#i said ‘non-tamil ppl watching this’ i meant reading but i’m going through it okay i’m furious

[kisshim]

anyway final note before going to sleep (read: attempting to go to sleep)

#today my family watched one of those eps on that tamil talk show and it was about gender inequality #and god did it make me so furious #it was a daughter v parents debate btw so #one girl said ‘they’ll allow my brother to eat non veg food w his friends but won’t let me bc WHAT WILL HER FUTURE HUSBANDS FAMILY THINK’ #another girl said ‘my parents will say ‘you’re not actually part of this family because you’re a girl and will get married into another #family anyway’ just to reminder her that ‘she’s not part of the family’ that includes HER LITERAL BIRTH PARENTS AND BLOOD RELATED BROTHER #btw non-tamil people watching this...most tamil people are very very discriminatory towards girls and women in general because #GIRLS ARE SEEN AS A LIABILITY AND BOYS ARE SEEN AS AN INVESTMENT #one girl asked why her brother was allowed to get an expensive badminton racket and play on a club and she didn’t get to and her dad #LITERALLY RESPONDED ‘she’s a girl. we can only have a limit to what we spend on girl children (daughters) because THEY WILL LEAVE US ANYWAY’ #first of all the idea of ‘marrying off’ your daughter to another family is DISGUSTING no it’s fucking disgusting. daughters are not #liabilities they are not property to be ‘given away’ they are not only meant to be prepared for marriage or having kids or some shit #i literally could not believe that people are actually so fucking uneducated to the point that they can point at their literal children #and say ‘no you can’t do this because you will marry someone eventually someday and we don’t want to waste money on you’ #i said ‘non-tamil ppl watching this’ i meant reading but i’m going through it okay i’m furious #btw in my family there is very clear patriarchy :) your dads side is seen as ‘more important’ than your mothers side to begin with and plus #actually a lot of ppl on my dads side including my uncles and aunts and everything are not sexist in the ‘don’t spend money on her’ but you #know who is? my grandmother :) she thinks women should not work and should not study and should not focus on anything expect for marriage #and kids! of course because being a girl means you’re obligated to ‘give’ children to your husbands family #to everyone who’s always like ‘why don’t you like going to india’ LMFAO others might be used to it but i have a limit to how many ‘when do #you plan to get married and have kids’ questions okay? it’s fucking rude to ask a girl when she’s going to get married and especially when #she’s going to have kids when neither of those are necessary in life #also why i pray i leave my family and never return #my family has practices of arranged marriages and i know someone will try to rope me into that (read: my mom) eventually #my best bet is never getting married by studying forever and using the ‘after i finish strategy’ that my cousins use #or i run away with my female lover and forget about stupid fucking gender roles #okay now i sleep #vee.txt