question, she paused to let the doctor speak in case she heard it wrong the first time.

Behati: She could’ve sworn the doctor had said she was pregnant, but that couldn’t be true. The last time she slept with her husband they used protection.. right? That’s what she remembered at least. The sudden realization that she had an audience made her throat go dry. “Your test showed that you’re indeed pregnant.” The doctor repeated, lips pursed when taking in Behati’s reaction. “You know we have plenty of options for you to consider if you don’t feel like this is right for you and if you do, we have people to help you along in this process.” The doctor mentioned, looking over at Shay briefly, then back at Behati. “I’ll give you a moment.” They stepped out of the room, closing the door for privacy. “I can’t believe this.” Maybe this was some sort of karma for sleeping with Skeet after what went down that night. Her head turned to look at her friend. “I seriously didn’t know..”

Shay: Shay appreciated the doctor leaving once again, it was important that he read the room at that moment. "Bee..." Shay got up and she could see this was as much of a shock to Behati as much as it was to her. Shay only heard a lot of Skeet, she didn't particularly have any feelings towards him, truly, she never met him and she wasn't too bothered with that, in due time, they'd meet. "You wanna go home? Take a few moments to digest this and I don't know...nap? or i can make you some tea to help you out? Damn...." Shay paused with a smile, "how do you feel? like what are your thoughts?"

Behati: Listening to Shay list off a bunch of options, the only one that she felt like doing was sleeping. "I just wanna nap.." The blonde mumbled and turned to look at the door while biting her lip. The need to cry was washing over her, but she didn't want to do it here or in front of Shay. It would be embarrassing. "Uh, I think I'm ready to go." She clears her throat and hops off the table.

Shay: "Yeah..." Shay got up and stood beside Behati. "Let's go home, then, yeah?" she noticed Behati ready to cry, but Shay was glad she chose not to because there would be time needed for Shay to come up with something empowering and inspirational when there were so many landmines. it was best she spoke to her ex first––or whoever the father was––before making any rash decisions the doctor was already presenting her with. "a nap sounds so nice right now, doesn't it? i honestly would love to destroy a chipotle bowl," she smiled, hoping to lighten the mood, leaving the room and heading out to the car, holding the door open to Behati once again.

Behati: A bunch of things were running through her mind. Should she tell the father? What would he even think? Now she had put Shay in an awkward position with knowing her secret and the fact that Behati’s marriage was falling apart, who know’s what the future had in store. Though she knew she could trust the actress to not tell anyone that she was now with child. The thought of food brightened up her mood just a bit. “Chipotle and a nap sounds like a dream.” As if right on cue, her stomach growled. Placing her hand down on her stomach, realizing there was a baby in there. She had to think about this later when she wasn’t acting on impulse. Exiting the clinic, she walked behind Shay back to the car, thanking her once again. The two women hopped in, heading to their next destination. All the while the blonde just tried to not think about the baby growing inside her stomach.

FINISHED

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curestardust · 5 years

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if you want: you enjoyed the original season and wouldn’t be annoyed by some more unusual elements / love Teko and Pikari’s relationship / wanted some more insight into the side-characters

This is Amanchu’s second season, I’d suggest reading my review of the first one (x) cause I’ll be addressing most issues I brought up there.

So, based on reviews you will see that fans of the original series were dissappointed in this one but ironically that was the thing that made me hopeful. So what was different?

Diving truly takes a backburner in this season and we mostly only get to see it when it has to do with Teko’s advancement in diving. Which I was fine with now, I learnt to lower my expectations regarding this aspect from S1.

The biggest change in Advance was something I don’t think I’ve ever seen a purely slice-of-life anime do which is the introducing of supernatural elements. These scenes are almost always shown through dream sequences. The very first time they used it, it felt a bit quirky and interesting and didn’t really feel like it was that out of the norm as it could’ve been explained away in a way to fit the universe. However, a bit later they went all out on it with group dreaming, an actual ghost and some sort of weird time travel/paradox thing. This was also an entire arc and took up multiple episodes.

My opinion of this direction seems vastly different from normal fans’ of the series as I actually liked these scenes. As I mentioned before, I didn’t think that the side characters were interesting enough to carry whole episodes on their backs and this change of rather putting them into situations and learning about them through their actions was much more fun for me and I’ve grown to like the rest of the cast more.

To wrap up: the artstyle and animation was great as usual and the dream sequences gave great opportunities to show us unique and interesting visuals. The music was more or less the same as season 1 with a bit more variety instead of purely instrumental tracks. The new characters managed to spice up the show just enough to keep things interesting. They also used the quirky “emoji faces” and “personal ticks” much less here which was a breathe of fresh air for me. ( and Teko and Pikari were literally so fucking gay and I fucking love these girlfriends uwu.) One negative for me would be that almost every time charcaters talk they need to say something “deep” and ”philosophical” which just made conversations very unnatural and stilted.

However, if you were in LOVE with the original season of Amanchu! you may not enjoy this. The experience of this season is vastly different from the original. [7/10] (x)

Recommend: HELL Yeah! | Yes | Eh??? | Nope | This anime killed my parents

if you want: RANDOM/meta/violent humour / cute girls???

I do not wish to talk about this much as Jashin-chan is a quite unremarkable anime.

Our setting is that Yurine (who’s a witch but not?) summons Jashin, a demon from hell, but can’t send her back. The only way for her now to go back to where she came from would be to kill Yurine.

Err...yeah, that’s it. We also have the recurring cast Medusa and Minos, Jashin’s friends from Hell who come to hang out, and Pekola, an angel who has lost her halo and can’t go back to heaven.

This is supposed to be a dark comedy I guess. Each episode consists of 2-3 short stories. Almost all of the anime consists of the same things: Jashin trying to kill Yurine, failing and then getting horribly punished for it (with cartoonish gore and all), Jashin spending all her money that she gets from Medusa and/or hurting Medusa’s feelings and Pekola being hungry...

This anime has apparently garnered quite a fanbase and even got renewed for season 2 (which I’ll have to watch cause of my perfectionism sigh) but really I’m pretty sure you could find much better stuff similiar to this out there. The animation is ok, the music is ok, the characters are ok, the humour is ok...just O K. Nothing that’d warrant the average viewer to spend time watching it.

(Oh, and I was bored out of my mind throughout the whole thing...the only saving grace is that characters are cute and that there was no fanservice) [5/10] (x)

Recommend: HELL Yeah! | Yes | Eh??? | Nope | This anime killed my parents

if you want: close-knit main female cast / beautiful visual presentation where it counts / somewhat complex and interwoven story / really good (musical) numbers

This anime is very, very difficult to put into words but I’ll try.

Our main cast consist of 8 (then 9) girls who all study at a quite well-known art school where they teach actors for theater (Class A) and all the background work needed for putting up a show (Class B). Our focus will be on the aforementioned girls from Class A who, based on the how things play out, are the best in their class.

And I know, I know. 9 main characters for 12 episodes! Well, that’s where the anime first shines as by episode 3 or 4 you can more or less recognize everyone and by the end you can also name them all and know something about them! From watching quite a number of 1 cour anime with huge casts I know how hard this is to achieve so I can only applaud SKRV.

So a bit about the story. Our first main character is Karen who’s one of the more lacking in this group. Suddenly after long, long years of studying abroad her childhood friend Hikari shows up at her school which gives us some flashback and one of the driving forces of the anime. The 2 made a promise that they’ll become stars together after seeing a play of Starlight (more on that later). However, it turns out they have something standing in their way.

This is where SKRV turns from a faux slice-of-life to a...not sure what to call it. Karen accidentally stumbles upon a lift in school which takes her down to a hidden stage where she sees 2 of her classmates fighting with weapons. These are the auditions. The winner will become the “star” what all stage girls desire.

And this is where I’d like to talk about the play enveloping the story, Starlight. This play is put on each year by the students. Each year, to show how much they improved through the same play. However, you’ll notice that the play and its story gets mentioned a LOT. And that is for a reason. I refuse to go into it much cause it’s best to experience it yourself. The play appears in 3 places: the stage, life and the auditions.

Each audition is special and woven into the story in a very intriguing way. An episode usually starts with 1 or 2 characters inner struggles and problems. The anime goes about in a normal slice-of-life way about these until we get to the audition process. These are the climax of the story and the episode. Each audition is a revue, an act from a play. While the girls are fighting with weapons, the outcome isn’t dependant on their physical strength. The revue acts as a conclusion to the girls’ inner troubles.

