#i need mental assistance

[lilydoesdrawsometimes]

Pt 1 of 2 posts I shall be making that involve unholy amounts of Thierry art. I've literally been waiting almost a month to post this because I just KEPT GOING (and will continue going.) Please enjoy a variety of silly doodles, renders, and misc things, including: - My Tardigrade Narrator , Moss, but HUMAN! - One of @/coralkrill's little Fordlings (because they're cute as hell) - Some silly mini comic things that include Conversations with Velli - Thierry in the color pallet of Underfell Sans (And in Underfell Sans' Outfit) - The fusion between Thierry and Mantra (@/deviousnarrator's Narrator) - Thierry having ORGANS!!!! @vellichorom you did this to me which means you get PINGED

#tsp #the stanley parable #stanley parable ultra deluxe #tsp narrator #narrator tsp #tsp fanart #art #fanart #LilyDoesDrawArt #tspud #Tardigrade Narrator #Thierry my beloved #I need mental assistance #Good god #This isnt even all of it can you believe that #I blame Vellichorom for my illness of the mental kind

[c1cada-c1cada]

lemme see the south park earrings >:))

(I need to know what to expect or else i kaboom) 😌😌😌

kaboom you must because earrings are none

#crack #i need mental assistance

[tfisathoughtfulnickelbakeryfire]

Can't tell if my neighbors are committing atrocious acts of domestic abuse or having sex but either way I am not having a good time.

#it could even be both at once #Which is horrifying to think about #seriously wtf is going on #i need mental assistance

[stwaberrideer]

I'm like actually going crazy rn

#like actually #i need mental assistance #im dying #fuck you lmao #*dies immediately*

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[clearwater--blueskies]

messing around with discord’s new remix feature

#OKAAYYY #pep talk #i need mental assistance

[chamaleonsoul]

just... 💪 yk?

#i won't even explain it like #also sir next time please make sure the ask thingy isn't over your arms or body or face please and thank u #arm #ash #op #a. gifs #reasons why i need mental assistance

[angelnumber27]

Hi baby angels 😇 it’s about to be that time where I need help with getting a couple of my medications soon! It’s within a few days that I will be running out and I didn’t want to wait until the very last day/moment to try to scramble for a way to pay for them.

My cshapp is $juliagw :)

I have Venmo as well as PayPal, please DM me if you want my usernames to either of those and are interested in helping me 🙂

I am also selling content right now because I need my medications and I am hot. DM me if interested. You can see what I look like here

I need $80 total for the medications I need please help if you can.

I can make art for you if you want please just lmk what y’all are interested in <3

Thank you everyone so so so much 🖤 I’m so lucky and grateful to have and be surrounded by such a wonderful community on here.

#if you can help out please do I appreciate each and every one of you SOO much #financial assistance #recovery #medical #medications #please help if you are able :) . I do not want to go into withdrawal #every bit helps #dm me if you wanna buy hot shit #don’t b shy <3 #I need my meds babe hahah #in recovery #mental illness #mental health #medication #prescription medication #upload #please help #please give what you can #xoxoxoxoxo #I’m so sorry I love y’all so much I’m working on getting to a place where I can manage working #like.. physically and mentally/emotionally #and build my muscles back up #my atrophy is rly rly bad but I’ve been trying to strengthen my body slowly. bc when I go too hard w it it’s horribly sore next day #and then four days after that #addiction recovery

[tigitaldurtle]

He may be a horse, but she is also a horse. And that's really all you need to be happy, isn't it?

They're singing. Like in a musical. :]

#im so tired i need to sleep but i had to draw these two #it was vital kind of i think #just had to dip my toe (dunk my head) into nostalgia :] #GRAAAHHH mental illness!!!!! i have it #im holding back in these tags because its late but whatever #what song do u think they're singing (musical theater answers only) #mlp #my little pony fim #mlp fim #my little pony #my little pony friendship is magic #derpy hooves #derpy #ditzy doo #mlp muffins #muffins mlp #doctor whooves #dr whooves #doctor whooves and assistant #REMEMBER THAT? #i do #everyday. #dw&a #doctor who #fanart #mlp fanart #my little pony fanart

[yappacadaver]

It's worth it to draw Yumi with boobies, if it means putting this out into the world

#The mortuary assistant #raymond delver #i need a yumi tag #rayumi #yappa art #yea we ship tag it they're standing next to each other exchanging breasts #sorry sketch requesters. im severely unwell- this time physicalyl as well as mentally

[kvetchinglyneurotic]

i don't know if anyone is still having this debate but i found the outline for this in my notes app, so: i do actually think it was a good idea to have roy rather than nate as the manager post-season 3 — not because i necessarily think roy's a better coach; they're both shown to be good at their jobs and to each have their own strengths — but because part of the job of manager is much more public-facing than being an assistant coach.

