#i'm deciding to be positive

[batri-jopa]

I love my life highly satisfied just being myself

(Female version here)

#okey so as my 'I love myself' post is the most popular thing on my blog (500 notes already yet still growing and it's wild😆) #I decided to make a male version just in case anybody needed it😉 #anyone having more idea - pls go ahead and tell me I'd love to make it a happy queer series! it doesn't need to be aspec only😉 #aroace #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aromantic asexual #aromantism #asexuality #aspec #a spec #a spectrum #aroace positivity #aro ace #queer #queer positivity #(I'm most probably only shooting myself in the foot giving two similar pictures but who knows where it may lead) #2K

[mintjeru]

rough day?

open for better quality | no reposts

#kaveh #alhaitham #kavetham #genshin impact #genshin #fanart #myart #doodle #i'm fine!! probably. i just wanted to draw alhaitham being comforted #while it is funny that he became acting grand sage despite not liking leadership positions- #i do feel bad for him just bc those positions often entail much more stress and work #kaveh gives him hug hugs and patpats and chu chus to help him feel better! and they will talk about whatever's bothering him #while i would love to wish for alhaitham this coming update i think we all know my priorities lie with a certain adeptus #i will have him eventually though #for kvthm reasons and personal reasons #unrelated but i also got k.hadein b.yleth in feh this morning. if anyone plays #snagged two 4 stars early into pity and decided that was a sign to stop #it's good though i have feathers so he's a merged 5 star now #didn't even have to whale 😌 #'whale' meaning i spend the 2k orbs i've been saving since forever

[shimmershy]

Personal challenge to make Kris's hair messier every time I draw them.

#deltarune #my art #kris #kris dreemurr #kris deltarune #deltarune kris #another wip sketch from a while ago I decided to finish #I don't like this one very much at all honestly. it started out pretty cool but I really struggle with getting the shading to look good #but I guess it's alright #also I guess the canvas positioning is a bit strange. I thought it would be cool with the empty space and all but I'm kinda meh about it

[thisismisogynoir]

I love it when women hate men. I love it when women are allowed to vent to each other about how horrible and creepy men are. I love it when women form friendships with and prioritize each other over relationships with men(whether they're attracted to them or not). I love it when women put men dni in their bios and on their nude photos and on posts on their blogs. I love it when women refuse to mollycoddle and accommodate entitled male feelings with "but this doesn't mean I hate all men, I know a few men who are great, I love my father/sons/brothers/uncles/male cousins/guy friends" I love it when women complain about men WITHOUT "not all men" being a disclaimer. I love it when women avoid socializing with/refuse to be around/befriend/get close to men because they know men can't be trusted. I love it when women make "kill all men" jokes. I love it when women offer absolutely no concern or care for men's feelings and if their misandry offends men whatsoever because why should we, men are the oppressor class who have raped and killed and abused us and kept us as subjugated as second-class citizens for millennia, they regularly mistreat us and the women in their own marginalized communities still every single day and make this world so much harder and more awful for us to be in, and if we choose to hate them and not spare them any sympathy then so be it, and I don't just mean "men as a class" either, you can be a woman who doesn't want to have anything to do with any man on an individual basis and completely cuts off men from her personal life too and ykw I will love and fucking support you in that because men deserve absolutely NOTHING from us. If they're so tough and strong then they can handle it just like they can handle being lonely. If you are a woman who hates men, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A LESBIAN AND/OR A TRANS WOMAN, then just know that I love you. I love you, I support you, and you are safe here.