Shoujo Kageki Revue Starlight is a somewhat abstract anime. It gives you pieces of information in small doses and lets you connect most of the puzzle pieces so there’s quite a bit of “what’s going on???” in the beginning.However, the music usage, the visuals, the story and the end result is what I’d call “artistic” and it’s rare to find stuff like this nowadays. (Plus, there’re numerous ships skksks) [9/10] (x)

Recommend: HELL Yeah! | Yes | Eh??? | Nope | This anime killed my parents

#dusty reviews #Shoujo Kageki Revue Starlight #Amanchu #Amanchu!#Amanchu! Advance #Amanchu Advance #Jashin chan Dropkick #Dropkick On My Devil!

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fuurin-senpai · 7 years

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I've been thinking of an idea for a while:

Naruto and Hinata marriage failure because they're really not compatible, but they've already had a kid and everyone thinks they're the perfect couple, so neither of them will actually do anything about it.

Naruto basically marries his job instead and Hinata moulds herself into the traditional "perfect" wife in hopes of somehow improving the situation.

Boruto always feels like there's something not entirely right about his parents' relationship, but can't quite figure it out.

(I mean, Boruto would have so many issues in this situation, and they would be somewhat more compelling than his canon issues.)

Boruto wants to confide in someone about it, but Sarada doesn't understand because her parents' relationship is also not quite right, though in an entirely different way.

Maybe Boruto accidentally implies that he'd prefer it if his parents were in the same situation as Sarada's parents - being apart a lot - because distance makes the heart fonder and all, so maybe they would be happier together if it's more of a rare occasion.

And Sarada is obviously very upset because she would rather have her parents be together more like Boruto's parents.

They fight (verbally), and both feel bad about it afterwards but can't quite apologise just yet.

Both of them end up talking to Kakashi about it (separately) because there's no way they're going to tell their parents the reason for their fight.

And, with some prodding from Kakashi, they make up.

However, Kakashi is troubled by what he has been told.

He also wasn't very sure what to say to Boruto and Sarada, although he does see why they're feeling this way - they're starting to realise that their parents don't quite live up to their ideals/expectations. He reassures them that while their parents may or may not be having difficulties, they definitely love their kids very much. He also encourages them to try and be more understanding towards their parents, even if they may not understand why things are the way they are.

Since Naruto has thrown himself into his work and Kakashi often strolls by to see how things are going, they kind of hang out together fairly often. Kakashi ends up tentatively broaching the topic with Naruto, who clams up.

Later that night Naruto gets himself extremely drunk, Kakashi checked in on him at his office because Kakashi was worried. Naruto ends up crying onto Kakashi while incoherently blurting out everything about his hollow married life.

Kakashi holds him, and a part of himself that he had tried to bury on the day of Naruto's wedding is beginning to hurt again.

However, Kakashi is the king of self-restraint so while he may still have those feelings for Naruto, he doesn't act upon them and just lets Naruto cry his fill.

Time has dulled the ache, even if it has not erased it.

Naruto wakes up the next morning in the side room of his office, where there's a couch and a single bed for when he's too caught up with work to go home and sleep

His memories of the night before are still fuzzy so he asks Kurama what happened, and Kurama's response is do you really want to know?

Naruto rubs his head, sighs, and says that he might as well.

He's mortified at having spilled his guts like that to Kakashi, guilty about burdening someone else with the problems from his private life, and terrified that what he has said would make Kakashi think worse of him.

Then there's a knock on the door and it's Kakashi, who bought him ramen to cheer him up. Kakashi is concerned because Naruto really looks a mess right now, and asks him if he has had enough sleep. Naruto mumbles something, lets him into the room, then goes and washes his face in the adjoining bathroom so he doesn't look like such a disaster

The front part of his hair is slightly damp when he returns, and Kakashi catches himself staring a bit.

(Also, in this ficverse, Naruto and Hinata only had one kid. Hinata suggested having another, but in the end Naruto said one is enough to worry about. The truth was, he didn't want to have a second kid just for the sake of trying to mend his marriage, and he already feels guilty enough that he can't provide the "perfect" family dynamic for his son.)

Aaaaaalso, Hinata hasn't been doing as much as she originally wanted to do, in terms of changing the Hyuuga clan. The clan head duties fell to her sister because Hinata married outside the clan and was mostly caught up in playing the role of the wife.

Hanabi is unhappy because she doesn't have the patience for clan politics and, because of her position, she can't marry just anyone she likes. Because their clan is still very set in the old ways and think there will be a loss of power if she marries out as well, thus she has to either marry within the clan, or have someone marry in.

Hanabi decides that she has Had Enough one day and tells her sister that she is no longer willing to keep giving up her personal freedom for the sake of the clan. Hinata has to step in to take over clan matters while Hanabi goes off on an extended mission. She finds it surprisingly fulfilling and starts to devote more of her time to that, spends a lot of time back at the clan compound.

Boruto doesn't like the strict and formal atmosphere and bugs his dad to let him hang around the office instead.

Naruto feels bad for not having a lot of time to spend with his son, and agrees.

Boruto eventually finds out the truth about his parents not loving each other romantically, and also finds out that Naruto would never consider separating because of Boruto, while Hinata feels largely the same and also still holds on to her old dream of what she thought it would be like to be married to Naruto.

Maybe Boruto finds that out from Sakura, who has picked up on what's going on, or he overhears something?

Anyway, he confronts his father about it.

"Did you really think I hadn't noticed?"

Naruto is quite horrified that Boruto has figured it out and tries but fails to deny it, because he really doesn't have any more energy to maintain the pretence in front of his son.

He feels like a failure because his parents never had such issues, and yet he has given his own son a broken family.

Boruto ends up quoting what Sarada told him about what Naruto told her when she was having a crisis about her own family.

And says that it doesn't have to stick to that old 1+1=3 structure to be considered a real family.

After all, Naruto himself never had that growing up and still found himself a family in the Sandaime Hokage, Iruka, Teuchi, Ayame, Sakura, etc.

Boruto says he doesn't want to be their excuse for ignoring reality, and finally says that he wants to support his parents in getting what they want, even if it will change his life a lot and make some things more difficult.

Naruto wonders at how much his son has matured while he wasn't looking and apologises for not being a good enough father, and thanks Boruto for being his son.

It's the first time Boruto has ever seen his father cry and he has no idea what to do, but Naruto just hugs him and holds on for dear life so he hugs his father back.

Finally having come to a decision, they decide to go and talk to Hinata together.

Some months or even a year later... Naruto and Hinata have amicably separated, Boruto alternates his time between Naruto's house and the Hyuuga house(s).

Some time after Naruto and Hinata have their divorce properly settled, Boruto and Sarada manage to drag her parents and Kakashi to a Team 7 reunion at Naruto's place.

They have dinner, and after dinner the trio are chatting about old times while Kakashi is leafing through Icha Icha Tactics, responding with an absent-minded "Hmm?" whenever he's addressed.

Naruto and Sasuke start bickering about something again, until Sakura shuts them up.

Naruto huffs off to the kitchen and comes back with tea or something, sits down next to Kakashi and offers him a cup.

They're probably sitting on the porch or something and the night sky is full of stars.

Kakashi closes his book and sets it to the side, looks enquiringly at Naruto, who...

Talks about the weather.

(NARUTOPLS)

Kakashi just gives him a flat look like really.

Naruto laughs awkwardly, says there's something but he'll ask another time.

Since they're sitting on the floor, Naruto's hands are placed flat on the floor on either side of him, and Kakashi's hands are also similarly positioned, so there's this... tiny but huge distance between their hands.

Kakashi watches him, and wonders................

In the background, Sasuke looks perplexed and Sakura intrigued.

Sarada and Boruto are trying to do the "cat's cradle" string game. Sarada is holding the string, which is red.

She sees Naruto and Kakashi sitting there, and it just happens that her string is visually aligned with their hands.

She elbows Boruto, since her hands are occupied.

Boruto: ????????????

Then he moves over to look from her side, and goes HMM.

Sarada, whispering: Well?

Boruto, also whispering: Well what?

(Sarada gives him an exasperated look)

Boruto: Well, hmm, now that you mention it...

Sarada: You approve, then?

Boruto: What does it matter whether I approve or not? It's his business, not mine.

Sarada: You know he cares a lot about what you think.