roy clearly doesn't like the press poking into his private life and has had some bad experiences with them, but while he's grumpy about having to do interviews, he's also established to have a bit of an ego and part of the reason he's upset about retiring is that he feels like he won't be roy kent, famous public figure, anymore. in essence, while he complains about doing press, he ultimately seems to like being in the public eye at least some of the time, in addition to being pretty good at it when he's putting in the effort.

nate, on the other hand, is just starting to overcome very severe social anxiety that was clearly aggravated by being in the public eye, and dealing with that kind of attention, especially on social media (understandably) still seems to stress him out even when he's in a much more stable place at the end of the series. i could see him becoming manager again at some point in the future — either at richmond or somewhere else — once he's had more time to work through that, but i don't think that kind of progress would happen in the couple of months between him rejoining the team and the start of the next season

#ted lasso #roy kent #nate shelley #meta #this is also why i'm ok with nate coming back to the team as assistant kitman for the end of the season #especially since we know he's a coach again the season after — part of it is making amends with will but i think part of it is also #him developing the valuable skill of like. recognizing when you need a mental health break from a high-pressure job #also i think roy just enjoys a bit of recreational complaining and doesn't necessarily hate doing press as much as he claims #i say as a recreational complainer myself. a recreational kvetcher. one might even say. #kvetch oc

[aikeaguineamp3]

hey besties I'm a bisexual non-binary disabled mentally ill poor person trying to live off a small monthly disability check and I could really use some financial help. I'm having to completely support both me and my roommate with this check and most of it goes toward rent and utilities each month. we still need money for groceries, toiletries, laundry, medications, and phone service. we're also still trying to get our car repaired, which is going to cost hundreds of dollars, and we both need new clothes. I'm sorry to ask for donations so often on here but it's already very difficult to just survive and having such a dire financial situation really doesn't help. if you have anything at all you could spare i would appreciate it more than words can say. thank you very much to everyone who has donated in the past. if you can't send anything I totally understand, don't feel guilty but please share this if you can. thank you so much, love you all 💖

P-yPal: [email protected]

c-shapp: $charlieavery420

v-nmo: @charlieavery428

0/500

#donations #mutual aid #financial assistance #crowdfund #crowdfunding #i need money #donation #disabled #mentally ill #bisexual #nonbinary #lgbt #mutual aid fund #please help #please share

[hussyknee]

Idk if there's enough people talking about what a gigantic energy drain Complex PTSD is. It's not just one single traumatic event, it's having lived in a traumatic situation for a long time. And in the case of child abuse, your entire formative life period. Everything is a trigger, anxiety is your default, and your brain keeps trying to keep you safe by yelling at you about everything you're doing "wrong", which will lead to pain. Your brain is a constant war zone, braced for attack, rarely relaxed, at least some part of you always hypervigilant. The stress it takes on your body is insane. It's why trauma is linked to autoimmune issues, heart disease, type 2 diabetes, and, according to one study, cancer.

Physical disability leaves you even more vulnerable and less able to live up to the impossible standards of control and "correct" behaviour your brain insists on, not to mention the free gift given to all patients of chronic illness that is medical gaslighting and patient-blaming, all of which simply compounds the trauma. Reduced physical and mental health obviously leads to systemic risk factors such as inability to pursue academic and professional qualifications, poverty and financial struggle, malnutrition, becoming unhoused or bad living conditions, exacerbated medical issues and further lack of medical resources, reliance on welfare and care networks, and becoming trapped in codependent, abusive or toxic relationships. The knock-on effects are endless.

This is all to say— if you're wondering why you can't seem to do more than the bare minimum every day when you haven't been diagnosed with a physical illness, or you're "not that disabled", or you think your symptoms are "just psychosomatic" (which means your brain is under so much intolerable stress that it's started taking a chair to the windows and destroying the furniture just to get you to NOTICE AND MAKE IT STOP): the answer is that your body is actually struggling under the kind of stress that kills trained soldiers and disables them for life. So stop trying to convince yourself that you're just not trying hard enough when what you really, desperately need to get your life on track is community, care, rest and ease.