#was going to make a post about how much i hate that women aren't allowed to hate their oppressors but i decided to spin it into something #positive instead #this is supposed to be the feminist site that makes reddit mgtow piss their baby diapers so let's go back to despising men and not coddling #their feelings and let's dye our hair blue while we're at it #i am so tired of this new wave of guilt-tripping and gaslighting women who hate men and don't trust or want to be around them #i hate how we're made into villainesses or the problematic ones for not valuing them in our lives or for wanting to guard ourselves or be #safe from our oppressors #and i'm tired of people who don't know the first thing about feminism being like 'BUT THAT'S TERF RHETORIC WHAT ABOUT X MINORITY MEN' #guess what women can also be x minority that you're trying to protect the men of and we get to hate men too #trans women are included when i say women btw and trans men are included when i say men #if anyone has the right to hate men more than anybody else it's trans women esp trans lesbians because they put up with so much shit #from men that even cis women do not and they especially know how vile men are behind closed doors #so #terfs fuck off #radfems fuck off #and if anybody tries to make this post more appeasing to men or 'not all men's this post you are getting blocked and hit with a hammer #feminism #misogyny #sexism #patriarchy #tw men #tw rape #tw abuse #misandry #terfs dni #radfems dni #feminists need to go back to being scary and unpalatable for men none of this 'but some of them are good!' bullshit #men are entitled to nothing from us #and if you try to prove me wrong then you are just proving my point if you have nothing good to say then simply keep scrolling #ok? ok.

[canisalbus]

Trying to imagine if the Pope in Machette's universe is, like, a Pomeranian, and thus shrinks down to a fraction of his original size when wet. Like it rains and everyone is like 'oh, Your Holiness. Oh no'

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#I'm sorry I'm unearthing an ask from july I didn't get around to publishing this back then but it has haunted me ever since #yes #his holiness musn't get wet #I haven't really locked down the pope's design yet #initially I visioned him as an old greying bloodhound but then someone suggested spinone italiano for the bearded look #and I haven't been able to decide #big imposing good looking guy in his prime but now shrunken and hunched over and a little senile #mostly good natured but not really interested in running the church #but he liked Machete when he was just a priest and his assistant so he made him a cardinal and personally appointed him to a high position #so he's just constantly scurrying around and trying to keep everything rolling under the rule of a idgaf pope #answered #torn-by-dreams

[featheredadora]

I am not the exception! I deserve kindness too!!

#i'm meant to be working on stuff atm but my brain has decided it is Too Sad to draw right now #so here's a little doodle to try to cheer myself up #art #positivity #birblr #blue tit #bird art #positivity art #birblr art

[uncanny-tranny]

Your life isn't a to-do list. You're allowed to exist, to take life as slow as you'd like. The dreams you have won't suddenly disappear. It's okay to stop and smell the roses, or to engage with "childish" things, or to recover, or do what you need to.

#positivity #encouraging words #life doesn't need to be a speedrun or a 100% run #sometimes it feels like i'm wasting my life but... who gets to tell me what is wasteful? i'm surviving out here and that's okay #and it's okay if you're also somebody who people think is 'wasting your life' #that's such a meaningless and frankly a very cruel thing to say to a person #because you'll see people call somebody's life wasteful because they're simply coping with disability/mental illness/grief/ect #it's a meaningless saying to tell somebody how YOU think they're wasting life. your life isn't a waste point-blank #we ought to be kinder to ourselves for choosing what we want/need out of our lives rather than placating to what is imposed on us... #...or the expectations we impose on ourselves #be kinder to yourself whenever you can. it's hard as hell but please choose kindness toward yourself #just something i thought about and felt like it was impirtant to me #i couldn't complete high school 'on time' because of covid and because i was in crisis. i felt so much shame about that. i felt stupid... #...i felt unworthy. but who decided that i am those things? the crisis i was in could have killed me. i couldn't deal with school then... #...it humbled me because i had to learn that i am not immune to needing to be kind to myself. i am human - i'm not a mindless drone... #...you aren't a mindless drone either. you are an individual. you deserve to feel safe. you deserve understanding and compassion... #...but not ONLY from others. you deserve it from yourself as well

[earlgodwin]

"He's spent the entire time being picked upon and bullied by the family. I think personally from where Juan stands he sees the hypocrisy in the family, how they can do one thing and say another. As far as Juan is concerned he's always had the best interests of the family at heart, however misguided that might be and doesn't quite comprehend why nobody understands that. Nobody seems to understand that what he does, he does for the betterment of the Borgia clan and never waivers from that. He does that in ways that perhaps aren't sanctioned by the church or sanctioned by family law."