Boruto: Really? ... I guess it's fine...

(Sarada elbows him again)

Boruto: What??

Sarada: It's your turn, dummy, my arms are getting cramps here!

Boruto: Ehehe.

Naruto and Kakashi don't really talk about much, just spend a quiet moment watching the stars. Maybe Naruto lies on his back while Kakashi is still sitting up (though slouching), and watching him out of the corner of his eye.

And maybe, as a cliché but classic romance story thing, there's a shooting star and Naruto jumps up excitedly to make a wish.

(Boruto to Sarada: (long-suffering groan) my dad never acts his age...)

Naruto doesn't voice his wishes out loud, and then starts prodding Kakashi and asking whether Kakashi made any wishes.

Kakashi just deflects the question.

Eventually Sakura says it's getting late and they should take Sarada back, so the guests get ready to leave.

Kakashi's fingers ghost over the cover of his book, but then he leaves without picking it up.

Naruto sees them out, comes back and sees the book lying innocuously on the porch. He has half a mind to go after Kakashi and return it, but something stops him.

Instead he goes back to the living room, leafing through the book, until it falls open at page 31.

(that's the page that was referenced while cracking Jiraiya's code, and the first line is, "Do you really love me?")

There's a sealed envelope being used as a bookmark.

The paper of the envelope is yellowed with age and, most puzzlingly, there's no sender/addressee - just a tiny spiral drawn on the other side.

Naruto hesitates for a few seconds more, then opens it.

Dear Naruto,

As I write this letter, you are probably already asleep and dreaming of what is to happen tomorrow. Or perhaps you are finding it difficult to sleep, with your heart full with excitement and anticipation. After all, you are soon to be married. I write this letter knowing that it will never reach your hands, for it never should, and yet I find myself wanting to admit... or should I say, confess...

The next day, Naruto comes up behind Kakashi who is standing on top of the Hokage monument, and asks Kakashi about a letter that he had found inside Kakashi's copy of Icha Icha Tactics.

It was an unsent letter Kakashi had written in the night before Naruto's wedding, which he had wanted to burn because he knew he was not going to give it to Naruto, but somehow he never did.

Naruto asks if Kakashi left the book behind deliberately so that Naruto could find the letter if he really wanted to.

"Aa," Kakashi says quietly, but doesn't turn around.

Naruto says that it's been many years and many things have changed, but if there are still any remaining traces of the feelings Kakashi confessed in his letter...

Would he be willing to try and reignite them with Naruto?

#naruto #kakashi #uzumaki naruto #hatake kakashi #uzumaki boruto #uchiha sarada #not!fic #fic ideas #kakanaru #narukaka

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dstarstories · 7 years

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Archer & Levi -- 6, 7 (for levi), 10, 16, 20, 26, 29 -- Bentley & Devon -- 8, 11, 16, 20, 21, 23, 25, 26, 28, 45 -- Elliot & Korey -- 31, 33, 36, 37, 42, 45 -- AND I personally want to know how Vin would answer your favorite questions. ;)

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themattress · 7 years

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The GOOD things about the OUAT Finale

The finale for the sixth season and original series of Once Upon a Time was sadly not on par with previous finales (save for Season 5′s) nor the ideal series finale it could have been. But with that said, there were several positive aspects to it and I think they are worth looking at.

The Parallels - While the literal usage of the Dark Curse in order to give a sense of coming full circle was groan-worthy, there were many great parallels to the first season that came along with it such as Emma and Henry’s relationship, the evil gaslighting female mayor, Snow and Davd’s kiss and following exchange, the place they were married, Emma’s old apartment, Henry getting a sword from Mr. Gold just like Emma did in the finale, and of course the role-reversed True Love’s Kiss between Emma and Henry. That all worked.

Mayor Fiona - Fiona as the Black Fairy was a pretty lame villain, even with Jamie Murray doing her best in the role. The awkward attempts to portray her as the Ultimate Evil and sheer unoriginality of combining many past Big Bad traits into one character left me very unimpressed. But strangely enough, as the mayor of her cursed Storybrooke, Fiona finally became genuinely scary and despicable to me. How seamlessly she could adopt the mask of being a kind, caring person made her even more hateful than the over-the-top Mayor Mills of Season 1, and her absolute psychotic conviction that all of her manipulative villainy was for a just cause made her frightening. In the end, she was actually a pretty decent final foe.

The Multiversal Apocalypse - Even though the reason for it happening made absolutely no freaking sense (Why is the existence of all the realms suddenly bound to the Savior’s belief?), I still loved the stakes and intensity that it brought to the finale. It was also a fantastic visual. The image of a darkness consuming the world brings to mind the Nothing from The Neverending Story, which makes perfect sense for a show like this to reference.

Operation Cuckoo’s Nest - Thank you, Henry. Finally a real nod to the fact that the psyche ward nurse and janitor are so clearly Nurse Ratched and Chief Bromdan from that story.

Hook’s Speech - In front of the beanstalk where the Captain Swan relationship officially began, Hook makes a passionate speech to David that sums up exactly why the couple, despite the missteps made with it in the past two seasons, is so great. They weren’t some pre-destined pair that was guaranteed a happy ending by fate (the kind of relationship that Swanfire shippers insist that their ship was), it was two people who had to fight for their love and earn their happy ending. Even better, Hook acknowledges the fact that is barely talked about in-show and out of it: that he and Emma made each other better. Previously the show had been acting as if was just the love of a good woman than changed a bad man, while certain fans seem to think that Hook made Emma worse since S1 Emma is the pinnacle of strength and badassery (more on that later…), but in fact both characters have helped develop and improve one another over the course of their relationship. That is why CS > all.

Captain Charming - Following up from this, Hook and David’s beanstalk adventure and the reflection it shows on how their relationship has developed is beautiful. If you ignore the bullshit retcon about Hook killing David’s father like the show does once its purpose of contrived temporary angst has been served, then the Hook/David bromance has been one of the show’s most endearing bonds over several seasons, and it culminates with the exchange where David admits to Hook that “he’s not trusting a pirate, he’s trusting his son….in-law.”

Rumple’s Comical Misogyny - Rumple has always been a misogynist and usually it’s disgusting, but in both episodes of this finale it crosses the line into flat-out hilarity. The first is when Fiona, after some dramatic build-up, reveals the supposed fate of Belle under this curse to him. She has dared to pull a Milah, leaving her family to actually pursue her own dreams and sustain her own well-being by travelling the world! Rumple’s horrified face as he looks through the obviously Photoshopped selfies of Belle at foreign landmarks is priceless. The second is when Rumple kills Fiona. Not only is this another woman to add to his body count, but it’s his own mother! Rumple’s habit of killing women who oppose him has finally reached the point where he kills the very woman whose womb he came from, the very woman who birthed him! Again, his expression after this deed coupled with his shaking arm is hilarious, as if even he realizes just how fucked up his murderous misogyny has gotten!

The Book Burning Scene - The closing scene of Part 1, where Emma burns the Once Upon a Time storybook all while shit is getting real back in the Enchanted Forest, is excellently shot and scored. I especially like when Fiona is to the side of Emma, tempting her, with flames seen just below her to signify how devilish she is, and when Emma sees the burning page of Hook’s picture which triggers something in her subconscious memory. It’s True Love, people.

“Hello there, Mummy” - Just…that line from Hook to Snow. Best line in the whole finale.

The Evil Queen - One of the biggest surprises in the finale was the return of the Evil Queen who had been split from Regina and served as the main antagonist for the first half of the season. Not only was the plot hole of her previous “happy ending” addressed (it wasn’t safe for her in the Wish Realm), but she proved to be noble and self-sacrificing in a way that Regina seldom has been. I mostly liked the Evil Queen earlier in the season, and her performance in this finale just reinforces my firm belief that like with Jekyll and Hyde, it’s the alleged “dark” part who is truly the better half. I can actually get behind her happy ending.

Gideon Gold - I never cared for Gideon throughout this season. He was a whiny psycho who lacked charisma when he first showed up, and the retcon that his heart was being controlled by the Black Fairy still didn’t endear me to him. But, like his surrogate mother, he was actually more effective here. First he was a complete asshole under the curse which helped show how bad Fiona and what she has done is, then he was hilarious with his befuddled reactions to Fiona ranting on about magic and having his heart, and finally he was a truly sympathetic figure, forced to be a puppet who had to fight and kill Emma even when he didn’t want to, a huge improvement over his “I wanna be the Savior!” crap from before. I actually felt for him, and was glad that he was reset into a baby, giving him another chance.