#the medicalization of mental health is just capitalism trying to cover its ass #isolating physical and mental illness makes the entire medical complex an abject failure actually #''disease'' should refer to a state of being rather than its outcome imo #i've never heard of one that wasnt simply the visible symptom or ramification of the core problem or situation #like I'm grateful for the anti-depressants and bipolar meds and all but i just think a lot more problems would be solved #if someone gave me a place to live with peace and quiet and living assistance #i mean I'd still need the meds its not either/or #but I wouldn't need to be on ever increasing doses for the rest of forever #also if there was some kind of holistic understanding of health that bridged psychiatry with the fest of the medical complex #they could have taken one look at how badly I broke down at age twenty and worked to prevent my inflammatory disease being triggered #or at least not gaslit me about it for seven years until i nearly lost a colon #you just absolutely bloody cannot treat health as separate from socioeconomics and community support #this shouldn't be new or revolutionary #actually cptsd #complex ptsd #ableism #disability #healthism #child abuse #emotional abuse #domestic abuse #intimate partner violence #parental abuse #chronic illness #spoonie #knee of huss #mental illness #autoimmune disease #social justice #psychosomatic

[xamaxenta]

Omg fam ur so not alone about the sleeping thing, my partner has both some health issues and also just a completely different sleep schedule from me that makes us sleeping together difficult, and a small apartment that makes it difficult to separate ourselves. And like. It's not his fault but its FRUSTRATING so I feel u ❤❤

😔😔😔Its frustrating bc its not her fault but also it kinda is bc i keep asking for basic communication

Im like hey are you coming to sleep in the next hour

And shes like in twenty mins

Which turns into two hours and im not going to dog her or ask again so i have to roll with the concept shes showing up whenever

I also sleep light so without fail if she comes in three hours later i wake up and it takes a while for me to return to sleeping

Its just a combination of stuff that makes this scenario like she doesnt say anything like dawg all i want is for u to poke your head in or msg me like im not gonna sleep yet but she gets mad abt it like its not super late!! FOR YOU ITS NOT you also work from home :/

Thats it and ill just bury myself under the covers n hope i dont wake up when she does come in

#ahh nothing like tumblr morning venting w the lads #i dont care that we have different sleep schedules #at the end of the day #i just want COMMUNICATION 😭😭😭😭😭 #i know im ass at it in other ways but im always initiating convos like this and i keep telling her im not nagging u i dont want you to feel #like thats what this is but my god it will be if she keeps this up #i think im just annoyed that she uses the not late excuse but its like yeah i know but some of us have to go to an office to work and need #to mentally be on their A game. like constantly which is what Sleep assists with #not all of us have the luxury of working from home post covid #like dont give me a fakeass time that we both knkw you arent keeping #and shes always like WAIT FOR ME!!! #SO I DO???? #AND THEN U PIKACHU FACE WHEN IM CRANKY AND SLEEPY AND AWAKE WHEB I COULDA BEEN ASLEPE????? #😭😭😭 im PRAYING FOR NO BS TODAY AT WOEK I SWEAR #also not to be slightly petty but i do all the goddamn housework

[hyckisms]

when you give mark lee a necklace, you tell him it's a gift. you tell him it's nothing big, nothing to get all doe-eyed and tender-hearted about. you had seen it, and you thought of him, so you're giving it to him now in hopes that he'll perhaps love it with a semblance of how much you love him.

mark supposes others wear the piece of jewelry like a needed accessory, something to show off and let gleam in the light, but for him, it speaks a little differently. he tucks it beneath his layers of shirts and lets it beat against his chest; closest to his heart, still radiating heat from the warmth of his skin, mark keeps the necklace dearest to his being. always.

(even after you tell him you can't do this anymore, that you're so tired and lonely and the millions of other things you had spewed in an alcohol-laced fervor through the crackly static of a phone line and--"this is mark's phone! sorry i can't pick up right now, but leave a message after the beep!"--beep...beep...)

he's still doe-eyed and tender-hearted; the problem is that you're not. not anymore.

("y/n?" it's quieter than you ever thought it could be. "i'm sorry.")

and maybe that's why even months after "12 missed calls" and "mark lee, 30 unread messages", his bandmates still catch glimpses of a silver chain dangling around his neck underneath his cotton tees and satin shirts and everything else their stylists put them in. to keep you to himself, to keep you precious to his memories, so that nothing could taint how he remembers you and your laugh and your smile and the love you had for him and that he had for you.

(loved. love. when he thinks about it, silver pulsing against his skin in the middle of the night and his phone lighting up the room with a number that won't ever make it past "call", they're all the same thing in the end.)

#mark lee #mark lee scenarios #mark x reader #mark lee x reader #mark lee imagines #mark imagines #nct scenarios #nct headcanons #nct imagines #i need mental assistance btw.

[chamaleonsoul]

#did you know i love his hair #i love his hair<3 #what remains of my sanity hangs from that curl at the front #and his eyes #sigh #the curls are killing me #ash #op #a. gifs #reasons why i need mental assistance