#i will not be responding to rude messages

[shepherds-of-haven]

hi!! So. i like writing for Trouble and my MC but i spend so much time clowning on him and making up silly scenarios that now i have no idea how to write him actually catching on to one of the moves she makes and what kinds of moves he cant explain away. Please do you have any tips or crumbs to throw my way to help? I need to write him making out sloppy style w my girl PLEASE!!

Anyway I really love shoh and I think about Trouble and my MC almost every day so tysm for the lovely gift of him <3 i also wrote this ask intending to be silly but if it sounds demanding or rude i am SO sorry I would never demand anything of u and will love anything you may kr may not respond with whether that be in 17 minutes or 17 years 🩵

Aw, thank you so much for this sweet message, it made me so happy to receive! 💖 Please don't worry about sounding rude at all, your words were so kind and made me grin ear-to-ear, so thank you!

To answer your question, I like this excerpt from the old novels to explain how I think Trouble can be in a romance: I usually envision him being casual or friendly and light-hearted, and then catching onto something--some shift in the mood or a lingering glance--and then kind of abruptly shifting into a more intense version of himself. It's not a side of himself he shows very often--we're mostly exposed to the goofy, jocular Trouble, but that 'intense' dominant Trouble is there, lurking underneath it all, and that's kind of the part that he struggles with because it's also tied up in his ferocious past and his temper. It's the same Trouble who can go from smiling and laughing with his friends in a bar to completely unsmiling and intimidating when he overhears some guy being a dickhead to a server nearby, except obviously in these scenarios it's sexual/romantic tension he's responding to (even if he doesn't fully know it's that) rather than regular like situational tension. I don't know if you have access to the alpha build, but the scene in the cave in Chapter 7 when he's warming up MC's hands or the abrupt change from "yay we're having fun" to "something just happened" in his latest day off (when Cordy flirts with you) are good examples of this, too! This sort of stilted "everything is great 95% of the time and then 5% of the time something happens and he can't control it" that's impeding him and MC's easy friendship is what's really throwing Trouble for a loop; he starts to feel guilty and confused and tormented about it because he thinks he's the only one feeling these things and getting in the way of what should be a smooth companionship, so he's just... feeling a lot of things and not knowing what to do with them, lol.

So I imagine 'heated makeout' tends to happen during one of these sudden changes to 'intense Trouble,' when he catches on to something he can't ignore--but I generally don't think it happens because of an outright flirtation or hint of MC's, because he can usually just laugh those off as them just joking around, so he doesn't really respond to those like one might expect? He's dazzlingly good at not catching on to things like that (short of an outright serious confession), so maybe that's why you're having trouble imagining it! I tend to imagine it happening entirely randomly, during some moment of unthinking intimacy, like in the cave in Chapter 7 or during a mission when emotions are high or something like that. Here's another example of what I'm thinking of!

...Or something like that, idk lol! Obviously take all of this with a huge grain of salt and don't let me influence you; however you write Trouble and MC's romance is fantastic! Hopefully some of these tips help you in some way!

#Shepherds of Haven #Trouble #Trouble Alder #fluff #novels #original novels #novel #original novel #writing

[bass-alien]

idk who needs to hear this but I don’t owe you a response, I don’t owe you any sort of reply, and sending me passive aggressive messages because I haven’t responded will get you blocked

#I have so much shit I’m trying to work through and deal with right now #I don’t always have the energy to keep a conversation going #and sending me rude messages because I haven’t responded isn’t it

[kelocitta]

Apparently tumblr is adding the ability for sideblogs to reply (eventually...) THANK GOD!!! It feels so awkward that I can't use this blog to reply to comments and either have to post or dm for that

#Literally finally a good change #I always feel kinda rude when people ask a question and i either cant respond or have to awkwardly see if i can dm/message :') #especially since i LIKE talking to people on tumblr theyre nice and it feels less... in front of everyone than twitter lmao #t.extpost

[invalidname19]

Sadly I have a Twitter now 😕

It’s invalidname_19, such a unique username 🤩

#yeah you know #hashimada #hashirama x madara #hsmd #shi i don’t know go follow or what ever ppl say to get a following some were else idk ima still be posting here #if I’m a be real for a second I need to start engaging with this fandom instead of just drawing #😭 like I proby look rude for not responding to your guys messages or reply’s #idk man I’m just scared to talk to ppl #i ask why and I don’t know #I’m trying to break the habit frr #ima be posting the same stuff on twitter #with some other stuff idk man

[mollymarymarie]

just read the ask and actually it’s nice to see you don’t disapprove of fem sirius. i knew you had written fem sirius fic but, i can’t be sure if i saw the same post as the anon said but, i too thought lately you’re aggressively against sirius being fem whenever i’ve seen you agreeing with some people saying sirius “have to” be tank, given it seems like the people in this fandom particularly wolfstar folks are kinda weak on their own thoughts like someone says fem sirius is wrong and heteronormative then people start to shit on it although the same people like it just a few minutes ago. i thought you’re the similar case - liked fem sirius, but hate now it as you’ve been influenced by other people. glad it’s not since i was a big fan of the only living boy in ny.