#oh spill the tea!! he truly believed he was doing something right. an impulsive sad lonely dude who doesn't think through #he was bestowed a position he never gave a fuck about in the first place because being a soldier is NOT what he wanted #he just wanted his family's love and affection. a simple i love you would've gone a long way #the way he teases cesare about being a cardinal because that's the only way to get his attention it's just a little brother thingie #and yet cesare took it way too personal lol crazy to me how cesare was the one who slowly destroyed juan before killing him #like how he forced his hand to murder djem and then slowly sabotaging him by mocking him constantly then setting him up to die at forli #by not informing him that ludovico's army was coming for his neck like even from a military stand point cesare ruined the forli mission fr #because he decided to prioritize his own jealousy of juan; humiliating him and hoping him to die so he can take his position as a soldier #the hypocrisy part is sooo tea because cesare killed juan in cold blood telling him that they're borgias and they never forgive #5 mins later he's begging rodrigo to forgive him for killing juan like bro was just saying that to dying juan to destroy him mentally first #i'm screaming he singlehandedly caused juan's spiraling into darkness. how are you gonna fuck up your brother that hard helpppp ?!!?!?! #fucked up dysfunctional family that i love #david oakes #juan borgia #the borgias #theborgiasedit #perioddramaedit #televisiongifs #tvedit #by jen

[nocek]

some progress!! lineart is not completely done since last two weeks I was sick which sucked, but background should go much quicker. I hope? Unless I start to add more and more random shit :D

we will see ;)

#wip #lineart #yelena belova #black widow #natasha romanoff #bucky barnes #winter soldier #liho the cat #fanny the dog #alpine the cat #I've decided to change fannys position to add shield shaped dog bed #and it was a mistake that yelena's leg and fanny's back were paralell #anyway #besides that I've added antman funkopop and book #now I'm open for suggestions for wall pictures and posters #since I don't think I will be able to add anything extra in the foreground

[furiousgoldfish]

Speaking from a bad place, so bear with me. Has anyone thought about how being important or special to other people is based just on the people closest to you?

We regard strangers as people who are fairly irrelevant to us, because they have little to no impact to our life, and their lives and struggles won't generally touch us. In contrast, lives of people directly around us have a great impact on us, and they decide our relevancy. We give them roles in our lives, like friends, mentors, partners, lovers, caretakers, and in that regard they're special to us, irreplaceable. We also want to have an equally strong meaning in their life, to have a warm place in their heart and respect in their minds, as they do for us.

When people around us who hold great relevancy for us, also give us that same relevancy back, we feel important, we know we're special to them. That our role in their life shapes their experience, gives them gratitude and they've accepted us as someone they want and need around.

In contrast to that, when people in our life refuse to give us that same respect, warmth and relevancy, then we wonder what is wrong with us. What is missing so we can't be appreciated and regarded with the same love and respect that we show to them. Lack of mutuality makes us sink down with insecurity, self doubt and deep feeling that we're not enough, that we've done something wrong, not to deserve the same that we give to others.

And it also works out the same in isolation, if you have no one close to you, no one who has your well being in mind or cares for what becomes of you, it feels like you're important to no one, like you are not special whatsoever, even like you could be disposable if nobody cares at all.

But none of that is based on what's inside of us, who we are or how much love and good we are capable of giving and showing. It's nothing even related to our behaviour and actions, you could put anyone in these situations and results would be generally similar; person who is not experiencing reciprocity, or is left to fend for themselves alone, will lose the feeling that they're important or special in any way.

Isn't that weird? That we can end up judging our own worth based on nothing we did, or nothing we are, just based on how people around us are treating us, or whether we have anyone around us at all. In our essence we didn't change at all, it's just who is or isn't around, that determines our worth.

If we're put in a group of people who want to create bonds based on good things they see in us, we'll become able of seeing that good in ourselves. If we're surrounded by people who all feel the same as we do, act on the same moral code, readily reciprocate respect and warmth that we show to them, we won't feel like anything is wrong with us. We'll feel at home.