Emma’s Character Development - Whenever people say they want “Season 1 Emma” back, they seldom mean the Emma who had great plot relevancy who got to be the hero, nor the Emma who saw Regina for the sociopath that she was and stood up to her. No, they mean they want the shallowly “badass” Emma who was cold and muted in her emotional reactions, wore leather jackets all the time, punched people, said snarky things to everyone, and who was cynical and unbelieving in magic…and who was also a sad, pathetic loner. She was someone with no life beyond her job, had no friends because she pushed everyone away with her “walls”, and refused to believe in magic that she was at the center of because her self-esteem was so low that she refused to believe she had any such worth. All that bluster about “punching back and saying ‘this is who I am’? Just a way to repress what she truly thought of herself: as an unlovable orphan. In this finale, they brought Season 1 Emma back, were not subtle about how negative a person she was, and then showed just how she’s changed for the better. Even when cursed to regress back to her Season 1 self, all of Emma’s development doesn’t just disappear. It’s still there in her subconscious, and thus she ends up doing something the actual Season 1 Emma would never have done - believe in Henry and believe in herself because she wants to be the kind of magical hero he insists that she is and she’s willing to take a chance on becoming that hero. She’s truly punching back - against her own bleak outlook - and defining who she is: the Savior, giver of hope and light.

Rumple Beside Himself - Why did it take until the last episode for Rumple in his present-day Mr. Gold identity to stand opposite from his manic, sparkly past alter-ego? Given how the Dark One was established to work in Season 5, this felt like a much more natural thing to have happen than Regina and the Evil Queen sharing screentime together. Robert Carlyle is fantastic in both roles, as Rumple is tempted by his own dark side into once again making the wrong choice and screwing everyone over, but for some reason or other, he’s not having any of it this time and does the right thing. This doesn’t redeem him by a long shot, especially since the current crisis is his own fault, but it’s nice to see him take a stand all the same.

The Final Battle - Fiona may go out in an anticlimactic way, but she does leave behind a pretty ingenious trap: she gives Gideon’s heart the command for him to kill Emma at all costs. If Emma is killed, then light magic as embodied by her will die. If Emma kills Gideon, who is an innocent victim, it will cause light magic to die too! In a callback to 6x02, Regina says Emma can find the third way that she could not when faced with a similar situation when the Charmings were attacked by the heart-controlled Edmond Dantes. She finds that third way by allowing Gideon to stab her in order to save him, hoping that a self-sacrifice like this will spare light magic. At the same time, Rumple gives Gideon’s heart the command to not kill Emma, which can’t fully override Fiona’s command but causes his stab to curse her rather than irretrievably kill her. And because good as represented by the Savior and evil as represented by the almost-Savior both did the right thing, both combatants of the Final Battle are able to survive it. I’ll admit it - that’s actually some decent writing. Still, I’d rather Rumple have died as a part of his contribution, since it’s pretty galling that he gets off scot-free.

The Closure - The happy ending montage is beautiful…for the most part, anyway. The “Swan-Mills Family” pandering moment is ridiculous, and Regina and Rumple’s big scenes are morally twisted and infuriating. But the closing scenes for Snow, David, Emma and Hook are all perfect, with the first couple finally getting a better house complete with a barn and David’s old dog, and the second couple patrolling the streets as sheriff and deputy, with the hilarious added detail of a siren put on the yellow bug. And if you’re actually able to stomach the presence of Regina, Zelena, Rumple and Belle, then the final shot of the big family dinner at Granny’s is pretty touching as well, especially when it turns into the final page of the book.

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6, 7, 8, 21, 22, 23, and 28?

Whoops sorry, forgot to specify that those are for Mir! Or any other OC, if you'd rather answer them for someone else!

Mir, definitely!

6. If you were to pick one song — and only one song — to describe your character, what would it be and why?

Okay!! If I can only pick one, it's gotta be the song that brought Mir to the existence in the first place: Come On Eileen by Dexys Midnight Runners.

When I was making Mir in the Character Creator, I had a very stupid thought of him singing Come on Eileen with a crowd at The Herald's Rest and I have never looked back from that thought. It's a song about wanting to leave a sad life behind for a happier one of romance and adventure while attempting to get with someone and that's pretty on par with Mir's personality. But, it's mostly that grandiose showstopper aspect that makes me scream Mir every time I hear. It's so happy and hopeful despite the depressing reality around the singer. At his core, that's what Mir aspires to be: just happy in spite of everything life itself throws at him.

Also, I just love imagining him singing it at Herald's Rest with the Chargers and Maryden? Like, a lot? ;;v;;

How does your character perceive themselves? Positive? Negative? Neutral?

At the start of Inquisition, it's a fairly negative-neutral view. While Mir acts outwardly happy and kinda weirdly content with himself, he still has a fair bit of issues and personal demons and that fucks deeply with the perception he has of him. He’s not important, not useful and not a good person deep down. As Inquisition continues on, that view does improve, slowly but surely, and by time Trespasser happens, it's more a flat neutral though occasionally positive(!!) one. Inquisition is basically a study in Mir slowly learning to kinda love himself more than anything else. :’l

Are they a quick thinker or do they need time to sort through their thoughts?

Ah, he's more a quick thinker in the moment. Kid knows how to read a situation and react to it quickly, that and processing information in general has never been hard for him to do. Despite being a bit of a fool, he's still rather smart when he applies himself. The only time he slows down and needs time is when he's processing his own emotions and the past. He tends to overthink things and it takes a while for him to work out the kinks in his thoughts.

Your character has been granted 3 wishes; what would they wish for and why?

'Momma is safe. Poppa is happy. Mahre can't come near me anymore.' Why? Mir's not one to change the past. It's dangerous and that's no use thinking about what will never happen. He's not one to wish upon himself either. He can change what he dislikes about himself, and he should be the one to change other things. Rather, he'd just want to know that his mother is safe (because he doesn't know that), that his father is happy (because again, he doesn't know if he is) and that Mahrenan never comes near him again (because it's better for them both that way).

Post-Trespasser, he might change the Mahrenan-centric wish to 'Let me please convince Solas his plan is fucked up and wrong' though. He might change all his wishes to that actually.

Does your character trust people right off the bat or does it take them some time to warm up to someone?

No, it definitely takes some time. Mir's generally appears to be an open book and outwardly trusts people right off the bat. Just look at everyone he lets into the Inquisition for little to no reason: Bull is openly a spy. Dorian is from Tevinter. Cole might be a frickin' demon for all anyone knows. But, he still happily and gladly allows them all to stay and work for him. Why not~? After all, he knows what to keep close to his chest and no one gets near those things unless Mir trusts them absolutely and that does take a lot of time or a lot of divulging on their part or both.

Or, so he thinks. He's definitely a bit more accidentally open and honest than he intends to be most of the time. /shrugs

Do they prefer romance or affection? What is the quickest way to your character’s heart?

Affffffeeecccctiiiooooooon!!! Romance honestly just confuses Mir a lot. Like, what even is romance? He hasn't a damn clue. Someone, please write him a book. Mir gets affection though. He likes being liked, he likes being appreciated, he likes the simple, sweet and gentle nature affection tends to be. He likes that he can be affectionate towards people and it's rarely a cause for alarm. It's just, urgh. Affection. He loves affection, not romance. He wants someone to hold his hand, kiss his head, cuddle with him while reading or something instead of... he doesn't know? Make him a candlelight dinner? Because that's? Romance? Maybe? /vague hand waving forever

The quickest way to his heart though probably accepting and respecting the boundaries he puts up. He’s not okay with the word love. He's iffy about pet names. He's very quick to enter physical relationships and very slow to enter emotional ones. He needs clear and honest communication for a relationship to work and while he won't cut someone out of his life if they trample over those boundaries (he's still working on that), he definitely fall for someone much harder and much faster if they just respect them for the start. Like, a lot harder and a lot faster. A lot.

Are they afraid of death? Do they have any regrets?

Ah? Yes and no? Mir's not really scared of death and dying. It's abstract and to half-quote Hamilton, Mir imagined death so much growing up, it feels more like a memory than something to fear. Even if he was afraid of it, he'd still march towards it. It might not be the most dignified march but he will meet it face-to-face. It’s a promise.