Okay, so. Again, I'm not sure where I have been "aggressively" against anything except outright bullying. If you're referencing the post I commented on yesterday by @theresthesnitch, the post literally said "Give me tank Sirius" which is in no way AGAINST fem Sirius. It is simply someone stating a want to read a particular thing. No different than saying "give me a coffee shop AU."

I'm sure this post wasn't intended to be rude, but I haven't "been influenced by other people." I write whatever I want and right now, that is Sirius as a big dude (and just fyi, Remus is referenced as being "just as tall").

Again, the only opinion I have on this is LET PEOPLE WRITE WHAT THEY WANT. if I want to write Sirius as a slender figure skater, I will. If I want to write Sirius as a guy with an imposing stature, I will. That's all there is to it.

#I got an ask #I am sure you didn't mean this to be taken rudely #And I am sorry if I am responding in kind #But I really don't like people making assumptions about me #I think I might take a break from tumblr for a while #Take home message #Let people write whatever they want

[b-sailor]

how do people still Not Know that its not netiquette to just. dm people/artists in specific like youve known them for years. i dont know you, you dont know me. please quiet down small man

#esp when its shit that is hard to respond to or like. yknow im just fed up. slightly #like it started out good but now im like. eh #i get i dont owe anyone mytime. i just dont want to be rude #if anyone has any advice on how to kindly tell rhem to lessen the messaging please tell me

[jade278]

Hi. I would like to take the time to talk to you today about your car's extended warranty.

With lots of platonic love,

Dustin. <3

OH GOD THEY FOUND ME! YOU'LL NEVER GET MY CAR!!!!!

also haii 👋

#idk if you meant to make this an ask or a message but I'd feel rude if I didnt respond #jade278

[grendelsmilf]

why do i keep planning hinge dates when i literally do not have time rn to do anything for fun, let alone potentially waste hours of my time. i never considered myself a self-saboteur, but this is really cutting it close.

#i flew too close to the sun (responding to messages) and now it’s too late to back out #i mean i could just ghost innocuously but i don’t wanna be RUDE #(it’s barely even rude. i know. i am being ridiculous)

[clownboy-yeehonk]

Is it even Thanksgiving week if your extended family isn't giving you extreme agita

#woke up to an angry 5 paragraph essay of text messages #from my cousin because she was pissed about the trip to france #that i researched planned and invited her on #shes mad bc i was upset with her when she was nearly an hour late getting to the airport #bc she packed last second and left the house late #even though i told her how important leaving on time was to me bc it would cause me ungodly amounts of anxiety #and i was exhausted after our overnight flight and was cranky #which i apologized multiple times for bc i did feel bad for being tired and cranky #she never apologized for being late btw #and i got a fucking thesis statement of texts calling me rude dismissive and that she “didnt know who i thought i was talking to like that” #even though shes the one that complained about every. single. thing. all week #like she called everything we did and everywhere we ate a crappy tourist trap #and went on about how she didnt like the itinerary #which she had at the time we booked the goddamn trip #and i just feel so exhausted #and frustrated and hurt bc what am i gonna do #she sent a barrage of texts accusing me of being a shitty person for wanting to be on time and being tired our first day #and now she wont respond #so like what am i gonna do #shes my cousin and i love her but this is such a dick move and not a proper way to handle being upset #like its so immature! #i did all the work in terms of planning and researching and evrrything #for her to complain and be a snob about everything the whole time #AND now get yelled at at 8am sunday morning about how i didnt cater to her enough #like i had a great time anyway i cannot emphasize enough how much i loved the trip wven with her complaining #but like shes the unreasonable one here #i apologized profusely for being cranky and said i was also exhausted bc we were on the SAME OVERNIGHT FLIGHT I CAN BE TIRED TOO #and just bc i wasnt sulking all week like a child doesnt mean she didnt say or do anything to hurt my feelings #and even though objectively i know shes being unfair and angry and hurt right now #i feel really really really shitty and guilty and even if im right im still the one feeling like trash and crying rn

[the-sunlit-earth]

AITA?