And since this is so intrinsic to being a person, to long for this and only feel relevant, safe and cared for in these circumstances, isn't it natural that we all deserve that? To be surrounded by people who make us feel like nothing is wrong with us, and like we're at home? Who help us focus on everything good in us, and give us no reasons to believe that we should be rejected or banished at all? Since abuse did the absolute opposite, and forced us to believe there's only reasons for abandonment, hatred and contempt, I believe being in the environment where people see many reasons to want us in their lives, would heal us.

#healing from abuse #abuse recovery #trauma recovery #emotional abuse recovery #abuse healing #i know i wrote this seemingly positive post but in reality i am so bitter #because i know people will sometimes see a reason to want me and often it's just opportunistic #because i'm trained to not make problems and to be pleasing and useful and whatnot #but even then #even then the fact that i was abused and have consequences of that in me will be enough #for them to back out and decide i'm not worth the effort #because to be close to me would mean to acknowledge abuse and that it's real and happening #and has massive consequences #and this is just too much for anyone to contemplate accepting #and it's easier to just back away and decide i'm an abomination or whatever #whatever they see in me is never enough to face difficult concepts of abuse and recovery #and i'm tired of being seen as a nuisance because of something i didn't do and i didn't cause #i had zero control over where i was born or what was done to me there #but it's a reason to abandon me #i don't know where my group of people is :(

[foundfamilyadoptionagency]

#rae taylor #claire francois #i'm in love with the villainess #adoption poll #image submitted #tags submitted #mod decided to include them as a team #i mean i assume this is the titular villainess and the person in love with them #so i probably shouldn't split them up #there were also some tags submitted that were just sexualities #but i've omitted these because i don't want to invade various queer positivity tags with these poll posts

[lunetual]

introducing BOYNEXTDOOR🚪❣️

#boynextdoor #myung jaehyun #sungho #riwoo #taesan #leehan #woonhak #bonedo #forbnd #mine: gif #bonedo.meg #gotta do everything myself around here............. S;JDFA;LSDJF #i'm actually VERY good at names and faces but i will say before i decided to make this set i could only have told you one (1) boy's name #they're logged in there now tho #also guys. i'm WINGING it with positions. cut me some slack <3 #na na na na... knocking at ur door !! #hijaehyukkies #kith to eri for also finding the dooreo (door choreo) so fun !! we're right your honor!!!!

[faunabel]

another set of Veneziano headcanons

people took my last post well, so… here is another set of headcanons specifically focused on veneziano's personality and motivations behind his behavior. i'm not very good at organizing my thoughts, but i tried! pls be nice ♡ we are all here to have fun and share our ideas.

He's genuinely a caring and affectionate person, but part of why he's like this is because he wants others to like him. Canonically, he cares about his reputation. I see it as he plays up his genuine personality to maintain it. He definitely can't damage it by being off-putting or abrasive (like his brother).

He has this sense that he can't and shouldn't express these less pleasant emotions. It's inappropriate to rock the boat. That's why he scolds Romano for lashing out sometimes. He feels like he has the moral high ground by keeping himself together the way he does (in the sense of being mellow).

He tries to keep his image clean and socially palpable. "Ugly" emotions like anger and pride would make him less likeable. He wants to be approachable and pleasant to be around. He seems excessively cheerful because he tries to present that image. He's so likeable because he tries to be likeable. He tries to avoid saying negative things about others to stay on everyone's good side.

A lot of energy is dedicated towards suppressing his less appealing emotions. That's why he's always sleepy and taking naps. It's not effortless to be liked by everyone. It's certainly not effortless to keep his anger and other negative feelings at bay.

All of this is subconscious, though. He doesn't deliberately decide to control how people perceive him. He'd be confused and hurt if someone accused him of being manipulative. He's just being himself, unaware that part of being himself involves keeping (some of) his emotions on a leash.