As for regrets, yes and no. He's not one to regret the big decisions in his life. He doesn't regret leaving his Clan, going to the Conclave, siding with mages, etc etc etc. The little decisions though? The ones he has less control over like not being stronger enough to rescue Seggrit? Not being fast enough to save Flissa? Not being good enough to save all those people during Haven? During Adamant? During the Temple of Mythal? Just, everything with Mahrenan.

Those will haunt him until his quietest days.

Thank you for the questions again!! they’re from this list. c:

#thank you!!#seriously #i wanna talk about mir & come on eileen forever sometimes #it's a such weird-good thought to me. <3 #mir lavellan #smalllemonade

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How To Make a Wish Come True

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Yes, a lot right.

And out of these thoughts, a decent number makes up your wishes.

That wish can be as small as I wish to catch the bus or as big as I wish to conquer the world.

You Wish but then you most likely ignore because sadly Newtonian concepts of this world are ingrained in our heads. Where the dimension of time restricts us. We have a past, present, and future.

We wish for something for the future but then by comparing it with our present we just dump all the hopes down in dashes. By ignoring these wishes, we are in essence killing the possibility of making it true.

One does not focus on the wish because it seems too good to be true.

Thanks to this lack of focus, one does not get the dreams fulfilled. Being mindful of the wishes is the first milestone towards their fulfillment.

We all are aware of a fact that where attention goes there energy flows. The problem with the majority of us is that we do not let that energy be created.

Magic of energy to make a wish come true:

Have you ever seen the law of gravity?

No, right. But you know that it exists. Similarly, the law of attraction exists which is a secondary stage from the law of vibration. But as there is no formula for it, we fail to recognize it.

The law of vibration is the law of energy. Don’t worry I will not get scientific here, as we have had a lot of that!

Simply, everything is energy. I am energy. You are energy.

And we constantly transmit energy. If you convert your wish or desire into a strong intention then the magic begins there as you will be vibrating out energy.

Step 2: Know the formula [get the ingredients]

The wish should never be an idle thought rather the formula is simple:

Intention + Emotion = Manifested Wish

Activate Intention [Faith]

The intention is simply a focused thought. You need to combine this intention with any of the positive emotions. Let’s work on its application with a clear cut example. You wish to manifest $10,000 in a week.

First of all, detach from this comparison of your current situation which will do nothing but laugh at you as if you are auditioning for a comedy show.

It will laugh so hard that it can even make you the winner of the show.

So do not become the contestant for that very audition instead activate the faith.

How can you activate faith?

Simply do not expect or hope for the wish to come true instead know that it will come true. Knowing is the highest level of faith, as you would not question what you know.

By now you have sorted one ingredient of the formula which is the intention in this example of manifesting money.

Activate Emotion [Feeling ]

What about emotion?

Experience the feeling of abundance. Feel that you already have $10,000 into your bank account and they will continue depositing. Feel joy.

Feel prosperous and financially independent. If you are like how can I feel when I do not have that yet then let me tell you a secret.

You think that you will feel prosperous [the effect] when you will get the money [the cause] but the law of attraction does not work like that. Your mind is limiting itself.

The subconscious mind is trained in such a way that it works on cause and effect, as that what you have always learned. But this law does not apply to real life.

You can feel prosperous without depending on the occurrence of money. You can feel loved without the physical presence of a true lover in your life.

You can feel anything as what you feel is a choice. Yes, the feeling is a choice. You need to permit yourself as of now you have set the conventional rules.

The rules like not feeling happy as nothing cheerful happened. Instead, feel happy then cheerful happenings will follow. The lifework on this inverted cycle where effect becomes the cause of the actual good.

So feel the effects as if they already happened. Feel the positive emotion of being financially independent at the moment. Now you have both the ingredients of intention and emotion at your deposit.

Step 3: Game of Subconscious Mind Make a Wish Come True

[cook the recipe]

Heard a lot about subconscious already? Or completely clueless? Either way let’s dig into it!

Understand the subconscious :

Why to understand subconscious mind? Because you have to connect with infinite intelligence through your this mind. If you do not know what subconscious mind is then it is that large chunk of your mind which controls your life.

The interesting thing is that one mostly programs the subconscious mind in a way that it negatively affects life.

The subconscious mind does not have the power of choice but it has the power of turning thoughts into reality. This deductive mind will not analyze whether a thought is good for you or not. It will simply act on it.

There are several ways to understand your relationship with your subconscious mind. If you are a screenwriter then the subconscious mind is that versatile actor who will just act upon the dialogues provided and give life to the character.

If we compare the scenario, then the dialogues are your strong thoughts which you input and the acting of actor is the creation of reality.

The more conventional example would be that of a ship. Where you are the sailor and all the engines are the subconscious mind, just acting upon your instructions.

If you will not be mindful of what you are feeding into your mind then you will be only responsible for not realizing your life. Don’t blame the poor subconscious! Instead, befriend it.

Reach the subconscious mind

Now that you know the formula, you understand the subconscious, all you need to do is create your reality by feeding it to your brain. This feeding process is vital as formula alone would not work on its own.

You need to put in a bit of effort. Half the task is already done, the rest is what I call the feeding process.

Let’s see how to connect with the subconscious mind who has all the power. Several ways are taught in neuro-linguistic programming of communicating with the subconscious mind.

You will find people saying that you can not connect with this mind directly without letting a thought pass through the conscious mind.

But I disagree. It is often misunderstood that the only path to the subconscious mind is through the door of a conscious mind.

But there are some uncommon ways which are extremely powerful to reach the subconscious mind. If you try to connect with the subconscious through consciousness then there will be a lot of hindrances.

Why? Well, your conscious mind is your biggest enemy as it operates with logic.

Yeah, you heard me right.

I am in essence suggesting that logically become your enemy.

When you make a wish then your conscious mind logically tells you why your wish is absurd and why you should stop pursuing the wish. It will not tell you one reason but a list of reasons.

Continuing that same example of manifesting $10,000 in a week. Your subconscious mind argues, “Why do you think you even deserve that?”

“You do not have any skill or any such luck. How can you forget your past ?”

Yes, “past” the favorite tool of the conscious mind, it will just use it every time against you. So be ready.

You will now be questioning that if your conscious mind will never allow the input of intention + emotion into your subconscious mind then how will you be able to manifest the wish? How you will make a wish come true? Well, the idea is simple: take another route.

You can not always reach a destination via road, sometimes you have no option other than booking a flight and travel via plane.

You will do the same here. Take a ship or plane as there is much traffic (the unwanted chatter of conscious mind on the road! And the signal is always red . . okay I will stop, you get the picture)

3 Tools to Reach Subconscious Mind

The tools which I have found to be the most effective are affirmations, and journaling. I explain the right way of deploying powerful technique in my courses which will open soon.

Remember there is the right way of doing everything. But I have told you the secret tools. Either get value from the course or search yours. But these tools are extremely powerful.

Affirmations will not work if you simply keep saying I am manifesting 10,000 dollars at the weekend but it will work if you are repeating it with intensity and conviction.

I dig deeper into affirmation in the course as it is impossible for me to explain through a post.

Similarly, journaling is a powerful technique that can transform your life, if done the right way.

IT CHANGED MY LIFE. If you have heard that there is no right or wrong way of journaling then let me share my experience: there is.

I have been journaling since 13 years of age. I used to journal like, “dear diary! . . .”

There is nothing wrong with this but this is not the answer to how to make your wish come true. I have invested more than 7 years of life journaling. I have learned a lot from my experience and a lot from the online courses which I took.

I so believed in the power of journaling that I did not take one course but more than three best-paid courses on “journaling for manifestation” alone.

I channeled all the knowledge, related everything, and devised a missing link which is vital for journaling the TRIPLE G’s. Get the idea here. Then self-hypnosis is yet one.

There are so many things that go into each technique for making a wish come true. If you are not yet ready to invest in yourself and your magical future. Then no worries, I’ve briefed the basics below.

Perform all these techniques of journaling, affirmations, and glass technique(optional) before sleeping and after waking up. These times are valuable. As your mind is in the theta state (for simplification assume that in this stage the negative logical chatter of your conscious mind is the least).

When you are sleepy and when you just wake up, the subconscious mind is highly active. This is the right time of feeding the formula/ingredient we have been discussing above.

Journaling

Open up your journal and write down your wish in the most detailed way possible. The key to make a wish come true is journal as if you have those $10,000. Write about how you are spending them right now. Every detail.