I (F, human) often, like many of you, receive these silly scam/bot messages. However, ever since the joyous day when His Lordship todd Howard accepted the tesblr community into his loving arms and his hot tub, I now feel the need to respond to these people, and let them know that Toddy boy is first and foremost in my heart 💖

While I understand that I am a “fucking godawful troll” and “horrible shit person” for engaging with them, *I* find it hilarious even if *others* are questioning my sanity. Especially bc I’m speaking of TES things as if they were real, to a normie who doesn’t understand, and picturing their confusion is only adding to the Happiness i am feeling currently. 

It’s only fun BECAUSE i know they’re potential scammers, and probably would like to cheat me out of mucho dinero $$. They messaged me first, and I *do* believe that it’s fair game to troll a troll. (Yet part of me does feel bad? Maybe sending out these messages is THEIR serotonin and I’m ruining it? 😖)

Am I the Asshole? :’(  

Feel free to leave a little comment bubble if you’d like :)

#shitpost #not serious lmao #i doubt they'll respond after that last message 😅 'who tf is Ra'virr?? he sounds dangerous' #also hottubs-world has claimed my heart.. no other message could possibly top that #actual scammers go home. you could never compete #tbf im not being rude to them or harassing them tho!! i just.. i think this is fun :') #i can't speak up when ppl make it weird in-person.. nothing i can do to horrid customers if i want to keep my job #but i can respond to these ppl! #it's stupid but it's free therapy :) #my posts

[siriuslymeg]

I don’t understand—if you’re an artist who sells your artwork online in some form, wouldn’t you want to listen to your fans requests if they want to buy your merch? And I mean just ‘adding certain artworks to the apparel section’ or ‘switching a color from white to black on a shirt’ type of request, and not a “omg draw my character!” type of request. It’s something they’d eventually do or make available anyway. Why ignore them when they just want to give you money? ☹️

#this is vague #but an artist I like never updates their shop when they upload a new piece #and all I want is to buy that piece so I message them over and over on multiple platforms and they never respond #last time it took them about 8 months to finally add something and I’ve recently asked again but they still haven’t responded #and I’m not going to bother asking again because last time I thought they just got so many messages they didn’t see it #but it turns out they did see it #they just didn’t respond #I’m not trying to be difficult but you’d think they’d want to make it easy for people to pay them #and my requests were not outrageous in the slightest #just wanting a artwork in a different color shirt which took them minutes to add #or uploading a new artwork to their apparel instead of just prints #I don’t know I always feel like an awful annoying person asking these things but I don’t think I’m being rude #personal

[uglypastels]

Sorry for anon, but I'm too embarrassed to go 'public'. Just came back from my vacation, and started catching up on NWE -btw: loooooooove it, and I can't stop thinking about it. But that is beside the point for now.

I read some of your posts, and let me tell you- I understand. Not having friends or not fitting in... it sucks.

And probably I should just shut up at this point, because it's not very constructive, but I just spent last 10 days pretty much alone and I have a need to talk (tumblr is my safe place, and I consider a lot of people here my actual family).

I would kill - and I mean really, I would commit a murder to have parents like yours. My mother was abusing me when I was a kid. Took adventage of me when I was a teen, and stole from me when I was an adult. All that while hurting me physically and emotionally - for which I still felt responsible - and thought I actually deserved it. I can't even think about my so-called dad without burtsing in tears.

It took me years of therapy to start healing and go NC. Now, in my late 20ies, I feel like I'm just starting what my peers did when they were in their teens. I have no friends, no family, no support system. No partner.

I went alone for my summer vacation. I live alone. But I am alive! And I'm my own person.

I am free. I am healing.

My point is, I learnt to appreciate small things. I am happy with my crappy apartment. I love my cat. I like my dead-end job. I love my online community of nameless strangers. I am glad to be alive and safe.

Yes, I am jealous reading about people having family, friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, and supportive parents. Or parents taking them for vacation, and just spending time with them. Or even just treating them like actual human beings... (I am also happy for them).

And yes, there is always someone that has it worse. And just because I had it worse doesn't mean your feelings are not valid.

What I'm trying to say is, things change. Things get better.

It may sound pretentious, but if you can figure out a way to be happy about small things you have- your life may feel better.

Just to wrap up with more trauma dump- your mom helps you with ideas for your fic. My mom, showed up drunk to my singing recital and tried stealing somebody's coat, and then puked on my music teacher. She only came because they had free snacks, which she also loaded into her bag (together with the trays they were served at).

Your writing is beyond amazing. May sound cheesy, but you have a rare talent. Storytelling is a gift! And you just got it!