It's important for him to enjoy himself. Fun, friends, food, flirting, all things he needs to keep his internal word out of his conscious mind. His optimism is a coping mechanism to avoid the things he's stressed about and traumatized by. It's much easier to keep things light and happy, than to deal with acknowledging someone or something upset him, maybe even made him angry. His focus is directed outwards (on the people around him) to avoid focusing on himself.

He has low self-worth. His self image is somewhat reliant on how others view him. He feels deep inside that if he doesn't keep up the role of cheerful and friendly, all that will be left is someone who's cowardly, irresponsible, and frankly useless. Not someone others like or want to be around. As much as his optimism is to keep himself sane, it's also to ensure others view him in a positive light. He doesn't actually open up often, even towards people he's close with.

He's usually genuine when he praises others, but sometimes he might exaggerate to make people feel good about themselves. And if people feel good about themselves, they'll see him in a positive light. (Again, this is subconscious. He does not realize he's doing it.)

His affection is also genuine, but has a subconscious purpose. Most of the people he's close to aren't very affectionate. Some even outright reject him. He's a lot lonelier than he lets on, and being surrounded by others is a substitute for the closeness he craves. (This is part of why his reputation is important to him. The more friends he has, the more it fills the void.)

He gives so much affection away in hopes someone will mirror it back. If he hugs and kisses and compliments others, it's sure to be returned eventually. Plus, it makes him seem friendly and approachable, which is what he wants. He wants to be surrounded by others, but interacting with all sorts of people, being appealing to all sorts of people, comes with a price.

He's not lucky. He just knows how to assimilate himself into the social realm, and he needs people, so he's good at it.

#i have way more thoughts but this is already long teehee #playing with the idea that his cowardly and “dumb” personality is also played up as his more positive traits are #because it's what is expected of him and it's easier to play into than fight against it #but i'm still deciding if it Fits him or not #also i had more about romano at first but decided to give it a separate post instead! #hetalia #aph italy #hws italy #hetalia headcanons #i might post romano hcs too at some point #i have a lot of thoughts abt his personality & motivations too

[thebramblewood]

Cool older sister tempting you to the dark side.

#i've decided i want to make most of the poses for this ~secret project~ myself #trying to avoid spoiling them buuuut i have to show this one off bc it took me forever to position the pointing arm correctly #i still struggle to twist the forearm without fully fucking up the elbow but i finally got there #admittedly though i pasted the other arm position from somebody else's cigarette pose #anyway it's gonna be a while before you see the end result but i'm also working on an hzid post!

[krys-does-art-stuff]

Still need to finish up some areas and then do some outlining, but page six is fairly close to being done!

April 2024

#krys draws fanart #obey me #obey me oc #miriam (obey me oc) #traditional stuff #apr 2024 #2024 #I think I'm gonna be at least 10 pages with this thing #possibly more #but that seems to be the trajectory at this point in time #still also deciding if I wanna keep Satan's boa green tinged or if I wanna make it darker #all the brothers actually do have their signature colors as bases on their outfits #some it's easier to tell than others #Levi's unfortunately got covered up completely #but there is orange under that blue-ish black trust me #also heights are more likely than not not accurate #I just positioned everyone so I could fit them in the panels #it's all based on vibes~

[izzysillyhandsy]

Rewatching S2 and fuck this scene hurts now...

Quoting my naive, innocent self: "If the last episode mirrors the first one and that "scene will be gratifying", in no way can I see Izzy dying - gratifying would be a really weird way to describe Izzy's death, although some antis might see it that way ;)"

Yeah, that scene is brutal in retrospect.

(and yes I know he dies alone here, instantly forgotten - while in reality he dies in Ed's arms and is mourned for a whole minute)

But, you know, at least in Stede's dream Izzy wasn't blaming himself for everything that had happened between himself and Ed right up to his death.

And he got to call Stede Bonnet a twat one last time.

#ofmd #ofmd s2 spoilers #izzy hands #circling back to bitterness now it seems #it's just - rewatching this scene really hit me in the face with its cruelty #when it was decided all along that Izzy should die so Ed could be happy with Stede #sorry for that I'll have more positive takes soon I'm sure