By writing and scripting, you are in essence making your script concrete. I can not stress enough that by writing down you are directing the intentions towards the universe.

No matter how many wishes you have in a day, just follow the formula of intention + emotion and write it down. The power lies in the repetition of this writing process for manifestation. Again be mindful of the time when you are scripting.

Affirmations

Repeat the affirmations for the focused wish before sleeping and waking up. Build a mental picture and visualize while uttering the affirmations.

Glass of water technique

Apart from the techniques briefed above there is a famous glass of water technique for making a wish come true. I have not personally used this technique as I heavily rely upon affirmations, the right way of journaling

But I believe this technique works because it involves the flow of energy which is the law. So to make a wish come true just take a glass of water (any type of water).

Next, rub your hands together. This rubbing of hands is activating the field of energy. Now, you need to place each hand near the glass without making contact (keep your hands around it).

Keep your hands in the position and say out the wish aloud. You can keep your wish short here.

Remember to attach emotion with the intention as emotion will boost the vibration and energy flow. Visualize your wish and then drink the water quickly.

This technique transfers the energy of the wish into the body. Keep the timings the same as mentioned for journaling.

Again I just read about this technique somewhere, but I believe it works. And trust my belief is the key. Anything can work, only if you believe it will.

How to make a wish come true:Wrap Up

Congratulations on finishing the guide about how to make a wish come true!

Remember everything is created twice. When you are making a wish you are creating it once and then when you are feeding it to your brain and acting upon it, you are creating it in reality.

Another small trick for how to make a wish come true. Comment your wish below while feeling it. Make it something concrete. Write, “ I wish for . . . And I believe I will get it”

By doing this small act, you will be setting out a powerful intention, from where all the magic begins. MAGIC IS WITHIN YOU.

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rsetton · 5 years

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Consolations: The Solace, Nourishment, and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words

AMBITION: “A life’s work is not a series of stepping-stones, onto which we calmly place our feet, but more like an ocean crossing where there is no path, only a heading, a direction, in conversation with the elements. Looking back we see the wake we have left as only a brief glimmering trace on the waters.”

ANGER: “Stripped of physical imprisonment and violent reaction, anger is the purest form of care, the internal living flame of anger always illuminates what we belong to, what we wish to protect and what we are willing to hazard ourselves for. What we usually call anger is only what is left of its ssence when we are overwhelmed by its accompanying vulnerability, when it reaches the lost surface of our mind or our body’s incapacity to hold it, or when it touches the limits of our understanding. What we name as anger is actually only the incoherent physical incapacity to sustain this deep form of care in our outer daily life; the unwillingness to be large enough and generous enough to hold what we love helplessly in our bodies or our mind with the clarity and breadth of our whole being.”

BEGINNING: “Beginning well or beginning poorly, what is important is simply to begin...”

COURAGE: “ The French philosopher Camus used to tell himself quietly to live to the point of tears, not as a call for maudlin sentimentality, but as an invitation to the deep privilege of belonging and the way belonging affects us, shapes us and breaks our heart at a fundamental level. It is a fundamental dynamic of human incarnation to be moved by what we feel, as if surprised by the actuality and privilege of love and affection and its possible loss. Courage is what love looks like when tested by the simple everyday necessities of being alive.”

DESPAIR: “To see and experience despair fully in our body is to begin to see it as a necessary, seasonal visitation, and the first step in letting it have its own life, neither holding it nor moving it on before its time.

“Despair is a difficult, beautiful necessary, a binding understanding between human beings caught in a fierce and difficult world where half of our experience is mediated by loss, but it is a season, a waveform passing through the body, not a prison surrounding us. A season left to itself will always move, however slowly, under its own patience, power and volition.”

DESTINY: “We are shaped by our shaping of the world and are shaped again in turn. The way we face the world alters the face we see in the world.”

DISAPPOINTMENT: “The attempt to create a life devoid of disappointment is the attempt to avoid the vulnerabilities that make the conversations of life real, moving, and life-like; it is the attempt to avoid our own necessary and merciful heartbreak.

“The measure of our courage is the measure of our willingness to embrace disappointment, to turn towards it rather than away, the understanding that every real conversation of life involves having our hearts broken somewhere along the way and that there is no sincere path we can follow where we will not be fully and immeasurably let down and brought to earth, and where what initially looks like a betrayal, eventually puts a real ground under our feet.”

FRIENDSHIP: “But no matter the medicinal virtues of being a true friend or sustaining a long close relationship with another, the ultimate touchstone of friendship is not improvement, neither of the other nor of the self, the ultimate touchstone is witness, the privilege of having been seen by someone and the equal privilege of being granted the sight of the essence of another, to have walked with them and to have believed in them, and sometimes just to have accompanied them for however brief a span, on a journey impossible to accomplish alone.”

GIVING: “To stop giving in any situation is to call an end to relationship.”

“...but to give appropriately, always involves a tiny act of courage, a step of coming to meet, of saying I see you, and appreciate you and am also making an implicit promise for the future.”

GRATITUDE: “Thanksgiving happens when our sense of presence meets all other presences. Being unappreciative might mean we are simply not paying attention.”

HEARTBREAK: “Heartbreak has its own way of inhabiting time and its own beautiful and trying patience in coming and going.”

“Heartbreak is how we mature; yet we use the word heartbreak as if it only occurs when things have gone wrong; an unrequited love, a shattered dream, a child lost before their time. Heartbreak, we hope, is something we hope we can avoid; something to guard against, a chasm to be carefully looked for and then walked around; the hope is to find a way to place our feet where the elemental forces of life will keep us in the manner to which we want to be accustomed and which will keep us from the losses that all other human beings have experienced without exception since the beginning of conscious time. But heartbreak may be the very essence of being human, of being on the journey from here to there, and of coming to care deeply for what we find along the way.”

HELP: “It may be that the ability to know the necessity for help; to know how to look for that help and then most importantly, how to ask for it, is one of the primary transformative dynamics that allows us to emancipate ourselves into each new epoch of our lives. Without the understanding that we need a particular form of aid at every crucial threshold in our lives and without the robust vulnerability in asking for that help we cannot pass through the door that bars us from the next dispensation of our lives: we cannot birth ourselves. To ask for help and to ask for the right kind of help and to feel that it is no less than our due as alive human being; to feel, in effect, that we deserve it, may be the engine of transformation itself. Our greatest vulnerability is the very door through which we must pass in order to open the next horizon of our lives.”

HONESTY: “Honesty is not the revealing of some foundational truth that gives us power over life or another or even the self, but a robust incarnation into the unknown unfolding vulnerability of existence, where we acknowledge how powerless we feel, how little we actually now, how afraid we are of not knowing and how astonished we are by the generous measure of loss that is conferred upon even the most average life.”

“Honesty is grounded in humility and indeed in humiliation, and in admitting exactly where we are powerless. Honesty is not found in revealing the truth, but in understanding how deeply afraid of it we are.”

LONGING: “Longing has its own secret, future destination, and its own seasonal emergence from within, a ripening from the core, a seed growing in our own bodies; it is as if we are put into relationship with an enormous distance inside us leading back to some unknown origin with its own secret timing indifferent to our wills, and gifted at the same time with an intimate sense of proximity, to a lover, to a future, to a transformation, to a life we want for ourselves, and to the beauty of the sky and the ground that surrounds us.”

MEMORY: “...the pas is never just the past, memory is a pulse passing through all created life, a waveform, a then continually becoming other thens, all the while creating a continual but almost untouchable now.”

“The genius of human memory is firstly its very creation through experience, and then the way it is laid down in the mind according to the identity we inhabited when we first decided to remember, then its outward radiating effect and then all its possible future outcomes, occurring all at the same time. We actually inhabit memory as a living threshold, as a place of choice and volition and imagination, a crossroads where our future diverges according to how we interpret, or perhaps more accurately, how we live the story we have inherited.”

NAMING: “Naming love too early is a beautiful but harrowing human difficulty. Most of our heartbreak comes from attempting to name who or what we love and the way we love, too early in the vulnerable journey of discovery.”

“When we demand a certain specific kind of reciprocation before the revelation has flowered completely we find ourselves disappointed and bereaved and in that grief may miss the particular form of love that is actually possible but that did not meet our initial and too specific expectations.”