You are smart, funny, you are loved. You are also very young and have so much time to experience all the things you are missing now.

Not sure where I'm going with it... but what I'm trying to say. I feel like what you wrote is relateble

And I've been there. Still am there.

So... thank you for opening up. You are not alone. Things change. Life is surprising.

Hope I didn't upset you- I meant well.

XOXO

i know i am still quite fortunate and privileged with my situation and my family, but there is also so much that i do not share and that i do not want to share on here, despite this being my safe space to rant and cry and yell whatever i feel. i have gone through shit and am still going through it, and only share so much of my day-to-day life with everyone here, and even with what i know of myself I'm sure there are people who have (had) it worse. but like you said, that does not invalidate my own experiences.

i appreciate your kind words and the sentiment of what you wanted to say, but this trauma-dumping trying to compare people's situations (or at least in the way that it comes across as comparing it) is not the way to go about it.

#i dont want to be rude or mean #but i honestly did not know how to respond to this message #i'm glad to know you're doing well and that you're happy #and i'm sorry all that shit happened to you #as no one deserves that #but yeah i am not sure what the goal was here #uglypastels answers #anon

[qumiiiquinnquin]

I hope things will get better for you and less scary

thank you 🫂

#i always wish i had more to say... #i feel bad because people are kind enough to tell me these things but i don't respond much because i feel bad for giving short responses #people take time out of their day to be nice to me and im nothing but rude in return #im sorry #i appreciate people having this kind of faith in me and my future... #i do hold all messages and asks i get very close to me even if i don't respond #i try to trust everyone and i again thank you #🫂🫂🫂 #i love you all

[arcadekitten]

i wish we could be friends, y'know

I wasn't going to answer this, but...no, not really. You don't wish you could be friends with me. You wish you could be friends with the version of myself you created in your head, based on the way I present myself online. I don't mean to sound pretentious or rude when I say that, though I'm sure it'll come off that way. I am flattered when people think I am nice, or funny, or talented! It's hard not to be! And when I'm conversing with someone I'm certainly not putting on a "phony" act to talk to them.

But being my fan is a lot different than being my friend. I'm not sure how else I was supposed to respond to an ask like this.

#also not to sound rude #because i REALLY REALLY don't want to sound rude #but you guys this is an askbox; not a confessional #okay 'confessional' is not the right word but you know what i mean #i dont like getting messages like this #how am I supposed to respond like to a message like this? #from an anonymous person no less? #im not going to say that 'we're all already friends haha!' because that's just not true #for the majority of you reading this i am a stranger to you #i am happy you like my works and im happy when you think highly of me #but in the nicest way possible i am not your friend #and like i am a stranger to you #you are strangers to me #ask #reply

[pinktinselmonstrosity]

sorry but this is one of the dumbest things anyone has ever said to me

#ok so i was on my depressive shit today and i was talking abt how i saw a group of friends out today #and one of them hung back and took a picture of the others #and how i generally think those candid picture people post on instagram or whatever are bullshit but this was obviously real #like she was having a good time and she thought her friends looked cute and she wanted to immortalise the moment so she took a photo #and how i feel like because nobody ever does that for me my brain tells me that nobody likes me that much #and this person responded with this long message abt how lots of people don't want candid pictures because they might be unflattering #or because it's rude to take pictures or that they're lost in the moment and don't think abt taking pics (which is a fair point) #and then. this point??? which just??? #aside from completely ignoring the thing i was upset about it's just obviously bullshit #and actually specifically contradicts something i said about how my brain forgets that people care about me unless i have proof #(e.g. photos messages souvenirs from trips together) that i can actually hold in my hands when they're not there #to remind myself that i am loved? like that was something i specifically said and she just responds with this? #i know i'm overreacting and she was intending to make me feel better but it's actually annoyed me #also i replied and she left me on read #just ignore me i'm ranting and i know i'm insane and unreasonable #🧃

[sureuncertainty]

not sure why someone would react to a piece i posted on characterhub with the “can’t stop laughing” reaction when it was a very emotional piece of writing not intended to be funny at all other than making fun of me, but idk what to do about it? i can’t get rid of the reaction and the website doesn’t have a block feature yet I don’t think so i’m just kinda like... okay?

#win rambles #i know i should ignore it but it's making me want to take it down tbh #like the piece that is #bc it was very personal and.... that was really upsettting actually #so liek congratulations if you were trying to upset me then you did it #i can't like respond to the reaction or anything so idk what to do #like why would you do that? just ignore it if you don't like it? that was really rude. maybe i'll message a mod or something