on a related note i do enjoy that it’s like that. people are so many different folds, people have so many layers. i can’t really be arsed to put this eloquently but i like that people are not as they appear, not how you would guess. that’s how it should be. people aren’t one dimensional. there are people who wear pastel pinks and listen to deathcore and people who dress in black but listen to bubblegum pop.
mmmmmm i just think.. that you’re a lot happier when you don’t limit yourself to certain things in the name of a reputation you think you have an obligation to uphold. you don’t. this has a lot to do with gender imo as well. they’re definitely hand in hand topics. because society habitually labels things as feminine or masculine and therefore you become absorbed into leaning one way or the other because of the things you like. uhhh and you start forcing yourself to like/hate things so that you’re perceived differently by the people who rely on those labels to define people.
i’ve talked about this before but as a kid i hated being seen as girly because i was taught, through observation of how it was treated in society, that girly = powerless = not worthy of respect = bad. so things like dresses, the color pink or purple, flowers, lace, dolls.. i felt like i had to distance myself from those things to be taken seriously or to be respected above my peers. forced myself to like the color blue, wore pants all the time, started collecting hot wheels.. as i got older this then translated to dressing in black and listening to rock/metal. i did like those things, yes, but…….. i liked the girly things too still. didn’t want to believe it for a time, but i did.
then i got to an age where i really just didn’t give a fuck anymore. if i like the music i like the music, doesn’t matter the genre! if i like the dress i like the dress! doesn’t matter how grotesquely frilly and flowery it is! ya know. i just think.. bending yourself to fit a label so people don’t slap another one on you isn’t good for you and the sooner you realize you don’t have to fill a mold and you can leak out over the edges into different molds the happier you’ll be.