“The act of loving itself, always becomes a path of humble apprenticeship, not only in following its difficult way and discovering its different forms of humility and beautiful abasement but strangely, through its fierce introduction ot all its many astonishing and different forms, where we are asked continually and against our will, to give in so many different ways, without knowing exactly, or in what way, when or how, the mysterious gift will be returned.”

“We name mostly in order to control but what is worth loving does not want to be held within the bounds of too narrow a calling. In many ways love has already named us before we can even begin to speak back to it, before we can utter the right words or understand what has happened to us or is continuing to happen to us: an invitation to the most difficult art of all, to love without naming at all.”

NOSTALGIA: “Nostalgia is not indulgence. Nostalgia tells us we are in the presence of imminent revelation, about to break through the present structures held together by the way we have remembered: something we thought we understood but that we are now about to fully understand, something already lived but not fully lived, issuing not from our future but from something already experienced; something that was important, but something to which we did not grant importance enough, something now wanting to be lived again, at the depth to which it first invited us but which we originally refused. Nostalgia is not an immersion in the past, nostalgia is the first annunciation that the past as we know it is coming to an end.”

PARALLELS: “...as the years pass, our relationship to the path not take or the person we did not pursue changes as much as it does with the one we did.”

PROCRASTINATION: “What looks from the outside like our delay; our lack of commitment; even our laziness may have more to do with a slow, necessary ripening through time and the central struggle with the realities of any endeavor to which we have set our minds. To hate our procrastinating tendencies is in some way to hate our relationship with time itself, to be unequal to the phenomenology of revelation and the way it works its own way in its very own gifted time, only emerging when the very qualities it represents have a firm correspondence in our necessarily struggling heart and imagination.”

“An endeavor achieved without delay, wrong turnings, occasional blank walls and a vein of self-doubt running through all, leading eventually to some degree of heartbreak is a thing of the moment, a bagatelle, and often neither use nor ornament. It will be scanned for a moment and put aside. What is worthwhile carries the struggle of the maker written within it, but wrought into the shape of an earned understanding.”

SELF-KNOWLEDGE: “What we are actually about to become or are afraid of becoming always trumps and rules over what we think we are already.”

“What we can understand is the way we occupy this frontier between the known and the unknown, the way we hold the conversation of life, the figure we cut at that edge, but a detailed audit of the self is not possible and diminishes us in the attempt to establish it; we are made on a grander scale, half afraid of ourselves, half in love with immensities beyond any name we can give.”

SHYNESS: “Shyness is the exquisite and vulnerable frontier between what we think is possible and what we think we deserve.”

TOUCH: “Being alive in the world means being found by that world and sometimes touched to the core in ways we would rather not experience. Growing with our bodies, all of us find ourselves at one time violated or wounded by this world in difficult ways, and still we live and breathe in this touchable, sensual world, and through trauma, through grief, through recovery, we heal in order to be touched again in the right way, as the physical consecration of a mutual, trusted invitation.”

VULNERABILITY: “The only choice we have as we mature is how we inhabit our vulnerability, how we become larger and more courageous and more compassionate through our intimacy with disappearance, our choice is to inhabit vulnerability as generous citizens of loss, robustly and fully, or conversely, as misers and complainers, reluctant and fearful, always at the gates of existence, but never bravely and completely attempting to enter, never wanting risk ourselves, never walking fully through the door.”

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vitalmindandbody · 7 years

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10 Simple-minded Ways To Heal A Broken Heart

I cant do this anymore.

The terms still reverberating in your ears, ricochetting around until they land like a punch in the gut. Youre instantly transported to a new world, one you didnt know existed before this moment. A world-wide and life without your beloved.

It doesnt feel real. You pinch yourself to wake up from this nightmare, but youre still here, still revolving from this declaration, this revocation of love.

Warm snaps stream down your face until you begin to sob, that terrifying uncontrollable sobbing that leaves you gasping for air. You want to hide away, cry yourself to sleep, and somehow magically feel better tomorrow.

Weve all been here. Or some modification of it. Weve all had our centers cracked and stomped on. Weve all diverted over every moment of our relations in our headings and wondered, What could I have done differently?

But we are now transported into a macrocosm where the love we seemed is grasped away from the americans and dont know what to do with ourselves other than suffers and sorrow our loss.

I recently read a work that briefly touched upon anguish and its advice mostly amounted to go out with your lovers as far as possible. WTF? Thats it? Thats how Im going to heal my mettle? Most of my lovers are scattered in all regions of the world. Becoming out with them every night isnt even a viable option.

How on globe do you turn off those kinds of impressions? What happens to affection lost? How do you mend a broken heart? I decided to investigate how to mend my own shattered heart.

In previous breakups, Ive simply idly fallen into my personal motifs of desire lost. For me, I exclaim, I stay in bed, watch bad tv, chew cookie dough, and hide away from the people who love me. I mainly dont DO anything. I sit and wait.

Because time heals all winds, right? Or does it? If occasion is a construct of our attentions, do “weve been” have to wait for the occur of period, something illusory to mend ourselves? Can we speed up the process of healing our wraps? How much is impossible to ensure our healing through our wars and blueprints?

So, instead of blindly falling into my decorations, I started to ask myself some questions about my habits. Im looking at my structures with enjoying interest, playing with them a little bit, realise what is actually acting me and determining what patterns are there exclusively because of economy, because my memory, form, and nerve are too tired for anything but pattern. And heres what Ive learned

1. Lean Into Sensation

Essentially, everything we know as physical beings comes down to sensation that we name good or bad. When I began to lean into the wizard in my body, requesting what it had to tell me, thoughts began to transform. I asked where the ache lives in my torso. I closed my eyes and supposed symbolizing my excitement. I described what it felt like in writing, how I had to remind myself to breathe and how fascinating the absence of a act- breath and love feels so heavy.

I examined the tightening in my chest, trying not to label it good or bad, just simply as superstar. Human tolerating is predominantly an expression of the results of labeling event as good or bad and right or wrong.

The thing about perception is, its ever changing. It doesnt stay forever. When we change our perspective of know-how merely being a temporary district of existence, it takes service charges out of it, simply through the simple-minded number of observation. In my own experience, the sensation itself tend to change faster the closer I look at it.

By noticing how heavy the fact that there is breath felt, I began to fill my lungs with slower, deeper breaths and learnt my entire being become a bit lighter.

2. Frankie Says Relax

Remember those t-shirts from the 80 s from Frankie goes to Hollywood? Passes out those guys had a good idea.

While this might seem a little bit self-contradictory to simply discovering perception, this practice of tightening your body has slightly different merits. We support so much better tension in our mass on a daily basis, and its even more amplified in times of high-pitched stress.

Make a practice of checking each part of your mas for tension. I like to start out lying down on my back and closing my gazes like I would for savasana. Take a couple of deep sighs, then try to contract and tense up every single muscle in your organization at once. Hold this for got a couple of seconds, then liberate the tension in your whole mas. Repeat a couple of times. I find it helpful to see the comparison in how my person tones between the tension and the relaxation.

Then take it further by slowly checking each part of your form from leader to toe. Tense up an individual muscle group for a moment, then exhaust it. Crinkle your forehead, and handout. Squeeze your eyes tight, and handout. Clench your jaw, and handout. Press your tongue to the ceiling of your opening, then make it hang loose in your mouth.

You get the picture. We all know we view so much friction and stress in our shoulders and backs, but also pay attention to the little neighbourhoods. Tightening the smallest muscle radicals, particularly in my appearance, often prepare the most difficult difference in how I seem afterwards.

3. Move It

Rest is important in mending a middle. But I often situate too much emphasis on it. Yes, I need to take care of myself with sleep and the blessing of stillness. But I now believe it is equally important to move your torso very. The medium of shift isnt important. Just move.

On day one I went to a yin yoga class. While technically moving my body, the needs of the of yin yoga are much less than read a spin class. Yin allowed me to extend my form while still allowing me to appear introverted and my existence internalized which was all I could handle.

On day two I croaked for a four mile walk in the common. I remained my headphones on and didnt talk to anyone, but extended my legs and got plenty of oxygen into my lungs.

This movement is facilitating me hinder some momentum and vigour for other aspects of “peoples lives” I dont want to placed on hold while my centre heals.

4. Reach For A Better Feeling Thought

This one can feel a bit tricky. For starters, the thought of exuberance can feel so far removed from where you are right now. So, start where you are.

If you are depressed, what next best happen can you contact for? Depression is experiencing hopeless, disheartened, retiring. There isnt even any energy around depression. Happiness and desire can feel like a world away from depression.

Can you reach for something that seems slightly better than this powerless desperation? Perhaps hope? Or wrath or storm? Most passions have more vitality behind them than hollow. While temper isnt a situate you want to stay in, it can also stimulus some movement.

What if every day you worked towards an spirit merely one step in future directions you wish to move? Take a look at the Emotional Guidance System scale I formed from Ask and it is Given below. Moving up by one spirit a daylight will put you in a pretty good region in not so long a time.

There is something else to watch out for here. In the midst of my profound bereavement, I have minutes of genuine laugh when I hear something funny. The first few meters it happened, I immediately experienced guilty.

It was as if my feeling good in any way was a disloyalty to my broken heart. My mentality was telling me that if I feel good, its as if I didnt appreciate such relationships as much as I felt I did. Well, that is hogwash. That is my hurt ego talking. My relationship mean and still signifies “the worlds” to me. Tell me be really clear on this point…

If youre having a hard time contacting for a better sensitive conception, try some visualizations. Stay away from thinks about your relationship and cherish. They are very charged topics, so start somewhere easy.

Close your eyes, thought the sentiments of the warm sunlight on your look, and cool breeze on bare shoulders. Dream the flavor of your favorite dinner on your tongue. Dream your abs hurting after a good belly laugh. Improve on this feeling with knowledge from our lives you can draw from. What in your life is full of ease and joy?

5. Surround Yourself With Reminders Of Truth, Beauty, And Love

I have a tattoo on my left forearm that enunciates Love Inspired by a blog upright called the Beauty of the Ellipsis, it serves as a reminder that ardour isnt a finished thinking. It is always in motion, ever deriving. Adoration for myself, my family, your best friend, and those Ive lost.

I have a maple seed necklace to remind me that in every moment Im planting the seeds of my future. I have prisms hanging from my windows for an extra perforate of coloring and rainbows on sunny epoches. I am gradually building a jungle in my house. I fill empty spaces with plants that remind me of life and vitality even on the grayest of days.

Fill your encircles and life with little bits that remind you of what you know to be true, beautiful, and joyful. These neednt be grandiose or expensive, just simply concepts that reverberate with you. Here are some ideas to get you started.

Flowers from Traders Joes. Pinterest board filled with beauty. Follow an inspiring Instagram or Tumblr account. Make or find a mantra. Use Canva to build and print out invigorating paraphrases to embellish your room. Croak for a step and find the perfect stone to bring home. Find a brand-new favorite aroma and spread it around your mansion liberally. Buy new stationary. Treat yourself to a book from Etsy. Draw portrait or stimulating mentions with sidewalk chalk in your vicinity. Find a neighbourhood neighbourhood to make a coffee or tea mug. Alternately, find one that impresses your imagination at Society6. Create an altar or sacred cavity and crowd it with crystals, palo santo, and offerings. Spend day with children. Find reminders of your truism and joy.

These may seem to be insignificant things that are only on the surface, but I find the more I border myself with items that experience whimsical and magical in some small-scale acces, the more Im able to remind myself of how I want to feel in each time. They help me choose to feel glee and magical when I might otherwise choose grief.

6. Self-Care Saturday( Or any era. Or every day !)

We can be quite penalize to ourselves in times of conflict and stress, so take some time to really take care of yourself in some way.

Were all busy and charged with the responsibility, but if you dont take care of yourself first, the main responsibilities can begin to suffer as a result. Im more focused and productive when Ive taken care of my necessities first. I attend to my responsibilities in a bigger and better behavior when my goblet is full , not empty.

Theres a lot of area for reading here as to what self-care consider this to be for each person. While technically, all the suggestions in this article are a species of self-care, I miss “youve got to” block off some time specifically for self-care, mining deeper into what that means for you.

Maybe its taking a long, palatial shower and spending duration pampering yourself with tinctures for your skin that move you feel radiant. It might be spending a duo hours in live animals shelter fondling with puppies and kittens. Perhaps its planning a hot stone rub. Maybe its nourishing your form with vibrant healthy food youve cooked yourself. It might be taking a couple hours to read a book thats been sitting on your nightstand for months.

Tailor your self-care and rotate it into a weekly or even daily ritual.

7. Invest in Yourself

Im willing to bet everyone has something new theyd like to try if merely they had the time, coin, or excuse.

Here is your allow stumble to try that something new.

Did you want to pick up knitting, or perhaps learn to play the guitar? Maybe memorized some bayonet abilities to hoist your prepare? Rock climbing, sky diving, paint, memorizing another language, the possibilities are interminable. You can find a class on just about whatever it is you like online these days.

As progenies, we try brand-new occasions all the time. Its how we discover and change at an exceptional charge. But this slows down as we grow up and our visual field becomes smaller as we narrow down our athletic field. So expand your compass, invest in yourself in some way, and learn something new.

The cognitive requirements of memorizing something new are also welcome to serve as a great pattern of distraction when you need a distraction. Perhaps youll be brought to an end picking up a brand-new hobby, check off another carton on your pail listing, or have a good story to tell.

8. The F wordForgiveness

Ahh, a big creepy one! The topic of forgiveness can be a fiction in itself. Perhaps there is a requirement forgive the actions of your ex, or maybe forgive yourself for your own. Or a combination of both.

We dont always like to forgive people for actions we deem incorrect or unkind because it can feel like we are giving them a free pass. But Ive became aware that maintaining onto exasperation and resentment is always worse. Its a tremendous force suck and you cant find joyful as the same duration “you think youre” feeling justified in your fury. So, I select my own gaiety over my resentment.

Its a choice to make over and over again. Its not easy to forgive in one large-hearted sweeping action. It generally happens in increments. Its helpful to practice radical rapport, vividly dreaming how it feels to be the person who did you wrong. You know most people are essentially doing the best they can with the information they have at each minute. It becomes easier to suppose why they did what they did when you put yourself in their shoes. You begin to feel more empathy for them.

You recognize that the indignation youre accommodating acts no one. And you gradually begin to let it go, piece by piece.

Because forgiveness is not for them, its for YOU.

9. Afford what you wish to receive

I was walking around, detecting like no one loves me, which is totally and completely untrue, but when youre heartbroken, your subconsciou does all kinds of irrational thoughts. I received a pal of mine berth about writing a note of encouragement to a pal, and I wished to be that friend with every fiber of my being. I wanted to open up my mailbox and receive letters of cherish, a validation of the adoration that exists for me.

I expected myself what could I do to feel that adoration? I decided to Pay what I wished to RECEIVE. I started writing words of encouragement and love to pals and strangers alike. All I had to do was write what I wanted to hear, for myself. It was that easy.

This did two things for me.

One, the brain doesnt is the difference between handing, receiving, or even witnessing magnanimity. When you perform an act of kindness, the pleasure and rewards cores light up, releasing feel good chemicals as if you were the recipient, which some psychologists have dubbed the helpers high.

Two, it demo me that we live in a macrocosm of abundance. I dont is a requirement to accumulation away love and kindness to keep it. It actually thrives when I open it away. Its generative. And often, when you demonstrate adore and kindness away, others are inspired to mirror your enjoy and kindness back to you as well as fee it forward to others.

We cannot presume to understand the dominance of the extent of what a few kind words can do for someone and its ripple effect on the world. Win win triumph!

10. Investigate Your Own Patterns

This is by no means a complete list. Merely recommendations of the start of opportunities for your own healing. The biggest occasion you can do for yourself is to get curious, examine your own personal decorations in its own experience of sorrow, and doubt each one.

Hold each one up as they sound and question Does this suffice me?

If the answer is truly yes, keep it. If the answer is no, try something new or the opposite of that first inclination. Play with the brand-new reaction, see if that one provides you better, prepares you feel better both in the present and the long term.

And most important, be gentle with yourself. There are epoch to push your borders, to peruse, and to experiment. But i still have a meter for rest and a is necessary to give. Dedicate yourself the grace to know you are where you need to be when you need to be.

Know that you wont always feel like your centre has been rent out of your chest. Lessen the distance between a shattered heart and a mended middle by experimenting with these alternatives to your motifs. One day youll open your middle again and feel the rushing of falling in love. Youll look into attentions that truly see you and reflect your feeling back to you. And youll be ready for large-scale ardour because youve already done their efforts to heal your middle.

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